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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well my mum had an affair which im the result of,she went on to have a further 2 kids with him which obviously are his,i was told at the age of about 9-10 which caused me massive psychological problems growing up and it still affects me today.
He does admit im his but as never helped emotionally or financially....just wondered where i stood as theres been alot of talk about the will recently. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you know what the contents, of the, will are. Think you will need to get a, solicitor to help. "
Yes a house,the business,rolls-royce car,and untold amounts of money. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's an expensive business,no legal aid granted and you need a solicitor.
I know of several people with 100% genuine reasons who contested wills at great expense and got nowhere.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's an expensive business,no legal aid granted and you need a solicitor.
I know of several people with 100% genuine reasons who contested wills at great expense and got nowhere.
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Thats my biggest fear....there's so much more to the story,but dna would have to be done and thats not gonna be an easy task in itself. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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It is messy and complex. There are a few reasons why a will may be set aside and the most likely ground to succeed would be the testator not considering someone whom by rights they should. However, it is very messy and I'd suggest seeking proper advice. Until there is a death and the will is read out, you don't have a case. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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as someone who has been thru this... can i give you some advice...
unless you think they were not of sound mind when the will was written... then don't!!!!
the only people who win in claims like this are lawyers..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"as someone who has been thru this... can i give you some advice...
unless you think they were not of sound mind when the will was written... then don't!!!!
the only people who win in claims like this are lawyers....."
Yeah i can believe that mate |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The beneficiary of a will receives a bequest not an entitlement 
Shouldn't every father do what they can and whats right for their child ?
I'm glad my children don't have a sense of entitlement. "
Its not a sense of entitlement i have,i was just interested and wanted to learn a little more.as i said theres so much more to this story but fabs aint the place,its personal and upsetting,if you knew half of what went on during my mums marriage to him you'd understand.
Its not about money for me,id give everything i had just to get closure. |
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"The beneficiary of a will receives a bequest not an entitlement
Shouldn't every father do what they can and whats right for their child ?"
I think that's probably a separate issue to your original question.
You probably need (for your own sake) to establish that he's definitely your father and take it from there.
From experience I would say if you can accept that its likely you'll get nothing you will feel much more at peace. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The beneficiary of a will receives a bequest not an entitlement
Shouldn't every father do what they can and whats right for their child ?"
A last will and testament is an enforceable documented instruction of the deceased's intention ......how you decide to respect that intention is entirely up to you.....
If you feel strongly I would advice taking legal advice but that will incur costs you can not recover and advice you may not wish to here
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The beneficiary of a will receives a bequest not an entitlement
Shouldn't every father do what they can and whats right for their child ?
I'm glad my children don't have a sense of entitlement. "
Im kinda in argreement with this. By the sounds of it you dont know this man (ie the Christmas card thing) why would he leave you stacks of cash just because he has it? Go make your own!!! Id much rather my parents pissed anything they have left up the wall and had a great time doing it than leave it for me, they brought me up to sort myself out. Why bother with this man? Hes not worth amother thought in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The beneficiary of a will receives a bequest not an entitlement
Shouldn't every father do what they can and whats right for their child ?"
Every parent should, but some aren't good parents.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"as i said theres so much more to this story but fabs aint the place,its personal and upsetting,if you knew half of what went on during my mums marriage to him you'd understand."
And this is exactly why you shouldn't really be seeking such advice on here. Cases live and die on facts, and the type of facts necessary to determine the legal status of a will are not ones that should be shared openly on a swingers site....
If there is a real, identifiable, and convincing legal argument to contest the will, see a lawyer. If this is about personal grievances or just trying to get a piece of a fairly large pie, then I would say to just let it go. It's expensive, it's mentally exhausting, and it's often not worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just for everyone who thinks this is about money its not,ive my own house,my own car,my own family and a very good career,ive achieved all this by standing on my own 2 feet,ive never had anything from anybody in life.
Like i said it was brought up recently,i was mentioned and i just thought 1 or 2 of you lot might have had some experience or advice.
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"Just for everyone who thinks this is about money its not,ive my own house,my own car,my own family and a very good career,ive achieved all this by standing on my own 2 feet,ive never had anything from anybody in life.
Like i said it was brought up recently,i was mentioned and i just thought 1 or 2 of you lot might have had some experience or advice.
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Wills bring up so many issues and have such significance personally to the people connected with the author of them that the effects are almost secondary in lots of cases. This seems in our experience to be particularly true when step parents or step children are involved.
Try to find resolution to the issues that you have if you can so that the will loses its significance for you.
Best wishes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just for everyone who thinks this is about money its not,ive my own house,my own car,my own family and a very good career,ive achieved all this by standing on my own 2 feet,ive never had anything from anybody in life.
Like i said it was brought up recently,i was mentioned and i just thought 1 or 2 of you lot might have had some experience or advice.
Wills bring up so many issues and have such significance personally to the people connected with the author of them that the effects are almost secondary in lots of cases. This seems in our experience to be particularly true when step parents or step children are involved.
Try to find resolution to the issues that you have if you can so that the will loses its significance for you.
Best wishes."
Thank you xxx |
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"In our continuing series, Ask A Pervert, this week we ask perverts about the legal ramifications of challenging a Last Will And Testament.
"Next week on Ask A Pervert, look out for our feature on T'ang dynasty porcelain and how to change a plug using a tea spoon and hacksaw." |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Citizens advice can get you a one off free advice visit to a solicitor
Then it's up to you
Where you want to go "
Good thinking,basically all id like is the truth,its not nice living with this over your head,is he ? Aint he ? Once i get the truth im sure i can put it to rest. |
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""In our continuing series, Ask A Pervert, this week we ask perverts about the legal ramifications of challenging a Last Will And Testament.
"Next week on Ask A Pervert, look out for our feature on T'ang dynasty porcelain and how to change a plug using a tea spoon and hacksaw.""
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"Citizens advice can get you a one off free advice visit to a solicitor
Then it's up to you
Where you want to go
Good thinking,basically all id like is the truth,its not nice living with this over your head,is he ? Aint he ? Once i get the truth im sure i can put it to rest."
It sounds like this isn't about money or anything about the will at all to be honest. If you need recognition from him now as his son, ask for a DNA. Instead of contesting a will when he's not dead yet, try to connect with him and build a relationship? |
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""In our continuing series, Ask A Pervert, this week we ask perverts about the legal ramifications of challenging a Last Will And Testament.
"Next week on Ask A Pervert, look out for our feature on T'ang dynasty porcelain and how to change a plug using a tea spoon and hacksaw.""
Theres always one....if you dont like the topic scroll on through mate !!!
Fucking muppet !! |
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Whose will are you wanting to contest? Bloody awful business painful and expensve.
A family member had to do this back in the late 60's when her husband died and left her nothing.
Dont really see you have any claim on a man who may or may not be your father. Surely a visit to CAB or a solicitor would be advisable |
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