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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'd say one who chats and flirts with you for a considerable amount of time ornly to then tell you they can't actually meet because of x,y,z. Or doesn't turn up for a meet.
I get accused of time wasting when I don't reply, reply saying I'm not interested, can't meet for whatever reason etc.... not of which I consider time wasting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say one who chats and flirts with you for a considerable amount of time ornly to then tell you they can't actually meet because of x,y,z. Or doesn't turn up for a meet.
I get accused of time wasting when I don't reply, reply saying I'm not interested, can't meet for whatever reason etc.... not of which I consider time wasting!"
A time waster is somebody who claims they want to meet but in fact has no intention of doing so. They could also be called cock teasers and fantasists  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Someone who doesn't show to a meet.....
that would be a waste of my time x
What if they had a valid reason??
Then send a message to tell them."
Fair enough,  |
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
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no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
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I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block. "
Exactly what I think  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block. "
Do you ever send the first message?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Someone who doesn't show to a meet.....
that would be a waste of my time x
What if they had a valid reason??
Then send a message to tell them."
Agreed. I've never experienced it but this is what I'd expect. Once I'd agreed to meet a couple and at the last minute it was impossible so I said I'll pop round for 20 mins so you can see I'm genuine then we can arrange another meet if you're happy, which we did. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say one who chats and flirts with you for a considerable amount of time ornly to then tell you they can't actually meet because of x,y,z. Or doesn't turn up for a meet.
I get accused of time wasting when I don't reply, reply saying I'm not interested, can't meet for whatever reason etc.... not of which I consider time wasting!"
All the above it happen to me all the time |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block.
Do you ever send the first message??"
I rarely do, what does that tell you?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say one who chats and flirts with you for a considerable amount of time ornly to then tell you they can't actually meet because of x,y,z. Or doesn't turn up for a meet.
I get accused of time wasting when I don't reply, reply saying I'm not interested, can't meet for whatever reason etc.... not of which I consider time wasting!
A time waster is somebody who claims they want to meet but in fact has no intention of doing so. They could also be called cock teasers and fantasists "
Or pussy teasers too, it's not just women who are fantasists. XXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd say one who chats and flirts with you for a considerable amount of time ornly to then tell you they can't actually meet because of x,y,z. Or doesn't turn up for a meet.
I get accused of time wasting when I don't reply, reply saying I'm not interested, can't meet for whatever reason etc.... not of which I consider time wasting!
A time waster is somebody who claims they want to meet but in fact has no intention of doing so. They could also be called cock teasers and fantasists
Or pussy teasers too, it's not just women who are fantasists. XXX"
That is true, however I don't speak to many men on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block.
Do you ever send the first message??
I rarely do, what does that tell you? "
You are lazy |
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"I'd say one who chats and flirts with you for a considerable amount of time ornly to then tell you they can't actually meet because of x,y,z. Or doesn't turn up for a meet.
I get accused of time wasting when I don't reply, reply saying I'm not interested, can't meet for whatever reason etc.... not of which I consider time wasting!
A time waster is somebody who claims they want to meet but in fact has no intention of doing so. They could also be called cock teasers and fantasists "
also called tosspots |
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
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"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block.
Do you ever send the first message??"
yes, I prefer to search myself. I only contact guys who are what I'm looking for, and from their profiles I might be what they're looking for. blank profiles i don't bother as I've no idea if we match.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"[Removed by poster at 06/01/17 14:47:09]"
I don't have time to search I have a life and the amount of messages I get is sufficient. When I do search men rarely have anything written on their profile or its short generic crap so that is definitely a waste of my time |
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By *100Man
over a year ago
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My definition of a time waster is someone who actually has a real life and don't live in cloud fuck land.
Don't get me wrong I love fab and it has some really great people no here but some people on here are sex monsters and need to chill a bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone who chats and flirts a lot but consistently backs out of meeting, or even worse, stands you up.
Or to use most guys' definition on here: a female who didn't want to immediately fuck me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"[Removed by poster at 06/01/17 14:47:09]
I don't have time to search I have a life and the amount of messages I get is sufficient. When I do search men rarely have anything written on their profile or its short generic crap so that is definitely a waste of my time "
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Id say someone who arranges to meet and then doesn't turn up
People have lives etc and things crop up,so as long as someone lets us know if they can't make it no probs.
