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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment "

All the bloody time!

What about doing something that takes you out of your comfort zone!?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yep... got bored running my own business so started a uni access course

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment "

Hence why I'm here! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Yep .like that at the moment .

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By *uzy444Woman  over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

its in the air, lots of peeps feeling that at the moment i had my dissolve moment last week..hugs miss cc, you arent alone x

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment

All the bloody time!

What about doing something that takes you out of your comfort zone!? "

I have been thinking a lot about it and I'm not sure what I want to do...this has been going on for 9 weeks..previously I thought I'd got a bit of structure with my life with friends and a new fella but then that ended and it's all just a bit lost...

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By *iffraffMan  over a year ago

Gloucester

It's that time of the year. Clocks have gone back, the weathers turned and we don't want to get up in the morning.

This place is fun tho

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment

All the bloody time!

What about doing something that takes you out of your comfort zone!?

I have been thinking a lot about it and I'm not sure what I want to do...this has been going on for 9 weeks..previously I thought I'd got a bit of structure with my life with friends and a new fella but then that ended and it's all just a bit lost... "

I think the important thing to remember is that it's normal. It's like reactive depression y'know. I had it when something ended and got stuck in a rut.

One thing at a time! X

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By *ee wonky willieMan  over a year ago

glasgow

Chin up peeps. Tomorrow always brings the prospect of a better day. I hope you all find something to make you smile today. Namaste

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment

All the bloody time!

What about doing something that takes you out of your comfort zone!?

I have been thinking a lot about it and I'm not sure what I want to do...this has been going on for 9 weeks..previously I thought I'd got a bit of structure with my life with friends and a new fella but then that ended and it's all just a bit lost...

I think the important thing to remember is that it's normal. It's like reactive depression y'know. I had it when something ended and got stuck in a rut.

One thing at a time! X"

Cheers lovely, kind words that means a lot I don't usually get like this I'm just all over the place at the min x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I'm with you there at the moment.

For the last year my life was going great..then my bubble burst and everything went wrong at once. ..it can only get better right?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment ("

You profile is unequivocal that you don't want to meet so do you want excitement or not?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I blame S.A.D. Always go like that at this time of year.

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By *risky_MareWoman  over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment

All the bloody time!

What about doing something that takes you out of your comfort zone!?

I have been thinking a lot about it and I'm not sure what I want to do...this has been going on for 9 weeks..previously I thought I'd got a bit of structure with my life with friends and a new fella but then that ended and it's all just a bit lost... "

That's a perfectly natural response - take a trip away maybe, a week in the sun concentrating on self-love!

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By *adyDangerWoman  over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink

Yes I'm feeling a little like you OP at the minute. I'm my own worst enemy though sometimes. I'm swaying between feeling lonely yet then I have my moments when I don't want anyone near me so I can't win

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment (

You profile is unequivocal that you don't want to meet so do you want excitement or not? "

I know it is, I've looked at my profile I don't know what I want I'm just thinking out loud...

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By *educedWoman  over a year ago

Birmingham


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment (

You profile is unequivocal that you don't want to meet so do you want excitement or not?

I know it is, I've looked at my profile I don't know what I want I'm just thinking out loud..."

Excitement isn't confined to meets off Fab!

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment (

You profile is unequivocal that you don't want to meet so do you want excitement or not?

I know it is, I've looked at my profile I don't know what I want I'm just thinking out loud...

Excitement isn't confined to meets off Fab! "

I know that Mrs

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By *aughtyLondonGuyMan  over a year ago

london


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment "

I do frequently, the only thing that helps is getting out, seeing people, and knowing that how you are feeling will pass

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I think part of the problem is how we define ourselves, if we see ourselves through the eyes of others then when things change it can leave you feeling lost and undefined. Look at what you want and what defines you to yourself, your achievements and how you want to move forwards then do it

Beard

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman  over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

God yeah after my divorce I'd thought I'd go insane,everything was centred around my children there was very little adult interaction every day was the same. Life can't alway's be a ball we need to learn how to cope with the time's it isn't,you've had a change recently so now you have to adjust to another way again. It takes time,don't be in a rush to feel a certain way. I don't know you,but you seem a great lady!

