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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've decided this site should be for couples and single females only cause being a single man on here your about as popular as having Ebola yes people put meets up but unless your hung like a donkey and have the body of a God you got no chance lol I've do have a body of a good shame it bubda  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I suggest you look at the threads about improving your profile. That might help.
Good luck "
This completely!! 
It takes time and effort OP, be patient, be respectful and you'll find there's something for everyone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm hung like a hamster and have the body of a pensioner but I do ok. Personality is everything on this site or you don't stand out.....
(PS: Disclaimer For The Ladies - it's a big hamster and the pensioner is a tri-athlete)  |
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"I've decided this site should be for couples and single females only cause being a single man on here your about as popular as having Ebola yes people put meets up but unless your hung like a donkey and have the body of a God you got no chance lol I've do have a body of a good shame it bubda "
Even if you were hung like a donkey you'd still have to treat women with respect, good humour and charm. And even then plenty would say, "Nah, that's coming no-where near me - just look at the SIZE of it!  " Diff'rent stroke for diff'rent folks.
But I like the Ebola metaphor |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have to disagree, there's plenty of love for single guys on here who aren't ripped and/or hung. There's far more to being successful than that. You might have to look further for reasons you aren't getting meets which is what I assume is prompting the rant. |
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I am not hung like a donkey, and the only god I have the body of is Buddha. But I seem to do OK. I even have the added disadvantage that I'm married (though playing with her full knowledge).
I suspect I do OK because I actually have a profile and I get out to events. I engage people on conversation, and decline from ranting about how crap Fab is for men when I'm going through a less successful patch. |
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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago
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"I am not hung like a donkey, and the only god I have the body of is Buddha. But I seem to do OK. I even have the added disadvantage that I'm married (though playing with her full knowledge).
I suspect I do OK because I actually have a profile and I get out to events. I engage people on conversation, and decline from ranting about how crap Fab is for men when I'm going through a less successful patch. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to feel the same way, but I listened to people and started using the forum.
Also be prepared to travel, go to a club, join in the banter and stop worrying what everyone else is up to and why you aren't. If you still feel that way after a few months then give up.. If it's upsetting you, it's not for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's all about effort. Just because women are using this site doesn't mean they will message any man for sex straight away.
It's not different to dating tbh, attraction, connection and trust all have to be there in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of couples and single females do treat single guys like rats. But I avoid them and only put my time in with the ones who treat me with the same respect they get |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of couples and single females do treat single guys like rats. But I avoid them and only put my time in with the ones who treat me with the same respect they get
Like me?  "
Most definitely hanky. Still the same you from day one |
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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago
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"It's all about effort. Just because women are using this site doesn't mean they will message any man for sex straight away.
It's not different to dating tbh, attraction, connection and trust all have to be there in my opinion. "
Yep it's the same as in the outside world I'm finding, I've never have success with woman being single all my life so i can't be surprised when it's the same on here. But yes it dose hurt sometimes! But you can't give up hope! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm hung like a hamster and have the body of a pensioner but I do ok. Personality is everything on this site or you don't stand out.....
(PS: Disclaimer For The Ladies - it's a big hamster and the pensioner is a tri-athlete) "
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For the OP and everyone other single guy who is moaning.
I actually like single men and want to meet them. I'm not interested i the super fit and hung men, i like average or a bit on the larger side when it comes to body shape.
What i don't like is guys who whine about not getting anywhere and who make absolutely no effort on their profile.
Effort in = rewards out
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've decided this site should be for couples and single females only cause being a single man on here your about as popular as having Ebola yes people put meets up but unless your hung like a donkey and have the body of a God you got no chance lol I've do have a body of a good shame it bubda "
I did OK on my single male profile, and I don't have the body of a god.
I relied on humour and respect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've decided this site should be for couples and single females only cause being a single man on here your about as popular as having Ebola yes people put meets up but unless your hung like a donkey and have the body of a God you got no chance lol I've do have a body of a good shame it bubda "
Negative profile what there is of it.
