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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We like to meet socially first it's lets you get a feeling on how you will click with people. Some people on here when we say we do socials first say it's not for them it's a sexsite not a dating site. what do you all think ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We also prefer a social first as we have had a few " straight in there " type meets and they don't always go well.
Also having a social first builds up the sexual tension,a bit of flirting, a smacker of a good night kiss and you go away smiling eager for a rather more intimate meetup. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally we like to meet socially first but there are plenty of people who prefer not to, find it more of a thrill, prefer a more anonymous approach, want true NSA sex. We all have our own way of doing things, we just respect that and look for people whose approach is like ours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We like to meet socially first it's lets you get a feeling on how you will click with people. Some people on here when we say we do socials first say it's not for them it's a sexsite not a dating site. what do you all think ??"
Our preference is to have a social first, with no expectation of anything other than a chat and a coffee.
But with the understanding that if the chemistry is there we would happily have some fun.
We prefer to chat for a while before setting up a social which can help develop the attraction and chemistry and helps us get to know people first.
It seems to work for us.
Everyone's different though.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both ways can be good
The straight in approach can be a thrill not knowing what you are going to walk into.
The social side is a good way to build tension. Everybody loves a good flirt, for me I love to flirt with the female half of a couple when hubby has given permission. If it ends in a steamy kiss and sexy groping all the better. |
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"Both ways can be good
The straight in approach can be a thrill not knowing what you are going to walk into.
The social side is a good way to build tension. Everybody loves a good flirt, for me I love to flirt with the female half of a couple when hubby has given permission. If it ends in a steamy kiss and sexy groping all the better."
 Isn't it a joint decision between both partners, what if the husband gives "permission" but the wife doesn't want to go ahead. For us it isn't about my partner giving me permission to do anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both ways can be good
The straight in approach can be a thrill not knowing what you are going to walk into.
The social side is a good way to build tension. Everybody loves a good flirt, for me I love to flirt with the female half of a couple when hubby has given permission. If it ends in a steamy kiss and sexy groping all the better.
Isn't it a joint decision between both partners, what if the husband gives "permission" but the wife doesn't want to go ahead. For us it isn't about my partner giving me permission to do anything."
I'm talking about permission to flirt, I see that to be invited into a couples relationship if only for a short period of time is a great honour. All parties need to be involved and willing. I see it too many times when couples cheat on each other, going behind each other's backs "in normal life". |
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By *annooWoman
over a year ago
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I think it is up to you
I don't think this is a date site but I still like to talk to people a long time before a meet
Couples I usually do a social with as people said above one half the couple might be ok But not the other and I wouldn't wouldn't want to cause a problem there
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"Both ways can be good
The straight in approach can be a thrill not knowing what you are going to walk into.
The social side is a good way to build tension. Everybody loves a good flirt, for me I love to flirt with the female half of a couple when hubby has given permission. If it ends in a steamy kiss and sexy groping all the better.
Isn't it a joint decision between both partners, what if the husband gives "permission" but the wife doesn't want to go ahead. For us it isn't about my partner giving me permission to do anything.
I'm talking about permission to flirt, I see that to be invited into a couples relationship if only for a short period of time is a great honour. All parties need to be involved and willing. I see it too many times when couples cheat on each other, going behind each other's backs "in normal life"."
I see. I can't speak for other couples of course but we are in this together and neither of us needs to give the other permission to do anything. It's difficult for single men to avoid treading on toes I imagine though so I can understand why you feel you need permission but in my opinion it implies that the man is in control of what his partner can and can't do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A social to us is just a way to get a vibe about people, especially with 4 people involved.
We've tried the whole jumping in straight away aspect and it's not for us.
Alternatively, we're not into endless socialising, swinging isn't an alternative way for making friends for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Social first, you need to see if you have any sexual chemistry first, and to also have someone who can hold a conversation which is essential on sex-breaks.
I am not averse to playing on the first meet if the attraction is there |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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If I was meeting through here then I'd want a social meet first to see if any perceived chemistry felt through chatting here existed in reality.
However if it was someone met in a club environment then happy to play straight away after chatting in the social areas.
Guess you adapt accordingly dependent on environment and circumstance. |
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Always a social first I wouldn't dream of just jumping someone straight away too many times I've had a good feeling about a meet but when the face to face came it's was a NO but if the social goes well then yeah it's game on. |
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It also gives them a chance to say no; once they've meet me 
PS hanky is organising this one 
