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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Why do we really bother having one night stands.

Let's be serious what do you get no closest no love and forget once you walk out the door.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't know. I don't have them

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By *uckOfTheBayMan over a year ago

Mold

But you get to scratch that itch now and again

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By *lacklondontvloverMan over a year ago

London

If you want love there is always match.com

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't have them and never have whether on here or in the vanilla world

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't know. I don't have them "

One night wouldn't be anywhere near enough

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you want love there is always match.com"

I met my guy on here... So love can be found on here. As have some couples who originally had single profiles set up... It can be the kinky version of Match.com for some

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why do we really bother having one night stands.

Let's be serious what do you get no closest no love and forget once you walk out the door.

Mutual pleasure without any hassle. Some people don't want love or to be remembered. Just a good hard seeing to and a cheerio.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes ya just need a good hard fuck em and forget em.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't know. I don't have them

One night wouldn't be anywhere near enough

You charmer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not a keeper so I accept my fate... "without acceptance there is no happiness" (George Orwell)

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By *workoutMan over a year ago

Cradley Heath

The build up, the thought of "I don't know you, you don't know me let's fuck like porn stars with no hang ups and inhibitions as chances are we'll only get one night together"

I might be romanticising it slightly but I've had three in my lifetime, two were ok and one was just epic filthy fucking.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i wouldn't sleep with someone, knowingly that it was a one night stand....not my thing. i don't require love, but its never going to be the best sex, first time round. i like the journey and i appreciate connection.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you want love there is always match.com

I met my guy on here... So love can be found on here. As have some couples who originally had single profiles set up... It can be the kinky version of Match.com for some

Was definitely a very filthy and kinky version of match.com for me and my fella

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"i wouldn't sleep with someone, knowingly that it was a one night stand....not my thing. i don't require love, but its never going to be the best sex, first time round. i like the journey and i appreciate connection."
good answer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not really had one night stands. Always liked meeting up more tgan once or even the odd overnighter. Which has been good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why do we really bother having one night stands.

Let's be serious what do you get no closest no love and forget once you walk out the door.

shhhhhh

*whispers* you know this IS a swinging site right?

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By *ohnaronMan over a year ago

london

A whole night sounds a bit long to me. After a couple of hours I'm bored.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I ended up marrying my one night stand lol still together 16 years later x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I ended up marrying my one night stand lol still together 16 years later x "
really

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By *orwegian BlueMan over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

One night... Night time??

I do daytime meets, getting on a bit now.. need my cuppa horlicks and my bed by 9pm..

Assume that can't be classed as a one night stand..

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By *-angel-XWoman over a year ago

hell

Not for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you want love there is always match.com

I met my guy on here... So love can be found on here. As have some couples who originally had single profiles set up... It can be the kinky version of Match.com for some

Was definitely a very filthy and kinky version of match.com for me and my fella

Kinky

Some don't realise how many couples have met because of this site. I love that about fab. There's something for everyone here. Be it a one night stand, or a potential relationship. There are so many layers to fab

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I needed about 3 a day coz they are that unsatisfying overall.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One night... Night time??

I do daytime meets, getting on a bit now.. need my cuppa horlicks and my bed by 9pm..

Assume that can't be classed as a one night stand.."

I think that's more like an afternoon one off quickie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you want love there is always match.com

I met my guy on here... So love can be found on here. As have some couples who originally had single profiles set up... It can be the kinky version of Match.com for some

Was definitely a very filthy and kinky version of match.com for me and my fella

Kinky

The thing is neither of us were interested in or looking for a relationship at the time. I travelled to London to meet up with him thinking that it might be a meet a few times a year but really didn't think beyond that. But once we chatted on the phone more and more and after meeting in person we realised there was more to it. We are so in sync with each other both on and off fab. We weren't going to run away what was so obvious to us both despite us being on a swinger site. So, we've grabbed the bull by the horns and just run with it. So it can happen even when you least expect it to

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why do we really bother having one night stands.

