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Am I old fashioned
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ive just been out to a meet turned up like I said i would on time gets to door and they've not even got kids to bed or dropped them off at a relatives so i just said sorry think it's a wind up and turned round just got in and found their profile is no longer viewable by me .I'm sorry but I'm not comfortable playing if theres a chance some innocent little child might happen to walk in as soon as u start is it just me that feels like this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No you're not old fashioned at all, you have good morals and good standards.
I totally respect you for walking away, I'm sure most people would of done the same. Only desperate people would of hung around. |
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"Ive just been out to a meet turned up like I said i would on time gets to door and they've not even got kids to bed or dropped them off at a relatives so i just said sorry think it's a wind up and turned round just got in and found their profile is no longer viewable by me .I'm sorry but I'm not comfortable playing if theres a chance some innocent little child might happen to walk in as soon as u start is it just me that feels like this"
Nope - not old fashioned- just the moral thing to do! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not at all.
We can't accomodate for that very reason. And even though the boys stay with their gran & papa on a Sat night, we also have an 18 year old who comes and goes as she pleases.
Good on you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yep i wentagainst my instincts again when they said they wouldn't give out mobile as didn't want any one having their number ok I thought they're new and then i get their and kids are their so I'm thinking either ive been naive or they dont have a clue |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yep i wentagainst my instincts again when they said they wouldn't give out mobile as didn't want any one having their number ok I thought they're new and then i get their and kids are their so I'm thinking either ive been naive or they dont have a clue"
funny how they give you there address but not there phone number. What did they say to to you?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just asked is this so and so they said yes I said I think I've been sent on a wild goose chase which he replied ok didnt say hey I'm g from fab as wasn't 100%sure if they were genuine swinger's or someone some vindictive person had made victims |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just asked is this so and so they said yes I said I think I've been sent on a wild goose chase which he replied ok didnt say hey I'm g from fab as wasn't 100%sure if they were genuine swinger's or someone some vindictive person had made victims"
Did they not look like their face pics? Assuming you swopped pics first. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just asked is this so and so they said yes I said I think I've been sent on a wild goose chase which he replied ok didnt say hey I'm g from fab as wasn't 100%sure if they were genuine swinger's or someone some vindictive person had made victims
Did they not look like their face pics? Assuming you swopped pics first."
they were newbies so they're waiting for pics to be approved but as I can't view their profile now I can't answer that but they did answer to the names I was given |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just asked is this so and so they said yes I said I think I've been sent on a wild goose chase which he replied ok didnt say hey I'm g from fab as wasn't 100%sure if they were genuine swinger's or someone some vindictive person had made victims"
Starting to sound like this should be in stories/ fantasies then. Lack of communication on your behalf aswell, wouldn't do any meet unless it was concrete. If you fail to prepare, prepare to fail.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lots of messages discussed dos and don'ts and having been a newbie I realise that pics font always get verified straight away and people who are new can be very nervous about the need to be discrete as don't want neighbours asking questions etcetc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just asked is this so and so they said yes I said I think I've been sent on a wild goose chase which he replied ok didnt say hey I'm g from fab as wasn't 100%sure if they were genuine swinger's or someone some vindictive person had made victims Starting to sound like this should be in stories/ fantasies then. Lack of communication on your behalf aswell, wouldn't do any meet unless it was concrete. If you fail to prepare, prepare to fail. "
are u saying im a fantasist
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would definately be seeing pics before Meeting anyone op.
Could be they have been set up ?
Miss"
I don't know but it's funny how I'm now blocked a genuine couple would surely apologise or ask why I walked away I know if someone came to my door I'd arranged to meet and walked away I'd be curious as to why and then I would block them to save us having contact again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just asked is this so and so they said yes I said I think I've been sent on a wild goose chase which he replied ok didnt say hey I'm g from fab as wasn't 100%sure if they were genuine swinger's or someone some vindictive person had made victims Starting to sound like this should be in stories/ fantasies then. Lack of communication on your behalf aswell, wouldn't do any meet unless it was concrete. If you fail to prepare, prepare to fail. are u saying im a fantasist"
well it is either that or you are not that switched on.
