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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Having read through a few threads I have noticed the term "Entitled" is being used quite a lot & the vast majority of the time in reference to men, often the word is used as a weapon to insult or belittle a question even twist the persons apparent intention at times, I have also noticed the word is usually used out of correct context given the proper meaning of the word as per the Oxford English dictionary is as follows :-
Believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment:
‘kids who feel so entitled and think the world will revolve around them’
‘his pompous, entitled attitude’
I am sure as I have seen on so many other threads where the term is used the trolls & attacks will potentially ensue but I wanted to see what others opinions on this were, let's see can we have a reasonable insult free adult discussion about it ![](/icons/thumb_up.png) |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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There is a sense from some people who post on the forums that they believe they should get replies, or fabs, or meets, and get cross when they don't.
I have always said no-one is entitled to anything on here, and there are people who think they are., Those are the people who post on here moaning and ranting and, subsequently, shooting themselves in the foot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lot of people fail to see that even "entitled" or "priveledged" people have most of the same problems and challenges they do in life.
A bit of money or a good upbringing doesn't magically transform your life into an easy ride. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A lot of people fail to see that even "entitled" or "priveledged" people have most of the same problems and challenges they do in life.
A bit of money or a good upbringing doesn't magically transform your life into an easy ride."
very good point, we are all human after all ![](/icons/thumb_up.png) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is a sense from some people who post on the forums that they believe they should get replies, or fabs, or meets, and get cross when they don't.
I have always said no-one is entitled to anything on here, and there are people who think they are., Those are the people who post on here moaning and ranting and, subsequently, shooting themselves in the foot."
I can see what your saying there but to feel entitled to something is not the same as being entitled the definitions are different, also there is surely no harm in asking is there a profile reason they may not be getting replies? Asking isn't demanding nor saying they want special privileges |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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At times iv seen people reaching out to the community for help or advice clearly feeling unsure, possibly a but insecure due to being ignored repeatedly, as a community wouldn't it be better instead of wading in with accusations or cold dismissal to be supportive, sadly the forums are radiating a very selfish uncaring & dismissive ambiance but I am certain this can not really be the way the community wants to be perceived |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"There is a sense from some people who post on the forums that they believe they should get replies, or fabs, or meets, and get cross when they don't.
I have always said no-one is entitled to anything on here, and there are people who think they are., Those are the people who post on here moaning and ranting and, subsequently, shooting themselves in the foot.
I can see what your saying there but to feel entitled to something is not the same as being entitled the definitions are different, also there is surely no harm in asking is there a profile reason they may not be getting replies? Asking isn't demanding nor saying they want special privileges"
I'm talking about the people who demand. I am fine with the people who ask, who understand what they're being told, and who honestly learn. But if you hang around here long enough you'll see the bad side of entitlement too, like the post I once saw from a single guy wanting women not to be able to filter messages from single men because he believed that he should be able to message anyone he wanted to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, there are people who have an entitled attitude on here.
But I dislike how it's thrown around on the forums as a quick and easy insult by people with a bullying attitude.
Similar to not having a sense of humour, or having low self esteem, seems to be a stock insult. |
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By *ax777Man
over a year ago
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"Having read through a few threads I have noticed the term "Entitled" is being used quite a lot & the vast majority of the time in reference to men, often the word is used as a weapon to insult or belittle a question even twist the persons apparent intention at times, I have also noticed the word is usually used out of correct context given the proper meaning of the word as per the Oxford English dictionary is as follows :-
Believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment:
‘kids who feel so entitled and think the world will revolve around them’
‘his pompous, entitled attitude’
I am sure as I have seen on so many other threads where the term is used the trolls & attacks will potentially ensue but I wanted to see what others opinions on this were, let's see can we have a reasonable insult free adult discussion about it "
The same dictionary also gives the following definition. "Give (someone) a legal right or a just claim to receive or do something" This is probably the context in which the posters you refer to believe they have an entitlement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is a sense from some people who post on the forums that they believe they should get replies, or fabs, or meets, and get cross when they don't.