Let's be serious what do you get no closest no love and forget once you walk out the door.

"
do you mean why do we meet random people for a quick session that we wont meet again or even know who they are..??? If so... because its fun.

Best 3sum we ever had I've still not got a clue what the guys name was..

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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Scratches the itch at the time

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"If you want love there is always match.com

I met my guy on here... So love can be found on here. As have some couples who originally had single profiles set up... It can be the kinky version of Match.com for some

Was definitely a very filthy and kinky version of match.com for me and my fella

Kinky

"
lovely xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For us it's fun and then the thrill of the build up and then the climax. Fun fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I ended up marrying my one night stand lol still together 16 years later x really

"
. Yeap met sat night moved in Sunday lunch x never went back to Edinburgh x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Prefer fwb not into one night stands more you get to know a person the better it is my regular buddy I have had for eight years class him as one of my best friend's but he has his life and I have mine x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I ended up marrying my one night stand lol still together 16 years later x really

. Yeap met sat night moved in Sunday lunch x never went back to Edinburgh x "

Wow

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You all are brill and honest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you want love there is always match.com

I met my guy on here... So love can be found on here. As have some couples who originally had single profiles set up... It can be the kinky version of Match.com for some

Was definitely a very filthy and kinky version of match.com for me and my fella

Kinky

lovely xx

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest i prefer to meet guys just once

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why do we really bother having one night stands.

Let's be serious what do you get no closest no love and forget once you walk out the door.

They work perfectly well for me. I want nothing from those i meet except great sex.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"I ended up marrying my one night stand lol still together 16 years later x really

. Yeap met sat night moved in Sunday lunch x never went back to Edinburgh x

Wow

"
thats how all my ltr have happened in the past, you meet they know you know, end of. sorted. and that how i know the ones i meet off of here aren't the one..and that is why i know i can handle this lifestyle, because you aren't hankering after what you don't have, you are enjoying what you do have.

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By *each_PittWoman over a year ago

Belfast

"To be honest i prefer to meet guys just once "

Me too! Only way for me. Very rarely will I agree to see someone a 2nd time. I'm afraid of developing and feelings, that would be in neither partys best interests.

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By *workoutMan over a year ago

Cradley Heath

One night stands don't have to mean you only have sex once, you have all night and the following morning, you don't know each other so just tell each other what you like and go crazy, you've got nothing to lose if you don't see them again and if it goes well and you do then you have a head start!

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"One night stands don't have to mean you only have sex once, you have all night and the following morning, you don't know each other so just tell each other what you like and go crazy, you've got nothing to lose if you don't see them again and if it goes well and you do then you have a head start!"
you mean the kind of guy that says "you know, we will see how it goes" without saying what he really wants for himself?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you want love there is always match.com

I met my guy on here... So love can be found on here. As have some couples who originally had single profiles set up... It can be the kinky version of Match.com for some

Was definitely a very filthy and kinky version of match.com for me and my fella

Kinky

That is a lovely story

. You are completely right. It can happen when you least expect it to

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One night stands don't have to mean you only have sex once, you have all night and the following morning, you don't know each other so just tell each other what you like and go crazy, you've got nothing to lose if you don't see them again and if it goes well and you do then you have a head start!you mean the kind of guy that says "you know, we will see how it goes" without saying what he really wants for himself?"

I see it more the kind of guy who's relaxed and at ease and content. Happy to go with the flow. The kind of guy i prefer to meet with no hidden agendas.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why do we really bother having one night stands.

Let's be serious what do you get no closest no love and forget once you walk out the door.

