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"Nope.. stand up to bullies with wit, banter or a smack. always worked for me. xx" +1. If anybody does ever try to bully you OP cut all contact and block the profile. | |||
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"I haven't had a problem with this site but another is getting beyond a joke that 2 people are actually threatening and abusive not just through the site but got our personal mail also. They don't meet, but we have met many and enjoy it thats why we are on these sites obviously lol. I won't let them win but just wanted others _iews on how can a site let this happen to genuine people." Don't worry about it. We were accused of being a fake last year (as I'm the only one who posts on here, Siren doesn't use the account at all), but all that changed when we went to the Chams Social and strangely the rumours stopped the very next day. Didn't get any apologies though. | |||
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Let their admin deal with the issue | |||
"I haven't had a problem with this site but another is getting beyond a joke that 2 people are actually threatening and abusive not just through the site but got our personal mail also. They don't meet, but we have met many and enjoy it thats why we are on these sites obviously lol. I won't let them win but just wanted others _iews on how can a site let this happen to genuine people. Don't worry about it. We were accused of being a fake last year (as I'm the only one who posts on here, Siren doesn't use the account at all), but all that changed when we went to the Chams Social and strangely the rumours stopped the very next day. Didn't get any apologies though. "awww nice to see u still here n whingin away happy as larry!!!  | |||
"I haven't had a problem with this site but another is getting beyond a joke that 2 people are actually threatening and abusive not just through the site but got our personal mail also. They don't meet, but we have met many and enjoy it thats why we are on these sites obviously lol. I won't let them win but just wanted others _iews on how can a site let this happen to genuine people." I had some of this ...... and would think i am not going to let them win and get to me as i had been on other site years . I had done nothing to have them single me out ..... john got so fed and said to me ....... jo its not real life it a swing site with alot of bored fed up un happy people dont go down to there level. I stopped going on .. and am happy here on fab and smile .... thats how it should be . | |||
"awww nice to see u still here n whingin away happy as larry!!! "Moi? Whinging? Methinks you have me confuddled with other peepies. | |||
"awww nice to see u still here n whingin away happy as larry!!!
Moi? Whinging? Methinks you have me confuddled with other peepies. "yer baws in a tinny lol!! i thought u would have been mr camerons right hand man by now and deserted us all for the number 10 wine cellar!!  | |||
"awww nice to see u still here n whingin away happy as larry!!!
Moi? Whinging? Methinks you have me confuddled with other peepies.
yer baws in a tinny lol!! i thought u would have been mr camerons right hand man by now and deserted us all for the number 10 wine cellar!! "Um.... it's about 11 o'clock ma'am???  | |||
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 keep this in focus and apply it and your bullies will evaporate into thin air. | |||
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"awww nice to see u still here n whingin away happy as larry!!!
Moi? Whinging? Methinks you have me confuddled with other peepies.
yer baws in a tinny lol!! i thought u would have been mr camerons right hand man by now and deserted us all for the number 10 wine cellar!! "Camoron makes his own right hand arrangements. | |||
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"a site that doesnt deal with these type of issues, isnt one i wanna be on anyway to be honest . " quite agree with you a was bullied over a couple of post n was going to leave due to it, but i stay on an kept quiet for a while which i did do if i get any more they will be reported were suppose 2 have fun on here not 2 have fights. you really should go else were | |||
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"a site that doesnt deal with these type of issues, isnt one i wanna be on anyway to be honest . quite agree with you a was bullied over a couple of post n was going to leave due to it, but i stay on an kept quiet for a while which i did do .............." Just how does someone go about bullying a man in his 40s who's nearly 6 foot tall? | |||
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"i dont go into chat now because i got sick of all the bullshit that goes on. seen to much male bashing and arguements between people which ruins it and im not here for that crap. " Treat it like the comic book it is - just look at the pictures. | |||
"a site that doesnt deal with these type of issues, isnt one i wanna be on anyway to be honest . quite agree with you a was bullied over a couple of post n was going to leave due to it, but i stay on an kept quiet for a while which i did do .............. Just how does someone go about bullying a man in his 40s who's nearly 6 foot tall?" so what yer saying is then i should bully them back ok very good i get ban if i do don't you think | |||
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"Nope, I just turn the other cheek "and what a yummy one it is. could your turn this way please? x | |||
"a site that doesnt deal with these type of issues, isnt one i wanna be on anyway to be honest . quite agree with you a was bullied over a couple of post n was going to leave due to it, but i stay on an kept quiet for a while which i did do .............. Just how does someone go about bullying a man in his 40s who's nearly 6 foot tall? so what yer saying is then i should bully them back ok very good i get ban if i do don't you think" If you think bullying back is the solution - that's your call. | |||
"Nope, I just turn the other cheek
and what a yummy one it is. could your turn this way please? x"for you anytime | |||
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" Just how does someone go about bullying a man in his 40s who's nearly 6 foot tall?" It's not about age or size, even a child can bully an adult. It's a skill that some people have and use to they're advantage and to the abuse of others. Some people are able to command and others are not. Some people use their command skills for good and some do not. In this hobby it can be a good place to see women big and small bullying men both bigger and smaller... explain that one... being 6 foot tall and 40 years old won't help. There are many ways to bully someone, the violent type tends to be in the confines of childhood, most of the rest is psychological. | |||
as I've seen cries of "bullying" when all it was: difference of opinion met with "I'm not going to post ever again" followed by a flounce!