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Ive just been out to a meet turned up like I said i would on time gets to door and they've not even got kids to bed or dropped them off at a relatives so i just said sorry think it's a wind up and turned round just got in and found their profile is no longer viewable by me .I'm sorry but I'm not comfortable playing if theres a chance some innocent little child might happen to walk in as soon as u start is it just me that feels like this"
No not at all old fashioned..
Sensible Imo I would never play with the children in the house.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just asked is this so and so they said yes I said I think I've been sent on a wild goose chase which he replied ok didnt say hey I'm g from fab as wasn't 100%sure if they were genuine swinger's or someone some vindictive person had made victims Starting to sound like this should be in stories/ fantasies then. Lack of communication on your behalf aswell, wouldn't do any meet unless it was concrete. If you fail to prepare, prepare to fail. are u saying im a fantasist well it is either that or you are not that switched on."
im very switched on im no newbie but I'm always willing to give people the benefit of the doubt as a single guy I know how hard it is to get local meets and as a couple i know how hard it is too sometimes u just got to go for it and this time it was a fail but that doesn't mean that every newbie is going to be like this
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So you went to meet someone you'd never seen a picture of? And who wouldn't give you their number? But did give you their address?
And non of that rang any alarm bells?
And pictures get verified within a few hours at most and that didn't ring any alarms either? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why would you meet someone when you haven't even seen what they look like? "
I've met numerous people I didn't see a pic usually though they've had a few veris but I have met the odd newbie with no pics but as this was very local I didn't see it as a risk as I could be home in 15 mins if it didn't go to plan
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Lots of messages discussed dos and don'ts and having been a newbie I realise that pics font always get verified straight away and people who are new can be very nervous about the need to be discrete as don't want neighbours asking questions etcetc"
Pics usually do get approved straight away. Lesson learnt- ask to see pics first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would you meet someone when you haven't even seen what they look like?
Desperation is the only reason I can see"
I've met one person without seeing him 1st. Wasn't out of desperation, we got on well messaging & my curiosity got the better of me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not desperate but thought it would be nice to meet someone more local as tend to travel a lot for meets and this one didn't pan out I get plenty of regular meets but every now and then I'd like to be able to have a beer and not worry about driving |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would you meet someone when you haven't even seen what they look like?
Desperation is the only reason I can see
I've met one person without seeing him 1st. Wasn't out of desperation, we got on well messaging & my curiosity got the better of me."
I think if you've been messaging someone for a while that's different. The OP was meeting someone so new their pics hadn't been verified. Though granted he may have struck up a rapport very quickly.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not desperate but thought it would be nice to meet someone more local as tend to travel a lot for meets and this one didn't pan out I get plenty of regular meets but every now and then I'd like to be able to have a beer and not worry about driving"
But you suggested that you left because you didn't wanna play when kids were in the house. This doesn't sound like a meet where any chance of play was going to happen anyway. Either someone wound you up an said go this address or it is kind of a look at me thread try to show what a nice respectable guy you are.
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"Yep i wentagainst my instincts again when they said they wouldn't give out mobile as didn't want any one having their number ok I thought they're new and then i get their and kids are their so I'm thinking either ive been naive or they dont have a clue"
I don't think not giving a mobile number is an issue for concern, personally we won't give anyone from here our number we done it twice and both were texting us more than we text one another & getting abusive when they weren't getting a response
Re the kids I'd have walked away too
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would you meet someone when you haven't even seen what they look like?
That's the modern way of doing things."