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"God yeah after my divorce I'd thought I'd go insane,everything was centred around my children there was very little adult interaction every day was the same. Life can't alway's be a ball we need to learn how to cope with the time's it isn't,you've had a change recently so now you have to adjust to another way again. It takes time,don't be in a rush to feel a certain way. I don't know you,but you seem a great lady!"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I've been sitting contemplating a lot lately.. Is this place for me? Do I want to be in a relationship? Do I want to be with somebody?. Had an ex get back in touch lately, that's playing on my mind, do I go back etc. Guess it just life

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

every day for me feels like ground hogg day at the moment,but I always have a smile on my face x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I went through a period of being lost relatively recently. The reality was I'd been quite lost for a lot longer, but hadn't admitted it really, until events conspired to 'wake me up'. I needed to take my time, focus on what I really wanted, work out how to achieve it and then put my energy into it. It has worked so far. I've also lost 2.5 stone since Christmas and I am fitter than I was 20 years ago again. Once you know what you really want, you can make it happen. However beware the old patterns have a habit of rearing their head and trying to knock you off course. Recognise their ugly mugs and tell them to do one

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I've been sitting contemplating a lot lately.. Is this place for me? Do I want to be in a relationship? Do I want to be with somebody?. Had an ex get back in touch lately, that's playing on my mind, do I go back etc. Guess it just life "

I think you have to look at the pros and cons of whether the relationship would be right to go back into and whether you will be happy...

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

If I need some excitement I go for a ride, after first few bruises I'm satisfied

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I went through a period of being lost relatively recently. The reality was I'd been quite lost for a lot longer, but hadn't admitted it really, until events conspired to 'wake me up'. I needed to take my time, focus on what I really wanted, work out how to achieve it and then put my energy into it. It has worked so far. I've also lost 2.5 stone since Christmas and I am fitter than I was 20 years ago again. Once you know what you really want, you can make it happen. However beware the old patterns have a habit of rearing their head and trying to knock you off course. Recognise their ugly mugs and tell them to do one "

I doubt he will be back

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I've been sitting contemplating a lot lately.. Is this place for me? Do I want to be in a relationship? Do I want to be with somebody?. Had an ex get back in touch lately, that's playing on my mind, do I go back etc. Guess it just life

I think you have to look at the pros and cons of whether the relationship would be right to go back into and whether you will be happy... "

God knows haha that's why my heads busted at the minute haha .. that and being ill last couple of weeks, think it's give me too much time on my hands to think etc .. need a distraction me thinks

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I went through a period of being lost relatively recently. The reality was I'd been quite lost for a lot longer, but hadn't admitted it really, until events conspired to 'wake me up'. I needed to take my time, focus on what I really wanted, work out how to achieve it and then put my energy into it. It has worked so far. I've also lost 2.5 stone since Christmas and I am fitter than I was 20 years ago again. Once you know what you really want, you can make it happen. However beware the old patterns have a habit of rearing their head and trying to knock you off course. Recognise their ugly mugs and tell them to do one

I doubt he will be back "

but the patterns might

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I've been sitting contemplating a lot lately.. Is this place for me? Do I want to be in a relationship? Do I want to be with somebody?. Had an ex get back in touch lately, that's playing on my mind, do I go back etc. Guess it just life

I think you have to look at the pros and cons of whether the relationship would be right to go back into and whether you will be happy...

God knows haha that's why my heads busted at the minute haha .. that and being ill last couple of weeks, think it's give me too much time on my hands to think etc .. need a distraction me thinks "

I know exactly where you are coming from

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I went through a period of being lost relatively recently. The reality was I'd been quite lost for a lot longer, but hadn't admitted it really, until events conspired to 'wake me up'. I needed to take my time, focus on what I really wanted, work out how to achieve it and then put my energy into it. It has worked so far. I've also lost 2.5 stone since Christmas and I am fitter than I was 20 years ago again. Once you know what you really want, you can make it happen. However beware the old patterns have a habit of rearing their head and trying to knock you off course. Recognise their ugly mugs and tell them to do one

I doubt he will be back

but the patterns might"

I don't get what you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I need some1 come ride my cock tbh

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By *mmmMaybeCouple  over a year ago

West Wales


"I blame S.A.D. Always go like that at this time of year."

Yep, I bought a dog & get out as much as I can during daylight, changed all the fluorescents to "daylighters" too & that seems to help..

S

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yep... got bored running my own business so started a uni access course "

What's a uni access course?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Only one person can change it

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment "

Grab hold of life and change it doll.

I always take risks, leaps of faith and all of that jazz. My life is always exciting and stressful ha ha.

You only live once and life can be short, never forget that doll. Make the most of it!

Eve. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yep... got bored running my own business so started a uni access course

What's a uni access course?"

Hard work. I done a year access course which I finished in 2014, now in my final year of uni. They keep changing the access course layout, try changed it the year after I left and the staff weren't happy about it.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yep... got bored running my own business so started a uni access course

What's a uni access course?

