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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Am I an exception on here to say its ok to someone if they say I am not there type? Don't get me wrong it hurts occasionally but I don't mind people being honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Am I an exception on here to say its ok to someone if they say I am not there type? Don't get me wrong it hurts occasionally but I don't mind people being honest. "
Its fine to say that just be nice about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Better to be honest with a short reply than be ignored.
No one likes rejection but we have to expect it and a success will be a bonus and will restore the faith.  |
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Definitely, as long as it's in a respectful way. Saying "you're not my type" is exactly what we would like to hear. We don't find it upsetting as not everyone is compatible. That's the joys of swinging! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope its not okay, you must be mentally destroyed that the random foof you messaged (amongst hundreds of other random foofs) won't let you near her foof.... now go away and cry in the corner.... feel the pain of rejection |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
It's much easier if you know where you stand. I prefer the straightforward, polite rejection. I get a fair bit of rejection on here and the string it out, skirt around the edges type just make me cross in the end.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah the stringing out is painful but I made this feed as a woman has been talking to me for nearly a month and seen pictures of me but then before a meet she says "forget it your too ugly for me I don't do charity" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's much easier if you know where you stand. I prefer the straightforward, polite rejection. I get a fair bit of rejection on here and the string it out, skirt around the edges type just make me cross in the end.
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Yes getting ghosted or strung along can be frustrating.
I'm not talking about ignoring initial messages, that's perfectly fine.
I'm referring to people who are all enthusiastic and then just go all cold/quiet suddenly, or have endless excuses for not meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd say in the main most guys are fine about it. The few that take it to heart and then come back with abuse are the ones who get the press in the forums usually  "
I dont understand why some blokes act like this ?
Get rejected go have a wank and move the fuk on |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
Hereford |
"Nope its not okay, you must be mentally destroyed that the random foof you messaged (amongst hundreds of other random foofs) won't let you near her foof.... now go away and cry in the corner.... feel the pain of rejection"
Bad day?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope its not okay, you must be mentally destroyed that the random foof you messaged (amongst hundreds of other random foofs) won't let you near her foof.... now go away and cry in the corner.... feel the pain of rejection"
Bet you get rejected quite often |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope its not okay, you must be mentally destroyed that the random foof you messaged (amongst hundreds of other random foofs) won't let you near her foof.... now go away and cry in the corner.... feel the pain of rejection
Bad day? "
Thank you for noticing |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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That guy who posted that is obviously a hit with the ladies so why use a swinger site? Maybe he has more wildlife in his bush and he needs to help them spread, what a dick! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One of the main problems I find is you start chatting to someone and it becomes a bit time consuming. If someone is sending me lots of messages, I naturally distance myself from them. Or life, life gets in the way and then before you know it, you're getting called a time waster.
Rejection's tough though. I can't imagine what it's like for guys on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's much easier if you know where you stand. I prefer the straightforward, polite rejection. I get a fair bit of rejection on here and the string it out, skirt around the edges type just make me cross in the end.
Yes getting ghosted or strung along can be frustrating.
I'm not talking about ignoring initial messages, that's perfectly fine...."
I would prefer to be told "no" and ideally given a reason than to be ignored after my initial message. I know its not a mortal sin to not respond, but at least we could improve profile/initial messages to hopefully get more meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One of the main problems I find is you start chatting to someone and it becomes a bit time consuming. If someone is sending me lots of messages, I naturally distance myself from them. Or life, life gets in the way and then before you know it, you're getting called a time waster.
Rejection's tough though. I can't imagine what it's like for guys on here. "
I'm guilty of this too. They want to take up all of your time, it can get a bit stressful. Especially when you have about 7 messages in a row off them, getting increasingly more miffed that you are 'ignoring them', because you've been busy in the forims. I come on here for light relief, not for drama. So I have distanced myself sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"One of the main problems I find is you start chatting to someone and it becomes a bit time consuming. If someone is sending me lots of messages, I naturally distance myself from them. Or life, life gets in the way and then before you know it, you're getting called a time waster.
Rejection's tough though. I can't imagine what it's like for guys on here.
I'm guilty of this too. They want to take up all of your time, it can get a bit stressful. Especially when you have about 7 messages in a row off them, getting increasingly more miffed that you are 'ignoring them', because you've been busy in the forims. I come on here for light relief, not for drama. So I have distanced myself sometimes. "
You're right, it is stressful. Personally, if I messaged someone and didn't get a reply, I'd leave it. |
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Some people like to conclude potential meet discussions with a no thanks. But a no reply or a block means the same thing.
Message management and some abuse means you should adjust your expectations accordingly - don't expect replies and explanations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I mean I've been on here a while and had one meet but no more I try but hey I must be doing sometging wrong "
Try adding a few pics, they don't have to be face or nude. Think a lot of people are put off by photoless profiles. |
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