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Can NSF be NSF really?
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By *armers OP Woman
over a year ago
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Firstly happy New Year's Eve and I hope 2017 is a bit less stress free xxxxxx
The reason why I'm asking this because as a truly genuine single female it pisses me off when I then get the grief from the supposedly single males supposes gf about my lifestyle choices as I've fucked their men!!!
For me sex is sex it has no regards to how I feel for someone and it's purely mutual gratification.
So my question is can NSF really be that when the supposedly other have partners ( plenty say they are single)?
Has anyone else had grief and shit from partners of those you have been fucking and how do you get round it? |
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I'd probably recommend only meeting guys who are long established or meeting them at clubs. It's poor that you should be deprived of your fun, just because someone is dishonest or can't be protective of your details |
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By *armers OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'd probably recommend only meeting guys who are long established or meeting them at clubs. It's poor that you should be deprived of your fun, just because someone is dishonest or can't be protective of your details "
As a woman from a dishonest ex bf it's easy to find out but to put the shit at my door sorry love a fuck is a fuck to me |
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Mutual gratification is a pretty good description for NSF.
Lying about personal circumstances, to secure that NSF, indicates pattern behaviour; done it once, they're going to do it again.
The losers here are the girlfriends etc. who find out and, subsequently, carry on the relationship.
Other than you passing on an STI, the problem is entirely theirs; you were upfront in looking for NSF and you only got involved with the bf because you figured it would be good fun and you didn't expect to be lied to by him.
End of conversation.
Let's hope that 2017 is better than this year.
Dr Nasty
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By *armers OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Mutual gratification is a pretty good description for NSF.
Lying about personal circumstances, to secure that NSF, indicates pattern behaviour; done it once, they're going to do it again.
The losers here are the girlfriends etc. who find out and, subsequently, carry on the relationship.
Other than you passing on an STI, the problem is entirely theirs; you were upfront in looking for NSF and you only got involved with the bf because you figured it would be good fun and you didn't expect to be lied to by him.
End of conversation.
Let's hope that 2017 is better than this year.
Dr Nasty
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I really hope 2017 is going to be better I'm single because I haven't found a bf who is up for my lifestyle choices of fun unadulterated sex I have a sex drive like a man and it's high so plain vanilla sex is boring xx variety after all is the spice of life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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don't give out your number. less chance of 'her' finding out about you then, if he has lied to you.
put it on your profile you aren't interested in married/attached guys. plenty get put off by that.
tell the women he told you he was single and you aren't interested and he's to deal with it himself. that way she can vent at him for it.
you haven't got a sex drive like a man, you just enjoy sex and women aren't suppoed to, hence why men don't wanna get with women like us coz they can't keep up or think we're mental/will fuck anything in site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dammit - just lately I'm having trouble even trying to swap No-Strings messages with men!
I keep telling them - this is about sex, and that's all I'm here for, not to be their next best friend....
But they always start with the socialising messages every morning "Hi, I'm out with the dog / kids / wife / shopping - what are you doing today?"
Then when I don't answer, they get all hissy, and some even just block me for not replying withing a couple of hours!
And they wonder why we don't feel like putting the effort in any more...
It's s Swinging site, folks - no strings - not a dating site!!!
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"Dammit - just lately I'm having trouble even trying to swap No-Strings messages with men!
I keep telling them - this is about sex, and that's all I'm here for, not to be their next best friend....
But they always start with the socialising messages every morning "Hi, I'm out with the dog / kids / wife / shopping - what are you doing today?"
Then when I don't answer, they get all hissy, and some even just block me for not replying withing a couple of hours!
And they wonder why we don't feel like putting the effort in any more...
It's s Swinging site, folks - no strings - not a dating site!!!
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No Strings isn't the same as No Interest in you as a person.
Social interaction leads to sexual interaction  |
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To the OP - I've had this despite being really careful to only meet single guys.
Now I have it on my profile that I won't cover for them if a guy has a partner/girlfriend or wife and that tends to put off the attached guys. From what I've found, there's at least 50% of the guys on here who are attached, if not more.
I used to innocently ask "You know I'm married, are you attached/have a girlfriend or partner?" and loads would say yes thinking I was cool with it. Difference is my husband knows I'm on Fab.
And yes, I had a fiancée have a right go at me messaging her bloke, when he's sworn blind he was single. Luckily I hadn't met him but she still went absolutely ballistic. Took me quite a while to calm her down and it was quite scary! |
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"Dammit - just lately I'm having trouble even trying to swap No-Strings messages with men!
I keep telling them - this is about sex, and that's all I'm here for, not to be their next best friend....
But they always start with the socialising messages every morning "Hi, I'm out with the dog / kids / wife / shopping - what are you doing today?"