Hard work. I done a year access course which I finished in 2014, now in my final year of uni. They keep changing the access course layout, try changed it the year after I left and the staff weren't happy about it. "

Is it like a general grounding?

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Only one person can change it "

I know, I know I'm trying so fucking hard to change it...

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By *appyguy17Man  over a year ago

walthamstow


"Yep... got bored running my own business so started a uni access course

What's a uni access course?

Hard work. I done a year access course which I finished in 2014, now in my final year of uni. They keep changing the access course layout, try changed it the year after I left and the staff weren't happy about it. "

join a gym......meet some new people......

if you are quite chatty......you should have no problem...........new people...new horizons !

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Only one person can change it

I know, I know I'm trying so fucking hard to change it... "

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By *iamondjoeMan  over a year ago

Glastonbury

I just read this as:

"I need some excrement."

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yep... got bored running my own business so started a uni access course

What's a uni access course?

Hard work. I done a year access course which I finished in 2014, now in my final year of uni. They keep changing the access course layout, try changed it the year after I left and the staff weren't happy about it.

Is it like a general grounding?"

What do you mean by that? I'm thinking of electricity, which you clearly don't mean.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yep... got bored running my own business so started a uni access course

What's a uni access course?"

Its to prove that you can study to a high enough level. Equivalent to 3 A levels done in a year

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By *ucyfur77Woman  over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment (

You profile is unequivocal that you don't want to meet so do you want excitement or not? "

Tactful as ever

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By *BW SnowbunnyWoman  over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

I know exactly how you feel. I've recently had a major wobble, so much so that I broke down in tears at a club (

I won't go into details but I lost my daughter last year and had decided it was finally time to go through her clothes plus a few other issues. It triggered a meltdown. Off to the dr, anti depressants dosage increased which has helped but I've noticed I'm getting a bit paranoid about people.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Yep... got bored running my own business so started a uni access course

What's a uni access course?

Hard work. I done a year access course which I finished in 2014, now in my final year of uni. They keep changing the access course layout, try changed it the year after I left and the staff weren't happy about it. "

Regardless of content it is still valid for 5 years. Yes very hard work as well as fitting it around work and fab

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment (

You profile is unequivocal that you don't want to meet so do you want excitement or not?

I know it is, I've looked at my profile I don't know what I want I'm just thinking out loud..."

Why don't you look for someone in a similar situation who's not necessarily looking for the obvious and see if they'd like to just spend a lite time together, you never know.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment "

It's even harder when you don't know what it is that's bothering you, so you don't know how to talk about it. people make suggestions and all you think is "yeah i know" but it never works, because you don't know what it is that you're trying to sort out

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By *oward1978Man  over a year ago

Rotherham


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment

It's even harder when you don't know what it is that's bothering you, so you don't know how to talk about it. people make suggestions and all you think is "yeah i know" but it never works, because you don't know what it is that you're trying to sort out "

This is very true. It doesn't matter what others may say or suggest, if your heart's not in something then it'll never work. A bit like being in a depression. Others words on there own won't help. True change can only come from within. And sometimes the harder you search, the more frustrated you become.

In a instant you can fall into these ruts (I know), but also in an instant you can come out of it, and the skies will clear before your eyes. I find it's best not to force it too much.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

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By *uzy444Woman  over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment

It's even harder when you don't know what it is that's bothering you, so you don't know how to talk about it. people make suggestions and all you think is "yeah i know" but it never works, because you don't know what it is that you're trying to sort out

This is very true. It doesn't matter what others may say or suggest, if your heart's not in something then it'll never work. A bit like being in a depression. Others words on there own won't help. True change can only come from within. And sometimes the harder you search, the more frustrated you become.

In a instant you can fall into these ruts (I know), but also in an instant you can come out of it, and the skies will clear before your eyes. I find it's best not to force it too much."

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment

It's even harder when you don't know what it is that's bothering you, so you don't know how to talk about it. people make suggestions and all you think is "yeah i know" but it never works, because you don't know what it is that you're trying to sort out

This is very true. It doesn't matter what others may say or suggest, if your heart's not in something then it'll never work. A bit like being in a depression. Others words on there own won't help. True change can only come from within. And sometimes the harder you search, the more frustrated you become.

In a instant you can fall into these ruts (I know), but also in an instant you can come out of it, and the skies will clear before your eyes. I find it's best not to force it too much."

Thanks Howard x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

I find helping other people helps me. It's exhausting but it stops me from thinking. I like making things too, especially this time of year.