I agree, the sex is mediocre.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One night stands don't have to mean you only have sex once, you have all night and the following morning, you don't know each other so just tell each other what you like and go crazy, you've got nothing to lose if you don't see them again and if it goes well and you do then you have a head start!"
ive never had a meet go all night.. once he has cum.. its time for him to go.. i dont do long intimate meets with randoms.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"One night stands don't have to mean you only have sex once, you have all night and the following morning, you don't know each other so just tell each other what you like and go crazy, you've got nothing to lose if you don't see them again and if it goes well and you do then you have a head start!you mean the kind of guy that says "you know, we will see how it goes" without saying what he really wants for himself?

I see it more the kind of guy who's relaxed and at ease and content. Happy to go with the flow. The kind of guy i prefer to meet with no hidden agendas. "
it was a question for him to answer, not a statement x i wasnt assuming, i wanted to know if thats what he meant x

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By *workoutMan over a year ago

Cradley Heath

"One night stands don't have to mean you only have sex once, you have all night and the following morning, you don't know each other so just tell each other what you like and go crazy, you've got nothing to lose if you don't see them again and if it goes well and you do then you have a head start!you mean the kind of guy that says "you know, we will see how it goes" without saying what he really wants for himself?"

I don't know really, I think if you meet someone or get chatting with them and the sexual chemistry is so good that you end up in bed together straight away then it could go either way. It has to be a mutual feeling though if it was going to develop further.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One night stands don't have to mean you only have sex once, you have all night and the following morning, you don't know each other so just tell each other what you like and go crazy, you've got nothing to lose if you don't see them again and if it goes well and you do then you have a head start!you mean the kind of guy that says "you know, we will see how it goes" without saying what he really wants for himself?

I see it more the kind of guy who's relaxed and at ease and content. Happy to go with the flow. The kind of guy i prefer to meet with no hidden agendas. it was a question for him to answer, not a statement x i wasnt assuming, i wanted to know if thats what he meant x"

My bad. As you were.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"One night stands don't have to mean you only have sex once, you have all night and the following morning, you don't know each other so just tell each other what you like and go crazy, you've got nothing to lose if you don't see them again and if it goes well and you do then you have a head start!you mean the kind of guy that says "you know, we will see how it goes" without saying what he really wants for himself?

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By *lacklondontvloverMan over a year ago

London

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By *lacklondontvloverMan over a year ago

London

"If you want love there is always match.com

I met my guy on here... So love can be found on here. As have some couples who originally had single profiles set up... It can be the kinky version of Match.com for some

OK Fabmatch.com

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"One night stands don't have to mean you only have sex once, you have all night and the following morning, you don't know each other so just tell each other what you like and go crazy, you've got nothing to lose if you don't see them again and if it goes well and you do then you have a head start!you mean the kind of guy that says "you know, we will see how it goes" without saying what he really wants for himself?

If I'm totally honest and I'm not sure I should be on a forum like this I don't know what I want, I know what I like in a sexual situation but I had my heart broken earlier his year so although one night stands have never previously been my thing I've found myself in them more recently. "
its fine that you dont know, soon enough you will know even by a process of elimination of what you want and or dont want..it can change obviously over time.

i know what i don't want...the rest is open to persuasion

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"One night stands don't have to mean you only have sex once, you have all night and the following morning, you don't know each other so just tell each other what you like and go crazy, you've got nothing to lose if you don't see them again and if it goes well and you do then you have a head start!you mean the kind of guy that says "you know, we will see how it goes" without saying what he really wants for himself?

My bad. As you were."
curtseys..thanks hunni

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One night stands don't have to mean you only have sex once, you have all night and the following morning, you don't know each other so just tell each other what you like and go crazy, you've got nothing to lose if you don't see them again and if it goes well and you do then you have a head start!you mean the kind of guy that says "you know, we will see how it goes" without saying what he really wants for himself?

As long as it works for you, and you are enjoying them, then it's fine. But if you are not, a little self searching can help you reevaluate some things. You can only do what's right for you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Meh, they can be fun. Wisdom is overrated.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I still remember one with a soldier so it must have been worth it.

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By *workoutMan over a year ago

Cradley Heath

"Meh, they can be fun. Wisdom is overrated."

