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Can you Learn to compartmentalise?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, you can. Define easy? That's a pretty much impossible question for one person to answer for another.
Of course you can learn to compartmentalise, but you have to do it on your terms, under your own rules, with your own boundaries.
Some people simply cannot learn, and can't get past their upbringing or the social conditioning they've endured their whole life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try so hard with work and home issues but it's not always easy. I honestly think it takes a certain type of person to do it! I'm not strong enough mentally and lately, everything ends up in one box! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I try so hard with work and home issues but it's not always easy. I honestly think it takes a certain type of person to do it! I'm not strong enough mentally and lately, everything ends up in one box! "
I am glad it's not just me feeling like this!
I wonder how it can be honed?
Do you think the sexes are even at it and it is a personality based thing?
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"I try so hard with work and home issues but it's not always easy. I honestly think it takes a certain type of person to do it! I'm not strong enough mentally and lately, everything ends up in one box! "
Search for Dale Carnegie 'Day-tight compartment' .
Other methods too I;m sure.
You need to practice but it does get easier. I used to think about work a lot at home, this can help you. But you have to make yourself do it.
Keep practicing and you will succeed in training your mind  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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personality thing i reckon.
living in the now would help with this. don't know how you do it but not being a worrier comes naturally to me now, probably because i've been safe for a long time and stress free. |
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I believe men are better at this but, I have learned this. In relationships I always ask myself ; but would you really trust this person, or could you live with there behaviours all the time, do you want them meeting your family ? It's always been a no until recently...lol |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I try so hard with work and home issues but it's not always easy. I honestly think it takes a certain type of person to do it! I'm not strong enough mentally and lately, everything ends up in one box!
I am glad it's not just me feeling like this!
I wonder how it can be honed?
Do you think the sexes are even at it and it is a personality based thing?
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Don't think it's a gender based thing, definitely down to personality and also circumstance. There are times I find it easy to do it, and others when it's downright difficult. |
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"I try so hard with work and home issues but it's not always easy. I honestly think it takes a certain type of person to do it! I'm not strong enough mentally and lately, everything ends up in one box!
I am glad it's not just me feeling like this!
I wonder how it can be honed?
Do you think the sexes are even at it and it is a personality based thing?
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Hmmm Sexes one is tricky. Some people say about women multi-tasking and men focusing on one thing is evolutionary. If that is true (if) then you could say women are more susceptible to not switching off, as they keep all the different plates spinning. Whereas men just focus at the task in hand - catching the Mammoth / watching TV. Depends if you accept that stereotype.
Personality, I'd say definitely. Some types of people are more prone to this. |
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Pretty much all of our behaviour can be learned. It requires motivation, deciding to do something and then getting stuck in.
Male and female brains largely unfounded Imo. Take small steps and continue. |
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Hmmm Sexes one is tricky. Some people say about women multi-tasking and men focusing on one thing is evolutionary. If that is true (if) then you could say women are more susceptible to not switching off, as they keep all the different plates spinning. "
In the early days of our business I was getting stressed with all the 'to do' list, and my uber-focussed ex had no idea what I was stressing about - so said 'Ok, I'll make a list'.
There were 92 separate tasks going round and round in my head on a continuous loop! We hired a production manager to help me not long after....
I think women are better integrated, their brains have been shown to have more cross-connections, so it is harder for us to compartmentalise. |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
a quandary, could you change my mind? |
"I try so hard with work and home issues but it's not always easy. I honestly think it takes a certain type of person to do it! I'm not strong enough mentally and lately, everything ends up in one box! "
I put compartments in my boxes, but the things still move around and jump out at the most annoying moments when I'm not expecting them. |
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