I have always said no-one is entitled to anything on here, and there are people who think they are., Those are the people who post on here moaning and ranting and, subsequently, shooting themselves in the foot.
I can see what your saying there but to feel entitled to something is not the same as being entitled the definitions are different, also there is surely no harm in asking is there a profile reason they may not be getting replies? Asking isn't demanding nor saying they want special privileges"
Agreed, also most of the threads are not 'moaning' or whingeing they are just asking a question ![](/icons/s/cool.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes, there are people who have an entitled attitude on here.
But I dislike how it's thrown around on the forums as a quick and easy insult by people with a bullying attitude.
Similar to not having a sense of humour, or having low self esteem, seems to be a stock insult. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Having read through a few threads I have noticed the term "Entitled" is being used quite a lot & the vast majority of the time in reference to men, often the word is used as a weapon to insult or belittle a question even twist the persons apparent intention at times, I have also noticed the word is usually used out of correct context given the proper meaning of the word as per the Oxford English dictionary is as follows :-
Believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment:
‘kids who feel so entitled and think the world will revolve around them’
‘his pompous, entitled attitude’
I am sure as I have seen on so many other threads where the term is used the trolls & attacks will potentially ensue but I wanted to see what others opinions on this were, let's see can we have a reasonable insult free adult discussion about it
The same dictionary also gives the following definition. "Give (someone) a legal right or a just claim to receive or do something" This is probably the context in which the posters you refer to believe they have an entitlement."
Absolutely which is why earlier I pointed out the two are different, our language is interesting with its nuances, being entitled to something & being or feeling an entitled person are two very different things, therein lies the issue of misuse of the word |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is a sense from some people who post on the forums that they believe they should get replies, or fabs, or meets, and get cross when they don't.
I have always said no-one is entitled to anything on here, and there are people who think they are., Those are the people who post on here moaning and ranting and, subsequently, shooting themselves in the foot.
I can see what your saying there but to feel entitled to something is not the same as being entitled the definitions are different, also there is surely no harm in asking is there a profile reason they may not be getting replies? Asking isn't demanding nor saying they want special privileges
Agreed, also most of the threads are not 'moaning' or whingeing they are just asking a question "
Also usually newbies too, who are probably already apprehensive |
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By *ax777Man
over a year ago
Not here |
"Having read through a few threads I have noticed the term "Entitled" is being used quite a lot & the vast majority of the time in reference to men, often the word is used as a weapon to insult or belittle a question even twist the persons apparent intention at times, I have also noticed the word is usually used out of correct context given the proper meaning of the word as per the Oxford English dictionary is as follows :-
Believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment:
‘kids who feel so entitled and think the world will revolve around them’
‘his pompous, entitled attitude’
I am sure as I have seen on so many other threads where the term is used the trolls & attacks will potentially ensue but I wanted to see what others opinions on this were, let's see can we have a reasonable insult free adult discussion about it
The same dictionary also gives the following definition. "Give (someone) a legal right or a just claim to receive or do something" This is probably the context in which the posters you refer to believe they have an entitlement.
Absolutely which is why earlier I pointed out the two are different, our language is interesting with its nuances, being entitled to something & being or feeling an entitled person are two very different things, therein lies the issue of misuse of the word"
How are the two different? Surely if you are entitled to something, you have the right to feel entitled? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is a sense from some people who post on the forums that they believe they should get replies, or fabs, or meets, and get cross when they don't.
I have always said no-one is entitled to anything on here, and there are people who think they are., Those are the people who post on here moaning and ranting and, subsequently, shooting themselves in the foot.
