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"I don't show mine anyway. So no one knows if I have 1 or 100  "
Yeah,your decision. However, why not on the same status as seeing who is on nearby? If you hide yourself and location then you can't see others who have shared this.
IE if you hide your verification, you cannot see others.
Balanced information flow.
Same as what's app big you choose to not show when you checked a message you can't see others.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How do you judge though
I've had several profiles over the years so no one knows how many veri's I've had. Quite little in my case but can you rely on honesty round here.
As people have social veri's or can have been here years etc I don't judge people by verifications they don't always give the full story
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't care if someone has none or 100. If we talk, and I like them, I will meet them. I don't discuss my past partners or receive verifications from everyone I meet, so you wouldn't have a clue how many I have had sex with. |
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"How do you judge though
I've had several profiles over the years so no one knows how many veri's I've had. Quite little in my case but can you rely on honesty round here.
As people have social veri's or can have been here years etc I don't judge people by verifications they don't always give the full story
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Yes not the whole story...but a good flavour.
A couple of us locally exchange notes on the Avoid that one! verification .
I am topping quite a few people's, they inform me
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"I don't care if someone has none or 100. If we talk, and I like them, I will meet them. I don't discuss my past partners or receive verifications from everyone I meet, so you wouldn't have a clue how many I have had sex with. "
Ones with bareback verification? |
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"I don't care if someone has none or 100. If we talk, and I like them, I will meet them. I don't discuss my past partners or receive verifications from everyone I meet, so you wouldn't have a clue how many I have had sex with.
Ones with bareback verification?"
Bare back no way, Russian roulette |
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"I don't care if someone has none or 100. If we talk, and I like them, I will meet them. I don't discuss my past partners or receive verifications from everyone I meet, so you wouldn't have a clue how many I have had sex with.
Ones with bareback verification?
Bare back no way, Russian roulette "
Quite..my male information gatherers make friends with girls and send me the friends only cum spilling out if pussy shots from friend collection..I swap back on males |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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bollocks. just realised i can no longer say all my veris are fuck meets. 
not that fussed on how many someone has really. i've met guys with none and guys with loads, makes no difference really. the guys with less tend to be a bit shyer that's the main thing, which i like. |
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"IF you hide your verifications you can can see others. I think it only hides yours."
My point. If you hide yours as you don't want to share...them you should not see other people..as trivial information that dies not bother you |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not fussed. I don't give people the option of reading mine because it's none of their concern. I also don't want them cross referencing and sending horrible emails as they've done before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"bollocks. just realised i can no longer say all my veris are fuck meets.
not that fussed on how many someone has really. i've met guys with none and guys with loads, makes no difference really. the guys with less tend to be a bit shyer that's the main thing, which i like."
Look how very shy I must be |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"bollocks. just realised i can no longer say all my veris are fuck meets.
not that fussed on how many someone has really. i've met guys with none and guys with loads, makes no difference really. the guys with less tend to be a bit shyer that's the main thing, which i like.
Look how very shy I must be "
lol. well maybe not all of them.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm realistic enough to know that this is a swinging site and people aren't going to save themselves for me!
So the number of veris doesn't worry me - I make my own decisions about people and how they are when they engage with me and if I like them I will meet them whether they have no veris or 200.
As others have said, veris can be hidden. So that couple you're meeting with 4 veris in a year? How do you know they haven't met hundreds of others anyway?
The only thing that might dissuade me from contacting someone from their veris is if I'm not into the kind of practices that they are. Just because I'd assume our time together would be incompatible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They don't bother me at all. I have about 4 play verifications at the minute, doesn't mean I didn't go out this weekend and get fucked by about 20 men which organised away from fab. Fab isn't the only way people get sex, people go to clubs and there's a fair few that go which aren't on fab, so you don't get a verification to bump the number up.
Never understand why people allow verifications to determine whether they meet the person or not, it's easy not to show all of them or hide your summary, what you gonna do ask to see them all first? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I want to keep my veris to myself.
There personal to me.
But if I don't show them, There's that nagging feeling people will think your fake.
I read other people's. But I don't think they tell the whole story. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Isn't the purpose of a verification to prove that you look like your pics, turn up and can maintain (for the duration of a meet at least) the illusion of sanity?
For the first 4 months of this profile I never wanted any and still managed to meet lots of lovely people. |
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"I also don't want them cross referencing and sending horrible emails as they've done before."
Agreed. I've had issues in the past with guys reading my play veris then hassling the author(s) with unwanted messages about what they wrote. Now only publicly update my social veris. I wouldn't get meets without them.
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"turn on or turn off
People with loads
Or people with a couple
Personally I'm not any hole is a goal and rather ladies with few.
But each to their own "
If you are a person who takes notice of them then I hope you also account for the verifications being from not sexual meets!
You can't just look at a number
Lots of people have socials |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like having a flick through veris, can make hillarious reading times
The only time a veri would have an impact is if they're indulging in something that's a major turn off for me.
Of course I know people could get upto all sorts of unpublished jiggery pokery but once read it's hard to forget. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't care about the number, particularly, but the content has influenced me before. A verification would never encourage me to meet someone I wouldn't otherwise have met, but I've been put off meeting someone by them.
I don't show mine, or the summary. I don't particularly care if this means people think I'm fake, it's none of their business who I have sex with and when. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good point Ruby. I tend to use mine to give people an idea of what I'm like, but am aware of the privacy issue. I hate the way some people use veris as an excuse to boast. The same with updates directed at someone they've just met, tacky and indiscreet in the extreme in my opinion. I would avoid those who do this, rather than make a judgement based solely on veris. |
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By *loppsyWoman
over a year ago
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"I don't care about the number, particularly, but the content has influenced me before. A verification would never encourage me to meet someone I wouldn't otherwise have met, but I've been put off meeting someone by them.
