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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What's your interpretation of NSA within the swinging community?
All it means to me is that I don't want a full time relationship. Nothing more nothing less. I still expect and aim to establish honesty and trust.
In saying that, at clubs I might make small talk but have no desire to know anything else about the person, but if chatting to someone regularly, I do expect them to be honest. Is that a "string"?
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I prefer to call it no hassle! I think to have any relationship requires honesty and integrity? I don't think you necessarily have to have strings however boundaries are acceptable, lots of people are various reasons for being on this site and they should all be respected however to have respect u must have honestly |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"What's your interpretation of NSA within the swinging community?
All it means to me is that I don't want a full time relationship. Nothing more nothing less. I still expect and aim to establish honesty and trust.
In saying that, at clubs I might make small talk but have no desire to know anything else about the person, but if chatting to someone regularly, I do expect them to be honest. Is that a "string"?
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We don't think so, not into fuck & go, so you need conversation & honesty they are not strings though, just good tools to use to make an experience as good as it can be.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I prefer to call it no hassle! I think to have any relationship requires honesty and integrity? I don't think you necessarily have to have strings however boundaries are acceptable, lots of people are various reasons for being on this site and they should all be respected however to have respect u must have honestly"
definitely agree! Honesty & respect go hand in hand. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We meet
We have sex
We may meet again
I wish them well if we don't
We meet
We have sex
We meet again
No need for regular contact"
It's funny coz I kind of agree with this as this pretty much sums up me in clubs.
But if I'm looking at having a one to one, I have to be mentally attracted to them as well as physically. Which does involve an element of contact prior to the meet
But totally get some people who don't need the mental attraction |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For us personally when looking at meets we like to have a social and chat with the prospective meets. For us there has to be something other than physical attraction to the person / people.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can't do clinical sex....but don't ask me anything regarding emotions etc or sex (what's that when it's at home  ) "
sex? What's that? By the time I've spoken to someone for a while I'm usually turned right off lol |
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"I can't do clinical sex....but don't ask me anything regarding emotions etc or sex (what's that when it's at home ) sex? What's that? By the time I've spoken to someone for a while I'm usually turned right off lol "
I'm scared of having sex with someone in case I burst out crying I cannot subject some poor guy who wants to just have sex to that.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As a couple we like interaction and chatting and getting to know everyone is fun. ... honesty is 100% the main factor ...it's all a bit of fun no bunnies should be boiled or stalking required... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We meet
We have sex
We may meet again
I wish them well if we don't
We meet
We have sex
We meet again
No need for regular contact
It's funny coz I kind of agree with this as this pretty much sums up me in clubs.
But if I'm looking at having a one to one, I have to be mentally attracted to them as well as physically. Which does involve an element of contact prior to the meet
But totally get some people who don't need the mental attraction "
This.
When I meet in clubs it's more immediate though- they say you make your mind up about someone within 10 seconds!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't do clinical sex....but don't ask me anything regarding emotions etc or sex (what's that when it's at home ) sex? What's that? By the time I've spoken to someone for a while I'm usually turned right off lol
I'm scared of having sex with someone in case I burst out crying I cannot subject some poor guy who wants to just have sex to that.. "
i made a topic about that when i properly split with my ex. i met a few guys from it and cried on them...they didn't mind and were really nice about it and affectionate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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my idea of NSA is you do't give me any shit about anything to do with my life and how i conduct it, and i'll do the same for you.
respect is still needed.
some 'wooing' is still needed.
fuck and go is a service, which both might enjoy and even quickies in relationships are that.
so yeah, kind of like a relationship but not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me, it can mean friendship, messaging, repeat meets, whatever - but the crucial part is that it's in a little box separate from the rest of my life, and the lid to that box can be opened or closed as I want. |
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"For me, it can mean friendship, messaging, repeat meets, whatever - but the crucial part is that it's in a little box separate from the rest of my life, and the lid to that box can be opened or closed as I want."
i agree with this, plus dont try and tell me what i can or cannot do
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It's quite simple really. 
Not demanding or expecting anything of the other person 
That can be a different thing to a fuck buddy, though 
It's all about how much you invest into the relationship
It's all about setting boundaries and expectations
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"For me, it can mean friendship, messaging, repeat meets, whatever - but the crucial part is that it's in a little box separate from the rest of my life, and the lid to that box can be opened or closed as I want."
I'd say this sums it up for me too.  |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"For me, it can mean friendship, messaging, repeat meets, whatever - but the crucial part is that it's in a little box separate from the rest of my life, and the lid to that box can be opened or closed as I want."
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"For me, it can mean friendship, messaging, repeat meets, whatever - but the crucial part is that it's in a little box separate from the rest of my life, and the lid to that box can be opened or closed as I want."
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"For me, it can mean friendship, messaging, repeat meets, whatever - but the crucial part is that it's in a little box separate from the rest of my life, and the lid to that box can be opened or closed as I want."
Who are you ? Pandora? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me, it can mean friendship, messaging, repeat meets, whatever - but the crucial part is that it's in a little box separate from the rest of my life, and the lid to that box can be opened or closed as I want."
Nail, head, hit on as usual |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me, it can mean friendship, messaging, repeat meets, whatever - but the crucial part is that it's in a little box separate from the rest of my life, and the lid to that box can be opened or closed as I want.
Who are you ? Pandora? "
There's nothing evil in my box  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me, it can mean friendship, messaging, repeat meets, whatever - but the crucial part is that it's in a little box separate from the rest of my life, and the lid to that box can be opened or closed as I want.
Who are you ? Pandora?
There's nothing evil in my box "
nah just a bracelet |
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NSA is just a core principle of the interaction type that I'm involved in. Primarily it would indicate that I'm not really going to have other preconceptions other than standard mutual respect and sexual involvement of whatever kind - it would typically indicate that I'm not pursuing development of any romantic encouter or involvement with a partner.
Whether such interactions are one-off or last many years, as many of mine have done, then we'll always stick to the basics of respect - common courtesies of how we'll communicate if there's a need to change a meet time, if we're running late etc, or if we're no longer interested. A lot of personal information may almost be treated on a 'need to know' basis - they'll probably not be involved with our family, business, employment etc.
Overall, it should be focused on enjoyment and simplicity, to work well for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me, one of the realities of casual sex is that the more often you see someone, the easier it is to become emotionally attached. It's really hard to take a step back from someone you have fantastic sex with. When I joined, I made it my rule that after three meets, I wouldn't see that person again. That soon went out of the window as I now absolutely love repeat meets (not too regularly) with my friends who I trust. Everyone has different relationships with sex, and what works for one person doesn’t for another. I'm happy that the people on my Friends List know all I want from them is honesty, friendship and great sex. I suppose putting it bluntly I am using them for their body, and they are doing the same, nothing more and nothing less? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me, it can mean friendship, messaging, repeat meets, whatever - but the crucial part is that it's in a little box separate from the rest of my life, and the lid to that box can be opened or closed as I want."
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By (user no longer on site)
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We don't mind a chat , but nothing too serious .
A laugh and a giggle maybe , that's enough .
Honesty and trust don't enter the equation , that's way more than we want or require .
It's all about the sex for us , and definately without strings . |
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