I can see what your saying there but to feel entitled to something is not the same as being entitled the definitions are different, also there is surely no harm in asking is there a profile reason they may not be getting replies? Asking isn't demanding nor saying they want special privileges
Agreed, also most of the threads are not 'moaning' or whingeing they are just asking a question
Also usually newbies too, who are probably already apprehensive"
True , you get the same boring people posting the same boring replies who have neither the imagination or the balls to start their own thread ![](/icons/s/eek.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm talking about the people who demand. I am fine with the people who ask, who understand what they're being told, and who honestly learn. But if you hang around here long enough you'll see the bad side of entitlement too, like the post I once saw from a single guy wanting women not to be able to filter messages from single men because he believed that he should be able to message anyone he wanted to."
I never saw that post but I can readily believe it. We've temporarily filtered out guys as we want to do the searching ourselves but I've noticed some smarmy comments on the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Having read through a few threads I have noticed the term "Entitled" is being used quite a lot & the vast majority of the time in reference to men, often the word is used as a weapon to insult or belittle a question even twist the persons apparent intention at times, I have also noticed the word is usually used out of correct context given the proper meaning of the word as per the Oxford English dictionary is as follows :-
Believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment:
‘kids who feel so entitled and think the world will revolve around them’
‘his pompous, entitled attitude’
I am sure as I have seen on so many other threads where the term is used the trolls & attacks will potentially ensue but I wanted to see what others opinions on this were, let's see can we have a reasonable insult free adult discussion about it
The same dictionary also gives the following definition. "Give (someone) a legal right or a just claim to receive or do something" This is probably the context in which the posters you refer to believe they have an entitlement.
Absolutely which is why earlier I pointed out the two are different, our language is interesting with its nuances, being entitled to something & being or feeling an entitled person are two very different things, therein lies the issue of misuse of the word
How are the two different? Surely if you are entitled to something, you have the right to feel entitled?"
They are different due to their definitions, One is to actually be entitled or think for some reason they are entitled to something but not because of wanting special privilege in specific, the other is to feel entitled to special privilege i.e treatment others are not given in specific |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"There is a sense from some people who post on the forums that they believe they should get replies, or fabs, or meets, and get cross when they don't.
I have always said no-one is entitled to anything on here, and there are people who think they are., Those are the people who post on here moaning and ranting and, subsequently, shooting themselves in the foot.
I can see what your saying there but to feel entitled to something is not the same as being entitled the definitions are different, also there is surely no harm in asking is there a profile reason they may not be getting replies? Asking isn't demanding nor saying they want special privileges
Agreed, also most of the threads are not 'moaning' or whingeing they are just asking a question
Also usually newbies too, who are probably already apprehensive
True , you get the same boring people posting the same boring replies who have neither the imagination or the balls to start their own thread "
Just don't get how in a community that's about trust sharing friendship & a freedom of lifestyle, such a strong ethos of attack those who question things & in a discrediting/ostracized way has become the apparent norm, is this not an aggressive form of control ![](/icons/s/confused.gif) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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I'm talking about the people who demand. I am fine with the people who ask, who understand what they're being told, and who honestly learn. But if you hang around here long enough you'll see the bad side of entitlement too, like the post I once saw from a single guy wanting women not to be able to filter messages from single men because he believed that he should be able to message anyone he wanted to.
