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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach?  |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Ladies message me, from other threads I read they message other guys as well.
It's one of the reasons I suggest to everyone you have a profile that creates interest.
I'd suggest ladies should be proactive after all they know what they're looking for, guys interpret their profile text and might misinterpret it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach? "
I've found that the women on here, know what they want, that's why I like it. So just sit back and wait, if they like you, they'll let you know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach?
I've found that the women on here, know what they want, that's why I like it. So just sit back and wait, if they like you, they'll let you know. "
What he said  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach?
I've found that the women on here, know what they want, that's why I like it. So just sit back and wait, if they like you, they'll let you know.
What he said "
I'll wait for you to pop up in my inbox then  haha only kiddin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because there's too many to look through, to find one that I think yeah I'll message him. I have actually messaged a few first though, but that's mainly through face pics in my local updates, forums or chatrooms. However, I only nprmally do this when I have my filters on otherwise if he messages back it'll probably get lost among the other messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I imagine as a woman, you get bombarded with message after message from horny dudes?!? So I bet you ignore most and just select when you feel like a meet and let them know you're interested by liking a pic etc?! |
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"I imagine as a woman, you get bombarded with message after message from horny dudes?!? So I bet you ignore most and just select when you feel like a meet and let them know you're interested by liking a pic etc?!"
I'm not looking for casual but I will answer a message from someone who might be a good match  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I imagine as a woman, you get bombarded with message after message from horny dudes?!? So I bet you ignore most and just select when you feel like a meet and let them know you're interested by liking a pic etc?!
I'm not looking for casual but I will answer a message from someone who might be a good match "
Noted ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've found a lot of women prefer to approach men. Maybe it's because it allows them to pick and choose for themselves rather than sift through the bullshit in their inbox?
Don't get me wrong, I've approached far more women than have approached me, but I get further with the ones who approach me, if that makes sense?! |
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By *aisyDDWoman
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach? "
You've only been on here a few weeks and your profile tells us well not much at all. You need to catch our eye. We do message men.
Bonus points for your pictures and the total lack of cock pics xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the time when I message first I get no reply.....or if they do reply then a lot of times the conversation is like pulling teeth with lots of one word/sentence responses.
I'll answer their questions then ask them a question which will be completely ignored!
There are obviously too many guys willing to jump through hoops n blow smoke up womens arses just so they can get a fuck!
The best meets I've had on here have been when the lass has contacted me first |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fear of being turned down also.
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I don't mind that. It's the thought of them assuming we are going to have sex, because I messaged them, that puts me off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fear of being turned down also.
I don't mind that. It's the thought of them assuming we are going to have sex, because I messaged them, that puts me off. "
This.
Also what puts me off are no face pics, I have to be attracted to men and that includes their face. So I don't want to message and then receive a face pic and say oh no thanks. It may seem like double standards as I don't have any on my profile, but it would appear not many men are bothered about a woman's face, so they can message me all they like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach? "
I do. Just takes a gentleman to tickle my interest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fear of being turned down also.
I don't mind that. It's the thought of them assuming we are going to have sex, because I messaged them, that puts me off.
This.
Also what puts me off are no face pics, I have to be attracted to men and that includes their face. So I don't want to message and then receive a face pic and say oh no thanks. It may seem like double standards as I don't have any on my profile, but it would appear not many men are bothered about a woman's face, so they can message me all they like. "
I disagree, I need to see a face pic too otherwise I might not be attracted either.
Body off baywatch, face off crimewatch and all that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fear of being turned down also.
I don't mind that. It's the thought of them assuming we are going to have sex, because I messaged them, that puts me off.
This.
Also what puts me off are no face pics, I have to be attracted to men and that includes their face. So I don't want to message and then receive a face pic and say oh no thanks. It may seem like double standards as I don't have any on my profile, but it would appear not many men are bothered about a woman's face, so they can message me all they like. "
Surely face attraction matters to any sex |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Well it's happened to me OP, so anything IS possible!!
You just have to have a decent-ish profile, pics that aren't just your cock from different angles, and having a presence of some sort on the forums helps to an extent too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fear of being turned down also.
I don't mind that. It's the thought of them assuming we are going to have sex, because I messaged them, that puts me off.
This.
Also what puts me off are no face pics, I have to be attracted to men and that includes their face. So I don't want to message and then receive a face pic and say oh no thanks. It may seem like double standards as I don't have any on my profile, but it would appear not many men are bothered about a woman's face, so they can message me all they like.
I disagree, I need to see a face pic too otherwise I might not be attracted either.