Sometimes it's nice to not overthink things and just get naked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Meh, they can be fun. Wisdom is overrated.

Sometimes it's nice to not overthink things and just get naked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I still remember one with a soldier so it must have been worth it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I had a one night stand with a man I met a few hours earlier. One of the best nights of sex I've had. We just connected as soon as we met and it felt so right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had some great one time onlys. You can't tell if you will do it more than once, until you've done it. Even then, it isn't always easy to keep doing it.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

Not had 1 in years now. I like fantastic now I'm older and it's extremely rare to find that without really knowing your partner. It also help that my brain no longer resides in my cock

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont really have them. I'm normally on friendly terms with someone I sleep with.

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By *_89Man over a year ago

Here and there

"Why do we really bother having one night stands.

Let's be serious what do you get no closest no love and forget once you walk out the door.

For the thrill of having great sex with a complete stranger

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Have to say learn a lot about the way people think on fab

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Have them or other forms of casual no strings attached sex if and when it suits you. Otherwise decide what you need and pursue this instead.

Many like myself are happily single, especially when we have sexual fulfilment

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Not had one in years and years they

Seem to come back

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

you get a bit of company, hopefuly some enjoyable sex too and its better than getting involved with someone who you might get bored with or end up hating. The less i know about most people on here the better.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This, I've had many that have turned into a fun Sunday after the Saturday night. Sex, food and films but we both know we aren't going to date

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By *ananas57Couple over a year ago

lake ariel

I have my hubby for love & companionship,so one time meets work for me

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Each to their own but one night stands don't do anything for me!

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By *c-ukMan over a year ago

Sevenoaks

As a cuck if my partner wouldn't have a few one night stands now and then i'd bloody leave

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

From a random meet in the street , to an organised one off fuck and go , it's what we enjoy .

As we are a married couple we have each other for all the other emotional stuff .

And far from a fuck and go being unsatisfying , we find them hugely rewarding for all parties . The adrenaline rush , the sheer animal lust , it's amazing to just let go with a stranger you've just met . We find repeat meets are rarely as satisfying , because there's an expectation and the not knowing what to expect on a first meet is never there .

So each to their own and all that , but that's our take

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Meh, they can be fun. Wisdom is overrated.

Sometimes it's nice to not overthink things and just get naked.

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

If you want love, get a pet.

If you want hot, sweaty, consequence-free passion, then one night stands work perfectly well. I don't need to overthink it!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you want love, get a pet.

If you want hot, sweaty, consequence-free passion, then one night stands work perfectly well. I don't need to overthink it!"

Very well put

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"If you want love, get a pet.

If you want hot, sweaty, consequence-free passion, then one night stands work perfectly well. I don't need to overthink it!"

I wish I was like that but sadly my mind never stops thinking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you want love, get a pet.

If you want hot, sweaty, consequence-free passion, then one night stands work perfectly well. I don't need to overthink it!

I wish I was like that but sadly my mind never stops thinking

It's a burden at times .

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"If you want love, get a pet.

If you want hot, sweaty, consequence-free passion, then one night stands work perfectly well. I don't need to overthink it!

I wish I was like that but sadly my mind never stops thinking

It's a burden at times .

Its is what it is .

Kind of makes you wonder what it would be like to have a empty mind something I will never experience but something I'm told I'm rather good at helping others experience

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you play at a club are you not having multiple one night stands lol x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"If you play at a club are you not having multiple one night stands lol x

My last shag at a club ended in a relationship

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not.my scene

I have had them years ago and apart from one fantastic session with a policeman, the rest were not not great

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Pre bdsm, I loved one night stands, it was the thrill, but as over got older, I can take them or leave them, but I can remember the names of each and every one of them, and there were a few in the early 90s, they're not a bad thing, and something I think every one should try stbleast once

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What would you do if you didn't have a clue in a English country garden

Sure you'd pull down your pant and fertilities the plants in a English country garrrden

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