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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I had a bit of a dilemma at a work event yesterday. I met for the first time a very attractive woman, we chatted, she liked my jokes. All good, except for the fact that I would suggest she is out of my league if for no other reason than she's about 20 years younger then me.
Anyway, group photo time and (what a shame) I am placed next to her. The photographer requested we all 'squeeze in please' at which point I became VERY, VERY conscious of the fact that she had squeezed in and had turned in to such an extent that her breast very firmly pressed against my arm.
Now it was very pleasant but...... what does one do in these circumstances? I assumed she was as conscious as I of the proximity of her breast against my arm (ladies, could you verify?) and yet neither of us did anything about it. One on my behalf, I hadn't instigated the movement and it felt nice. I also thought that if I moved my arm away it would somehow be an acknowledgement.
I am assuming that she too once she was pressed against me in such a way thought that if she moved it would be an acknowledgement and it would therefore be a bit embarrassing.
But it did get me thinking about the protocol should be. Should I have been gallant and moved? Or was I right to pretend it hadn't happened and stand there for several more minutes even though I was enjoying the 'situation'. Was she even aware? Given that I was aware and did nothing does it in law constitute a sexual assault even???
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tricky one I'd say but I guess given the circumstances there was no harm and no foul called by either party?
I'm assuming she hasn't complained that she was squeezed up against work mates in a way that 'exposed' her? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Maybe just maybe her tit brushed your arm! No big deal and you're overthinking something that doesn't mean anything, would there be a thread today if Greasy Mike from accounts had pushed his cock into you???  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Should have grabbed her tits, you'd have known one way or another then. Results varying from shagging over the photocopier, to an assault charge and a black eye |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You're way overthinking if I think. "
I often have had to 'squeeze in' for staff group pics. I was normally more concerned about BO and bad breath (other people's) than my boobs mashed up against some guy's arm for 10 mins whilst the photographer mucked about. At work, my boobs are no more sexual than my elbow. Mind you, try grabbing any part of me without a written invitation is tantamount to suicide, which anyone who knows me is well aware! |
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If she squeezed up to you, no need to move. Yes, she was aware and no it doesn't mean anything other than lack of paranoia.
If I miss-time my turn when dancing a chap can get an armful of boob-pressage, and that's just my fault, oops a daisy. If he does it repeatedly, he's trying to cop a squidge and I can ignore it if I don't mind him doing that, or simply refuse to dance with him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a bit of a dilemma at a work event yesterday. I met for the first time a very attractive woman, we chatted, she liked my jokes. All good, except for the fact that I would suggest she is out of my league if for no other reason than she's about 20 years younger then me.
Anyway, group photo time and (what a shame) I am placed next to her. The photographer requested we all 'squeeze in please' at which point I became VERY, VERY conscious of the fact that she had squeezed in and had turned in to such an extent that her breast very firmly pressed against my arm.
Now it was very pleasant but...... what does one do in these circumstances? I assumed she was as conscious as I of the proximity of her breast against my arm (ladies, could you verify?) and yet neither of us did anything about it. One on my behalf, I hadn't instigated the movement and it felt nice. I also thought that if I moved my arm away it would somehow be an acknowledgement.
I am assuming that she too once she was pressed against me in such a way thought that if she moved it would be an acknowledgement and it would therefore be a bit embarrassing.
But it did get me thinking about the protocol should be. Should I have been gallant and moved? Or was I right to pretend it hadn't happened and stand there for several more minutes even though I was enjoying the 'situation'. Was she even aware? Given that I was aware and did nothing does it in law constitute a sexual assault even???
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Can you put a pick of said pic up please ??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Whip up her top and lick her nipples. 
But seriously, you are way overthinking this.
It was a group photo. The photographer had asked you all to move in closer together so that he could fit you all in the shot, and you all complied.
That's it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a bit of a dilemma at a work event yesterday. I met for the first time a very attractive woman, we chatted, she liked my jokes. All good, except for the fact that I would suggest she is out of my league if for no other reason than she's about 20 years younger then me.
Anyway, group photo time and (what a shame) I am placed next to her. The photographer requested we all 'squeeze in please' at which point I became VERY, VERY conscious of the fact that she had squeezed in and had turned in to such an extent that her breast very firmly pressed against my arm.