Body off baywatch, face off crimewatch and all that"
That'd be the reason I didn't say "all men". Men message calling me gorgeous, stunning, beautiful, pretty, sexy etc; you'd think that'd apply to my face too, but they can't see it and many are also asking for a meet, wanting me to go fuck them now and whatever other messages you can imagine that don't imply they are bothered about seeing a face. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've occasionally made the 1st move when someone has caught my eye. doesn't it sting when something gets caught in your eye tho  "
I had glitter in my eye the other day, that was a bitch to get out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've occasionally made the 1st move when someone has caught my eye. doesn't it sting when something gets caught in your eye tho
I had glitter in my eye the other day, that was a bitch to get out!"
that's a stinger for sure.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fear of being turned down also.
I don't mind that. It's the thought of them assuming we are going to have sex, because I messaged them, that puts me off.
This.
Also what puts me off are no face pics, I have to be attracted to men and that includes their face. So I don't want to message and then receive a face pic and say oh no thanks. It may seem like double standards as I don't have any on my profile, but it would appear not many men are bothered about a woman's face, so they can message me all they like.
I disagree, I need to see a face pic too otherwise I might not be attracted either.
Body off baywatch, face off crimewatch and all that
That'd be the reason I didn't say "all men". Men message calling me gorgeous, stunning, beautiful, pretty, sexy etc; you'd think that'd apply to my face too, but they can't see it and many are also asking for a meet, wanting me to go fuck them now and whatever other messages you can imagine that don't imply they are bothered about seeing a face."
Well maybe they are assuming that the face is as good as the rest then?
I mean you're hardly going to tell us if you look like Sloth off the goonies, but you must have body confidence to be on here to begin with, so I'm going to guess you don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach? "
I would suggest just putting up meet today in status messages and let the ladies come to you.
If not , and you keep sending messages I hope you have thick skin. Because this place can really dent your ego.
Nice submariner btw |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've occasionally made the 1st move when someone has caught my eye. doesn't it sting when something gets caught in your eye tho
I had glitter in my eye the other day, that was a bitch to get out!"
Suuuuuure... "glitter"  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Tbh OP I probably wouldn't 'approach' a man in the real world so don't really on here either. But also, when I've got through my mail an cleared my inbox, spent 5 mins on the forums...the inbox is filling up again so I don't really get the opportunity. I know I could block men before anyone says that, but I'm looking for a man so I'd rather not! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fear of being turned down also.
I don't mind that. It's the thought of them assuming we are going to have sex, because I messaged them, that puts me off.
This.
Also what puts me off are no face pics, I have to be attracted to men and that includes their face. So I don't want to message and then receive a face pic and say oh no thanks. It may seem like double standards as I don't have any on my profile, but it would appear not many men are bothered about a woman's face, so they can message me all they like.
I disagree, I need to see a face pic too otherwise I might not be attracted either.
Body off baywatch, face off crimewatch and all that
That'd be the reason I didn't say "all men". Men message calling me gorgeous, stunning, beautiful, pretty, sexy etc; you'd think that'd apply to my face too, but they can't see it and many are also asking for a meet, wanting me to go fuck them now and whatever other messages you can imagine that don't imply they are bothered about seeing a face."
Aww....I get called stunning, pretty, beautiful etc too before they see my face...strange that... And there was me thinking I must be special  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well maybe they are assuming that the face is as good as the rest then?
I mean you're hardly going to tell us if you look like Sloth off the goonies, but you must have body confidence to be on here to begin with, so I'm going to guess you don't"
No I tell those that as that I look like Quasimodo, or if they ask if the face is just as nice I say no.
You're very wrong in thinking body confidence is a requirement to be on here, many women don't have body confidence and I'm included, it has improved since I joined this but by far from being fully confident. |
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"I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach? "
They do mate just some are more lucky than others ! Gd lk  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well maybe they are assuming that the face is as good as the rest then?
I mean you're hardly going to tell us if you look like Sloth off the goonies, but you must have body confidence to be on here to begin with, so I'm going to guess you don't
No I tell those that as that I look like Quasimodo, or if they ask if the face is just as nice I say no.
You're very wrong in thinking body confidence is a requirement to be on here, many women don't have body confidence and I'm included, it has improved since I joined this but by far from being fully confident."
Well I meant a level of body confidence, I mean we all have the flaws that we see in ourselves after all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always approach men..
not always with a direct message, sometimes with a wink or if I fab their pics, they always get back to me "
See I never get winks, and the only fabs I get are off gay guys, and that's not my thing I'm afraid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Er yes, women do approach men. Some women do. I do. "
I do too!
I don't see anything wrong in being the first to make a move on here! If I like what I see and what I read in a guys profile and they arent 500 miles away! I will start the ball rolling with a wink or a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have viewed your profile mate, looks good great face pics etc.... maybe you should elaborate on your profile text , what you would like to experience etc.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach? "
I initiate contact with men, nice to be the hunter and not the huntee  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It must just be me then I'll give it time haha"
I'm not allowed to comment on your profile unless you ask. But just take a look at it and ask yourself if it'd interest you if you were a single woman. If the answer is no then do something about it x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't know if shagging yourself slim works, what I can say is that after a distinct lack of sex for a while I've put weight on.lol"
Damn somehow posted on the wrong thread. Sorry  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach? "
Seeing as guys on here outnumber women by about 50 to 1 of course you approach more women than woman approach you  |
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"I imagine as a woman, you get bombarded with message after message from horny dudes?!? So I bet you ignore most and just select when you feel like a meet and let them know you're interested by liking a pic etc?!"
