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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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yes romantic Love, as River and Jack mention there is nothing more powerful than love, yet it does come with advantage and inconvenient to some extent.
But everybody's conceptualisation of love is different, due to many inside as well as outside factors.
Wonder how everybody else sees love ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes romantic Love, as River and Jack mention there is nothing more powerful than love, yet it does come with advantage and inconvenient to some extent.
But everybody's conceptualisation of love is different, due to many inside as well as outside factors.
Wonder how everybody else sees love ?
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I'm not sure love can be easily described, there are so many variants to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think my love for my daughter is more powerful than any other type tbh. Just my opinion though."
Totally agree. Nothing else compares to the love you feel for your child. |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"yes romantic Love, as River and Jack mention there is nothing more powerful than love, yet it does come with advantage and inconvenient to some extent.
But everybody's conceptualisation of love is different, due to many inside as well as outside factors.
Wonder how everybody else sees love ?
I'm not sure love can be easily described, there are so many variants to it."
Love is danger,
Love is pleasure,
Love is pure,
The only treasure.
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Best description I've heard.
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Interesting.
My bestfriends have been there for over 30 years we are like sisters.
I fell romanticaly in love just over 10 years ago. I was happy not being in love.
However im in the fortunate position to have it all now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The best feeling in the world?
Those early stages of love. When your tummy gets butterflies and you get goosebumps just at the mere thought of your beau. When they are literally all you think about and you live for those moments you're in their company.
(Caveat: sadly I've never experienced the birth of my own child which I'm guessing would be the only thing to trump this)
If the love endures then I'd say love. But friendship is hugely important too and as has already been said, the two aren't mutually exclusive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The two aren't mutually exclusive.
Certainly, yet it does come with commitments and expectations from both part. Maybe not on the level though "
I meant more that you can find them in the same person. Unless we're talking love for children, which I don't know about. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The two aren't mutually exclusive.
Certainly, yet it does come with commitments and expectations from both part. Maybe not on the level though
I meant more that you can find them in the same person. Unless we're talking love for children, which I don't know about. "
For instance, if the conceptualisation you have of love differs from the one the person you love has.
How does it work?
In a relationship, both part have to do some concessions, yet if those concessions make you fell like you are selling your self worth in order to be with the person you love, in that case is his/her friendship better than love ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The best feeling in the world?
Those early stages of love. When your tummy gets butterflies and you get goosebumps just at the mere thought of your beau. When they are literally all you think about and you live for those moments you're in their company.
(Caveat: sadly I've never experienced the birth of my own child which I'm guessing would be the only thing to trump this)
If the love endures then I'd say love. But friendship is hugely important too and as has already been said, the two aren't mutually exclusive."
Exactly, 'if' the love endures... can it endures though ?
Friendship doesn't die as fast as love, or does it ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think my love for my daughter is more powerful than any other type tbh. Just my opinion though.
Totally agree. Nothing else compares to the love you feel for your child."
Yes, even if I don't know that YET |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The two aren't mutually exclusive.
Certainly, yet it does come with commitments and expectations from both part. Maybe not on the level though
I meant more that you can find them in the same person. Unless we're talking love for children, which I don't know about.
For instance, if the conceptualisation you have of love differs from the one the person you love has.
How does it work?
In a relationship, both part have to do some concessions, yet if those concessions make you fell like you are selling your self worth in order to be with the person you love, in that case is his/her friendship better than love ? "
If the concessions make you feel you are selling your self worth I'd argue it isn't love. In relationships you always have compromise and concessions, of course, but I think if you're in love with someone you want to make those concessions. And I don't believe that kind of love can exist in a one-sided way, you have to love each other or it's not love. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The two aren't mutually exclusive.
Certainly, yet it does come with commitments and expectations from both part. Maybe not on the level though
I meant more that you can find them in the same person. Unless we're talking love for children, which I don't know about.
For instance, if the conceptualisation you have of love differs from the one the person you love has.
How does it work?
In a relationship, both part have to do some concessions, yet if those concessions make you fell like you are selling your self worth in order to be with the person you love, in that case is his/her friendship better than love ?
If the concessions make you feel you are selling your self worth I'd argue it isn't love. In relationships you always have compromise and concessions, of course, but I think if you're in love with someone you want to make those concessions. And I don't believe that kind of love can exist in a one-sided way, you have to love each other or it's not love. "
So love must be harmoniously both sided then ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The two aren't mutually exclusive.
