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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why do men think they can say what they want to a woman?? Why do they feel the need to lash out when they don't get what they want ?? This is a swingers/ sex site. I answer and decide with whom I will meet when I can and want. Not the other way round. If it doesn't suit well it doesn't. "Get over yourself "
You don't walk in my shoes so don't judge. Absolute a- hole.
Rant over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well said Hun, this assumption of entitlement some of them have is getting out of hand , I'm finding some are unnessarily brutal in some of their comments, i firmly believe the people in question are getting a kick out of verbally attacking us. Unfair and uncalled for. Hope your ok xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with you Ladies. No one should be treated foul outside their comfort zone.
It's a shame how guys act like little teenagers and do need to grow up.
If someone doesn't reply there are many reasons.
Some guys can't take rejection very easily as they think they are Gods gift on earth.
Respect doesn't cost anything regardless of what type of site this is and what we are looking for.
I also agree that women are not Dial a Fuck either.
What a shame. Many guys act so immature and are a plague. Hey really do need to be reported and blocked.
If only there was a wall of shame or name and shame was allowed. I guess guys would abuse that too unnecessarily.
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By *irl86Woman
over a year ago
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I agree, I regularly get messages over and over again with threats that I won't verify myself to people I have no intention of talking to, never mind meeting, even when I have completely ignored all messages from them so far!
My profile even says I'm not really looking to meet anyone at the moment and that I'm in Australia but still get intimidated by men.
I just don't understand this entitlement some people have!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many guys on here lack education.
For this reason they flash their mouldy body parts hoping a fish takes the bite.
I'm sorry but I disagree with this attitude and need to be ignored and immediately blocked.
Do you remember the playground saying 'Sticks and stones won't break my bones'?
Well just ignore them. Such a shame free sites are being plagued by these tramps. Craig's List was good but now home to spammers. This site is near enough becoming infected too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do men think they can say what they want to a woman?? Why do they feel the need to lash out when they don't get what they want ?? This is a swingers/ sex site. I answer and decide with whom I will meet when I can and want. Not the other way round. If it doesn't suit well it doesn't. "Get over yourself "
You don't walk in my shoes so don't judge. Absolute a- hole.
Rant over. "
Because all men are cunts and bastards obvs.
Of course all women and couples are paragons of virtue and saintly in their behaviours and interactions.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I agree with you Ladies. No one should be treated foul outside their comfort zone.
It's a shame how guys act like little teenagers and do need to grow up.
If someone doesn't reply there are many reasons.
Some guys can't take rejection very easily as they think they are Gods gift on earth.
Respect doesn't cost anything regardless of what type of site this is and what we are looking for.
I also agree that women are not Dial a Fuck either.
What a shame. Many guys act so immature and are a plague. Hey really do need to be reported and blocked.
If only there was a wall of shame or name and shame was allowed. I guess guys would abuse that too unnecessarily.
Accept and move on.
I don't get an answer I move on.
Plenty of fish in the sea.
Don't judge if you haven't walked in my shoes.
To be told I have to get over myself. Well shows me your true colours. No thanks.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree with you Ladies. No one should be treated foul outside their comfort zone.
It's a shame how guys act like little teenagers and do need to grow up.
If someone doesn't reply there are many reasons.
Some guys can't take rejection very easily as they think they are Gods gift on earth.
Respect doesn't cost anything regardless of what type of site this is and what we are looking for.
I also agree that women are not Dial a Fuck either.
What a shame. Many guys act so immature and are a plague. Hey really do need to be reported and blocked.
If only there was a wall of shame or name and shame was allowed. I guess guys would abuse that too unnecessarily.
