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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Help needed
I was divorced 4 years ago and until recently just going through the motions and having sex with random women but I had a regular fuck buddy who I would see a couple of times a week.
About 8 months ago I met a stunning looking woman. The kind of woman that turns heads every where she goes. The problem is although we have sex 3 times a week it is very regimented a bit of oral 2-3 positions and it's over in the shower washed and forgot about. I have tried to get her to try different things but she won't have it and there is no chance of getting any one to join us.
Where my fuck buddy is wild in bed and anything goes. I haven't met her since I started seeing my new partner.
So my dilemma is do I move in with what I best describe as trophy wife and be bored with our sexlife or do I give her up for wild sex that could stop at anytime.
What would you do?
And no I would not fuck one and stay with the other |
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"Help needed
I was divorced 4 years ago and until recently just going through the motions and having sex with random women but I had a regular fuck buddy who I would see a couple of times a week.
About 8 months ago I met a ......stunning looking woman. The kind of woman that turns heads every where she goes. The problem is although we have sex 3 times a week it is very regimented a bit of oral 2-3 positions and it's over in the shower washed and forgot about. I have tried to get her to try different things but she won't have it and there is no chance of getting any one to join us.
Where my fuck buddy is wild in bed and anything goes. I haven't met her since I started seeing my new partner.
So my dilemma is do I move in with what I best describe as trophy wife and be bored with our sexlife or do I give her up for wild sex that could stop at anytime.
What would you do?
And no I would not fuck one and stay with the other "
...... Do whatever is going to make you happy then you have no one else to blame if it doesn't work out.... good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you absolutely love her then repetitive dull sex may be enough, but it doesn't sound promising from your description.
Only you know the answer to your question, how has the last 8 months been? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Help needed
I was divorced 4 years ago and until recently just going through the motions and having sex with random women but I had a regular fuck buddy who I would see a couple of times a week.
About 8 months ago I met a stunning looking woman. The kind of woman that turns heads every where she goes. The problem is although we have sex 3 times a week it is very regimented a bit of oral 2-3 positions and it's over in the shower washed and forgot about. I have tried to get her to try different things but she won't have it and there is no chance of getting any one to join us.
Where my fuck buddy is wild in bed and anything goes. I haven't met her since I started seeing my new partner.
So my dilemma is do I move in with what I best describe as trophy wife and be bored with our sexlife or do I give her up for wild sex that could stop at anytime.
What would you do?
And no I would not fuck one and stay with the other "
Good on you for that last sentence makes a refreshing change on here good luck with whatever you decide OP although I personally think maybe your new partner is not for you. Mrs |
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"Help needed
I was divorced 4 years ago and until recently just going through the motions and having sex with random women but I had a regular fuck buddy who I would see a couple of times a week.
About 8 months ago I met a stunning looking woman. The kind of woman that turns heads every where she goes. The problem is although we have sex 3 times a week it is very regimented a bit of oral 2-3 positions and it's over in the shower washed and forgot about. I have tried to get her to try different things but she won't have it and there is no chance of getting any one to join us.
Where my fuck buddy is wild in bed and anything goes. I haven't met her since I started seeing my new partner.
So my dilemma is do I move in with what I best describe as trophy wife and be bored with our sexlife or do I give her up for wild sex that could stop at anytime.
What would you do?
And no I would not fuck one and stay with the other "
What will make you happiest? If how you appear to others is important (I'm not knocking it we're all concerned about that on some level) then stick with the sexually unadventurous beauty. If a satisfying sex life is more important than that look elsewhere.
The problem is both sex and beauty can fade over time and you don't have a way of knowing if they will. I suggest you stick with the one you have the best connection with on an emotional level because that will last longer than either.
Good luck to all involved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like you are getting off on the fact she is a looker ,you don't love her but love the fact she turns heads wrong reason to live together in my _iew |
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A trophy partner??  Forget it!
Try going back to your old fwb and try and explain how you met this gorgeous looking woman (hence no contact with fwb), explain how if the sex had been better you would have stayed with trophy but.....
What could possibly go wrong |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you absolutely love her then repetitive dull sex may be enough, but it doesn't sound promising from your description.
Only you know the answer to your question, how has the last 8 months been? "
The last 8 months have been great apart from being bored in the bedroom |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A trophy wife....
Do people really think like that....  "
a gold plated inanimate wife on a plinth? seems lees hastle than a normal one..i can see the appeal..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Help needed
I was divorced 4 years ago and until recently just going through the motions and having sex with random women but I had a regular fuck buddy who I would see a couple of times a week.
About 8 months ago I met a stunning looking woman. The kind of woman that turns heads every where she goes. The problem is although we have sex 3 times a week it is very regimented a bit of oral 2-3 positions and it's over in the shower washed and forgot about. I have tried to get her to try different things but she won't have it and there is no chance of getting any one to join us.
Where my fuck buddy is wild in bed and anything goes. I haven't met her since I started seeing my new partner.
So my dilemma is do I move in with what I best describe as trophy wife and be bored with our sexlife or do I give her up for wild sex that could stop at anytime.
What would you do?