Then how do you know how big their silly is, trust them? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not desperate but thought it would be nice to meet someone more local as tend to travel a lot for meets and this one didn't pan out I get plenty of regular meets but every now and then I'd like to be able to have a beer and not worry about driving But you suggested that you left because you didn't wanna play when kids were in the house. This doesn't sound like a meet where any chance of play was going to happen anyway. Either someone wound you up an said go this address or it is kind of a look at me thread try to show what a nice respectable guy you are."
why would I be an egomaniac other something like this give your head a bang mate I thoufht i was going to a genuine meet with genuine people personally don't care what people think about me as a person I'm me and that's it take it or leave it warts and all
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not desperate but thought it would be nice to meet someone more local as tend to travel a lot for meets and this one didn't pan out I get plenty of regular meets but every now and then I'd like to be able to have a beer and not worry about driving But you suggested that you left because you didn't wanna play when kids were in the house. This doesn't sound like a meet where any chance of play was going to happen anyway. Either someone wound you up an said go this address or it is kind of a look at me thread try to show what a nice respectable guy you are.why would I be an egomaniac other something like this give your head a bang mate I thoufht i was going to a genuine meet with genuine people personally don't care what people think about me as a person I'm me and that's it take it or leave it warts and all"
I don't wanna bang my head I might not be able to think logically then
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not desperate but thought it would be nice to meet someone more local as tend to travel a lot for meets and this one didn't pan out I get plenty of regular meets but every now and then I'd like to be able to have a beer and not worry about driving But you suggested that you left because you didn't wanna play when kids were in the house. This doesn't sound like a meet where any chance of play was going to happen anyway. Either someone wound you up an said go this address or it is kind of a look at me thread try to show what a nice respectable guy you are.why would I be an egomaniac other something like this give your head a bang mate I thoufht i was going to a genuine meet with genuine people personally don't care what people think about me as a person I'm me and that's it take it or leave it warts and all I don't wanna bang my head I might not be able to think logically then "
i dont know u u don't know me your welcome to your opinion but end of the day ive got morals and asked a genuine question and u decided it was something it isnt
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why would you meet someone when you haven't even seen what they look like?
That's the modern way of doing things.
Then how do you know how big their silly is, trust them?"
I suppose it depends on your meeting criteria, if something is that important then there's no point meeting without checking out the goods 1st. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would you meet someone when you haven't even seen what they look like?
That's the modern way of doing things.
Then how do you know how big their silly is, trust them?"
Lib doesn't mind little willies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More power you.
Personally I agree I would be discusted if some one invited me over and their kids were up, I don't think I'd be that comfortable if they were sound asleep in bed either.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not desperate but thought it would be nice to meet someone more local as tend to travel a lot for meets and this one didn't pan out I get plenty of regular meets but every now and then I'd like to be able to have a beer and not worry about driving But you suggested that you left because you didn't wanna play when kids were in the house. This doesn't sound like a meet where any chance of play was going to happen anyway. Either someone wound you up an said go this address or it is kind of a look at me thread try to show what a nice respectable guy you are.why would I be an egomaniac other something like this give your head a bang mate I thoufht i was going to a genuine meet with genuine people personally don't care what people think about me as a person I'm me and that's it take it or leave it warts and all"
I'm not sure how you can say you don't care what people think of you as a person, I think what you mean is that you only cate about people telling you what you want to hear |
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Sorry op.
Haven't read every reply.
Why didn't you arrange a social first?
Did you know they had kid's beforehand?
Had they been verified previously?
If you knew they had kid's then you can't take the moral high ground just coz they were still up?
Personally we wouldn't have met with them with kid's in the house.
We don't meet non verified people, been burnt previously so lesson learned.
As for them not giving you phone number.
We rarely if ever give our number out, does that make us fake?
End of the day, it's down to every person to take responsibility for properly vetting a prospective meet beforehand in a way that suits your requirements and level of morality.
Sorry but if you meet someone who has just joined site, no pictures or verifications little communication, no advanced social meet then hard to be sympathetic.
However I would say walking away was the correct thing to do.
Maybe be a bit more selective next time. |
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One to put down to experience I think. Going to an address given by an unverified profile. In hindsight I think you can see.
Possibly what happened when you turned up was one of the less disastrous outcomes.
Live and learn. |
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"One to put down to experience I think. Going to an address given by an unverified profile. In hindsight I think you can see.
Possibly what happened when you turned up was one of the less disastrous outcomes.
Live and learn."
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