Certainly, yet it does come with commitments and expectations from both part. Maybe not on the level though
I meant more that you can find them in the same person. Unless we're talking love for children, which I don't know about.
For instance, if the conceptualisation you have of love differs from the one the person you love has.
How does it work?
In a relationship, both part have to do some concessions, yet if those concessions make you fell like you are selling your self worth in order to be with the person you love, in that case is his/her friendship better than love ?
If the concessions make you feel you are selling your self worth I'd argue it isn't love. In relationships you always have compromise and concessions, of course, but I think if you're in love with someone you want to make those concessions. And I don't believe that kind of love can exist in a one-sided way, you have to love each other or it's not love.
So love must be harmoniously both sided then ?"
Not harmoniously, and obviously people fall out of love, but I don't really think you can be truly in love with someone in the first place without them loving you back - for that real love to develop it needs reciprocation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The best feeling in the world?
Those early stages of love. When your tummy gets butterflies and you get goosebumps just at the mere thought of your beau. When they are literally all you think about and you live for those moments you're in their company.
(Caveat: sadly I've never experienced the birth of my own child which I'm guessing would be the only thing to trump this)
If the love endures then I'd say love. But friendship is hugely important too and as has already been said, the two aren't mutually exclusive."
When I have those early feelings of butterflies etc I put it down to lust, not love. It takes time for love to develop for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think my love for my daughter is more powerful than any other type tbh. Just my opinion though.
Totally agree. Nothing else compares to the love you feel for your child.
Yes, even if I don't know that YET "
But hopefully one day ?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The best feeling in the world?
Those early stages of love. When your tummy gets butterflies and you get goosebumps just at the mere thought of your beau. When they are literally all you think about and you live for those moments you're in their company.
(Caveat: sadly I've never experienced the birth of my own child which I'm guessing would be the only thing to trump this)
If the love endures then I'd say love. But friendship is hugely important too and as has already been said, the two aren't mutually exclusive.
When I have those early feelings of butterflies etc I put it down to lust, not love. It takes time for love to develop for me."
So you don't believe in love in first sight ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The two aren't mutually exclusive.
Certainly, yet it does come with commitments and expectations from both part. Maybe not on the level though
I meant more that you can find them in the same person. Unless we're talking love for children, which I don't know about.
For instance, if the conceptualisation you have of love differs from the one the person you love has.
How does it work?
In a relationship, both part have to do some concessions, yet if those concessions make you fell like you are selling your self worth in order to be with the person you love, in that case is his/her friendship better than love ?
If the concessions make you feel you are selling your self worth I'd argue it isn't love. In relationships you always have compromise and concessions, of course, but I think if you're in love with someone you want to make those concessions. And I don't believe that kind of love can exist in a one-sided way, you have to love each other or it's not love.
So love must be harmoniously both sided then ?
Not harmoniously, and obviously people fall out of love, but I don't really think you can be truly in love with someone in the first place without them loving you back - for that real love to develop it needs reciprocation."
Totally agree with that.  |
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Love is great when you have someone to love, but if that person doesn't love you back anymore and they leave you, part of your life has gone with them, knowing you can't get it back anymore, real love is not easily forgotten, But I guess it's one sided if you still feel for them and they don't. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Relationship wise the way you love that person can change over time. Falling out of friendship with them though is a whole different ball game."
Could you be friend with someone you loved ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Relationship wise the way you love that person can change over time. Falling out of friendship with them though is a whole different ball game.
Could you be friend with someone you loved ? "
As in the relationship has to contain the two elements.
You often here people saying their partner is their best friend.
The way you love a long term partner can change but if you fall out of like with the person then what do you have left?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Relationship wise the way you love that person can change over time. Falling out of friendship with them though is a whole different ball game.
Could you be friend with someone you loved ?
As in the relationship has to contain the two elements.
You often here people saying their partner is their best friend.
The way you love a long term partner can change but if you fall out of like with the person then what do you have left?
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Nothing, except the illusion of a broken relationship that can be fixed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Relationship wise the way you love that person can change over time. Falling out of friendship with them though is a whole different ball game.
Could you be friend with someone you loved ?
As in the relationship has to contain the two elements.
You often here people saying their partner is their best friend.
The way you love a long term partner can change but if you fall out of like with the person then what do you have left?
Nothing, except the illusion of a broken relationship that can be fixed. "
Why would you fix something with someone you didn't like any longer?
I think you can fall out of love with someone & there's a chance it can be rekindled ~ not the same with like. |
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