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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is it just me who has chatted to people on here and then spotted them on pof? Do you then wonder if they aren't having any luck on here so trying pof or are they actually looking for a relationship too?
And should I post my profile pic on pof, more chance of dates?! Lol!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my account is deleted on there again, no idea why this time, i didn't mention cuckolding on it or 3sums.
google guys you're interested in, then their username and POF, you can see their previous profiles and just how desperate they got and make decisions based on that. yay for google cache. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"my account is deleted on there again, no idea why this time, i didn't mention cuckolding on it or 3sums.
google guys you're interested in, then their username and POF, you can see their previous profiles and just how desperate they got and make decisions based on that. yay for google cache."
I would have never thought of that!! Like how your mind works!! Lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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google guys you're interested in, then their username and POF, you can see their previous profiles and just how desperate they got and make decisions based on that. yay for google cache."
I'm not on POF..never have been.
But that sounds slightly fucking stalker'ish.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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google guys you're interested in, then their username and POF, you can see their previous profiles and just how desperate they got and make decisions based on that. yay for google cache.
I'm not on POF..never have been.
But that sounds slightly fucking stalker'ish. "
maybe, or just covering all bases about how a person presents themselves? i just like to check out previous versions of profiles that's all, it's surprising what you find out about people that way. that way you can avoid making a mistake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would rather here to be honest. When I was single before my fab days and I was on that dating site the amount of rubbish spouted by men was unbelievable. At least here ( when I was a single) we were both on the same page and I wasn't made to think they wanted more when they actually didn't
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Although I'm on there I rarely use it. Started thinking the relationship game doesn't work for me. "
I'm just plotting to become a crazy cat lady, I don't own any cats but I'm sure that it won't stop me! I thought tinder was depressing, pof is winning now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would rather here to be honest. When I was single before my fab days and I was on that dating site the amount of rubbish spouted by men was unbelievable. At least here ( when I was a single) we were both on the same page and I wasn't made to think they wanted more when they actually didn't
Kinky "
I have to agree that here is better  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would rather here to be honest. When I was single before my fab days and I was on that dating site the amount of rubbish spouted by men was unbelievable. At least here ( when I was a single) we were both on the same page and I wasn't made to think they wanted more when they actually didn't
Kinky "
Exactly! Here my bullshit sensor isn't set quite so high! But according to one person I've chatted to on here, my only option for fab is to sleep my way through Somerset |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would rather here to be honest. When I was single before my fab days and I was on that dating site the amount of rubbish spouted by men was unbelievable. At least here ( when I was a single) we were both on the same page and I wasn't made to think they wanted more when they actually didn't
Kinky
Exactly! Here my bullshit sensor isn't set quite so high! But according to one person I've chatted to on here, my only option for fab is to sleep my way through Somerset "
if you have a high sex drive that might just happen... 
think i've done all the passable guys in my area now, and i'm in the middle of everywhere.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fab is the new dating site, the days of driving up in the woods with masks and voyeurism is a thing of the past lol."
I had met someone from here but it didn't work out so stranger things do happen! Lol!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would rather here to be honest. When I was single before my fab days and I was on that dating site the amount of rubbish spouted by men was unbelievable. At least here ( when I was a single) we were both on the same page and I wasn't made to think they wanted more when they actually didn't
Kinky
Exactly! Here my bullshit sensor isn't set quite so high! But according to one person I've chatted to on here, my only option for fab is to sleep my way through Somerset "
It was so funny though because for a period of time I ran the dating site in conjunction with Fab and the amount of people that I recognised from here was unbelievable !! Still spouting their bullshit there though. Now I'm much more able to spot the bullshit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would rather here to be honest. When I was single before my fab days and I was on that dating site the amount of rubbish spouted by men was unbelievable. At least here ( when I was a single) we were both on the same page and I wasn't made to think they wanted more when they actually didn't
Kinky
Exactly! Here my bullshit sensor isn't set quite so high! But according to one person I've chatted to on here, my only option for fab is to sleep my way through Somerset
It was so funny though because for a period of time I ran the dating site in conjunction with Fab and the amount of people that I recognised from here was unbelievable !! Still spouting their bullshit there though. Now I'm much more able to spot the bullshit "
Ah bulls hit spotter good weapon to have in the armoury |
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By *hocmanxMan
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Is it just me who has chatted to people on here and then spotted them on pof? Do you then wonder if they aren't having any luck on here so trying pof or are they actually looking for a relationship too?