I think time waster is used too much on here,just because people don't agree to meet doesn't make them fake or a time waster imo.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My definition of a time waster is someone who actually has a real life and don't live in cloud fuck land.
Don't get me wrong I love fab and it has some really great people no here but some people on here are sex monsters and need to chill a bit."
can you explain what you mean please?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block.
Do you ever send the first message??
yes, I prefer to search myself. I only contact guys who are what I'm looking for, and from their profiles I might be what they're looking for. blank profiles i don't bother as I've no idea if we match. "
Fair enough, I bet you get more out of the site than the 'sit back and wait for messages ' brigade |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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For me is being stood up is a time waster
I find that even chatting to others in scene can get your name out their for example a good friend mentioned that my name had come up at a club
I asked for details and she said oh that you were a genuine guy and this and that
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"I'd say one who chats and flirts with you for a considerable amount of time ornly to then tell you they can't actually meet because of x,y,z. Or doesn't turn up for a meet.
I get accused of time wasting when I don't reply, reply saying I'm not interested, can't meet for whatever reason etc.... not of which I consider time wasting!
A time waster is somebody who claims they want to meet but in fact has no intention of doing so. They could also be called cock teasers and fantasists
Or pussy teasers too, it's not just women who are fantasists. XXX"
This^^ plenty of guys that waste our time too |
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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago
button moon |
"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block.
Do you ever send the first message??
yes, I prefer to search myself. I only contact guys who are what I'm looking for, and from their profiles I might be what they're looking for. blank profiles i don't bother as I've no idea if we match.
Fair enough, I bet you get more out of the site than the 'sit back and wait for messages ' brigade "
no different from when i used to do that tbh, and this way involves alot more knock backs. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block.
Do you ever send the first message??
yes, I prefer to search myself. I only contact guys who are what I'm looking for, and from their profiles I might be what they're looking for. blank profiles i don't bother as I've no idea if we match.
Fair enough, I bet you get more out of the site than the 'sit back and wait for messages ' brigade "
Well I've found 1 through searching and plenty from receiving messages so this obviously works better for me. I'll probably be accused of being a time waster now I prefer to address the messages I have instead of searching |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block.
Do you ever send the first message??
yes, I prefer to search myself. I only contact guys who are what I'm looking for, and from their profiles I might be what they're looking for. blank profiles i don't bother as I've no idea if we match.
Fair enough, I bet you get more out of the site than the 'sit back and wait for messages ' brigade
Well I've found 1 through searching and plenty from receiving messages so this obviously works better for me. I'll probably be accused of being a time waster now I prefer to address the messages I have instead of searching "
If it works for you then stick to it, |
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"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block.
Do you ever send the first message??
yes, I prefer to search myself. I only contact guys who are what I'm looking for, and from their profiles I might be what they're looking for. blank profiles i don't bother as I've no idea if we match.
Fair enough, I bet you get more out of the site than the 'sit back and wait for messages ' brigade "
I'm one of those people and I have a fantastic Fab life thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No-shows or repeated last minute cancellers. We all have lives and things can happen at the last minute but more than once is a bit unlikely. And there's no excuse not to let someone know at all. |
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My idea of a time waster...is someone who doesn't turn up to a arranged me and hasn't said they wouldn't be attending.
I'd never label anyone who changes there mind about meeting a time waster because we all have that choice. |
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I've had lots of guys plan a meet and then not hear from them!! Then weeks later come back looking to meet !!!
I have had to cancel a lot on fellas but always give notice! I've got kids sometimes they are sick or no babysitter at last min! Always give as much notice as I can! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I had one yesterday, which isn't unique, that called me a time waster coz I replied no thank you! I replied really? Just coz I won't meet and he proceeded to call me lots of names and saying I was short and fat anyway so I said why contact me then and he said that's his type then tried to arrange a meet again... very strange some people |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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I can honestly say that I have not experienced many time wasters; perhaps because it really does take a while to get to know me, to establish a connection and knowing I will only ever meet for a social meet first. The fantasists (and anybody in a hurry), don't usually want to engage in prolonged conversation so they would be not interested in me in the first place.
Or perhaps I have been lucky.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block.