And no I would not fuck one and stay with the other
Good on you for that last sentence makes a refreshing change on here good luck with whatever you decide OP although I personally think maybe your new partner is not for you. Mrs"
Thanks for your comment if she was into this sort of lifestyle then great but she isn't and I respect her for that and I don't see the point in going behind her back |
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By (user no longer on site)
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How is this a dilemma, exactly? You mention absolutely nothing about the "trophy" woman apart from her looks. Regardless of the sex aspect, that's no basis for a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Also, not fair on her. Let her go and be with someone who'll appreciate her and not see her as a "trophy"..."
Trophy was the wrong choice of word to describe her stunner would have been a better choice of word |
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Sex typically dwindles with age. There will eventually come a point where the person is more important than the sex. I'd rather have crap sex and stay with the girl I love (assuming you do?!) A lot on here I suspect are just after thrills, which is fine, but guessing you're looking to make the right long term decision. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sex typically dwindles with age. There will eventually come a point where the person is more important than the sex. I'd rather have crap sex and stay with the girl I love (assuming you do?!) A lot on here I suspect are just after thrills, which is fine, but guessing you're looking to make the right long term decision."
That's exactly what I am trying to do I want to make the right long term decision x |
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"Sex typically dwindles with age. There will eventually come a point where the person is more important than the sex. I'd rather have crap sex and stay with the girl I love (assuming you do?!) A lot on here I suspect are just after thrills, which is fine, but guessing you're looking to make the right long term decision.
That's exactly what I am trying to do I want to make the right long term decision x"
You don't even know her enough yet. |
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Having re read your opening post my thoughts are these............
Your fuck buddy was just that - a fuck buddy and no more. Now you seem to think you have to make a choice... a good looking woman or your fuck buddy.
Apparently you haven't seen your fuck buddy since you took up with this woman ( I may be wrong ) Yet you have a 'meet today' posted and hope to 'click' with someone.
It's all very complicated  Stay home, drink hot chocolate and wank xxx But don't wank the same way twice  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
Why is everyone so desperate to have a relationship? It doesn't sound like you're having fun, so put yourself in a position where you are having fun, even if that means you're single. Its not as frowned upon as it used to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Help needed
I was divorced 4 years ago and until recently just going through the motions and having sex with random women but I had a regular fuck buddy who I would see a couple of times a week.
About 8 months ago I met a stunning looking woman. The kind of woman that turns heads every where she goes. The problem is although we have sex 3 times a week it is very regimented a bit of oral 2-3 positions and it's over in the shower washed and forgot about. I have tried to get her to try different things but she won't have it and there is no chance of getting any one to join us.
Where my fuck buddy is wild in bed and anything goes. I haven't met her since I started seeing my new partner.
So my dilemma is do I move in with what I best describe as trophy wife and be bored with our sexlife or do I give her up for wild sex that could stop at anytime.
What would you do?
And no I would not fuck one and stay with the other "
Trophy wife  What a charmer. |
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"Having re read your opening post my thoughts are these............
Your fuck buddy was just that - a fuck buddy and no more. Now you seem to think you have to make a choice... a good looking woman or your fuck buddy.
Apparently you haven't seen your fuck buddy since you took up with this woman ( I may be wrong ) Yet you have a 'meet today' posted and hope to 'click' with someone.
It's all very complicated Stay home, drink hot chocolate and wank xxx But don't wank the same way twice "
And do not wank with hot chocolate and cock in the same hand |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Surely it would occur to any person in dilemma where a scenario of this nature occurs the ultimate decision is not their sole prerogative,,,, unless perhaps the person is prone to believing their preference mistakenly holds primacy over that of the other parties involved ..
But I could just be wrong..... I have been wrong before... well when I say wrong, what happened was I thought I'd made a mistake and then realised I hadn't ..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Help needed
I was divorced 4 years ago and until recently just going through the motions and having sex with random women but I had a regular fuck buddy who I would see a couple of times a week.
About 8 months ago I met a stunning looking woman. The kind of woman that turns heads every where she goes. The problem is although we have sex 3 times a week it is very regimented a bit of oral 2-3 positions and it's over in the shower washed and forgot about. I have tried to get her to try different things but she won't have it and there is no chance of getting any one to join us.
Where my fuck buddy is wild in bed and anything goes. I haven't met her since I started seeing my new partner.
So my dilemma is do I move in with what I best describe as trophy wife and be bored with our sexlife or do I give her up for wild sex that could stop at anytime.
What would you do?
And no I would not fuck one and stay with the other
Good on you for that last sentence makes a refreshing change on here good luck with whatever you decide OP although I personally think maybe your new partner is not for you. Mrs
Thanks for your comment if she was into this sort of lifestyle then great but she isn't and I respect her for that and I don't see the point in going behind her back "
erm? Yet here you are on a swingers site hoping to meet others??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you absolutely love her then repetitive dull sex may be enough, but it doesn't sound promising from your description.
Only you know the answer to your question, how has the last 8 months been?
The last 8 months have been great apart from being bored in the bedroom "
You might think it's ok that sex is mediocre and is balanced out by how stunning/fun/lovely she is but think about it 15 yrs in. Can you honestly give that side of you up?
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