No decent pics. Sell yourself dnt put negativity in it. No one wants to meet a guy who as a downer before he starts
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've decided this site should be for couples and single females only cause being a single man on here your about as popular as having Ebola yes people put meets up but unless your hung like a donkey and have the body of a God you got no chance lol I've do have a body of a good shame it bubda "
Easy fella the usual suspects will discredit u & label u "entitled" which in this case is out of context & unwarranted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm 45, a bit bald, a bit grey, a bit chubby, a bit wrinkly.
When I had a single man profile I got loads of meets, I met the young lady I'm with now on here, I don't know why single men moan about fab, I think it's a brilliant site I've met some great people and had some fantastic experiences.
Ok I am hung like a horse but that's not always a good thing trust me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've decided this site should be for couples and single females only cause being a single man on here your about as popular as having Ebola yes people put meets up but unless your hung like a donkey and have the body of a God you got no chance lol I've do have a body of a good shame it bubda "
It's not easy for anyone unless you lower your standards buddy which I definitely wouldn't advise.
You could change your profile but that rarely works. Chatting on the forums and getting to know people is probably your best bet but nothings guaranteed.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of women don't really like the "woe is me, i can't get a meet" type.
You need to be confident, self assured and stick at it.
There are a lot of men on here, why would a woman want the man who is a moaner?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ask yourself OP.
Are you presenting yourself to the very best you can be via your profile?
Would you meet yourself if you received a message from you?
Only you can improve your chances, ranting here will do nothing but have people bookmark you as a whinger. |
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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago
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"A lot of women don't really like the "woe is me, i can't get a meet" type.
You need to be confident, self assured and stick at it.
There are a lot of men on here, why would a woman want the man who is a moaner?
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It seems like you need to give poeple a brake. A Profile is such a poor way to judge people.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of women don't really like the "woe is me, i can't get a meet" type.
You need to be confident, self assured and stick at it.
There are a lot of men on here, why would a woman want the man who is a moaner?
It seems like you need to give poeple a brake. A Profile is such a poor way to judge people. "
Why?
The profile is your public face on fab so why shouldn't they choose whether to get to know someone based on that first impression. It's the way someone can decide if they're going to be compatible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of women don't really like the "woe is me, i can't get a meet" type.
You need to be confident, self assured and stick at it.
There are a lot of men on here, why would a woman want the man who is a moaner?
It seems like you need to give poeple a brake. A Profile is such a poor way to judge people. "
...but on fab it's pretty much all anyone has to go on |
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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago
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"A lot of women don't really like the "woe is me, i can't get a meet" type.
You need to be confident, self assured and stick at it.
There are a lot of men on here, why would a woman want the man who is a moaner?
It seems like you need to give poeple a brake. A Profile is such a poor way to judge people.
Why?
The profile is your public face on fab so why shouldn't they choose whether to get to know someone based on that first impression. It's the way someone can decide if they're going to be compatible. "
Just because poeple can say any old BS and there not really what thay make out to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of women don't really like the "woe is me, i can't get a meet" type.
You need to be confident, self assured and stick at it.
There are a lot of men on here, why would a woman want the man who is a moaner?
It seems like you need to give poeple a brake. A Profile is such a poor way to judge people.
Why?
The profile is your public face on fab so why shouldn't they choose whether to get to know someone based on that first impression. It's the way someone can decide if they're going to be compatible.
Just because poeple can say any old BS and there not really what thay make out to be. "
Those type of people are usually found out pretty quickly though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of women don't really like the "woe is me, i can't get a meet" type.
You need to be confident, self assured and stick at it.
There are a lot of men on here, why would a woman want the man who is a moaner?
It seems like you need to give poeple a brake. A Profile is such a poor way to judge people. "
I don't need to give anyone a break, just stating my view as others have |
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"I'm hung like a hamster and have the body of a pensioner but I do ok. Personality is everything on this site or you don't stand out.....