I never saw that post but I can readily believe it. We've temporarily filtered out guys as we want to do the searching ourselves but I've noticed some smarmy comments on the forums. "
Sounds like a definite example of entitlement from the description, I feel for people who actually fit the description as they are gonna be often disappointed |
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"At times iv seen people reaching out to the community for help or advice clearly feeling unsure, possibly a but insecure due to being ignored repeatedly, as a community wouldn't it be better instead of wading in with accusations or cold dismissal to be supportive, sadly the forums are radiating a very selfish uncaring & dismissive ambiance but I am certain this can not really be the way the community wants to be perceived"
I don't see FAB or the forums as a community. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I posted a question yesterday and some very kind men told me the answer I needed. Best thing to do is ignore posts that annoy you and don't worry about what other members think they are or aren't entitled to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"At times iv seen people reaching out to the community for help or advice clearly feeling unsure, possibly a but insecure due to being ignored repeatedly, as a community wouldn't it be better instead of wading in with accusations or cold dismissal to be supportive, sadly the forums are radiating a very selfish uncaring & dismissive ambiance but I am certain this can not really be the way the community wants to be perceived
I don't see FAB or the forums as a community. "
Fabswingers is a swingers social media forum, to connect, make friends, enter discussions, share pics, vids etc, discover club & meet info, search for fwb's or fb's, even one off stranger meets, cam fun, it's a varied & sex oriented medium which encapsulates being a swinger, this can be & is termed a community, or the swinging community seeing that to share & or have common interests is a definition of community |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I posted a question yesterday and some very kind men told me the answer I needed. Best thing to do is ignore posts that annoy you and don't worry about what other members think they are or aren't entitled to. "
Part of the original point was its more often men who are targeted for the abuse of trolls who are of all genders, I'm glad to hear ur experience in the search for advice was positive as that's how I feel it should be for all, equally pleasant & fun as to judge a person by their gender & treat them automatically different is wrong & unfair, interestingly though those who are not single male oriented & feel it's ok to treat them with distrust & disrespectfully are acting entitled themselves |
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"At times iv seen people reaching out to the community for help or advice clearly feeling unsure, possibly a but insecure due to being ignored repeatedly, as a community wouldn't it be better instead of wading in with accusations or cold dismissal to be supportive, sadly the forums are radiating a very selfish uncaring & dismissive ambiance but I am certain this can not really be the way the community wants to be perceived
I don't see FAB or the forums as a community.
Fabswingers is a swingers social media forum, to connect, make friends, enter discussions, share pics, vids etc, discover club & meet info, search for fwb's or fb's, even one off stranger meets, cam fun, it's a varied & sex oriented medium which encapsulates being a swinger, this can be & is termed a community, or the swinging community seeing that to share & or have common interests is a definition of community"
I know what community means.
That doesn't change my perception of FAB or the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"At times iv seen people reaching out to the community for help or advice clearly feeling unsure, possibly a but insecure due to being ignored repeatedly, as a community wouldn't it be better instead of wading in with accusations or cold dismissal to be supportive, sadly the forums are radiating a very selfish uncaring & dismissive ambiance but I am certain this can not really be the way the community wants to be perceived
I don't see FAB or the forums as a community.
Fabswingers is a swingers social media forum, to connect, make friends, enter discussions, share pics, vids etc, discover club & meet info, search for fwb's or fb's, even one off stranger meets, cam fun, it's a varied & sex oriented medium which encapsulates being a swinger, this can be & is termed a community, or the swinging community seeing that to share & or have common interests is a definition of community
I know what community means.
That doesn't change my perception of FAB or the forums. "
that's fair enough we are all entitled to our own perception I was merely pointing out that fab is a community by definition & not just technically but literally by definition due to ur comment |
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"Apart from living in the UK there's nothing shared by most FAB or forum users. "
ahh but there is, living the lives & sharing the ethos of swingers either literally or virtually online, else they are fakes/ wasters who shouldn't be on a swingers forum really |
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"Apart from living in the UK there's nothing shared by most FAB or forum users.
ahh but there is, living the lives & sharing the ethos of swingers either literally or virtually online, else they are fakes/ wasters who shouldn't be on a swingers forum really"
What is 'living the life of a swinger?' What is the 'ethos' of swingers?
I think you'll find you can't define things so neatly. |
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"ergo NO feeling of community.
even a bad community with no community spirit is still a community & fabs not all bad "
Okay. I'll go with that.
Therefore there is no need for 'the community' as you called it earlier to give a tuppence ha'penny about rounding on an individual. |
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"Apart from living in the UK there's nothing shared by most FAB or forum users.
ahh but there is, living the lives & sharing the ethos of swingers either literally or virtually online, else they are fakes/ wasters who shouldn't be on a swingers forum really
This should answer that for u
informal A person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners:
‘a twilight world of swingers and wife-swapping’
What is 'living the life of a swinger?' What is the 'ethos' of swingers?