Exactly what I think "
Agree, I also report anyone who doesn't turn up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Agree, I also report anyone who doesn't turn up
I can understand that - but out of interest, does this make any difference if somebody gets reported? "
No idea, but it makes me feel better and gives me the moral high ground!
Also, as mentioned by Ruby Woo above, repeated last-minute cancellations are very annoying and frustrating, not to be tolerated. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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Agree, I also report anyone who doesn't turn up
I can understand that - but out of interest, does this make any difference if somebody gets reported?
No idea, but it makes me feel better and gives me the moral high ground!
Also, as mentioned by Ruby Woo above, repeated last-minute cancellations are very annoying and frustrating, not to be tolerated."
Fair enough, and yes, repeated last minute cancellations could signify a lack of respect like "my time is clearly more precious than yours" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Agree, I also report anyone who doesn't turn up
I can understand that - but out of interest, does this make any difference if somebody gets reported?
No idea, but it makes me feel better and gives me the moral high ground!
Also, as mentioned by Ruby Woo above, repeated last-minute cancellations are very annoying and frustrating, not to be tolerated.Fair enough, and yes, repeated last minute cancellations could signify a lack of respect like "my time is clearly more precious than yours" "
Yes, in addition to thinking that I'm an idiot to believe their ridiculous excuses - which is even more insulting in my book. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Has to be people who are "no shows" with no explanation before hand, lucky only had two so far but now we text before the meet to make sure its still on. Billy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My definition of a time waster is someone who actually has a real life and don't live in cloud fuck land.
Don't get me wrong I love fab and it has some really great people no here but some people on here are sex monsters and need to chill a bit."
could someone translate this into earthling for me?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had one yesterday, which isn't unique, that called me a time waster coz I replied no thank you! I replied really? Just coz I won't meet and he proceeded to call me lots of names and saying I was short and fat anyway so I said why contact me then and he said that's his type then tried to arrange a meet again... very strange some people "
And they wonder why some don't bother to say no thanks |
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By *agmanMan
over a year ago
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"Thats the big problem on here, people do not chat, they just want to meet fuck and go, Thats not everyone cup of tea."
It's definitely not our cup o'tea! ( fuck n'go).
But i know very recently a certain couple will have more than likely classed us as timewasters - simply because we wanted to establish that connection first - establish if we are all actually compatible.
Myself as the male half certainly (lol) has less inhibitions and ....erm.....reservations about meeting blind! (Go on say it! ) ??
But, ultimately we will be classed as timewasters by some people just because i am trying to ensure my lovely Mrs is comfortable before we go to the next step.
Damned if we do, and damned if i don't ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"no one wastes my time. If I'm not interested, and they shouldnt of bothered messaging because its obvious from my profile that they're not what im looking for, I just block.
If they fit what I'm looking for but I'm not interested, they get a polite message saying mo thankyou and then I block.
(stops us showing up in each others searches)
I meet socially first, if they dont show up I finish my drink and carry on with my day, and block.
Do you ever send the first message??
yes, I prefer to search myself. I only contact guys who are what I'm looking for, and from their profiles I might be what they're looking for. blank profiles i don't bother as I've no idea if we match.
Fair enough, I bet you get more out of the site than the 'sit back and wait for messages ' brigade
I'm one of those people and I have a fantastic Fab life thanks. "
I'm one of those too, and I'm doing marvellous thanks.
I can either spend a lot of time answering messages from men and responding positively to the ones I like the look of, or spend longer searching through thousands of profiles, only to give up after 20 minutes, because I have eye strain and a headache from scrolling.
Plus, I'm lazy and I get bored quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i agree with people not turning up after youve arranged a meeting, but i also include those who have no intention of meeting but pretend they want to so that you'll engage with them.
my personal preference but anyone who keeps messaging me over and over is wasting their time, so are those who ask for dirty chat, cam, kik etc. but they aren't wastign mine so idc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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set up a date three times to meet, every time after the meet has been arranged and confirmed they cancel at the last minute for this and that, after three arrangements and cancellations that's it for us. We'll forgive two as things do happen, grannies really do die and work can sometimes interfere. |
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Been trying to squeeze in some bonks before I fly off on my travels. Spoke to three different potentials at length (off site) who all passed my dilegent bullshit checks. Funny enough, all three had excuses on the day when it came to actually meeting.
They wasted my time.
Luckily I have myself a new Moregasm Move that has kept me entertained |
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