Firstly this isn't a 'woe is me' rant.
I am wondering if Ladies or Couples could help with this query
- what does it mean if you have semt a message (more than a quick one line FaF) with a face / body pic (no cock shot) and it is read but not deleted?
I know if it is deleted then that is a thanks but no thanks but not sure what it means if it is just left there days after reading - is it a no? Do you send a follow up at somepoint in the future?
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I sometimes delete and sometimes just press the back button. In the second scenario it means it just sits there until I can be bothered to delete it.
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"I sometimes delete and sometimes just press the back button. In the second scenario it means it just sits there until I can be bothered to delete it.
(That might have helped) "
This  or for me it's a 'I might get back to it'. |
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I understand women get a shit load of messages but it tells a man if they are interested by replying or not by deleting it and I myself have had this but you don't wanna be pushy and message again if it only says read |
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As per the site rules, no reply means no thanks. Message deleted or not.
There is a possibility that they are waiting for a more convenient time to reply, or waiting to show the partner but the most likely reason has been given by the poster above. |
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"I sometimes delete and sometimes just press the back button. In the second scenario it means it just sits there until I can be bothered to delete it.
(That might have helped) "
Thanks for the reply MzQT. A follow up if I may - in the 2nd scanrio, what would you think if you received another message a couple of weeks later? Would you be annoyed? |
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"I understand women get a shit load of messages but it tells a man if they are interested by replying or not by deleting it and I myself have had this but you don't wanna be pushy and message again if it only says read"
I understand but sometimes I need to have a think. Or I'm busy. It's not meant to cause intentional upset. |
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"I sometimes delete and sometimes just press the back button. In the second scenario it means it just sits there until I can be bothered to delete it.
(That might have helped)
This or for me it's a 'I might get back to it'. "
Haha now I'm starting to get confused  |
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"I understand women get a shit load of messages but it tells a man if they are interested by replying or not by deleting it and I myself have had this but you don't wanna be pushy and message again if it only says read"
Thanks for the advice cub |
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"As per the site rules, no reply means no thanks. Message deleted or not.
There is a possibility that they are waiting for a more convenient time to reply, or waiting to show the partner but the most likely reason has been given by the poster above."
Cheers for the reply. Just thought it worth checking if there some hidden meaning I wasn't aware of. |
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"I understand women get a shit load of messages but it tells a man if they are interested by replying or not by deleting it and I myself have had this but you don't wanna be pushy and message again if it only says read
I understand but sometimes I need to have a think. Or I'm busy. It's not meant to cause intentional upset. "
Oh I don't get upset. I know I'm not for everybody same as not everyone is for me.  |
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"I sometimes delete and sometimes just press the back button. In the second scenario it means it just sits there until I can be bothered to delete it.
(That might have helped)
Thanks for the reply MzQT. A follow up if I may - in the 2nd scanrio, what would you think if you received another message a couple of weeks later? Would you be annoyed?"
Not really. Same thing happens and I ignore it. If it gets to a third one or something like that then I just block so the person can't message me anymore. |
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"I understand women get a shit load of messages but it tells a man if they are interested by replying or not by deleting it and I myself have had this but you don't wanna be pushy and message again if it only says read"
Why should women bother?
It's hard work on here you know! |
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"I understand women get a shit load of messages but it tells a man if they are interested by replying or not by deleting it and I myself have had this but you don't wanna be pushy and message again if it only says read"
Best not to dwell on sent messages. Send and forget, if they are interested they will let you know. Focus on writing a good message and profile etc and the rest is out of your control. |
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"I sometimes delete and sometimes just press the back button. In the second scenario it means it just sits there until I can be bothered to delete it.
(That might have helped)
Thanks for the reply MzQT. A follow up if I may - in the 2nd scanrio, what would you think if you received another message a couple of weeks later? Would you be annoyed?
Not really. Same thing happens and I ignore it. If it gets to a third one or something like that then I just block so the person can't message me anymore. "
Even I'm not daft enough to send a 3rd! 
Thank you for you responses though. Think it is just a csae of leave it alone after sending the first message.
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"I understand women get a shit load of messages but it tells a man if they are interested by replying or not by deleting it and I myself have had this but you don't wanna be pushy and message again if it only says read
Why should women bother?
It's hard work on here you know!"
If I ever get more than 1 message a week I am sure I would agree with you |
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"I understand women get a shit load of messages but it tells a man if they are interested by replying or not by deleting it and I myself have had this but you don't wanna be pushy and message again if it only says read
Best not to dwell on sent messages. Send and forget, if they are interested they will let you know. Focus on writing a good message and profile etc and the rest is out of your control."
Seems to be the correct answer |
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have to admit that I often don't delete a nice or interesting message but wait till I have time to make a note and put them on my hotlist... not going to reply as I don't want to say no but don't want to start chatting either... |
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Even I'm not daft enough to send a 3rd!
Thank you for you responses though. Think it is just a csae of leave it alone after sending the first message.
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I only block because there are some people who keep messaging and it's always the same message. Either copy and pasted or saying the same thing with slightly different words. I get bored of reading it and so I block. |
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"have to admit that I often don't delete a nice or interesting message but wait till I have time to make a note and put them on my hotlist... not going to reply as I don't want to say no but don't want to start chatting either..."
Seems to back up the send and don't follow up theory. Thank you for taking the time to reply. |
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I've replied up to 5 weeks later  depending on sitting sorting the mail box out. Forums distracts most of the time.
