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What's the best way to get interest in a hotel meet?
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Similar guidelines apply to 1. single men wanting meets in general and 2. having meets with other people.
Look through tips on profiles etc, to see if you can pick up advice that works.
Some people prefer fairly local people, so that they can meet first for a social, before a play meet, or to meet regularly with.
Single men in general have to invest a lot of time and effort into their profiles and communications, so that they can start to become more prolific with their meets. See the forum thread today on how many meets people have had in 2016, for comparison. |
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"Maybe be more proactive than waiting for your inbox to fill up? "
Trying that too by looking at lots of local single and couple profiles. Messaged a few and a nice couple from York said that if ever I'm up there and they're free that they'd meet up. So not all bad. |
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"Similar guidelines apply to 1. single men wanting meets in general and 2. having meets with other people.
Look through tips on profiles etc, to see if you can pick up advice that works.
Some people prefer fairly local people, so that they can meet first for a social, before a play meet, or to meet regularly with.
Single men in general have to invest a lot of time and effort into their profiles and communications, so that they can start to become more prolific with their meets. See the forum thread today on how many meets people have had in 2016, for comparison."
Yes I can imagine that it's harder for single men than say, single women or couples to arrange.
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"You have to bear in mind that a single lady might rate her safety quite high so might be reluctant to go to an anonymous hotel for sex with a guy she's never met before. "
Yes I understand that hence why I'm asking for couples too |
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Message ladies individually, rather than putting the call out to all and hoping someone bites. It will show that you're interested in them specifically, rather than just any woman who responds to you throwing up the bat signal...
I appreciate it's difficult though, generally it's easier to meet a lady and build some trust before she'll be up for a night in a hotel with you... good luck! |
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My suggestions, for what they are worth, bearing in mind I've only been here a few weeks....
1. Get to know people in the forums, and chat rooms.
2. Try to get to a social or three and get to know real, practicing swingers.
There aren't many people that are impulsive enough to just rock up, without feeling that they know who you are. Too big a risk! |
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Can't imagine the odds for a guy to get a single woman to meet him at his hotel room for the first time is pretty long. You're probably talking about the 1% here. And I honestly don't think there is anything you can fix in your profile/approach that will change that. |
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Ensure you're staying at a decent hotel.
Offering a night at the local Etap lodge while you're 3 days into a weeklong sales tour of the length of the UK isn't appealing.  |
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"Message ladies individually, rather than putting the call out to all and hoping someone bites. It will show that you're interested in them specifically, rather than just any woman who responds to you throwing up the bat signal...
I appreciate it's difficult though, generally it's easier to meet a lady and build some trust before she'll be up for a night in a hotel with you... good luck!"
I've messaged a few women and couples this week. I've had one positive reply from a couple but in their neck of the woods. Will definitely go for that one   |
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"My suggestions, for what they are worth, bearing in mind I've only been here a few weeks....
1. Get to know people in the forums, and chat rooms.
2. Try to get to a social or three and get to know real, practicing swingers.
There aren't many people that are impulsive enough to just rock up, without feeling that they know who you are. Too big a risk!"
I'm a regular on the forums. Get a few views through them. I'll check out some socials next year. Thanks for the advice |
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"Can't imagine the odds for a guy to get a single woman to meet him at his hotel room for the first time is pretty long. You're probably talking about the 1% here. And I honestly don't think there is anything you can fix in your profile/approach that will change that. "
I'm thinking that too. Maybe couples are better to ask |
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"Ensure you're staying at a decent hotel.
Offering a night at the local Etap lodge while you're 3 days into a weeklong sales tour of the length of the UK isn't appealing. "
It's a very nice hotel by the reviews I've seen so they'd have a comfy bed lol |
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The best way to get women to meet you is to be interested in the woman.
Not put up meet requests for "anything anyone anywhere" 
Save your money on the nice hotel and get yourself a prostitute!
Seriously if you just want a fuck without any conversation then that's the way forward. |
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"The best way to get women to meet you is to be interested in the woman.
Not put up meet requests for "anything anyone anywhere"
Save your money on the nice hotel and get yourself a prostitute!
Seriously if you just want a fuck without any conversation then that's the way forward."
Completely off topic, but I love your profile pic! I've seen a few variations on the same image, but yours wins hands down.
Sorry, just had to point that out.... Carry on everyone..........  |
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"Married by any chance OP ? "
What the fucks that got to do with anything?