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By *hoxyWoman  over a year ago

Chester

Ruts happen to us all its working out your own skills in getting yourself out of one that you have to work out once done life is far rosier.

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By *andsonjohnMan  over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment "

There's a lot of sound advice in the responses post on here op .

I would say structure in ones life helps along with regular excise like walking plus exercise of the mind to I.E reading and mental interaction through friendships .

no one is a island and although a lot of the answers to why we feel as we do can be found inside .

We also need social intersection with those we genuinely click with to take us out of ourselves from time to time .

Often when I myself feel a similar way to your post it is my friendships and my interaction with my friends that brake the spell over me .

You see i don't think we are designed to function alone yes we can exist for a period of time alone but as normal humans we need the comfort and warm of others in our lives .

Because its our friendships that stretch us give us different thoughts to process instead of just our own thoughts consuming us .

I often find rest bite from my own inner demons by helping my friends through there own moments of darkness its as if the acting of giving of my positive energy and warmth towards them lifts my our soul and energy levels through the process .

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By *gentlovedayWoman  over a year ago

Tranmere


"I'm with you there at the moment.

For the last year my life was going great..then my bubble burst and everything went wrong at once. ..it can only get better right?"

Im with you this year lost my job my house and my identity all I wanted was to move and begin a fresh now I look at my situation and think what the fuck !!! I'm sure it will get better eventually but it's just holding on till it gets here xxx

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment

There's a lot of sound advice in the responses post on here op .

I would say structure in ones life helps along with regular excise like walking plus exercise of the mind to I.E reading and mental interaction through friendships .

no one is a island and although a lot of the answers to why we feel as we do can be found inside .

We also need social intersection with those we genuinely click with to take us out of ourselves from time to time .

Often when I myself feel a similar way to your post it is my friendships and my interaction with my friends that brake the spell over me .

You see i don't think we are designed to function alone yes we can exist for a period of time alone but as normal humans we need the comfort and warm of others in our lives .

Because its our friendships that stretch us give us different thoughts to process instead of just our own thoughts consuming us .

I often find rest bite from my own inner demons by helping my friends through there own moments of darkness its as if the acting of giving of my positive energy and warmth towards them lifts my our soul and energy levels through the process ."

Nice post

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman  over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"I know exactly how you feel. I've recently had a major wobble, so much so that I broke down in tears at a club (

I won't go into details but I lost my daughter last year and had decided it was finally time to go through her clothes plus a few other issues. It triggered a meltdown. Off to the dr, anti depressants dosage increased which has helped but I've noticed I'm getting a bit paranoid about people. "

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I know exactly how you feel. I've recently had a major wobble, so much so that I broke down in tears at a club (

I won't go into details but I lost my daughter last year and had decided it was finally time to go through her clothes plus a few other issues. It triggered a meltdown. Off to the dr, anti depressants dosage increased which has helped but I've noticed I'm getting a bit paranoid about people. "

Know it's probably already been said but have you considered bereavement counselling?

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By *ackett1962Man  over a year ago

harrow


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment

There's a lot of sound advice in the responses post on here op .

I would say structure in ones life helps along with regular excise like walking plus exercise of the mind to I.E reading and mental interaction through friendships .

no one is a island and although a lot of the answers to why we feel as we do can be found inside .

We also need social intersection with those we genuinely click with to take us out of ourselves from time to time .

Often when I myself feel a similar way to your post it is my friendships and my interaction with my friends that brake the spell over me .

You see i don't think we are designed to function alone yes we can exist for a period of time alone but as normal humans we need the comfort and warm of others in our lives .

Because its our friendships that stretch us give us different thoughts to process instead of just our own thoughts consuming us .

I often find rest bite from my own inner demons by helping my friends through there own moments of darkness its as if the acting of giving of my positive energy and warmth towards them lifts my our soul and energy levels through the process ."

Absolutely great posy

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Quit your job.

That's what I do when I feel down. Maybe that's why I flunked my degree, I haven't worked anywhere for longer than a year, and I have no career prospects. So it's working out for me

Ignore me, I am clearly terrible at advice.

But

'A change is as good as a rest'

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire

Op, your a single woman. The world is your oyster. Ive not been very well lately and it has been tough also i was starting to forget who i was.

But then i realized im on a new chapter of my life.

Go out and do stuff. If im feeling down i put on a big frock and take myself out for the day.

I always try and have something to look forward to.

Try not to concentrate on looking for a relationship, go out on your own, do stuff with friends.

Get a new hobby. Dont you go to the gym now? I know you where.

Your young make the most of what you have.