If this "bullying" is on another site I'd have thought raising the issue there would be more appropriate for their admin to deal with. | |||
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"Sorry, whenever I come across "bullying" threads I tend to as I've seen cries of "bullying" when all it was: difference of opinion met with "I'm not going to post ever again" followed by a flounce!
If this "bullying" is on another site I'd have thought raising the issue there would be more appropriate for their admin to deal with."+1 | |||
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"very well said Iconic. and I agree with Sassy's comment about a flounce and off they go, only to reappear under a different name and then start goading for a spat. I at amazed at times when people state they are being 'bullied' when they have a disagreement with someone on a forum. Many times the interactions between them you can count on one hand ( albeit you don't see what goes on in PM ) then out comes the B word... The bullying that goes on in schools and the relentless terrorising of people, sadly oftens leads to a tragic end.. and I personally don't see any similarity between what goes on in here to even the mildest of what goes on externally. I know there are varying degrees of bullying and am sure we will get a definition offered up.. No-one should be made to feel bad for contributing in society, but I do think people often do a disservice to true victims. Same can be said of racism, homophobia etc etc.. here comes the disclaimer... no offence to anyone, not pointed at anyone, my comments are in general terms, not goading anyone... ( phew, think I covered my ass there ). and I like my ass covered when around deviants "Once again View, you delight us with you eloquence and insightfully objective opinions and I humbly salute in your general direction,,, As I’ve said before your wise words prove beyond all doubt, you truly are the very personification of a magnificently sentient being, with no need to cover his ass  | |||
"I blocked and reported on the site but the thing is there seems to be a little clique going on and they went into the forums calling me and getting other people to send really and I mean really nasty messages, they are now banned from the forums but will not ban them from the site they would rather other people go than the ones causing the trouble. Do not understand." There more than likely insecure jealous types not worth bothering with, the only people that matter are friends the others shouldn't bother you no matter what they say, the genuine people will know your okay and more than likely know who the trouble makers are on the site and avoid them as well | |||
"very well said Iconic. and I agree with Sassy's comment about a flounce and off they go, only to reappear under a different name and then start goading for a spat. I at amazed at times when people state they are being 'bullied' when they have a disagreement with someone on a forum. Many times the interactions between them you can count on one hand ( albeit you don't see what goes on in PM ) then out comes the B word... The bullying that goes on in schools and the relentless terrorising of people, sadly oftens leads to a tragic end.. and I personally don't see any similarity between what goes on in here to even the mildest of what goes on externally. I know there are varying degrees of bullying and am sure we will get a definition offered up.. No-one should be made to feel bad for contributing in society, but I do think people often do a disservice to true victims. Same can be said of racism, homophobia etc etc.. here comes the disclaimer... no offence to anyone, not pointed at anyone, my comments are in general terms, not goading anyone... ( phew, think I covered my ass there ). and I like my ass covered when around deviants "Pretty much agree with View and Iconic there. I do feel some people play victim a bit too easily on the forums at times and that some people also become 'knights in shining armour' and leap in to 'defend' people who they perceive as being picked on. I've never witnessed any real bullying on the forums, there is a bit of tolling at times and some thoughtless comments, but not bullying. I reckon the mods (and often other members) do a pretty good job of looking out for it on Fab.
Okay, my disclaimer...no offence intented to any one but if you do take offence then my mums scarier than yours. | |||
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"Okay, my disclaimer...no offence intented to any one but if you do take offence then my mums scarier than yours. "Oi,,,Shur-rup you!!,,,,, I have a sharpened pencil at the ready, with your name on it
Boi-boi-boi....V-v-V--Vic-ic-ic-ic
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"Okay, my disclaimer...no offence intented to any one but if you do take offence then my mums scarier than yours.
Oi,,,Shur-rup you!!,,,,, I have a sharpened pencil at the ready, with your name on it
Boi-boi-boi....V-v-V--Vic-ic-ic-ic
"Where's my night in shining armour!! I'm being threatened with the anal insertion of a sharpened pencil here!!! | |||
"Okay, my disclaimer...no offence intented to any one but if you do take offence then my mums scarier than yours.