Maybe, just fucking maybe the feller values his privacy.
Maybe just maybe he doesn't want to invite strangers into his home.
Maybe just maybe he's a single parent and doesn't want to bring someone home when the kids are around.
This narrow minded leap of assumption and accusation really boils my piss.
It's not Thursday is it?
No?
I couldn't feckin wait....  |
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"The best way to get women to meet you is to be interested in the woman.
Not put up meet requests for "anything anyone anywhere"
Save your money on the nice hotel and get yourself a prostitute!
Seriously if you just want a fuck without any conversation then that's the way forward."
That does kind of defeat the object of this site. I'm only staying at the hotel as its for my work Christmas party. |
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"The best way to get women to meet you is to be interested in the woman.
Not put up meet requests for "anything anyone anywhere"
Save your money on the nice hotel and get yourself a prostitute!
Seriously if you just want a fuck without any conversation then that's the way forward.
That does kind of defeat the object of this site. I'm only staying at the hotel as its for my work Christmas party. "
I'm not sure why I'm answering you as everything most people have said has fallen on your deaf ears
So what is the "object of this site " for you? |
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"Married by any chance OP ?
What the fucks that got to do with anything?
Maybe, just fucking maybe the feller values his privacy.
Maybe just maybe he doesn't want to invite strangers into his home.
Maybe just maybe he's a single parent and doesn't want to bring someone home when the kids are around.
This narrow minded leap of assumption and accusation really boils my piss.
It's not Thursday is it?
No?
I couldn't feckin wait.... "
Well put Markoh. I did think that it was an odd question. I can't accommodate. Simple as that. Why is not up for discussion. Same as anybody else who's on here who has put that. |
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"The best way to get women to meet you is to be interested in the woman.
Not put up meet requests for "anything anyone anywhere"
Save your money on the nice hotel and get yourself a prostitute!
Seriously if you just want a fuck without any conversation then that's the way forward.
That does kind of defeat the object of this site. I'm only staying at the hotel as its for my work Christmas party.
I'm not sure why I'm answering you as everything most people have said has fallen on your deaf ears
So what is the "object of this site " for you?"
To meet and make new friends and if I get to have amazing sex then that's a bonus |
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"Married by any chance OP ?
What the fucks that got to do with anything?
Maybe, just fucking maybe the feller values his privacy.
Maybe just maybe he doesn't want to invite strangers into his home.
Maybe just maybe he's a single parent and doesn't want to bring someone home when the kids are around.
This narrow minded leap of assumption and accusation really boils my piss.
It's not Thursday is it?
No?
I couldn't feckin wait....
Well put Markoh. I did think that it was an odd question. I can't accommodate. Simple as that. Why is not up for discussion. Same as anybody else who's on here who has put that. "
I don't accommodate and I'm happy to state why cos I have nothing to hide! |
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"Married by any chance OP ?
What the fucks that got to do with anything?
Maybe, just fucking maybe the feller values his privacy.
Maybe just maybe he doesn't want to invite strangers into his home.
Maybe just maybe he's a single parent and doesn't want to bring someone home when the kids are around.
This narrow minded leap of assumption and accusation really boils my piss.
It's not Thursday is it?
No?
I couldn't feckin wait....
Well put Markoh. I did think that it was an odd question. I can't accommodate. Simple as that. Why is not up for discussion. Same as anybody else who's on here who has put that.
I don't accommodate and I'm happy to state why cos I have nothing to hide! "
I've nothing to hide. It's just a personal reason |
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"Married by any chance OP ?
Hardly likely with plenty of face pics.
Yes lol. I think the 'wife' would have noticed he he"
She might be sight impaired though |
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"Having posted twice on the forums about a hotel meet I'm organizing and getting zero replies, any tips as to how I can get more interest? Thanks "
We find interest limited when we book hotels too... x so no help what so ever... but its not just you |
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"Married by any chance OP ?
What the fucks that got to do with anything?
Maybe, just fucking maybe the feller values his privacy.
Maybe just maybe he doesn't want to invite strangers into his home.
Maybe just maybe he's a single parent and doesn't want to bring someone home when the kids are around.
This narrow minded leap of assumption and accusation really boils my piss.
It's not Thursday is it?
No?
I couldn't feckin wait.... "
Well said Markoh. 
