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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad 
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
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Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Single 4yrs & still loving it. There are times I'd love to have a diy'ish guy about but Iv either learned to do stuff myself or that's what friends are for. "
Haha I know what you mean - but most of my friends are busy with their families at weekends - I still see them but sometimes it makes me feel even more alone |
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By *ndigo40Woman
over a year ago
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"Single 4yrs & still loving it. There are times I'd love to have a diy'ish guy about but Iv either learned to do stuff myself or that's what friends are for. "
Been single 17yrs and have no intentions having a partner |
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"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
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I've been trying to do that for year's |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why do you think they're having fun?"
LOL yes maybe they're not!
I know the grass is always greener!
But I don't have children or family - I just feel really lonely x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You've got to do what's right for you, you just need to be honest with yourself about what you really want. Very few people actually enjoy being single if their friends are in steady relationships. Having had several friends and many colleagues in this situation. it only gets harder as you get older. It's good that you're thinking about it now though. |
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By *ild-1Woman
over a year ago
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"Why do you think they're having fun?
LOL yes maybe they're not!
I know the grass is always greener!
But I don't have children or family - I just feel really lonely x"
Let's go out and hit the town - we don't need a man !! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
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yea just go out n meet some one,,good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why do you think they're having fun?
LOL yes maybe they're not!
I know the grass is always greener!
But I don't have children or family - I just feel really lonely x
Let's go out and hit the town - we don't need a man !! "
I'd love some friends with your mindset nearby xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
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Yea but when your in a relationship you see every single person flirting and mixing it up and wish you could do the same lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm considering it and returning to celibacy. It's simpler.
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I'm celibate now!
It sucks!
But yes it's simple- is that the same as BORING!
I need hobbies and local friends to make celibacy work |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
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Maryfuckingpoppins if that what you need to do, you go do it.
Best of luck in finding what your looking for. X |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I'm considering it and returning to celibacy. It's simpler.
I'm celibate now!
It sucks!
But yes it's simple- is that the same as BORING!
I need hobbies and local friends to make celibacy work "
I didn't find celibacy boring.
I have very little sex now (see the 'how many times...' thread  ) and a little can be worse than none at all, for me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
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I would suggest not mentioning swinging when on vanilla dates. Vanilla people tend to look down on swingers |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
I would suggest not mentioning swinging when on vanilla dates. Vanilla people tend to look down on swingers "
A male friend advised me to be outright dishonest about it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am
Have you ended the 'seeing someone'?
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yes i called time on it.. he was truly lovely.
right guy just wrong timing i guess.
we still chat though |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am
Have you ended the 'seeing someone'?
yes i called time on it.. he was truly lovely.
right guy just wrong timing i guess.
we still chat though "
I hope you find the right time... although I wonder if there ever is a right time? The most romantic, and very successful, relationship I know describe that they just took a risk on each other. 25 years later they're still together and taking a risk.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try pushing a baby buggy down the high street. Every fucker coming towards you is a sickenly happy couple with their baby.
Bit like you buy a yellow mini and every other car is also a yellow mini.
It's all relative. Everyone else's life sucks too. Just not necessarily visually the same as yours.
Did that help? Make sense? Oh fuck; rambling again  |
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Mmmm!I have a couple of local friends on Fab, where there has been no sex or plans but remain friends and lend an ear when needed or meet for coffee...
Some folk may find it controversial, but I believe true swingers, see it as a swinging community which involves friendship, trust and respect....If you cannot at times 'just be a good friend to someone,' then it is sex site...
I hope some good friends on site, gather around you OP x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
I would suggest not mentioning swinging when on vanilla dates. Vanilla people tend to look down on swingers "
Yes it's difficult!
I actually have no idea how to meet men in real life!
I'm at the age where I feel ignored - I'm just average looking and a bit chubby
I rarely go out and I work in a mainly female environment!
I'm on POF but that's like a full time job  |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I actually have no idea how to meet men in real life!
I'm at the age where I feel ignored - I'm just average looking and a bit chubby
I rarely go out and I work in a mainly female environment!
I'm on POF but that's like a full time job "
Have you looked at Meet Up? I met some people through that, although not for sex  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am
Have you ended the 'seeing someone'?
yes i called time on it.. he was truly lovely.
right guy just wrong timing i guess.
we still chat though
I hope you find the right time... although I wonder if there ever is a right time? The most romantic, and very successful, relationship I know describe that they just took a risk on each other. 25 years later they're still together and taking a risk.