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Well said, not all guys on here are immature assholes, us mature and respectful sort are like fricken gold dust though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree if we could warn each other about the ones to stay clear of because of abuse that would be an improvement. Unfortunately fab takes no action when abuse is reported. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree if we could warn each other about the ones to stay clear of because of abuse that would be an improvement. Unfortunately fab takes no action when abuse is reported. "
Apart from blocking each other from seeing each other, there really isn't much more that can be done, a site ban doesn't work can they can rejoin. |
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"Why do men think they can say what they want to a woman?? Why do they feel the need to lash out when they don't get what they want ?? This is a swingers/ sex site. I answer and decide with whom I will meet when I can and want. Not the other way round. If it doesn't suit well it doesn't. "Get over yourself "
You don't walk in my shoes so don't judge. Absolute a- hole.
Rant over. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree, I regularly get messages over and over again with threats that I won't verify myself to people I have no intention of talking to, never mind meeting, even when I have completely ignored all messages from them so far!
My profile even says I'm not really looking to meet anyone at the moment and that I'm in Australia but still get intimidated by men.
I just don't understand this entitlement some people have! "
Same here Hun.
As well as guys hurling insults daily that I must be fake as I won't meet them, there's a particular couple who have started messaging saying I'm wasting everyone's time etc etc. I never reply but I don't see how the way in which o use the site, affects other people.
It's like a form of bullying to try and get people to meet you and my only concern is that some people less headstrong might fall for it.
Rant over also! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree, I regularly get messages over and over again with threats that I won't verify myself to people I have no intention of talking to, never mind meeting, even when I have completely ignored all messages from them so far!
My profile even says I'm not really looking to meet anyone at the moment and that I'm in Australia but still get intimidated by men.
I just don't understand this entitlement some people have!
Same here Hun.
As well as guys hurling insults daily that I must be fake as I won't meet them, there's a particular couple who have started messaging saying I'm wasting everyone's time etc etc. I never reply but I don't see how the way in which o use the site, affects other people.
It's like a form of bullying to try and get people to meet you and my only concern is that some people less headstrong might fall for it.
Rant over also! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Apply all filters and search and message the men you are interested in. This should help stop any nasty messages.
*this. ^^^^^^^^^
Markoh is one of the sites' lovelies xxx"
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Your usual commission?  |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Apply all filters and search and message the men you are interested in. This should help stop any nasty messages.
*this. ^^^^^^^^^
Markoh is one of the sites' lovelies xxx
The cheque's in the post.
Your usual commission? "
Yes thanks!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Apply all filters and search and message the men you are interested in. This should help stop any nasty messages.
*this. ^^^^^^^^^
Markoh is one of the sites' lovelies xxx
The cheque's in the post.
Your usual commission?
Yes thanks! "
Used notes and cake?  |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Apply all filters and search and message the men you are interested in. This should help stop any nasty messages.
*this. ^^^^^^^^^
Markoh is one of the sites' lovelies xxx
The cheque's in the post.
Your usual commission?
Yes thanks!
Used notes and cake? "
Yes, a nice piece of fruit cake, and a cup of tea...x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do men think they can say what they want to a woman?? Why do they feel the need to lash out when they don't get what they want ?? This is a swingers/ sex site. I answer and decide with whom I will meet when I can and want. Not the other way round. If it doesn't suit well it doesn't. "Get over yourself "
You don't walk in my shoes so don't judge. Absolute a- hole.
Rant over. "
We only meet single guys and not couples and have never had a problem with saying no thanks. I try and answer every message politely and not just 'no' .. I read and answer every message I can. A lot of guys say thank you 'your the first one to even reply'... how can people judge someone on 1 message ? How many good guys are missed with out having a decent conversation with them first xx just saying ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get over yourselves girlies. Do you think that your life's are harder than men's?
We all get abuse. And sometimes not for who we are but for what we are.
I love these threads because it allows me to see the women who are misandrists and have chips on their shoulders because they fuck of their dreams isn't floating into their laps. |
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"Get over yourselves girlies. Do you think that your life's are harder than men's?
We all get abuse. And sometimes not for who we are but for what we are.
I love these threads because it allows me to see the women who are misandrists and have chips on their shoulders because they fuck of their dreams isn't floating into their laps."
