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How do avoid killing your family over Christmas?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So my mum's husband's mum and brother came up today and he always makes more snarky comments towards to me when they're here - three in the past hour, yes I'm keeping a tally - and I do ignore him when he opens his mouth, but is there any methods for not stabbing him to death over the Christmas turkey?!  |
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"So my mum's husband's mum and brother came up today and he always makes more snarky comments towards to me when they're here - three in the past hour, yes I'm keeping a tally - and I do ignore him when he opens his mouth, but is there any methods for not stabbing him to death over the Christmas turkey?! "
Rather than stab him just spill your glass of wine over him and pretend it was an accident.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So my mum's husband's mum and brother came up today and he always makes more snarky comments towards to me when they're here - three in the past hour, yes I'm keeping a tally - and I do ignore him when he opens his mouth, but is there any methods for not stabbing him to death over the Christmas turkey?! "
Laxatives in his gravy? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Oh, you lot make me chuckle 
Oooh, dig#4... family are talking about tea for tomorrow night, I make a suggestion - 'oh she's invited herself for tea again!'
There isn't enough eye roll emojis. Honestly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh, you lot make me chuckle
Oooh, dig#4... family are talking about tea for tomorrow night, I make a suggestion - 'oh she's invited herself for tea again!'
There isn't enough eye roll emojis. Honestly."
Bring your pjs too and say you're staying over.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does your Mum notice or does he wait until she isn't around?"
Actually, when he told me to put my plate on the table to serve myself tea - he is actually that petty - my mum told him to leave me alone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh, you lot make me chuckle
Oooh, dig#4... family are talking about tea for tomorrow night, I make a suggestion - 'oh she's invited herself for tea again!'
There isn't enough eye roll emojis. Honestly.
Bring your pjs too and say you're staying over. "
I'm meant to be staying here for three nights over Christmas |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I used to have Christmas with my family it did tend to get tedious and my sister absolutely loved saying shitty little comments to me. I would just enjoy the parts I wanted to enjoy and then when people got annoying I would sit in the corner and read until dinner. I did get a few snippy comments about how unsociable I was being but it was better for everyone all around and I never had to kill anyone.  
So, enjoy the parts you want to enjoy and just focus on something else when you feel annoyed. |
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"Oh, you lot make me chuckle
Oooh, dig#4... family are talking about tea for tomorrow night, I make a suggestion - 'oh she's invited herself for tea again!'
There isn't enough eye roll emojis. Honestly.
Bring your pjs too and say you're staying over.
I'm meant to be staying here for three nights over Christmas "
Get a boxing glove and hit him in the face on 26th December. If he complains just say it's boxing day.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I used to have Christmas with my family it did tend to get tedious and my sister absolutely loved saying shitty little comments to me. I would just enjoy the parts I wanted to enjoy and then when people got annoying I would sit in the corner and read until dinner. I did get a few snippy comments about how unsociable I was being but it was better for everyone all around and I never had to kill anyone.
So, enjoy the parts you want to enjoy and just focus on something else when you feel annoyed. "
And as we speak, I'm sat in the corner on my phone ignoring everyone |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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I thought from the OP that they were visiting you, but obviously not, otherwise you'd just ask him to leave if he can't behave like a guest...
Soooo, can only suggest a quiet word with your mum in a couple of weeks (when it can't be seen as the heat of the moment) to the effect that you won't be going next year as you don't feel that level of negativity is a useful part of Christmas, but you'd still love to see her, maybe one to one a couple of weeks earlier. Then, and this is the tricky bit, stick to it. Politely decline the invite, reminding your mum that you'd talked about it.
We're all entitled to the same "treat with respect" from our families as from our fab-verifiers, probably more so...and you wouldn't take that shit from a meet!?
I know it's not easy though (believe me I know!) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I thought from the OP that they were visiting you, but obviously not, otherwise you'd just ask him to leave if he can't behave like a guest...
Soooo, can only suggest a quiet word with your mum in a couple of weeks (when it can't be seen as the heat of the moment) to the effect that you won't be going next year as you don't feel that level of negativity is a useful part of Christmas, but you'd still love to see her, maybe one to one a couple of weeks earlier. Then, and this is the tricky bit, stick to it. Politely decline the invite, reminding your mum that you'd talked about it.
We're all entitled to the same "treat with respect" from our families as from our fab-verifiers, probably more so...and you wouldn't take that shit from a meet!?
I know it's not easy though (believe me I know!)"
Wouldn't work. I ended up spending Christmas 2008 & 2009 on my own because of him. I felt worse rather than better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have 3 choices. 1. As in the film ! Die hard, cut his heart out with a spoon.
2. Go armed with information, some people can't take their own medicine. 3. Aaaah Bisto on the bollocks. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just remember that there is a thing called karma and that it's spelt ha ha ha ha... "
Yeah, a few years ago he had a bad illness where he went deaf in one ear and gained bad balance... it should've only lasted a few weeks, he's had it for around four years now.
Can't go into other details about things he's done in the past but it couldn't have happened to a more deserving person. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"So my mum's husband's mum and brother came up today and he always makes more snarky comments towards to me when they're here - three in the past hour, yes I'm keeping a tally - and I do ignore him when he opens his mouth, but is there any methods for not stabbing him to death over the Christmas turkey?! "
He's probably an insecure little man with a tiny Dick who fancies the arse of you....be really nice to him to wind him up. Works for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Every time he makes a sarky or ride comment just reply with
"I'm Sorry?" Like you didn't hear it.
Trust me, eventually it works & you haven't been rude or upset anyone else.
Good luck
xx
S"
Oh yes, I've tried that one and it does work, especially with passive-aggresive types. |
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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago
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Had an uncle like that luckily dont speak to said aunt or uncle no more but one day just turned around and said dont you ever shut up. Should have seen his face. Gets to the point where enough is enough dont let them ruin ur holidays. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had an uncle like that luckily dont speak to said aunt or uncle no more but one day just turned around and said dont you ever shut up. Should have seen his face. Gets to the point where enough is enough dont let them ruin ur holidays."
Best way to deal with it and well done for standing up for yourself... 
Bullies hate being confronted, its your right not to be bullied by anyone let alone a relative... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So my mum's husband's mum and brother came up today and he always makes more snarky comments towards to me when they're here - three in the past hour, yes I'm keeping a tally - and I do ignore him when he opens his mouth, but is there any methods for not stabbing him to death over the Christmas turkey?! "
Fuck his girlfriend? |
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You're a grown woman, you're entitled to enjoy Christmas but you need to own it. Your options are ignore, get too sloshed to care, get good at witty retorts, kill him with kindness (the "I'm sorry?" suggestion is rather good) or ask him what his fucking problem is? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You're a grown woman, you're entitled to enjoy Christmas but you need to own it. Your options are ignore, get too sloshed to care, get good at witty retorts, kill him with kindness (the "I'm sorry?" suggestion is rather good) or ask him what his fucking problem is? "
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I would wait until boxing day, don't want to spoil Christmas for everyone. Then have it out with him. Ask him what his fucking problem is. Tell him his constant snide remarks are downright rude and as a guest he should mind his manners.
If your mum sides with him then give her the ultimatum. Him or you! And stick to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd confront him straight away.
I'd be pissed off if someone came to our house like that. You come to my home you bring your manners and have some respect.
You shouldn't have to put up with that in your own home
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Call him on it. Ask him what his problem is & get it out in the open.
Give as good as you get.
Life is too bloody short to be miserable unnecessarily.
Failing that suck it up - you know what he's like but don't want to be alone.
JG x |
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