And should I post my profile pic on pof, more chance of dates?! Lol!! "
Why not just the person directly? We all have different reasons for doing what we do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would rather here to be honest. When I was single before my fab days and I was on that dating site the amount of rubbish spouted by men was unbelievable. At least here ( when I was a single) we were both on the same page and I wasn't made to think they wanted more when they actually didn't
Kinky
Exactly! Here my bullshit sensor isn't set quite so high! But according to one person I've chatted to on here, my only option for fab is to sleep my way through Somerset
It was so funny though because for a period of time I ran the dating site in conjunction with Fab and the amount of people that I recognised from here was unbelievable !! Still spouting their bullshit there though. Now I'm much more able to spot the bullshit "
Yeah I'm pretty good at it too, but also makes me wonder what they really want and why can't the be honest about it? I like sex, sorry love sex but I'd like someone in my life that's more than a "quick no children this weekend get over here" call! Or maybe it's a female "romantic" notion! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fab is the new dating site, the days of driving up in the woods with masks and voyeurism is a thing of the past lol.
I had met someone from here but it didn't work out so stranger things do happen! Lol!
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lol and that is right, it does there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it just me who has chatted to people on here and then spotted them on pof? Do you then wonder if they aren't having any luck on here so trying pof or are they actually looking for a relationship too?
And should I post my profile pic on pof, more chance of dates?! Lol!!
Why not just the person directly? We all have different reasons for doing what we do. "
Because I'm too much of a chicken!! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it just me who has chatted to people on here and then spotted them on pof? Do you then wonder if they aren't having any luck on here so trying pof or are they actually looking for a relationship too?
And should I post my profile pic on pof, more chance of dates?! Lol!!
Why not just the person directly? We all have different reasons for doing what we do.
Because I'm too much of a chicken!! Lol"
from experience, they always reply. even if you just send a hi there. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tinder isn't too bad lol
I just am struggling to find what I want on either of those sites"
Tinder, literally not one swipe to say they liked the look of me! And then i got told I'm too old for tinder! I'm feckin 39, im not sure I'm quite over the hill yet! Lol |
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By *hocmanxMan
over a year ago
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"Tinder isn't too bad lol
I just am struggling to find what I want on either of those sites
Tinder, literally not one swipe to say they liked the look of me! And then i got told I'm too old for tinder! I'm feckin 39, im not sure I'm quite over the hill yet! Lol"
Why not just change your settings so you only match with people who are 39 or over? And use a profile picture of yourself having a goos time; could be on holiday, at a party, with your pet, anything really |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tinder isn't too bad lol
I just am struggling to find what I want on either of those sites
Tinder, literally not one swipe to say they liked the look of me! And then i got told I'm too old for tinder! I'm feckin 39, im not sure I'm quite over the hill yet! Lol
Why not just change your settings so you only match with people who are 39 or over? And use a profile picture of yourself having a goos time; could be on holiday, at a party, with your pet, anything really"
Errr because i want to match with people younger than me as well as older, rumour has it that us old birds are fancied by younger guys
So I should take down the pics of my future as a crazy cat lady?!  |
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By *hocmanxMan
over a year ago
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"Tinder isn't too bad lol
I just am struggling to find what I want on either of those sites
Tinder, literally not one swipe to say they liked the look of me! And then i got told I'm too old for tinder! I'm feckin 39, im not sure I'm quite over the hill yet! Lol
Why not just change your settings so you only match with people who are 39 or over? And use a profile picture of yourself having a goos time; could be on holiday, at a party, with your pet, anything really
Errr because i want to match with people younger than me as well as older, rumour has it that us old birds are fancied by younger guys
So I should take down the pics of my future as a crazy cat lady?! "
If you're going after younger guys then you'll need a completely different mindset.
The reason we go after older women is that they are more confident and they know what they want. Like it or not you'll have to be the dominant one in the relationship. You can be more vocal about the things you like and don't like.
For the kind of pics you want to put on Tinder, think slutty high school teacher. Hair tied up,cheeky wink behind a pair of glasses, red lipstick, dressed in red...you get the picture. Have a confident body language in your pictures, giving off a subtle dominatrix vibe.
For your tagline you probably want something cheeky and slightly intimidating like
"I'll eat you all up" , "how much stamina do you have?" , "I'm the big bad wolf your mummy warned you about"
Just something along those lines. If you're going to be all shy then nothing's going to happen. You need to take the lead! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tinder isn't too bad lol
I just am struggling to find what I want on either of those sites
Tinder, literally not one swipe to say they liked the look of me! And then i got told I'm too old for tinder! I'm feckin 39, im not sure I'm quite over the hill yet! Lol
Why not just change your settings so you only match with people who are 39 or over? And use a profile picture of yourself having a goos time; could be on holiday, at a party, with your pet, anything really
Errr because i want to match with people younger than me as well as older, rumour has it that us old birds are fancied by younger guys
So I should take down the pics of my future as a crazy cat lady?!