I don't show mine, or the summary. I don't particularly care if this means people think I'm fake, it's none of their business who I have sex with and when."
Yep agree x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can most definitely be swayed on meeting someone, just by reading the verifications. It probably makes me a little bit judgmental but when you're allowing someone in your bed, I think you're allowed to be... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can most definitely be swayed on meeting someone, just by reading the verifications. It probably makes me a little bit judgmental but when you're allowing someone in your bed, I think you're allowed to be..."
I try my best to not judge. But I do. I can't help it.
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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We're not showing any at the moment just because we're not meeting. We'll show those we want to when we do and you'll still have no idea of the numbers or when the latest meet was. It's very easy to portray yourself the way you want with regards to veris especially as hiding your verification summary is an option too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some folk have loads but it doesn't mean they've rode the whole site.just means theyve met lot at social events so how many veries somebody has wouldn't necessatiny put me off |
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"Some folk have loads but it doesn't mean they've rode the whole site.just means theyve met lot at social events so how many veries somebody has wouldn't necessatiny put me off"
This. It's an ill advised methodology to go by numbers alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" The same with updates directed at someone they've just met, tacky and indiscreet in the extreme in my opinion. I would avoid those who do this, rather than make a judgement based solely on veris."
I thought this was how you left a nod to that person.
I update my status this way on the hour, every hour.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can most definitely be swayed on meeting someone, just by reading the verifications. It probably makes me a little bit judgmental but when you're allowing someone in your bed, I think you're allowed to be...
I try my best to not judge. But I do. I can't help it.
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I freely admit I judge on here. I'm never mean with my judgements, I keep them to myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends. If a lot are from the same person or just from social meets then not an issue.
If there a lot lot of met in a car park for bare back type veris then that's more of an alarm bell than a turn off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" The same with updates directed at someone they've just met, tacky and indiscreet in the extreme in my opinion. I would avoid those who do this, rather than make a judgement based solely on veris.
I thought this was how you left a nod to that person.
Each to his own. I personally would be mortified if someone mentioned me in an update, as I value discretion and privacy. But my views are no doubt very old-fashioned, growing up as I did in a non-digital age.
I update my status this way on the hour, every hour. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You see I am so non-technologically aware I managed to reply in the middle of bigey's post! Suffice to say I would not update my status in this way every hour, and would avoid meeting those who did. |
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"You see I am so non-technologically aware I managed to reply in the middle of bigey's post! Suffice to say I would not update my status in this way every hour, and would avoid meeting those who did."
My update is designed to instil delight and amazement into people's life's |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can most definitely be swayed on meeting someone, just by reading the verifications. It probably makes me a little bit judgmental but when you're allowing someone in your bed, I think you're allowed to be...
I try my best to not judge. But I do. I can't help it.
I freely admit I judge on here. I'm never mean with my judgements, I keep them to myself."
That's it isnt it. Being adult enough to keep them to yourself, and using good judgement to enjoy yourself on here regardless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You see I am so non-technologically aware I managed to reply in the middle of bigey's post! Suffice to say I would not update my status in this way every hour, and would avoid meeting those who did.
My update is designed to instil delight and amazement into people's life's "
Aah..well if that's the case, carry on! We need all the delight we can get. And a little amazement possibly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not fussed. I don't give people the option of reading mine because it's none of their concern. I also don't want them cross referencing and sending horrible emails as they've done before."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Doesn't bother me, but if it's a bad meet would you say? If the sex was crap! Little cock  dont think I'd verify if it was bad - and I haven't read a bad one yet! So I don't really read them for verification on that person  |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"Doesn't bother me, but if it's a bad meet would you say? If the sex was crap! Little cock dont think I'd verify if it was bad - and I haven't read a bad one yet! So I don't really read them for verification on that person "
I agree, it's more interesting to see what the return veri says. |
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"I think it depends. If a lot are from the same person or just from social meets then not an issue.
If there a lot lot of met in a car park for bare back type veris then that's more of an alarm bell than a turn off."
On repeat meets on same person: it's a verification. .not a dating diary...cracks me up.. |
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"Good point Ruby. I tend to use mine to give people an idea of what I'm like, but am aware of the privacy issue. I hate the way some people use veris as an excuse to boast. The same with updates directed at someone they've just met, tacky and indiscreet in the extreme in my opinion. I would avoid those who do this, rather than make a judgement based solely on veris."
Cringe worthy.. just private message them..usually guys showing they can get laid |
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"I have very few but I aspire to eventually get over 1000 veris in the next ten years! Just to show off! "
Good luck..1000 better that a wank certifications
What us the biggest total anyone has seen? The one I noted was a couple with 862. Over a few years...
Couples are different territory to single on verification in my book.. |
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I find the content of guys veris a reasonable indication of whether they're a good match for what I seek if there's a common theme - lots of 'nice social, turned up on time' not for me, lots of suckabke cock just a taker, fucked me hard not enough foreplay, oral skills to die for well hello there 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't publish all ours , nor do we show our summary . And of late we don't ask for them or give them . We stopped caring some time ago for precisely the reasons expressed by those who judge others by how many others have . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don't ask for them or give unless asked to.
We see the veri's as proof the couple are who they say they are and do actually meet.
There's a profile that has over 200 veri's yet all of them are cam veri's. Obviously a couple that are not worth bothering with to try an arrange a meet. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"I find the content of guys veris a reasonable indication of whether they're a good match for what I seek if there's a common theme - lots of 'nice social, turned up on time' not for me, lots of suckabke cock just a taker, fucked me hard not enough foreplay, oral skills to die for well hello there
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So if I meet a series of people, and am adaptable enough to their desires that we both have a great time doing something that's not on your priority list, you'll decide I'm too one-dimensional?
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