Now it was very pleasant but...... what does one do in these circumstances? I assumed she was as conscious as I of the proximity of her breast against my arm (ladies, could you verify?) and yet neither of us did anything about it. One on my behalf, I hadn't instigated the movement and it felt nice. I also thought that if I moved my arm away it would somehow be an acknowledgement.
I am assuming that she too once she was pressed against me in such a way thought that if she moved it would be an acknowledgement and it would therefore be a bit embarrassing.
But it did get me thinking about the protocol should be. Should I have been gallant and moved? Or was I right to pretend it hadn't happened and stand there for several more minutes even though I was enjoying the 'situation'. Was she even aware? Given that I was aware and did nothing does it in law constitute a sexual assault even???
Can you put a pick of said pic up please ???"
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There would have been a bra and clothing already pressing her boobs. She probably barely noticed. I swing mine around with abandon and have been known to knock toddlers flying, clumsy mare that I am |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Let me guess, OP. You went to a boys school?"
.....you try and introduce a discussion about contemporary sexual politics in a light hearted way and.....
And blinking heck, I did go to an all boys school.... have we met???????  |
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"You're way overthinking if I think. "
I agree,she may have felt slightly uncomfortable,but it's done. It was her that moved into you,if she didn't want that close a contact then she should have stood forward and not side on. |
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"There would have been a bra and clothing already pressing her boobs. She probably barely noticed. I swing mine around with abandon and have been known to knock toddlers flying, clumsy mare that I am "
Blooming heck how big are they?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a bit of a dilemma at a work event yesterday. I met for the first time a very attractive woman, we chatted, she liked my jokes. All good, except for the fact that I would suggest she is out of my league if for no other reason than she's about 20 years younger then me.
Anyway, group photo time and (what a shame) I am placed next to her. The photographer requested we all 'squeeze in please' at which point I became VERY, VERY conscious of the fact that she had squeezed in and had turned in to such an extent that her breast very firmly pressed against my arm.
Now it was very pleasant but...... what does one do in these circumstances? I assumed she was as conscious as I of the proximity of her breast against my arm (ladies, could you verify?) and yet neither of us did anything about it. One on my behalf, I hadn't instigated the movement and it felt nice. I also thought that if I moved my arm away it would somehow be an acknowledgement.
I am assuming that she too once she was pressed against me in such a way thought that if she moved it would be an acknowledgement and it would therefore be a bit embarrassing.
But it did get me thinking about the protocol should be. Should I have been gallant and moved? Or was I right to pretend it hadn't happened and stand there for several more minutes even though I was enjoying the 'situation'. Was she even aware? Given that I was aware and did nothing does it in law constitute a sexual assault even???
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"Let me guess, OP. You went to a boys school?
.....you try and introduce a discussion about contemporary sexual politics in a light hearted way and.....
And blinking heck, I did go to an all boys school.... have we met??????? "
To be fair you were a bit cryptic .
Most women would move if they were uncomfortable with the situation. It doesn't mean she was trying to convey any intent it just means she believed you to be the kind of man who understood that breasts and arms make contact in group photos.
I understand how men might feel compromised in that situation given the difficulty some have in distinguishing between what's appropriate and what's not though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Group photo...we all hated each other. You could have driven a bus between us all! Just be glad you were all chummy. It's difficult having breasts....they get everywhere! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There would have been a bra and clothing already pressing her boobs. She probably barely noticed. I swing mine around with abandon and have been known to knock toddlers flying, clumsy mare that I am "
Lol...I do that too..and knock things over in shops!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let me guess, OP. You went to a boys school?
.....you try and introduce a discussion about contemporary sexual politics in a light hearted way and.....
And blinking heck, I did go to an all boys school.... have we met??????? "
It was obvious. Not a downer. Just obvious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a bit of a dilemma at a work event yesterday. I met for the first time a very attractive woman, we chatted, she liked my jokes. All good, except for the fact that I would suggest she is out of my league if for no other reason than she's about 20 years younger then me.
Anyway, group photo time and (what a shame) I am placed next to her. The photographer requested we all 'squeeze in please' at which point I became VERY, VERY conscious of the fact that she had squeezed in and had turned in to such an extent that her breast very firmly pressed against my arm.
