FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > timewasters
timewasters
Jump to: Newest in thread
 | |||
| |||
| |||
It happens. If people are not interested then move on and don't waste any more of your time on them.  | |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
"I waste too much time on here " Preach | |||
| |||
| |||
"To me that's not a timewaster. A timewaster is someone who arranges a meet, then doesn't show, or let's you down at the last minute. Could be that they don't want to meet you, but rather than come out and say it, they make excuses as to why they can't meet, to try and spare your feelings. Some chat to quite a few men at a time. It's impossible to meet all of them. " It would be considered timewasting if men did it to women though. I got called a time waster and blocked for not wanting to meet at 3am. I admit that I sometimes don't reply as well if l don't find their face attractive but l don't want hurt feelings. | |||
| |||
| |||
"Time wasters are people who arrange to meet then don't turn up"
That's my definition too.
Plus they didn't have the courtesy to inform that they can't turn up/cancel. | |||
"Hi peeps, your views on timewasters? The last few weeks, I've been actively msging, and spoke to some seemingly lovely people, wanting to meet, so I thought, same every single time, I'm busy, kids, fell out a window, parallel universed etc, every excuse you could imagine, whilst still meeting people, I wait, re message, still want to meet, then same again, I've drawn the conclusion, yes we have lives, busy,kids etc, but its always the same, full if promise, full of shit, then ignored, I've five it soz names floating round in.my head, shame because I really wanted to meet some if them, just seems like you get any old excuse, example, your lovely, I wana meet you blah blah, so I try and arrange, busy, another time,but posting stuff like...can't wait for tomorrows meet with Mr x-y blah blah, can these people not see they actually are taking the poss completely? Ruins a bloody good site in my opinion, feel like listing the whole bloody lot on my next post "We have had very few experiences of timewasters. Maybe that is due to a positive approach incorporating common sense and not expecting to gel with everyone? | |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
"They're only time wasters if they arrange a meet and don't turn up. I'd probably say you're the one wasting your own time chasing them and then overthinking it. Move on OP and find other women. If the ones you've chatted too are interested , they know where to find you " | |||
Consider discussion of meet timeframes early on, so you're more clued up. | |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
"So there we have it, can I meet tomorrow? I'm very wanted (explicit message content) , again, tomorrow has come, as in today, the day am I free, not a message all day, not a reply, only sent two so not gone ott, and I feel like the bad one again... This is why I kick off, its not unreasonable to get pissed off surely ? X" If they arrange to meet then go quiet, block them. Don't arrange to meet them again. | |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
| |||
"Hi x I've had lots of time for the girl and really enjoyed talking to her, quite a yearn to meet tbh, my chemustrys on fire, and she has said stuff at times I feel she's genuine, perhaps why I don't wanna let go maybe? Really few and far between meets for me tbh with yoy lovely x j" If she's going quiet on you, she's not interested. Leave it. | |||
| |||
| |||
"i find the best way to deal with them is to block them, then assume everyone that messages you will fuck u about as most of them will. next , dont make plans .. just do the spontaneous meets thing ..that way youve not wasted hours of your life mailing each other saying what your gonna get up to when u meet its just a fact of life that sites like fab will be full of bored smartfone fantasy wankers and women that like all the attention.. they will run a mile when they get to actually meet anyone " Excellent post ... you're very wise | |||
| |||
| |||
 x | |||
| |||
"Oh and it gets better, a girl said yesterday, she wanted to meet tonight, and appreciates what happened, not a timewaster etc, said four times yesterday, definite, don't worry, were good, so I went on to cancel a shift. And get a sitter like I said, today now its, can we do Monday or Tuesday, I say about the sitter, work etc, and get deleted, thankyou very much, what is wrong with some fucking people "I think most people work out very quickly to not make plans around the people on here. | |||