Oi,,,Shur-rup you!!,,,,, I have a sharpened pencil at the ready, with your name on it
Boi-boi-boi....V-v-V--Vic-ic-ic-ic
Where's my night in shining armour!! I'm being threatened with the anal insertion of a sharpened pencil here!!! "Tell Soxy your Dad is a Policeman, worked as kids  | |||
"Okay, my disclaimer...no offence intented to any one but if you do take offence then my mums scarier than yours.
Oi,,,Shur-rup you!!,,,,, I have a sharpened pencil at the ready, with your name on it
Boi-boi-boi....V-v-V--Vic-ic-ic-ic
Where's my night in shining armour!! I'm being threatened with the anal insertion of a sharpened pencil here!!!
Tell Soxy your Dad is a Policeman, worked as kids "What I really want is a gorgeous lady in fantasy plate armour with a big sword to defend me... *mind wanders off.....* | |||
"a site that doesnt deal with these type of issues, isnt one i wanna be on anyway to be honest . quite agree with you a was bullied over a couple of post n was going to leave due to it, but i stay on an kept quiet for a while which i did do .............. Just how does someone go about bullying a man in his 40s who's nearly 6 foot tall? so what yer saying is then i should bully them back ok very good i get ban if i do don't you think If you think bullying back is the solution - that's your call." it sounds to m e you actulally like bullying you said iam 6ft tall an age 40 so whats whats that got 2 do with thease so called keyboard gangsters are not age 40 size 6ft there mindless idiots, to bully people of so they can REDUCE the single guys on here. i think that is very sad. I new some 1 was being bulled at school he almost kill him self you think that's right i don't. they have to move away to get away from the bullies an in question the bullie got ARRESTED an charge an sentence. so please don't tell me i should retaliate in which i won't; you can if you want an get your self ban | |||
"Okay, my disclaimer...no offence intented to any one but if you do take offence then my mums scarier than yours.
Oi,,,Shur-rup you!!,,,,, I have a sharpened pencil at the ready, with your name on it
Boi-boi-boi....V-v-V--Vic-ic-ic-ic
Where's my night in shining armour!! I'm being threatened with the anal insertion of a sharpened pencil here!!! "Although my aim is true, I lack the motivation to skewer a straight guy,,,,, so I shall devolve that responsibility to one of your many female fans | |||
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"I think its when you get a group doing it .. to look good in front of there friends who strated it in first place .... Can get out of control if not stopped .... some times people are to sceard to step in and sort it out when thay see groups of friends bulling others as its them next who will be picked on ." that's what the mods are for to step in an sort it | |||
"I think its when you get a group doing it .. to look good in front of there friends who strated it in first place .... Can get out of control if not stopped .... some times people are to sceard to step in and sort it out when thay see groups of friends bulling others as its them next who will be picked on .that's what the mods are for to step in an sort it" Never had this on fab as no ones bullied me .. just let me be myself .... but the mods are one of the best things on this site and knowing who thay are thay are fair .. I know its taken out of there hands at times and site sort stuff but its nice to know theres people you can turn to if you need help . | |||
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"I must be just a hard bitch, as I would never think of myself as bullied if someone wanted to follow me round a forum . I would either answer them or ignore depending on how childish they were being....but thats just me. I know others are not the same and it gets to some people and I can understand that, but I think maybe some people get confused with the definition of bullying and some people think having a difference of opinion is the same definition and I think that is how these things start. Someone makes a comment that you didn't like ... you say so, they get the hump...it carries on to other parts of the sites because either party don't want to let it drop, and then when both have been as bad as each other but one can't get the better of the other anymore someone shouts "bully". Now if at the beginning people had just took it as a spat or personality clash and ignored each other from then on, no mention of bully would turn up. An example from another site we use. Two people who had had a spat in a chatroom over someone else's business carried it on every time they went into chat. Their mouths were both as nasty as each other ( you wouldn't believe some of the things each of them said to each other) One night one of them picked constantly and made snide remarks to the other person and the other person snapped as usual but even worse than before, they "won" the war of words and made an absolute fool of the other person. The person then started threads on the forums shouting they have been bullied in the chat rooms for weeks and the night before....the post playing the victim was well thought out,because if I hadn't saw what had happened for the previous few weeks I might have thought it was genuine. All for a little spat over someone else's business. My motto, if someone is pissing you off, or you have a spat with someone , ignore ignore ignore.....sexy fun time is wasted /spolied if you let clashes/ difference of opinions on a website get to you." totally agree, its a waste of wanking time | |||