Its pretty easy to see who is up themselves and entitled on here, from their replies on the forums and from their verifications. When I met men alone, there were the odd few abusive comments, but I can give as good as I get and I am not phased by such things. Many people are racially abusive though, and that shouldn't happen here. Of course, now the 'fuck of my dreams' has fallen into my lap, I don't meet men anymore ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do men think they can say what they want to a woman?? Why do they feel the need to lash out when they don't get what they want ?? This is a swingers/ sex site. I answer and decide with whom I will meet when I can and want. Not the other way round. If it doesn't suit well it doesn't. "Get over yourself "
You don't walk in my shoes so don't
judge. Absolute a- hole.
Rant over. "
Men don't think this
Only certian people of both sexes do,
Hence the word idiots |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Apply all filters and search and message the men you are interested in. This should help stop any nasty messages.
*this. ^^^^^^^^^
Markoh is one of the sites' lovelies xxx
The cheque's in the post.
Your usual commission?
Yes thanks!
Used notes and cake?
Yes, a nice piece of fruit cake, and a cup of tea...x"
Sorted. Kettles on.....
Madiera OK? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get over yourselves girlies. Do you think that your life's are harder than men's?
We all get abuse. And sometimes not for who we are but for what we are.
I love these threads because it allows me to see the women who are misandrists and have chips on their shoulders because they fuck of their dreams isn't floating into their laps.
Its pretty easy to see who is up themselves and entitled on here, from their replies on the forums and from their verifications. When I met men alone, there were the odd few abusive comments, but I can give as good as I get and I am not phased by such things. Many people are racially abusive though, and that shouldn't happen here. Of course, now the 'fuck of my dreams' has fallen into my lap, I don't meet men anymore ..."
Someone abused you for being white? That's strange. I've only been attacked for my ethnicity, not my 'race'. |
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By *rs DCouple
over a year ago
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"Why do men think they can say what they want to a woman?? Why do they feel the need to lash out when they don't get what they want ?? This is a swingers/ sex site. I answer and decide with whom I will meet when I can and want. Not the other way round. If it doesn't suit well it doesn't. "Get over yourself "
You don't walk in my shoes so don't judge. Absolute a- hole.
Rant over. "
you been on this site for only one week chic and your already ranting in the forums, chill ur beans |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree with you Ladies. No one should be treated foul outside their comfort zone.
It's a shame how guys act like little teenagers and do need to grow up.
If someone doesn't reply there are many reasons.
Some guys can't take rejection very easily as they think they are Gods gift on earth.
Respect doesn't cost anything regardless of what type of site this is and what we are looking for.
I also agree that women are not Dial a Fuck either.
What a shame. Many guys act so immature and are a plague. Hey really do need to be reported and blocked.
If only there was a wall of shame or name and shame was allowed. I guess guys would abuse that too unnecessarily.
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Is that a trumpet fanfare and the sound of horses hooves I hear?
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"Get over yourselves girlies. Do you think that your life's are harder than men's?
We all get abuse. And sometimes not for who we are but for what we are.
I love these threads because it allows me to see the women who are misandrists and have chips on their shoulders because they fuck of their dreams isn't floating into their laps.
Its pretty easy to see who is up themselves and entitled on here, from their replies on the forums and from their verifications. When I met men alone, there were the odd few abusive comments, but I can give as good as I get and I am not phased by such things. Many people are racially abusive though, and that shouldn't happen here. Of course, now the 'fuck of my dreams' has fallen into my lap, I don't meet men anymore ...
Someone abused you for being white? That's strange. I've only been attacked for my ethnicity, not my 'race'."
Not me, my partner and others I was meeting .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Get over yourselves girlies. Do you think that your life's are harder than men's?
We all get abuse. And sometimes not for who we are but for what we are.
I love these threads because it allows me to see the women who are misandrists and have chips on their shoulders because they fuck of their dreams isn't floating into their laps.