If you're going after younger guys then you'll need a completely different mindset.
The reason we go after older women is that they are more confident and they know what they want. Like it or not you'll have to be the dominant one in the relationship. You can be more vocal about the things you like and don't like.
For the kind of pics you want to put on Tinder, think slutty high school teacher. Hair tied up,cheeky wink behind a pair of glasses, red lipstick, dressed in red...you get the picture. Have a confident body language in your pictures, giving off a subtle dominatrix vibe.
For your tagline you probably want something cheeky and slightly intimidating like
"I'll eat you all up" , "how much stamina do you have?" , "I'm the big bad wolf your mummy warned you about"
Just something along those lines. If you're going to be all shy then nothing's going to happen. You need to take the lead!"
Seriously dude???
Dispensing advice like that to obviously confident ladies doesn't seem like the best post you could have come up with!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to be in Tinder and met a couple of really attractive women who had no confidence whatsoever. Here is the opposite, conventionally unattractive women have all the confidence in the world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be in Tinder and met a couple of really attractive women who had no confidence whatsoever. Here is the opposite, conventionally unattractive women have all the confidence in the world. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Tinder isn't too bad lol
I just am struggling to find what I want on either of those sites
Tinder, literally not one swipe to say they liked the look of me! And then i got told I'm too old for tinder! I'm feckin 39, im not sure I'm quite over the hill yet! Lol
Why not just change your settings so you only match with people who are 39 or over? And use a profile picture of yourself having a goos time; could be on holiday, at a party, with your pet, anything really
Errr because i want to match with people younger than me as well as older, rumour has it that us old birds are fancied by younger guys
So I should take down the pics of my future as a crazy cat lady?!
If you're going after younger guys then you'll need a completely different mindset.
The reason we go after older women is that they are more confident and they know what they want. Like it or not you'll have to be the dominant one in the relationship. You can be more vocal about the things you like and don't like.
For the kind of pics you want to put on Tinder, think slutty high school teacher. Hair tied up,cheeky wink behind a pair of glasses, red lipstick, dressed in red...you get the picture. Have a confident body language in your pictures, giving off a subtle dominatrix vibe.
For your tagline you probably want something cheeky and slightly intimidating like
"I'll eat you all up" , "how much stamina do you have?" , "I'm the big bad wolf your mummy warned you about"
Just something along those lines. If you're going to be all shy then nothing's going to happen. You need to take the lead!
Seriously dude???
Dispensing advice like that to obviously confident ladies doesn't seem like the best post you could have come up with!! "
Thank you
Having had lots of fun with a couple of guys who have been a lot younger than me, my confidence is perfectly fine.
My response to your post was very tongue in cheek and fortunately for me I can see humour in your post because otherwise it could be seen as exceptionally patronising, and that really isn't a good move.
But anyway I shall continue to dabble in all that is dating and all that is fab and see what little gems are hidden away waiting to be found |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tinder isn't too bad lol
I just am struggling to find what I want on either of those sites
Tinder, literally not one swipe to say they liked the look of me! And then i got told I'm too old for tinder! I'm feckin 39, im not sure I'm quite over the hill yet! Lol
Why not just change your settings so you only match with people who are 39 or over? And use a profile picture of yourself having a goos time; could be on holiday, at a party, with your pet, anything really
Errr because i want to match with people younger than me as well as older, rumour has it that us old birds are fancied by younger guys
So I should take down the pics of my future as a crazy cat lady?!
If you're going after younger guys then you'll need a completely different mindset.
The reason we go after older women is that they are more confident and they know what they want. Like it or not you'll have to be the dominant one in the relationship. You can be more vocal about the things you like and don't like.
For the kind of pics you want to put on Tinder, think slutty high school teacher. Hair tied up,cheeky wink behind a pair of glasses, red lipstick, dressed in red...you get the picture. Have a confident body language in your pictures, giving off a subtle dominatrix vibe.
For your tagline you probably want something cheeky and slightly intimidating like
"I'll eat you all up" , "how much stamina do you have?" , "I'm the big bad wolf your mummy warned you about"
Just something along those lines. If you're going to be all shy then nothing's going to happen. You need to take the lead!"
