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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..
The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable 
Anyone who asks " how's the new job"
I'm saying " yeah its ok "
IT SUCKS !!
Feel better for saying it  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
It took me a year to get truly comfortable in my current job. I love it now.
Give it a chance. organise something for the team. I did a bake Off for Sports Relief, and organised the Christmas Meal. Maybe bake some cupcakes to take in. |
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"I'm probably just unsettled as Im used to working with a smaller dynamic of people ....
I hope I will fit in soon :-/"
You will.
People can be really cliquey I wish they'd remember what being new was like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm really sorry to hear that
I started a new job three months ago and I love it, but it took a few weeks to acclimatise.
Give it time and maybe set a deadline. If you still hate it in x amount of weeks/months then look for something else.
Always remember you have options. I hope it works out. Good luck  |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
I've been employed in jobs I disliked, I guess I was always lucky that the other folk I worked with made the job tolerable, I used the employr as a paid employment service continued working for them while seeking alternate employment...
Hope things sort themselves out op ..if not paid employment service. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..
The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable
Anyone who asks " how's the new job"
I'm saying " yeah its ok "
IT SUCKS !!
Feel better for saying it "
Aw bless you doll! It'll get better. I hate being the new girl top. Big hugs!
Eve. X |
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"Chances are there will be one or two 'ringleaders' that everyone follows but secretly hates.
Once you research the true dynamic of the office you can see who would be worth making friends with "
This is so true.
Try to relax and smile (though inwardly this may be difficult), project nice thoughts towards them all, then gradually you will find them gravitating towards you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..
The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable
Anyone who asks " how's the new job"
I'm saying " yeah its ok "
IT SUCKS !!
Feel better for saying it "
Exactly what's happening to me too! |
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"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..
The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable
Anyone who asks " how's the new job"
I'm saying " yeah its ok "
IT SUCKS !!
Feel better for saying it "
Stick at it be strong  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..
The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable
Anyone who asks " how's the new job"
I'm saying " yeah its ok "
You are the newbie, give it a chance, you left your old job for a reason
IT SUCKS !!
Feel better for saying it "
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By *huckzMan
over a year ago
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"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..
The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable
Anyone who asks " how's the new job"
I'm saying " yeah its ok "
Then find another job or quit jeez
IT SUCKS !!
Feel better for saying it "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..
The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable
Anyone who asks " how's the new job"
I'm saying " yeah its ok "
IT SUCKS !!
Feel better for saying it "
Know how you feel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Give it a bit longer. It's really hard when you move to a new team who have their own dynamic and their own politics. It can take a while to break into that. Hope you feel a bit better about it soon. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
It is a clique at first. They know each other and what they'll tolerate from each other. In your old organisation of 8 years, everyone new coming in felt you were part of a clique. The next person that comes in will see you as part of that same clique.
Remember why you wanted the job. You didn't apply to somewhere to make new friends. Work on getting to grips with that and decide whether it is really a role you want. If it is then make life easier by getting to know your colleagues.
Instant work friendships rarely work. Take the time to understand who your allies are and who you need to be watch.
It's always hard starting a new job so don't beat yourself up about something that doesn't pay your salary.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..
The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable
Anyone who asks " how's the new job"
I'm saying " yeah its ok "
IT SUCKS !!
Feel better for saying it
Know how you feel. "
I'm desperately looking for a new job - costing me £45-£50 a week to travel to work every week and also on the road and hour and fifteen minutes every day. My big worry is how will I cope in a new environment. Keep telling yourself to stay strong - relationships develop in time x Have hope and just be yourself xx
Let us know how you get on x
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I just started a new job a few weeks, left an employer I worked for 8yrs and now I'm the newbie. ..
The team I am now working with are so cliquey and I feel like an outsider and it's really uncomfortable
Anyone who asks " how's the new job"
I'm saying " yeah its ok "
IT SUCKS !!
Feel better for saying it
Know how you feel.
I'm desperately looking for a new job - costing me £45-£50 a week to travel to work every week and also on the road and hour and fifteen minutes every day. My big worry is how will I cope in a new environment. Keep telling yourself to stay strong - relationships develop in time x Have hope and just be yourself xx
Let us know how you get on x
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Ouch, that's a lot. |
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