(PS: Disclaimer For The Ladies - it's a big hamster and the pensioner is a tri-athlete) "
That made me laugh. And hi |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP you are a small fish in a very large pond. Patience and being friendly are important tools here.
I am not ripped, not hung like a horse and as average as you can get but several of the women here have expressed an interest that still baffles me.
I've tried to think about why and it's probably down to amusing photos, taking part and being respectful.
It isn't Instashag so it will take time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even worse when you are a like me pal.
I have come to expect no play and respect the reason.
Just keep being respectful and courteous and maybe someone will take a chance on you.
Merry Christmas |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
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It seems like you need to give people a brake. A Profile is such a poor way to judge people. "
How else would you suggest making that first judgement as to who you choose to get to know better with a view to potentially being intimate with them then?
Lottery draw perhaps?
Or maybe closing your eyes and sticking pins in a list of names?
I personally will always take the preference of someone that's put time and effort into their profile over someone who's only been bothered to write a line or two. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's all about effort. Just because women are using this site doesn't mean they will message any man for sex straight away.
It's not different to dating tbh, attraction, connection and trust all have to be there in my opinion. "
Totally agree !! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm hung like a hamster and have the body of a pensioner but I do ok. Personality is everything on this site or you don't stand out.....
(PS: Disclaimer For The Ladies - it's a big hamster and the pensioner is a tri-athlete) "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm hung like a hamster and have the body of a pensioner but I do ok. Personality is everything on this site or you don't stand out.....
(PS: Disclaimer For The Ladies - it's a big hamster and the pensioner is a tri-athlete) "
Great profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've decided this site should be for couples and single females only cause being a single man on here your about as popular as having Ebola yes people put meets up but unless your hung like a donkey and have the body of a God you got no chance lol I've do have a body of a good shame it bubda "
Well, we're a couple and we're looking for single men.
Unfortunately, notwithstanding the distance, theres precious little about your profile that would make us want to chat to you.
It tells us nothing about you, what you're really looking for or what you can offer.
Show us a bit of your personality. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
Well I've seen it all. A single man saying the site should be for couples and females only? it's usually the couples and females saying that!
OP, if there weren't any single men here, I wouldn't be here. Take heart - there are some women out there who meet single men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of women don't really like the "woe is me, i can't get a meet" type.
You need to be confident, self assured and stick at it.
There are a lot of men on here, why would a woman want the man who is a moaner?
It seems like you need to give poeple a brake. A Profile is such a poor way to judge people. "
Giving people a break....
If you ask men what they find sexy about a woman many of them would say confidence is sexy. Why should that be any different for women .....ultimately we are all here to meet our own sexual need/desire not to provide sympathy sex!
Negativity begets negativity
A profile is a poor way to judge people:
If I am shopping for clothes, shoes, bags, furniture, food etc I am drawn to what I know I like .... we all make initial judgements based on how something is promoted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We meet single guys, you wouldn't be for me (female). I like fun sexy guys. I also suspect you may be married as well "
That seems like quite a leap of judgment. What makes you say that? Forgive any naivety, we're new to Fab and the forums.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm hung like a hamster and have the body of a pensioner but I do ok. Personality is everything on this site or you don't stand out.....
(PS: Disclaimer For The Ladies - it's a big hamster and the pensioner is a tri-athlete) "
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"We meet single guys, you wouldn't be for me (female). I like fun sexy guys. I also suspect you may be married as well
That seems like quite a leap of judgment. What makes you say that? Forgive any naivety, we're new to Fab and the forums.
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Because most of the guys who message us that cannot accomodate eventually say they are married. To be sexy is a slim guy - my preference |
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OP, it's not that Fab is only for couples...or that you're not hung like a shire horse...
While it is more difficult for guys due to statistics, you still only get out of Fab what you put into it. In that sens only, Fab is like a sewer.
The more effort you put into your profile, photos, getting to know people on the forums, writing appropriate messages to ladies, getting out to clubs and socials....the more you will get out of Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All about attitude, have the right attitude and the rest will just follow.