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"Is it just me who has chatted to people on here and then spotted them on pof? Do you then wonder if they aren't having any luck on here so trying pof or are they actually looking for a relationship too?
And should I post my profile pic on pof, more chance of dates?! Lol!! "
But you are on both.... Same reason for you too?! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it just me who has chatted to people on here and then spotted them on pof? Do you then wonder if they aren't having any luck on here so trying pof or are they actually looking for a relationship too?
And should I post my profile pic on pof, more chance of dates?! Lol!!
But you are on both.... Same reason for you too?! "
Absolutely! But I admit to it! Here for fun but still looking for that someone special |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"Is it just me who has chatted to people on here and then spotted them on pof? Do you then wonder if they aren't having any luck on here so trying pof or are they actually looking for a relationship too?
And should I post my profile pic on pof, more chance of dates?! Lol!! "
I'm on pof, I see some ladies on both sites as well, maybe the folk using both use them in different ways and for different things.  ...
I've made no secret I'd like a lady to be a more permanent feature in my life.. for me it's another avenue that helps me find what I'm looking for . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't understand why it would be a bad thing that people are on both sites...there are plenty of people who use this site for casual sex but are also looking for a relationship, and use other sites for that. What is there to catch them out for? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use pof when I'm looking for a relationship and fab so I don't have to be celibate while I'm single.
Works well for me because I don't look for casual sex on pof, I can chat normally without it turning into sexting or trying to swap pics etc...
I am honest on pof and tell women about swinging and fab? Surprising how many women don't have a problem with it? I do get the odd negative response but less than you would think.
Still single though x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It makes perfect sense to be on both sites.
Here for NSA sex, lets face it we all have needs to fulfill.
There or elsewhere to find someone to spend more meaningful time with to hopefully build a relationship from.
If I get spotted on a dating site and then mention here, well clearly they're on here too so fail to see any kind of point they would be making, unless they're just asking how it's going etc.
Too many people worry about such insignificant things. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't understand why it would be a bad thing that people are on both sites...there are plenty of people who use this site for casual sex but are also looking for a relationship, and use other sites for that. What is there to catch them out for? "
I don't think it's bad at all, just curious |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only on this site. Although in the past have been on dating sites.
For me, this suits me. I can meet gorgeous guys for nsa sex and occasionally for fwb type of relationship.
Win win for me |
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"Is it just me who has chatted to people on here and then spotted them on pof? Do you then wonder if they aren't having any luck on here so trying pof or are they actually looking for a relationship too?
And should I post my profile pic on pof, more chance of dates?! Lol!! "
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"Is it just me who has chatted to people on here and then spotted them on pof? Do you then wonder if they aren't having any luck on here so trying pof or are they actually looking for a relationship too?
And should I post my profile pic on pof, more chance of dates?! Lol!! "
When single I was on POF & could have had as many meets on there as on here if I'd wanted! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to be in Tinder and met a couple of really attractive women who had no confidence whatsoever. Here is the opposite, conventionally unattractive women have all the confidence in the world. "
Same could be said of some men |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have to say, I've tried the online dating thing and find it really superficial. It's all about the pretty pictures. You can have a thousands interests in common, but if you don't photograph well, you won't even get a response.
I much prefer meeting people in the real world for meaningful relationships.
The thing I like about swinging sites, is that people can be totally honest. Not that everyone is, to be fair.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have to say, I've tried the online dating thing and find it really superficial. It's all about the pretty pictures. You can have a thousands interests in common, but if you don't photograph well, you won't even get a response.
I much prefer meeting people in the real world for meaningful relationships.
The thing I like about swinging sites, is that people can be totally honest. Not that everyone is, to be fair.. "
Totally agree, that's why I'm wondering, stick a pic of my boobs on and I might some interest! Lol!
I'd like to meet someone in the real world but a move to a new area and a very limited social life makes it trickier hence online shenanigans. But I know my turn will come until then I shall keep dabbling in fab for lots of fun |
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"I used to be in Tinder and met a couple of really attractive women who had no confidence whatsoever. Here is the opposite, conventionally unattractive women have all the confidence in the world. "
Is having confidence seen as a bad thing now, or was that just an observation? |
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"I used to be in Tinder and met a couple of really attractive women who had no confidence whatsoever. Here is the opposite, conventionally unattractive women have all the confidence in the world. "
dont you think thats great. That confidence comes from within and not looks
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a lady friend on there think its the same deal the woman get bombarded with messages by men.
Loads more woman on it and sexy asf woman to its more mainstream this site is more niche alot of people never heard of |
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