I think you'll find you can't define things so neatly."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"ergo NO feeling of community.
even a bad community with no community spirit is still a community & fabs not all bad
Okay. I'll go with that.
Therefore there is no need for 'the community' as you called it earlier to give a tuppence ha'penny about rounding on an individual. "
well need is very probably again non contextual here, it certainly would be courteous & propagate a safer more fun environment |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex. |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex. "
very true |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"apart from the bit where you called people trolls and accuse them of attacks. "
If somebody is deliberately being offensive then that is what they are doing again by the definition of the term in this context which is also considered an attack, just being observational |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex. "
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that ![](/icons/thumb_up.png) |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that "
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make. |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make. "
Indeed though again by definition it does ![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make.
Indeed though again by definition it does "
Not by any commonly recognised definition. |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make. "
God's sake! Don't try and explain what he doesn't want to believe. He'll define sommat for you.
Oh shit.... I'll probably be called the T words ![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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"Apart from living in the UK there's nothing shared by most FAB or forum users.
ahh but there is, living the lives & sharing the ethos of swingers either literally or virtually online, else they are fakes/ wasters who shouldn't be on a swingers forum really
What is 'living the life of a swinger?' What is the 'ethos' of swingers?
I think you'll find you can't define things so neatly."
actually...
swinger. swing·er. noun. The definition of a swinger is slang for someone who lives an uninhibited lifestyle. A person who engages freely in experimental sexual behavior is an example of a swinger |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make.
Indeed though again by definition it does
Not by any commonly recognised definition. "
as per Oxford English dictionary :-
[mass noun] The condition of sharing or having certain attitudes and interests in common:
A commonly & widely enough recognized source I'd say ![](/icons/s/rolleyes.gif) |
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Unsurpassed
better or greater than any other.
"the quality of workmanship is unsurpassed"
synonyms: unmatched, unrivalled, unparalleled, unequalled, matchless, peerless, without peer, without equal, in a class of its own, all-time best, inimitable, incomparable, beyond compare, beyond comparison, second to none, unsurpassable, surpassing, nonpareil; More |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make.
God's sake! Don't try and explain what he doesn't want to believe. He'll define sommat for you.
Oh shit.... I'll probably be called the T words "
It's not about my opinions or beliefs it's about accepting the basic English vocabulary words have meanings definitions & context for a reason, ergo if an opinion contradicts the meaning definition & context of the words used it's an incorrect interpretation ![](/icons/s/wink.gif) |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
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I'm not sure why anyone would think that, because we have a website in common, we would agree on everything.
I used to moderate a pagan forum. You would have though, wouldn't you, that pagans would at least agree on one thing? You'd be wrong.
People are people. We have different upbringings and behaviours. Your entitlement is my bad behaviour. That's the way it is. Don't expect more. |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make.
Indeed though again by definition it does
Not by any commonly recognised definition.
as per Oxford English dictionary :-
[mass noun] The condition of sharing or having certain attitudes and interests in common:
A commonly & widely enough recognized source I'd say "
Certain attitudes and interests. The only thing people on Fab have in common is that they're breathing and most are looking for sex. That's not enough to warrant the description of a community. That's not about an opinion, it's about you either misusing or misunderstanding the word. |
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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago
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"There is a sense from some people who post on the forums that they believe they should get replies, or fabs, or meets, and get cross when they don't.
I have always said no-one is entitled to anything on here, and there are people who think they are., Those are the people who post on here moaning and ranting and, subsequently, shooting themselves in the foot.