Then when I don't answer, they get all hissy, and some even just block me for not replying withing a couple of hours!
And they wonder why we don't feel like putting the effort in any more...
It's s Swinging site, folks - no strings - not a dating site!!!
No Strings isn't the same as No Interest in you as a person.
Social interaction leads to sexual interaction "
Totally agree. I'm married so don't want to date. But unless I have some kind of mental attraction to a guy, I don't want to fuck them. I can't do completely empty sex as to me it feels shit. It doesn't mean you want to date or marry them or be exclusive to them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dammit - just lately I'm having trouble even trying to swap No-Strings messages with men!
I keep telling them - this is about sex, and that's all I'm here for, not to be their next best friend....
But they always start with the socialising messages every morning "Hi, I'm out with the dog / kids / wife / shopping - what are you doing today?"
Then when I don't answer, they get all hissy, and some even just block me for not replying withing a couple of hours!
And they wonder why we don't feel like putting the effort in any more...
It's s Swinging site, folks - no strings - not a dating site!!!
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So fancy a fuck is frown upon but regular conversation too ? |
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By *armers OP Woman
over a year ago
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This is why I brought it up as I know why I'm here for and it's certainly not to get married find a bf or anything else. Not saying that doesn't happen either.
I have aspergers ( autism) I do black and white simple and straight forward I'm a sensory seeker and have always used sex and sexual acts to help calm me when things get too much ( life in general).
So when I then get the grief that's it it's sets me back loads and that makes me angry |
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I hope I can give you some perspective from the other side. I have just looked at your profile and it makes no mention of you requiring men to be direct and immediately arrange a meet and/or leave out the small talk. (Tbh honest I still don't know what you are wanting or expecting even after reading this thread). It does say for them to be patient and not pushy which implies that men should play the long game and not asking you to meet straight away. I'm sure you could find many men to meet your needs if they knew that was what you wanted,you have men interested in you but they are probably wary of being to forward and putting you off or over compensating trying not to be that "typical (fancy a fuck) single guy" that is so despised by most of the site.
I wish you luck in finding what you want but I'm sure you won't need it once the fellas know what you want. |
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By *armers OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I hope I can give you some perspective from the other side. I have just looked at your profile and it makes no mention of you requiring men to be direct and immediately arrange a meet and/or leave out the small talk. (Tbh honest I still don't know what you are wanting or expecting even after reading this thread). It does say for them to be patient and not pushy which implies that men should play the long game and not asking you to meet straight away. I'm sure you could find many men to meet your needs if they knew that was what you wanted,you have men interested in you but they are probably wary of being to forward and putting you off or over compensating trying not to be that "typical (fancy a fuck) single guy" that is so despised by most of the site.
I wish you luck in finding what you want but I'm sure you won't need it once the fellas know what you want. "
My profile a few weeks ago was very direct exactly but after she found me on fab
My wording myself my age my name and my area all changed to be something I'm not I make it clear in my private responses back to people as and what I want!
I was seeing if other had experienced same thing as to be honest it takes the fun out of swinging heightens my anxiety and then I don't meet !
Wanted to know if I was being unlucky or this was common that is all!
I'm under no delusions it is was it is! Once dust has settled then I will revert my precise profile back how it was |
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Just re read this thread and I think I have been sidetracked by temptations post thinking it was the op's and have misunderstood the sentiment of what the op has written.
I apologise for talking bollocks, I've been up all night and not quite with it. Lol |
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"I hope I can give you some perspective from the other side. I have just looked at your profile and it makes no mention of you requiring men to be direct and immediately arrange a meet and/or leave out the small talk. (Tbh honest I still don't know what you are wanting or expecting even after reading this thread). It does say for them to be patient and not pushy which implies that men should play the long game and not asking you to meet straight away. I'm sure you could find many men to meet your needs if they knew that was what you wanted,you have men interested in you but they are probably wary of being to forward and putting you off or over compensating trying not to be that "typical (fancy a fuck) single guy" that is so despised by most of the site.
I wish you luck in finding what you want but I'm sure you won't need it once the fellas know what you want.
My profile a few weeks ago was very direct exactly but after she found me on fab
My wording myself my age my name and my area all changed to be something I'm not I make it clear in my private responses back to people as and what I want!
I was seeing if other had experienced same thing as to be honest it takes the fun out of swinging heightens my anxiety and then I don't meet !
Wanted to know if I was being unlucky or this was common that is all!