No one should have to justify why the don't want to accommodate random strangers in their home! |
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"Married by any chance OP ?
What the fucks that got to do with anything?
Maybe, just fucking maybe the feller values his privacy.
Maybe just maybe he doesn't want to invite strangers into his home.
Maybe just maybe he's a single parent and doesn't want to bring someone home when the kids are around.
This narrow minded leap of assumption and accusation really boils my piss.
It's not Thursday is it?
No?
I couldn't feckin wait....
Well said Markoh.
No one should have to justify why the don't want to accommodate random strangers in their home! "
I might just bump this on Thursday. |
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"Married by any chance OP ?
What the fucks that got to do with anything?
Maybe, just fucking maybe the feller values his privacy.
Maybe just maybe he doesn't want to invite strangers into his home.
Maybe just maybe he's a single parent and doesn't want to bring someone home when the kids are around.
This narrow minded leap of assumption and accusation really boils my piss.
It's not Thursday is it?
No?
I couldn't feckin wait....
Well said Markoh.
No one should have to justify why the don't want to accommodate random strangers in their home! "
No-one has to. It may help a single man's cause though, as, let's face it, the assumption is cheating. |
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"Married by any chance OP ?
What the fucks that got to do with anything?
Maybe, just fucking maybe the feller values his privacy.
Maybe just maybe he doesn't want to invite strangers into his home.
Maybe just maybe he's a single parent and doesn't want to bring someone home when the kids are around.
This narrow minded leap of assumption and accusation really boils my piss.
It's not Thursday is it?
No?
I couldn't feckin wait....
Well said Markoh.
No one should have to justify why the don't want to accommodate random strangers in their home!
No-one has to. It may help a single man's cause though, as, let's face it, the assumption is cheating."
It's not my assumption.
I don't assume that it's a woman cheating when she's looking for hotel meets either.
Even if someone gives a reason why they choose/prefer a hotel meet other people will ignore it and assume it's a cheating liar.
It's a lose lose.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
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"Married by any chance OP ?
What the fucks that got to do with anything?
Maybe, just fucking maybe the feller values his privacy.
Maybe just maybe he doesn't want to invite strangers into his home.
Maybe just maybe he's a single parent and doesn't want to bring someone home when the kids are around.
This narrow minded leap of assumption and accusation really boils my piss.
It's not Thursday is it?
No?
I couldn't feckin wait....
Well said Markoh.
No one should have to justify why the don't want to accommodate random strangers in their home!
No-one has to. It may help a single man's cause though, as, let's face it, the assumption is cheating.
It's not my assumption.
I don't assume that it's a woman cheating when she's looking for hotel meets either.
Even if someone gives a reason why they choose/prefer a hotel meet other people will ignore it and assume it's a cheating liar.
It's a lose lose.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
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I said it may help. I certainly don't assume cheater (on one factor anyway). I prefer to ask.
I certainly don't think it's all doom n gloom lol. |
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You're doing it completely backwards.
You've got a hotel (with work?) , then asking people to go there on that day.
Message people who you like to meet, then arrange a mutaully convenient time and place.
MrB
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"Married by any chance OP ?
What the fucks that got to do with anything?
Maybe, just fucking maybe the feller values his privacy.
Maybe just maybe he doesn't want to invite strangers into his home.
Maybe just maybe he's a single parent and doesn't want to bring someone home when the kids are around.
This narrow minded leap of assumption and accusation really boils my piss.
It's not Thursday is it?
No?
I couldn't feckin wait....
Well said Markoh.
No one should have to justify why the don't want to accommodate random strangers in their home!
No-one has to. It may help a single man's cause though, as, let's face it, the assumption is cheating.
It's not my assumption.
I don't assume that it's a woman cheating when she's looking for hotel meets either.
Even if someone gives a reason why they choose/prefer a hotel meet other people will ignore it and assume it's a cheating liar.
It's a lose lose.
Damned if you do, damned if you don't.
I said it may help. I certainly don't assume cheater (on one factor anyway). I prefer to ask.
I certainly don't think it's all doom n gloom lol."
I'd always ask too.
And assume I was being told the truth. |
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"You're doing it completely backwards.
You've got a hotel (with work?) , then asking people to go there on that day.
Message people who you like to meet, then arrange a mutaully convenient time and place.
MrB
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I'd not thought of it like that. Sounds like a better way |
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