I can see what your saying there but to feel entitled to something is not the same as being entitled the definitions are different, also there is surely no harm in asking is there a profile reason they may not be getting replies? Asking isn't demanding nor saying they want special privileges
Agreed, also most of the threads are not 'moaning' or whingeing they are just asking a question
Also usually newbies too, who are probably already apprehensive
True , you get the same boring people posting the same boring replies who have neither the imagination or the balls to start their own thread "
They do on the fuck, pass, avoid, finger up the nose threads
They start them sort of threads
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"Unsurpassed
better or greater than any other.
"the quality of workmanship is unsurpassed"
synonyms: unmatched, unrivalled, unparalleled, unequalled, matchless, peerless, without peer, without equal, in a class of its own, all-time best, inimitable, incomparable, beyond compare, beyond comparison, second to none, unsurpassable, surpassing, nonpareil; More"
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make.
God's sake! Don't try and explain what he doesn't want to believe. He'll define sommat for you.
Oh shit.... I'll probably be called the T words
It's not about my opinions or beliefs it's about accepting the basic English vocabulary words have meanings definitions & context for a reason, ergo if an opinion contradicts the meaning definition & context of the words used it's an incorrect interpretation "
It's all about interpretation.
ergo
'??g??/
adverb
therefore.
"she was the sole beneficiary of the will, ergo the prime suspect"
synonyms: therefore, consequently, so, as a result, as a consequence, hence, thus, accordingly, for that reason, this/that being so, this/that being the case, on this/that account; M
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"I'm not sure why anyone would think that, because we have a website in common, we would agree on everything.
I used to moderate a pagan forum. You would have though, wouldn't you, that pagans would at least agree on one thing? You'd be wrong.
People are people. We have different upbringings and behaviours. Your entitlement is my bad behaviour. That's the way it is. Don't expect more."
Haha, yes, as a teenager I used to argue online who was the best Star Trek captain. Eye opening.
You've only got to look on the politics section to see the levels of disagreement. |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make.
Indeed though again by definition it does
Not by any commonly recognised definition.
as per Oxford English dictionary :-
[mass noun] The condition of sharing or having certain attitudes and interests in common:
A commonly & widely enough recognized source I'd say
Certain attitudes and interests. The only thing people on Fab have in common is that they're breathing and most are looking for sex. That's not enough to warrant the description of a community. That's not about an opinion, it's about you either misusing or misunderstanding the word. "
To the contrary in fact, it's specific as again by definition being uninhibited sexual options, partner swapping & more wanted & sought after by like minded people In groups at clubs parties meets & on here an alternative lifestyle, meaning it perfectly qualifies in that context as a community according to the dear OED ![](/icons/s/mrgreen.gif) |
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"I'm not sure why anyone would think that, because we have a website in common, we would agree on everything.
I used to moderate a pagan forum. You would have though, wouldn't you, that pagans would at least agree on one thing? You'd be wrong.
People are people. We have different upbringings and behaviours. Your entitlement is my bad behaviour. That's the way it is. Don't expect more.
Haha, yes, as a teenager I used to argue online who was the best Star Trek captain. Eye opening.
You've only got to look on the politics section to see the levels of disagreement. "
Haha jean luc picard best star trek captain |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make.
Indeed though again by definition it does
Not by any commonly recognised definition.
as per Oxford English dictionary :-
[mass noun] The condition of sharing or having certain attitudes and interests in common:
A commonly & widely enough recognized source I'd say
Certain attitudes and interests. The only thing people on Fab have in common is that they're breathing and most are looking for sex. That's not enough to warrant the description of a community. That's not about an opinion, it's about you either misusing or misunderstanding the word.
To the contrary in fact, it's specific as again by definition being uninhibited sexual options, partner swapping & more wanted & sought after by like minded people In groups at clubs parties meets & on here an alternative lifestyle, meaning it perfectly qualifies in that context as a community according to the dear OED "
If all or even most of those on Fab were looking for that or displaying those attitudes or lifestyle choices, I'd give you that it's a community. They are not. Ergo, not a community. According to both me and the OED. |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make.