Since a lot of men don't know you can only see so many of the latest incoming messages 75/100 not sure what it is.
You have to delete to bring older messages back onto the page. It also answer why its easier to delete when not interested.
So you never know mail box management could account for it just sitting there but that's my reason may not be other's
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Even I'm not daft enough to send a 3rd!
Thank you for you responses though. Think it is just a csae of leave it alone after sending the first message.
I only block because there are some people who keep messaging and it's always the same message. Either copy and pasted or saying the same thing with slightly different words. I get bored of reading it and so I block. "
That is just lazyness on their part and they have got what they deserved!
Unfortunately it seems I am out of your age range or I may have sent you a message to see if the advice on here was right.....  |
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Even I'm not daft enough to send a 3rd!
Thank you for you responses though. Think it is just a csae of leave it alone after sending the first message.
I only block because there are some
people who keep messaging and it's
always the same message. Either copy
and pasted or saying the same thing
with slightly different words. I get bored
of reading it and so I block. "
Some of us have the choice. ..just saying! |
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"I've replied up to 5 weeks later depending on sitting sorting the mail box out. Forums distracts most of the time.
Since a lot of men don't know you can only see so many of the latest incoming messages 75/100 not sure what it is.
You have to delete to bring older messages back onto the page. It also answer why its easier to delete when not interested.
So you never know mail box management could account for it just sitting there but that's my reason may not be other's
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It seems to be a possibility that not being deleted means you may hear back at some point - on the other hand it could mean forgotten to delete |
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Even I'm not daft enough to send a 3rd!
Thank you for you responses though. Think it is just a csae of leave it alone after sending the first message.
I only block because there are some
people who keep messaging and it's
always the same message. Either copy
and pasted or saying the same thing
with slightly different words. I get bored
of reading it and so I block.
Some of us have the choice. ..just saying! "
The choice? |
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Messages mean nothing to the recipient unless and until replied to. Treat no reply as no interest. Spread your interest wide.
You may get a reply later on and then you can smile and continue - until then, put them out of your mind. |
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"Messages mean nothing to the recipient unless and until replied to. Treat no reply as no interest. Spread your interest wide.
You may get a reply later on and then you can smile and continue - until then, put them out of your mind."
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"Messages mean nothing to the recipient unless and until replied to. Treat no reply as no interest. Spread your interest wide.
You may get a reply later on and then you can smile and continue - until then, put them out of your mind."
Good advice that I shall follow for the future |
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Even I'm not daft enough to send a 3rd!
Thank you for you responses though. Think it is just a csae of leave it alone after sending the first message.
I only block because there are some
people who keep messaging and it's
always the same message. Either copy
and pasted or saying the same thing
with slightly different words. I get bored
of reading it and so I block.
Some of us have the choice. ..just saying!
The choice?"
To reply or totally ignore. ..in our own way |
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"From a couples perspective it could be that one has read the message but it's sitting there waiting for the other to read it before replying."
Thanks Flik & Paul nice to hear from a couple. It would appear to confirm the send and wait as you never know approach.
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Even I'm not daft enough to send a 3rd!
Thank you for you responses though. Think it is just a csae of leave it alone after sending the first message.
I only block because there are some
people who keep messaging and it's
always the same message. Either copy
and pasted or saying the same thing
with slightly different words. I get bored
of reading it and so I block.
Some of us have the choice. ..just saying!
The choice?
To reply or totally ignore. ..in our own way"
Agreed - always the Ladies choice in the fab men menu |
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Even I'm not daft enough to send a 3rd!
Thank you for you responses though. Think it is just a csae of leave it alone after sending the first message.
I only block because there are some people who keep messaging and it's always the same message. Either copy and pasted or saying the same thing with slightly different words. I get bored of reading it and so I block. "
Amazing how many those types delete profiles and come back start again with the same copy & paste job - reblock |
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Even I'm not daft enough to send a 3rd!
Thank you for you responses though. Think it is just a csae of leave it alone after sending the first message.
I only block because there are some people who keep messaging and it's always the same message. Either copy and pasted or saying the same thing with slightly different words. I get bored of reading it and so I block.
Amazing how many those types delete profiles and come back start again with the same copy & paste job - reblock"
New profile? That just sounds like too much work, hard enough trying to get one profile right  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Even I'm not daft enough to send a 3rd!
Thank you for you responses though. Think it is just a csae of leave it alone after sending the first message.
I only block because there are some
people who keep messaging and it's
always the same message. Either copy
and pasted or saying the same thing
with slightly different words. I get bored
of reading it and so I block.
Some of us have the choice. ..just saying!
The choice?
To reply or totally ignore. ..in our own way
Agreed - always the Ladies choice in the fab men menu "
Too much sp sometimes. ..have you seen some of our "female" pictures?
Respect!!! |
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"I understand women get a shit load of messages but it tells a man if they are interested by replying or not by deleting it and I myself have had this but you don't wanna be pushy and message again if it only says read
Best not to dwell on sent messages. Send and forget, if they are interested they will let you know. Focus on writing a good message and profile etc and the rest is out of your control."
This! |
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If it were me and you were to send a second message, chances are that I wouldn't even remember the first message. The only ones I notice, that send more than one, are those that send more than 2 in a day. That said, I don't like having messages in my inbox, so once I've read them and possibly replied they get deleted. |
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"Nothing. It means nothing. You will either get a reply or you won't so stop checking."
Yes this, it means this
I've blocked everyone from contacting me so I don't have mass messages x |
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