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Are you unselfish sexually?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some men would take a bj without giving anything in return (it seems a common request in messages). Some women would just lie there and let the guy do all the work.
I like to think I give as I receive, how about you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to think it's a good mix! Sometimes I just want to lay and take what is given to me  and other times I'd do the same. And other times it's let's both do as much as possible! (Well this is when I have a man in my bed, it's quite rare but when it does happen, see above! Lol) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depends on the person, the mood and the situation.
Or maybe what's been agreed beforehand.
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I guess historically it's around 50/50 except a fairly long relationship with someone who didn't give oral. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on the person and such.
But generally speaking, when I think about it, I tend to be a giver when it comes to oral but a taker when in comes to sex. I like doggy better than being on top, so I don't see that changing anytime soon. |
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It all depends. I can be very good at giving but equally good at knowing what I need and influencing to ensure I'm satisfied. A lot of the skill is about selecting wisely initially. We all make mistakes but can also have positive surprises too with partners |
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"Some men would take a bj without giving anything in return (it seems a common request in messages). Some women would just lie there and let the guy do all the work.
I like to think I give as I receive, how about you?"
I just like to lie there and think of Bonn |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to be a giver. Ladies are capable of cumming more than once and it's important that my partner is satisfied. Taking time and enjoying teasing really turns me on. Even been known to say before we start that this session is just about her and her alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very unselfish here.
I actually get a stronger cum from getting the lady off first. It turns me on so much knowing that I'm making her cum.
Only then will I allow myself to be emptied. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"With all these givers out there it's a good job there are some takers or you'd all be left frustrated  "
It does seem from this thread that giving is rather more popular than one would think....however, I have to say that on the meets I've been on this tends to be the case. When I first started playing with women, they seemed far more willing to give than I had expected. And it takes a lot of effort to convince the guys we meet that I don't want them to go down on me. So, at least in my opinion, what is professed seems to meet with my actual experience. I find it interesting because it doesn't fit with my expectations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"With all these givers out there it's a good job there are some takers or you'd all be left frustrated
It does seem from this thread that giving is rather more popular than one would think....however, I have to say that on the meets I've been on this tends to be the case. When I first started playing with women, they seemed far more willing to give than I had expected. And it takes a lot of effort to convince the guys we meet that I don't want them to go down on me. So, at least in my opinion, what is professed seems to meet with my actual experience. I find it interesting because it doesn't fit with my expectations. "
I've certainly never experienced the guys who won't give oral or just want a blowjob |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the man & how we both feel.
I look back on one meet where I was very much the taker, he kind of steered it that way & I lapped up the attention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Psychologically, when I was in my early 20s I was terrified of confronting a man's body so I took more than I gave, then I was in a relationship with my first serious girlfriend when I was 20/22 and I got upset when I felt I didn't give her as much as she gave me, sexually.
Luckily I've worked a lot on that, and I'm more interactive now but I'm also comfortable with laying back and concentrating on my own pleasure and exploration. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm quiet controlling sexually and the best way to be in control is by being the one to give out orgasms.
I always get better oral after iv giving a woman a good knee shaker with just my mouth.
U have to give quality to receive quality that's my take on it |
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"Some men would take a bj without giving anything in return (it seems a common request in messages). Some women would just lie there and let the guy do all the work.
I like to think I give as I receive, how about you?"
Orally, I'd rather give
And top, bottom or from behind it don't matter as long as all parties involved are having a good time |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
I don't care about my sexual pleasure, it's always about partner's pleasure. I am so very selfless in my sexual pleasuring... so selfless.
And very picky.
Am I top swinger yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Whatever takes our fancy, at the time. I do get bored with men when they don't get involved though. It gets boring when they lay still and don't do much. I end up doing the same or go to sleep. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care about my sexual pleasure, it's always about partner's pleasure. I am so very selfless in my sexual pleasuring... so selfless.
And very picky.
Am I top swinger yet"
No you're not, you fibber  |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm a giver, but I genuinely love giving head, so it doesn't feel too much like a chore. I'll always make them repay the favour, though... "
You could of course just have someone else doing that at the same time.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I don't care about my sexual pleasure, it's always about partner's pleasure. I am so very selfless in my sexual pleasuring... so selfless.
And very picky.
Am I top swinger yet
No you're not, you fibber "
ffs......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me sex is a two way thing, it's all about giving and receiving. If you both put effort in then you both reap the rewards.
Do some women really just lie back?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some men would take a bj without giving anything in return (it seems a common request in messages). Some women would just lie there and let the guy do all the work.
I like to think I give as I receive, how about you?"
Im not a selfish lover but I can honestly say I have met alot of selfish men. They love the blow jobs, you riding them, you doing all sorts of things to them and they cum and think nothing of pleasuring the women to orgasm. I dont mind if its a quickie, it cant be helped sometimes.
I have to say it happens mostly with younger guys ive met. I think because im older and experienced, they think im only there to give them a good time. Im afraid far too often I have given in and just pleasured them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me sex is a two way thing, it's all about giving and receiving. If you both put effort in then you both reap the rewards"
This pretty much reflects my attitude, I'm definitely a giving lover though so have had a few women lie back and take advantage! The best meets without doubt have a good balance of mutual satisfaction though.
I do think age and maturity come into it though, I've found some younger women are surprised when you want to give them something in return! |
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I think I've got bipolar bedroom syndrome.
I'm all kinds of lover depending on who I'm with. Different people offer different styles, preferences, they do their thang their way. I choose who I share my time with depending on the experience I want at the time.
How awesome though when someone you click with wants to try new things so you get all the different lovers rolled into one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always used to be a giver, but now I would say it's 50/50. My bf loves giving me pleasure it turns him on so very much so even though I'm getting pleased he is getting pleased by watching my reaction x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me sex is a two way thing, it's all about giving and receiving. If you both put effort in then you both reap the rewards.
Do some women really just lie back?!"
Yes they do... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me sex is a two way thing, it's all about giving and receiving. If you both put effort in then you both reap the rewards.
Do some women really just lie back?!
Yes they do..."
Have we met?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me sex is a two way thing, it's all about giving and receiving. If you both put effort in then you both reap the rewards.
Do some women really just lie back?!
Yes they do...
Have we met? "
Not yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't understand guys who take but don't give oral. Easily one of the hottest thing is to make a woman orgasm using your mouth. Would like to think that I'm selfless. Doesn't feel right if the lady doesn't have fun too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care about my sexual pleasure, it's always about partner's pleasure. I am so very selfless in my sexual pleasuring... so selfless.
And very picky.
Am I top swinger yet"
You didn't mention that it's not about looks, its about personality.. |
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