Indeed though again by definition it does
Not by any commonly recognised definition.
as per Oxford English dictionary :-
[mass noun] The condition of sharing or having certain attitudes and interests in common:
A commonly & widely enough recognized source I'd say
Certain attitudes and interests. The only thing people on Fab have in common is that they're breathing and most are looking for sex. That's not enough to warrant the description of a community. That's not about an opinion, it's about you either misusing or misunderstanding the word.
To the contrary in fact, it's specific as again by definition being uninhibited sexual options, partner swapping & more wanted & sought after by like minded people In groups at clubs parties meets & on here an alternative lifestyle, meaning it perfectly qualifies in that context as a community according to the dear OED
If all or even most of those on Fab were looking for that or displaying those attitudes or lifestyle choices, I'd give you that it's a community. They are not. Ergo, not a community. According to both me and the OED. "
Attending a social with a few hundred other 'swingers' certainly made us realise there isn't really a community. |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make.
Indeed though again by definition it does
Not by any commonly recognised definition.
as per Oxford English dictionary :-
[mass noun] The condition of sharing or having certain attitudes and interests in common:
A commonly & widely enough recognized source I'd say
Certain attitudes and interests. The only thing people on Fab have in common is that they're breathing and most are looking for sex. That's not enough to warrant the description of a community. That's not about an opinion, it's about you either misusing or misunderstanding the word.
To the contrary in fact, it's specific as again by definition being uninhibited sexual options, partner swapping & more wanted & sought after by like minded people In groups at clubs parties meets & on here an alternative lifestyle, meaning it perfectly qualifies in that context as a community according to the dear OED
If all or even most of those on Fab were looking for that or displaying those attitudes or lifestyle choices, I'd give you that it's a community. They are not. Ergo, not a community. According to both me and the OED. "
Of course they are this is a swingers site for such like relevant activities & people primarily therefore similar attitudes & interests also a swinger by definition lives that lifestyle which displays the apparent attitude ergo by definition a inescapably a community, |
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make.
Indeed though again by definition it does
Not by any commonly recognised definition.
as per Oxford English dictionary :-
[mass noun] The condition of sharing or having certain attitudes and interests in common:
A commonly & widely enough recognized source I'd say
Certain attitudes and interests. The only thing people on Fab have in common is that they're breathing and most are looking for sex. That's not enough to warrant the description of a community. That's not about an opinion, it's about you either misusing or misunderstanding the word.
To the contrary in fact, it's specific as again by definition being uninhibited sexual options, partner swapping & more wanted & sought after by like minded people In groups at clubs parties meets & on here an alternative lifestyle, meaning it perfectly qualifies in that context as a community according to the dear OED
If all or even most of those on Fab were looking for that or displaying those attitudes or lifestyle choices, I'd give you that it's a community. They are not. Ergo, not a community. According to both me and the OED.
Of course they are this is a swingers site for such like relevant activities & people primarily therefore similar attitudes & interests also a swinger by definition lives that lifestyle which displays the apparent attitude ergo by definition a inescapably a community,"
It's a swingers site, but not everyone "lives the lifestyle", however the fuck you define that, by any stretch of the imagination. I can't tell if you're being naive about the site or just determined to prove your erroneous point. |
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"Would you consider it to be a web community or online community, Ruby?"
I'm not sure I give it any kind of community. I suppose you could say the forums are a little online community but I think even that is stretching it. |
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"At times iv seen people reaching out to the community for help or advice clearly feeling unsure, possibly a but insecure due to being ignored repeatedly, as a community wouldn't it be better instead of wading in with accusations or cold dismissal to be supportive, sadly the forums are radiating a very selfish uncaring & dismissive ambiance but I am certain this can not really be the way the community wants to be perceived" |
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"Would you consider it to be a web community or online community, Ruby?
I'm not sure I give it any kind of community. I suppose you could say the forums are a little online community but I think even that is stretching it."