Its pretty easy to see who is up themselves and entitled on here, from their replies on the forums and from their verifications. When I met men alone, there were the odd few abusive comments, but I can give as good as I get and I am not phased by such things. Many people are racially abusive though, and that shouldn't happen here. Of course, now the 'fuck of my dreams' has fallen into my lap, I don't meet men anymore ...
Someone abused you for being white? That's strange. I've only been attacked for my ethnicity, not my 'race'.
Not me, my partner and others I was meeting ...."
Strange. Seems of the blue. Suppose it's how you define it. |
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"[Removed by poster at 03/12/16 19:51:43]"
I haven't said anything about their race, what it is .... or their ethnicity. It's not the point. The point is that some races get abusive messages and no-one is surprised; I am not sure but I believe it may well be the same for some ethnicities. The point is, abusive rude people are abusive and rude and believe they are entitled to be ... |
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"Get over yourselves girlies. Do you think that your life's are harder than men's?
We all get abuse. And sometimes not for who we are but for what we are.
I love these threads because it allows me to see the women who are misandrists and have chips on their shoulders because they fuck of their dreams isn't floating into their laps.
Its pretty easy to see who is up themselves and entitled on here, from their replies on the forums and from their verifications. When I met men alone, there were the odd few abusive comments, but I can give as good as I get and I am not phased by such things. Many people are racially abusive though, and that shouldn't happen here. Of course, now the 'fuck of my dreams' has fallen into my lap, I don't meet men anymore ...
Someone abused you for being white? That's strange. I've only been attacked for my ethnicity, not my 'race'.
Not me, my partner and others I was meeting ....
Strange. Seems of the blue. Suppose it's how you define it."
Linking to the OP's point, it is out of the blue and more to do with where the person making the abusive comments is coming from and their mind set ... needing to put other people down toymaker themselves feel better. |
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Having been here for a while,it appears that people break down into a few categories.In listing them as I see it,everyone is entitled to their own motives as long as they do not hurt anyone else.
Firstly there are swingers.
Then there are attached people who want to play away.
Then there are some folks looking for relationships and sex is incidental.
There are also those who simply like the site, the forums,the chat etc and have no interest in meeting.
Finally there are those who have a predatory approach to their desired targets and feel that there is a god given right to sex within the next ten minutes.
Or am I wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oi Markoh!
I think you'll find I am a paragon of virtue!
How bloody rude and entitled are you?  "
Good to know.
I'm not rude at all.
Cheeky. Yes.
Sarcastic. Yes.
Rude? Never. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Apply all filters and search and message the men you are interested in. This should help stop any nasty messages.
*this. ^^^^^^^^^
Markoh is one of the sites' lovelies xxx
The cheque's in the post.
Your usual commission?
Yes thanks!
Used notes and cake?
Yes, a nice piece of fruit cake, and a cup of tea...x
Sorted. Kettles on.....
Madiera OK? "
Prefer a bit of fruit cake x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Having been here for a while,it appears that people break down into a few categories.In listing them as I see it,everyone is entitled to their own motives as long as they do not hurt anyone else.
Firstly there are swingers.
Then there are attached people who want to play away.
Then there are some folks looking for relationships and sex is incidental.
There are also those who simply like the site, the forums,the chat etc and have no interest in meeting.
Finally there are those who have a predatory approach to their desired targets and feel that there is a god given right to sex within the next ten minutes.
Or am I wrong?"
You missed a few out and swingers wouldn't be top of the list (they'd be below singles looking for a shag) |
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"Having been here for a while,it appears that people break down into a few categories.In listing them as I see it,everyone is entitled to their own motives as long as they do not hurt anyone else.
Firstly there are swingers.
Then there are attached people who want to play away.
Then there are some folks looking for relationships and sex is incidental.
There are also those who simply like the site, the forums,the chat etc and have no interest in meeting.
Finally there are those who have a predatory approach to their desired targets and feel that there is a god given right to sex within the next ten minutes.
Or am I wrong?
You missed a few out and swingers wouldn't be top of the list (they'd be below singles looking for a shag)"
OK.....in no particular order but what can you add? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Apply all filters and search and message the men you are interested in. This should help stop any nasty messages.