No, it doesn't work like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The women here only approach the sexy looking one with a good size manhood that been here over six months and on. lol.
Sorry mate, I don't agree..."
That's the sound of a loser talking!
I don't give a shit about manhood. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach? "
Some women do, but you need to understand that single men massively outnumber couples and single ladies on fab, and most of them find themselves inundated with messages - often meaning that they don't really have any need to do any searching themselves.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No guy with a lacklustre profile and face pics like an axe murderer is going to get messaged first by anyone.
Don't whine about it, sort your profiles out "
You think he looks like a axe murder
I would say he looks like Justin Timberlake |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think the OP looks ok, someone I could have a beer with. Doesn't mean women will want to fuck him though.
Could add a bit of extra info on ya profile that would be a good start. |
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"No guy with a lacklustre profile and face pics like an axe murderer is going to get messaged first by anyone.
Don't whine about it, sort your profiles out
You think he looks like a axe murder
I would say he looks like Justin Timberlake "
The comment wasn't aimed at anyone in particular  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No guy with a lacklustre profile and face pics like an axe murderer is going to get messaged first by anyone.
Don't whine about it, sort your profiles out
You think he looks like a axe murder
I would say he looks like Justin Timberlake
The comment wasn't aimed at anyone in particular "
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"I've been on this site a good few months now and find myself approaching more woman than woman do me, is it my looks? Or is it just woman prefer to be approached rather than too approach? "
Yes women do & even though I'm far from shy some have shocked me with their xxx messages lol. |
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"Tbh OP I probably wouldn't 'approach' a man in the real world so don't really on here either. But also, when I've got through my mail an cleared my inbox, spent 5 mins on the forums...the inbox is filling up again so I don't really get the opportunity. I know I could block men before anyone says that, but I'm looking for a man so I'd rather not!"
I'm in exactly the same boat. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Tbh OP I probably wouldn't 'approach' a man in the real world so don't really on here either. But also, when I've got through my mail an cleared my inbox, spent 5 mins on the forums...the inbox is filling up again so I don't really get the opportunity. I know I could block men before anyone says that, but I'm looking for a man so I'd rather not!
I'm in exactly the same boat. "
I actually find the statement contradictory, "Looking for a man" in the true sense entails doing the leg work, using the search function, spotting people via forums. Sifting through your inbox isn't looking, its choosing as everyone well knows.
A bit like wanting a piece of jewelry to wear, you can either get a piece you know you can have from a drawer or make the effort to go out and get a new piece.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As for me none of the lovely women here had every approached me on here where it seem I'm not there type here sorry only being honest which I think is the best way to make friends after being back in the uk twenty years |
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"Fear of being turned down also.
I don't mind that. It's the thought of them assuming we are going to have sex, because I messaged them, that puts me off.
This.
Also what puts me off are no face pics, I have to be attracted to men and that includes their face. So I don't want to message and then receive a face pic and say oh no thanks. It may seem like double standards as I don't have any on my profile, but it would appear not many men are bothered about a woman's face, so they can message me all they like.
I disagree, I need to see a face pic too otherwise I might not be attracted either.
Body off baywatch, face off crimewatch and all that
That'd be the reason I didn't say "all men". Men message calling me gorgeous, stunning, beautiful, pretty, sexy etc; you'd think that'd apply to my face too, but they can't see it and many are also asking for a meet, wanting me to go fuck them now and whatever other messages you can imagine that don't imply they are bothered about seeing a face.
Aww....I get called stunning, pretty, beautiful etc too before they see my face...strange that... And there was me thinking I must be special "
Likewise, you are in good company...We should form a group. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've decided to be a bit more proactive recently and been sending out a few messages. I've even been pouncing on newbies. Get me eh?? "
Newbies? Well you are brave. I love looking at profiles. I've messaged a few forumites first. As I would not come across them in my local search . |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"I've decided to be a bit more proactive recently and been sending out a few messages. I've even been pouncing on newbies. Get me eh??
Patiently watching my inbox like a hawk "
Just remember they are not like blokes, ignore the message & you won't get one on the hour asking why
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've decided to be a bit more proactive recently and been sending out a few messages. I've even been pouncing on newbies. Get me eh?? "
Ya big predator! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've decided to be a bit more proactive recently and been sending out a few messages. I've even been pouncing on newbies. Get me eh??
Newbies? Well you are brave. I love looking at profiles. I've messaged a few forumites first. As I would not come across them in my local search .
I don't remember you ever messaging me lol
Haha you got in there first "
I've got to get somewhere first haha |
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