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By *educedWoman  over a year ago

Birmingham


"I went through a period of being lost relatively recently. The reality was I'd been quite lost for a lot longer, but hadn't admitted it really, until events conspired to 'wake me up'. I needed to take my time, focus on what I really wanted, work out how to achieve it and then put my energy into it. It has worked so far. I've also lost 2.5 stone since Christmas and I am fitter than I was 20 years ago again. Once you know what you really want, you can make it happen. However beware the old patterns have a habit of rearing their head and trying to knock you off course. Recognise their ugly mugs and tell them to do one

I doubt he will be back

but the patterns might

I don't get what you mean? "

Google tinybuddha and recognising our patterns...or watch Groundhog Day.

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By *ucyfur77Woman  over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"I know exactly how you feel. I've recently had a major wobble, so much so that I broke down in tears at a club (

I won't go into details but I lost my daughter last year and had decided it was finally time to go through her clothes plus a few other issues. It triggered a meltdown. Off to the dr, anti depressants dosage increased which has helped but I've noticed I'm getting a bit paranoid about people. "

I'm so sorry x

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"I went through a period of being lost relatively recently. The reality was I'd been quite lost for a lot longer, but hadn't admitted it really, until events conspired to 'wake me up'. I needed to take my time, focus on what I really wanted, work out how to achieve it and then put my energy into it. It has worked so far. I've also lost 2.5 stone since Christmas and I am fitter than I was 20 years ago again. Once you know what you really want, you can make it happen. However beware the old patterns have a habit of rearing their head and trying to knock you off course. Recognise their ugly mugs and tell them to do one

I doubt he will be back

but the patterns might

I don't get what you mean?

Google tinybuddha and recognising our patterns...or watch Groundhog Day. "

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Op, your a single woman. The world is your oyster. Ive not been very well lately and it has been tough also i was starting to forget who i was.

But then i realized im on a new chapter of my life.

Go out and do stuff. If im feeling down i put on a big frock and take myself out for the day.

I always try and have something to look forward to.

Try not to concentrate on looking for a relationship, go out on your own, do stuff with friends.

Get a new hobby. Dont you go to the gym now? I know you where.

Your young make the most of what you have.

"

I do excersise still and I'm really lucky in that I have an amazing best friend and I know I've done her head in recently but she had been there for me from the day after it all happened...

I so get where you are coming from with about living life etc I really do x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman  over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Op, your a single woman. The world is your oyster. Ive not been very well lately and it has been tough also i was starting to forget who i was.

But then i realized im on a new chapter of my life.

Go out and do stuff. If im feeling down i put on a big frock and take myself out for the day.

I always try and have something to look forward to.

Try not to concentrate on looking for a relationship, go out on your own, do stuff with friends.

Get a new hobby. Dont you go to the gym now? I know you where.

Your young make the most of what you have.

I do excersise still and I'm really lucky in that I have an amazing best friend and I know I've done her head in recently but she had been there for me from the day after it all happened...

I so get where you are coming from with about living life etc I really do x "

go out and do stuff together, go to the cinema, bowling, afternoon tea, mooch round the shops. Theres always something to do in birmingham. Always something good at the hippodrone

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By *isscheekychops OP   Woman  over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Op, your a single woman. The world is your oyster. Ive not been very well lately and it has been tough also i was starting to forget who i was.

But then i realized im on a new chapter of my life.

Go out and do stuff. If im feeling down i put on a big frock and take myself out for the day.

I always try and have something to look forward to.

Try not to concentrate on looking for a relationship, go out on your own, do stuff with friends.

Get a new hobby. Dont you go to the gym now? I know you where.

Your young make the most of what you have.

I do excersise still and I'm really lucky in that I have an amazing best friend and I know I've done her head in recently but she had been there for me from the day after it all happened...

I so get where you are coming from with about living life etc I really do x go out and do stuff together, go to the cinema, bowling, afternoon tea, mooch round the shops. Theres always something to do in birmingham. Always something good at the hippodrone"

Yeah we do and have loads planned, I think the biggest thing is that I live on my own and to some it's a blessing but sometimes I miss company as I spent months with seeing someone everyday to not seeing that person at all..I do miss him but it time that will pass

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Get a sausage dog! Never a dull moment

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By *ackett1962Man  over a year ago

harrow

Just sent you a message op

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By *rimo4uMan  over a year ago

north kensington w10


"In my life....Do you ever get stuck in a rut with life and the days roll into one and you are not sure what to do...I just feel a bit lost at the moment "

Know the feeling all to well! When you feel like you have no purpose in life.

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By *loppsyWoman  over a year ago

marlow

Hell yeah..... one of the reasons I'm on here x

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