I'm under no delusions it is was it is! Once dust has settled then I will revert my precise profile back how it was "
I'm sure it is pretty stressful being lied to and not knowing what grief the next meet may incur. The previous posters have given the best advice I think. Make it clear you aren't interested in married/attached men, do what you can to out the cheaters and then your conscience is clear and you can tell any angry partners to direct their anger towards the cheater and not you. I wouldn't meet at your place until you are positive you can trust them and don't give out phone numbers or Facebook details. You could ask their Facebook details to check their relationship status. Some may refuse married or not but the married ones will struggle to advertise themselves as single on there and as long as you keep an eye out for fake/second accounts you stand a good chance of finding what you are looking for.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never been contacted by another woman about her man but if i was i would be clear. "It's YOUR problem not mine. I am not responsible for his behaviour or his actions." If she does not want him to stray then she should put the effort in to fuck him so he does not want sex elsewhere!!
Like the OP, for me sex is physical fun. I love group sex and avoid any 1 to 1 meets because they tend to lead to emotions being involved. Emotions are what causes dangers not cock in pussy.
So if i ever get contacted i can ask "Which one of the men was yours?"  |
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"I have never been contacted by another woman about her man but if i was i would be clear. "It's YOUR problem not mine. I am not responsible for his behaviour or his actions." If she does not want him to stray then she should put the effort in to fuck him so he does not want sex elsewhere!!
Like the OP, for me sex is physical fun. I love group sex and avoid any 1 to 1 meets because they tend to lead to emotions being involved. Emotions are what causes dangers not cock in pussy.
So if i ever get contacted i can ask "Which one of the men was yours?" "
Then you're doing the same as her. Blaming a woman for a man's bad behaviour. |
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By *armers OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I have never been contacted by another woman about her man but if i was i would be clear. "It's YOUR problem not mine. I am not responsible for his behaviour or his actions." If she does not want him to stray then she should put the effort in to fuck him so he does not want sex elsewhere!!
Like the OP, for me sex is physical fun. I love group sex and avoid any 1 to 1 meets because they tend to lead to emotions being involved. Emotions are what causes dangers not cock in pussy.
So if i ever get contacted i can ask "Which one of the men was yours?" "
Thank you xx made me chuckle and I needed it xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they tell you they are single then that's their problem not yours.
If you know they are attached then you should be prepared for their significant other finding out and not being too happy about you shagging their man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can't control what others say or do on here but you can change what you control, the way you interact/ meet for example.
Dont give your phone number out, use KIK.
Make arrangements through the site only.
Don't meet locally, meet further afield at a mutually agreed place.
Only meet those who travel for business, no change of angry GF tracking you down.
A few simple ideas  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP ask them straight out 'Do you have a partner/wife/girlfriend/significant other that I need to know about. If they say no then confirm 'so you have no partner/wife etc'. Reiterate that you do not meet attached people. If you still want to meet screen shot all the convo and save. If you get any come back in future from the girlfriend he's denied existing then show her the proof. Their problem not yours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have never been contacted by another woman about her man but if i was i would be clear. "It's YOUR problem not mine. I am not responsible for his behaviour or his actions." If she does not want him to stray then she should put the effort in to fuck him so he does not want sex elsewhere!!
Like the OP, for me sex is physical fun. I love group sex and avoid any 1 to 1 meets because they tend to lead to emotions being involved. Emotions are what causes dangers not cock in pussy.
So if i ever get contacted i can ask "Which one of the men was yours?"
Then you're doing the same as her. Blaming a woman for a man's bad behaviour."
In my experience most men say they stray because they do not get any sex, or the kind of sex they want, at home.
A woman's right to refuse sex, even in marriage, is accepted without question by western society and usually enthusiastically defended.
If faced with this situation at home the man seeks sex elsewhere he is however unquestionably wrong, no mitigating circumstances, no excuses, he is a fucking depraved lying cheater!!!
Many folk on Fab have histories and these histories reflect their attitudes. That is the nature of humanity. So am i wrong or just hold a different point of _iew?
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By *osieWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't understand why women get mad at other women when their partner cheats.
It's him who cheated, not you!"
Because it is less painful to imagine that it was the other woman who lured her darling into cheating |
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By (user no longer on site)
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This has only ever happened to me once. His partner contacted me via his profile. I made it quite clear I had done nothing wrong as I was single and he had told me he was single. I then told her to read his profile as it stated he could accomadate and clearly stated on it that he was single. After an hour or so she messaged me and couldn't apologise enough to me after she had read all the messages he had sent to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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One of our first planned meets went pear shaped, he didn't turn up then we started getting angry messages from someone purporting to be his other half (he'd said he was single) After a few nasty messages he reappeared and announced it was his mate winding us up. It did shake us up a bit.
Now we state on the profile we don't (knowingly) meet attached men, and will ask to check, especially if there are any red flags that pop up. We don't give out our phone no's or use WhatsApp anymore and basically do what we can to minimise ways of people getting in touch if someone has been lying and gets found out. It's their problem to deal with, not ours. |
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