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he was staying with his mum after his ex kept their flat on.. and i wasnt prepared to allow him into my home so soon..
he wasnt happy with pubs etc for 'dates' and i wasnt happy to invite him into 'my space'
i like mutual territory... then once im sure on someone then bring them into my world... he prefers it the other way around.
perhaps im odd
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"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am
Have you ended the 'seeing someone'?
yes i called time on it.. he was truly lovely.
right guy just wrong timing i guess.
we still chat though "
That's a shame but at least your still friends so who knows what might happen. Good luck sweet x |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I thought i wanted something more.. then gave it up as it made me realise how full of anxiety i am
Have you ended the 'seeing someone'?
yes i called time on it.. he was truly lovely.
right guy just wrong timing i guess.
we still chat though
I hope you find the right time... although I wonder if there ever is a right time? The most romantic, and very successful, relationship I know describe that they just took a risk on each other. 25 years later they're still together and taking a risk.
he was staying with his mum after his ex kept their flat on.. and i wasnt prepared to allow him into my home so soon..
he wasnt happy with pubs etc for 'dates' and i wasnt happy to invite him into 'my space'
i like mutual territory... then once im sure on someone then bring them into my world... he prefers it the other way around.
perhaps im odd
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Not odd. You two weren't compatible on this and neither would compromise. It's better to know that early on.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I actually have no idea how to meet men in real life!
I'm at the age where I feel ignored - I'm just average looking and a bit chubby
I rarely go out and I work in a mainly female environment!
I'm on POF but that's like a full time job
Have you looked at Meet Up? I met some people through that, although not for sex "
I think Meet Up is a good option, a no pressure way to meet others... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not odd. You two weren't compatible on this and neither would compromise. It's better to know that early on.
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Think thats one thing ive learnt about myself, be confident in myself not to be in a situation i am not comfortable with. I dont need to bend over backwards just to please someone.
There was no major pressure but i appreciate he has his preferences and i know my own. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
I would suggest not mentioning swinging when on vanilla dates. Vanilla people tend to look down on swingers
Yes it's difficult!
I actually have no idea how to meet men in real life!
I'm at the age where I feel ignored - I'm just average looking and a bit chubby
I rarely go out and I work in a mainly female environment!
I'm on POF but that's like a full time job "
All I can suggest is go out with everyone that asks you out for a date. Even if it's for just a drink. You never know , you might find a diamond in the ruff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you looking to still swing? There was a post I saw earlier by a guy that clearly wanted a relationship with another swinger, so there are still options here, if that's what you're looking for..
Otherwise, I agree, you need to get a hobby/interest and meet some like minded people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
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Completely understand where you are coming from
For me, I wonder if it's just the time
Of year making me feel this way. Seeing couples loved up and enjoying Christmas nights out and I'm here, with a cat on my lap, drinking Baileys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This time of year isn't great for a lot of people in a lot of situations. Whatever you feel is missing in your life will be all over the place all of a sudden. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've got to the point that the idea of having a partner brings me out in cold sweat. Never again.
NSA sex, however....
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Total opposite here...
Although there's no one on either horiin anyway. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"This time of year isn't great for a lot of people in a lot of situations. Whatever you feel is missing in your life will be all over the place all of a sudden. "
I think this has a lot of truth to it. I'm spending my Xmas with family and would give good money to be having it on my own. Three days with my Mum *shudder* |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It is a shit time of year to be alone - but to be honest I've been feeling like this for a while now.
I think the meet up idea could work - I just want to have a few more options than just a fuck!
I know it seems like I'm on the wrong site lol!
But I want kinky fuckery as well!
I know ....
Me me me
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"This time of year isn't great for a lot of people in a lot of situations. Whatever you feel is missing in your life will be all over the place all of a sudden.
I think this has a lot of truth to it. I'm spending my Xmas with family and would give good money to be having it on my own. Three days with my Mum *shudder* "
The worst scenario's....are when the mother/daughter....have similar personalities... so much love... and so much ;run for cover!' |
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"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
Completely understand where you are coming from
For me, I wonder if it's just the time
Of year making me feel this way. Seeing couples loved up and enjoying Christmas nights out and I'm here, with a cat on my lap, drinking Baileys "
That was me last night |
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"and tired of having to do everything by myself!
Don't get me wrong - I'm OK about being single most of the time.
But then the weekend comes and I see everyone out with their partners having fun and I feel sad
Time to stop swinging and start looking for something else?
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Feeling exactly the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being single only bothers me when I can't open those bloody jars or a big hairy spider (yes the small ones are big) appears; other than that I'm quite happy being single. |
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"I'm not single but still end up doing most things on my own. The grass isn't always greener."
I'm not single but I'm alone every weekend whilst my fella spends his time with his ex at their house so he can see his kid  there's loads I want to do, but I always feel like I would rather do it with someone rather than alone |
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