Now it was very pleasant but...... what does one do in these circumstances? I assumed she was as conscious as I of the proximity of her breast against my arm (ladies, could you verify?) and yet neither of us did anything about it. One on my behalf, I hadn't instigated the movement and it felt nice. I also thought that if I moved my arm away it would somehow be an acknowledgement.
I am assuming that she too once she was pressed against me in such a way thought that if she moved it would be an acknowledgement and it would therefore be a bit embarrassing.
But it did get me thinking about the protocol should be. Should I have been gallant and moved? Or was I right to pretend it hadn't happened and stand there for several more minutes even though I was enjoying the 'situation'. Was she even aware? Given that I was aware and did nothing does it in law constitute a sexual assault even???
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Get a grip you fucking old perv |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Let me guess, OP. You went to a boys school?
.....you try and introduce a discussion about contemporary sexual politics in a light hearted way and.....
And blinking heck, I did go to an all boys school.... have we met???????
It was obvious. Not a downer. Just obvious."
I didn't as it happens, 'twas banter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This, ladies and gents is what happened when your society becomes politially correct to an extreme : A grown man facing genuine concern because his arm brushed against another adult's boob.
I've had a woman rub up my legs with her feet at work. Wonder if HR would even care? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let me guess, OP. You went to a boys school?
.....you try and introduce a discussion about contemporary sexual politics in a light hearted way and.....
And blinking heck, I did go to an all boys school.... have we met???????
It was obvious. Not a downer. Just obvious.
I didn't as it happens, 'twas banter "
Where's the pic? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Let me guess, OP. You went to a boys school?
.....you try and introduce a discussion about contemporary sexual politics in a light hearted way and.....
And blinking heck, I did go to an all boys school.... have we met???????
It was obvious. Not a downer. Just obvious.
I didn't as it happens, 'twas banter "
Yeah, right. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OP, is this a serious thread? I'm thinking not but I can never be too certain on here."
No, it was tongue in cheek. It was referencing workplace sexual politics. Wishing hadn't bothered tbh.....ah well, perhaps I'll start one on message board protocols  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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When i used to help out at the infants school one of the teachers was really hot n me being a big gob he must of known I wanted to fuck him. Anywsy one day whilst on the computer he came n sat next to me n placed him arm firmly against my boob as he was using the mouse. I recon that was a deliberate act but nothing ever came of it between us. I've since heard hes shagging another helper. Bastard. xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, is this a serious thread? I'm thinking not but I can never be too certain on here.
No, it was tongue in cheek. It was referencing workplace sexual politics. Wishing hadn't bothered tbh.....ah well, perhaps I'll start one on message board protocols "
So no pic? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, is this a serious thread? I'm thinking not but I can never be too certain on here.
No, it was tongue in cheek. It was referencing workplace sexual politics. Wishing hadn't bothered tbh.....ah well, perhaps I'll start one on message board protocols So no pic?"
No, don't think there was one |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, is this a serious thread? I'm thinking not but I can never be too certain on here.
No, it was tongue in cheek. It was referencing workplace sexual politics. Wishing hadn't bothered tbh.....ah well, perhaps I'll start one on message board protocols "
Don't bother, your subtle wit is wasted here, peals and swine come to mind.  |
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By *eliWoman
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"OP, is this a serious thread? I'm thinking not but I can never be too certain on here.
No, it was tongue in cheek. It was referencing workplace sexual politics. Wishing hadn't bothered tbh.....ah well, perhaps I'll start one on message board protocols
Don't bother, your subtle wit is wasted here, peals and swine come to mind. "
Yes, of course. Because clearly a failure to understand if something is well intentioned humour or not is indicative of stupidity, nothing else. Thank you for the clarification. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, is this a serious thread? I'm thinking not but I can never be too certain on here.
No, it was tongue in cheek. It was referencing workplace sexual politics. Wishing hadn't bothered tbh.....ah well, perhaps I'll start one on message board protocols
Don't bother, your subtle wit is wasted here, peals and swine come to mind.
Yes, of course. Because clearly a failure to understand if something is well intentioned humour or not is indicative of stupidity, nothing else. Thank you for the clarification."
Need to clarify; I was having a dig at the OP, not at the rest of us who he sucked into his personal fantasy. |
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