*this. ^^^^^^^^^
Markoh is one of the sites' lovelies xxx
The cheque's in the post.
Your usual commission?
Yes thanks!
Used notes and cake?
Yes, a nice piece of fruit cake, and a cup of tea...x
Sorted. Kettles on.....
Madiera OK?
Prefer a bit of fruit cake x"
I'll make sure theres plenty of fruit. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"Apply all filters and search and message the men you are interested in. This should help stop any nasty messages.
*this. ^^^^^^^^^
Markoh is one of the sites' lovelies xxx
The cheque's in the post.
Your usual commission?
Yes thanks!
Used notes and cake?
Yes, a nice piece of fruit cake, and a cup of tea...x
Sorted. Kettles on.....
Madiera OK?
Prefer a bit of fruit cake x
I'll make sure theres plenty of fruit. "
I like it very fruity  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Apply all filters and search and message the men you are interested in. This should help stop any nasty messages.
*this. ^^^^^^^^^
Markoh is one of the sites' lovelies xxx
The cheque's in the post.
Your usual commission?
Yes thanks!
Used notes and cake?
Yes, a nice piece of fruit cake, and a cup of tea...x
Sorted. Kettles on.....
Madiera OK?
Prefer a bit of fruit cake x
I'll make sure theres plenty of fruit.
I like it very fruity "
And leafy? |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"Apply all filters and search and message the men you are interested in. This should help stop any nasty messages.
*this. ^^^^^^^^^
Markoh is one of the sites' lovelies xxx
The cheque's in the post.
Your usual commission?
Yes thanks!
Used notes and cake?
Yes, a nice piece of fruit cake, and a cup of tea...x
Sorted. Kettles on.....
Madiera OK?
Prefer a bit of fruit cake x
I'll make sure theres plenty of fruit.
I like it very fruity
And leafy? "
Indeed x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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So because I have only been on fab for a week I am not entitled to express my "displeasure" at some men who take it upon themselves to make me feel like a whore?? Tell me your address and I will come over and sort you out ??Get over myself?? I was under the impression a woman is entitled to having the right to say no if she chooses to. Has fab become a "pussy grabbing " site ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So because I have only been on fab for a week I am not entitled to express my "displeasure" at some men who take it upon themselves to make me feel like a whore?? Tell me your address and I will come over and sort you out ??Get over myself?? I was under the impression a woman is entitled to having the right to say no if she chooses to. Has fab become a "pussy grabbing " site ?? "
Absolutely not, however the site does give you the tools to avoid this.
The best advice has already been suggested, close your filters and do your own searching.
The very men you're complaining about probably don't read the forums, you're venting to the wrong audience. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So because I have only been on fab for a week I am not entitled to express my "displeasure" at some men who take it upon themselves to make me feel like a whore?? Tell me your address and I will come over and sort you out ??Get over myself?? I was under the impression a woman is entitled to having the right to say no if she chooses to. Has fab become a "pussy grabbing " site ??
Absolutely not, however the site does give you the tools to avoid this.
The best advice has already been suggested, close your filters and do your own searching.
The very men you're complaining about probably don't read the forums, you're venting to the wrong audience."
I've learnt my lesson.
Moving on.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So because I have only been on fab for a week I am not entitled to express my "displeasure" at some men who take it upon themselves to make me feel like a whore?? Tell me your address and I will come over and sort you out ??Get over myself?? I was under the impression a woman is entitled to having the right to say no if she chooses to. Has fab become a "pussy grabbing " site ??
Absolutely not, however the site does give you the tools to avoid this.
The best advice has already been suggested, close your filters and do your own searching.
The very men you're complaining about probably don't read the forums, you're venting to the wrong audience.
I've learnt my lesson.
Moving on.
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This place can be harsh sometimes.
But it can be a beautiful supportive place too.
It'll drive you to distraction some days, tears the next.
Before you know it you'll be pissing yourself laughing over something else.
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