I'm sure complaining on the forum that women won't meet you isn't really attractive and isn't doing you any favors either.
I don't find it's any easier to meet women I like on here than in the real world and if you think about it why should it be.
I'm not ripped or hung like a donkey but through perseverance mainly I manage to have a good time so it is possible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We meet single guys, you wouldn't be for me (female). I like fun sexy guys. I also suspect you may be married as well
That seems like quite a leap of judgment. What makes you say that? Forgive any naivety, we're new to Fab and the forums.
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Because most of the guys who message us that cannot accomodate eventually say they are married. To be sexy is a slim guy - my preference "
Ah well, that explains it.
We'll make we steer clear of all single males who can't accommodate then.
We didn't realise that was a hard and fast rule.....
Thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not all about big cocks and gym fit bodies. Attitude is a major factor too and having a profile that says something positive about you.
Stop moaning and put the work in fella! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We meet single guys, you wouldn't be for me (female). I like fun sexy guys. I also suspect you may be married as well
That seems like quite a leap of judgment. What makes you say that? Forgive any naivety, we're new to Fab and the forums.
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Because most of the guys who message us that cannot accomodate eventually say they are married. To be sexy is a slim guy - my preference
Ah well, that explains it.
We'll make we steer clear of all single males who can't accommodate then.
We didn't realise that was a hard and fast rule.....
Thanks. "
That isn't a hard and fast rule, it's just their rule.
I don't accomodate and I'm totally single, unless you count the dog (he is a commitment after all). I doubt very much that I'm the only non accomodating single male, or that I'm in the minority of non accomodating single males.
I think too many people on here make across the board judgments and then wonder why they can't find any genuine playmates!?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've decided this site should be for couples and single females only cause being a single man on here your about as popular as having Ebola yes people put meets up but unless your hung like a donkey and have the body of a God you got no chance lol I've do have a body of a good shame it bubda "
It's something you need to decide is fab for you as you can sometimes get a wham bam meet but if you want more then you need to have patience because the right person is out there on fab you just haven't met yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ranting is never nice
I see guys over and over again complaining they aren't getting meets
Well put some effort into your profile and pictures
Have patience
Charm and honesty goes a long way
Fabville is a place where people are looking for something else
Takes time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Backtracking quicker than a politician
yes very true but look at all the free advice I got lol "
All of which is wasted if you choose to do nothing with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Backtracking quicker than a politician
yes very true but look at all the free advice I got lol
All of which is wasted if you choose to do nothing with it. "
Manners aren't your thing either are they ??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Backtracking quicker than a politician
yes very true but look at all the free advice I got lol
All of which is wasted if you choose to do nothing with it.
Manners aren't your thing either are they ?? "
Mine? How so? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Backtracking quicker than a politician
yes very true but look at all the free advice I got lol
All of which is wasted if you choose to do nothing with it.
Manners aren't your thing either are they ??
Mine? How so? "
Sorry ... meant the OP ... not you ... you are very nice ... |
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The thing about guys who cannot accommodate...is that a lot of women have found out by experience that this often means there is a wife or girlfriend at home.
There are other possible reasons, such as living with a housemate, living with parents, or simply preferring to preserve privacy.
But going on the experiences my wife and female Fab friends have had....the most common reason is that there is an unsuspecting lady waiting for them.
So I am not surprised when women are cautious about guys who cannot accommodate...especially when an explanation is not forthcoming.
OP...some more helpful advice...ranting is not nice, neither is boasting. Having said that, enjoy your meet and one hopes she enjoys it too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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ouch you get a right kicking on here don't you. Thank you to everyone who gave the Advice it has help and I do apologise if it sounded like I was gloting I didn't mean to as for why I am not able to accommodate it's because I live in a one bedroom shitty flat that I don't want to be in so inviting a lady back wouldn't be ideal |
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Yes OP I like single guys too but _loppsy's advice is right, as is absinthes 