Fair enough. I think there's a sense of online community for some though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Fab isn't a community IMO. It's a bunch of individuals, some of whom know each other but many more who are strangers, posting and messaging on a site hoping to meet people for sex.
Exactly its the commonality & desired goal of those on here that by definition qualifies it as a community but of course everybody is entitled to an opinion whether right or wrong & if never contested that
Commonality and desired goals does not a community make.
Indeed though again by definition it does
Not by any commonly recognised definition.
as per Oxford English dictionary :-
[mass noun] The condition of sharing or having certain attitudes and interests in common:
A commonly & widely enough recognized source I'd say
Certain attitudes and interests. The only thing people on Fab have in common is that they're breathing and most are looking for sex. That's not enough to warrant the description of a community. That's not about an opinion, it's about you either misusing or misunderstanding the word.
To the contrary in fact, it's specific as again by definition being uninhibited sexual options, partner swapping & more wanted & sought after by like minded people In groups at clubs parties meets & on here an alternative lifestyle, meaning it perfectly qualifies in that context as a community according to the dear OED
If all or even most of those on Fab were looking for that or displaying those attitudes or lifestyle choices, I'd give you that it's a community. They are not. Ergo, not a community. According to both me and the OED.
Of course they are this is a swingers site for such like relevant activities & people primarily therefore similar attitudes & interests also a swinger by definition lives that lifestyle which displays the apparent attitude ergo by definition a inescapably a community,
It's a swingers site, but not everyone "lives the lifestyle", however the fuck you define that, by any stretch of the imagination. I can't tell if you're being naive about the site or just determined to prove your erroneous point. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Would you consider it to be a web community or online community, Ruby?
I'm not sure I give it any kind of community. I suppose you could say the forums are a little online community but I think even that is stretching it.
Fair enough. I think there's a sense of online community for some though. "
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"Just don't get how in a community that's about trust sharing friendship & a freedom of lifestyle, such a strong ethos of attack those who question things & in a discrediting/ostracized way has become the apparent norm, is this not an aggressive form of control "
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Meaning is contextual, so you'd have to query this at those points where you notice it.
Otherwise it's lost and we'll never know what was intended.
I think many new users predictably don't know what to expect from the site - they probably have no friends who use it and could educate/inform them of experience.
But we get all types of people here. As in wider life, there are bound to be some unrealistic or pompous types as well as people who misunderstand comments in the forum. |
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"Meaning is contextual, so you'd have to query this at those points where you notice it.
Otherwise it's lost and we'll never know what was intended.
I think many new users predictably don't know what to expect from the site - they probably have no friends who use it and could educate/inform them of experience.
But we get all types of people here. As in wider life, there are bound to be some unrealistic or pompous types as well as people who misunderstand comments in the forum. "
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Sounds like you could do with sitting with some females and actually see the quality of what other people send as messages, maybe then you could understand as why people put "entitled". |
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"Meaning is contextual, so you'd have to query this at those points where you notice it.
Otherwise it's lost and we'll never know what was intended.
I think many new users predictably don't know what to expect from the site - they probably have no friends who use it and could educate/inform them of experience.
But we get all types of people here. As in wider life, there are bound to be some unrealistic or pompous types as well as people who misunderstand comments in the forum. "
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"Sounds like you could do with sitting with some females and actually see the quality of what other people send as messages, maybe then you could understand as why people put "entitled"."
I understand there will be some who deserve that title it stands to reason given the numbers of active members |
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I have sex with inhibitions, wouldn't swap partners if i had one, will never attend a club or a party with others here, and don't live an alternative lifestyle...
But i'm not leaving, so there ![](/icons/s/twisted.gif) |
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"I have sex with inhibitions, wouldn't swap partners if i had one, will never attend a club or a party with others here, and don't live an alternative lifestyle...
But i'm not leaving, so there "
Publicly displaying pics of it naked body & seeking sexual partners as per ur profile is an alternative lifestyle choice lol ![](/icons/s/rolleyes.gif) |
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