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Cliquey

By *BW Snowbunny OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Maybe I'm wrong but something I've noticed both on these forums and clubs is that they are cliquey.

I talk to anyone as I'm very sociable but so many will totally blank you if say 'good morning' or look at you like they stepped in something nasty. Little groups This is a reason why I don't go on my own. The people I go with are all friendly and we always talk to and invite new people to join us so they don't feel like outsiders

Forums: seems to be the same people posting and anyone new gets ignored How is someone supposed to enjoy the forums and get to know others if you're not included?

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By *aughty_amazonWoman over a year ago

BRISTOL

Never mention the c word.....you will meet ruggers naughty step!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe I'm wrong but something I've noticed both on these forums and clubs is that they are cliquey.

Forums: seems to be the same people posting and anyone new gets ignored How is someone supposed to enjoy the forums and get to know others if you're not included?

Keep posting regardless. I regularly get ignored but the more I've posted the easier it has become.

Post in anything that catches your eye and I'm sure you'll get plenty of responses

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi galaxy. (I've never said that before ever, it's like I'm saying a prayer.)

I find this on forums.

You are shouting from the sides, whist the ones at the front get heard first.

Just join in. I do.

But friends (clique) will talk to each other because they're friends. It's not a bad thing. That's a postitive human trait.

When we all start bitching and arguing, that's when It's a shit a forum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can't answer for the clubs because I'm still a Virgin but agree with you on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a lot of truth in what you say.

I remember recently someone said 'there is no clique. I just reply to those people I know and like on here and tend to ignore the others'

You can't stop the regulars posting but I hope newbs or lurkers are not put off.

When I first joined here I was always overlooked. I'd say something on a thread and get totally ignored - then one of the forum regulars would say the exactly the same thing 30 mins later and everyone would pile in about what a jolly good point they'd made! It happens all of the time.

Best advice - keep with it, keep posting and don't worry about it. The more you post the more you'll be noticed.

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By *loppsyWoman over a year ago

marlow

I post on the forums regardless of if I'm ignored or not.

They make me chuckle x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've posted and being ignored more times than I can count, I've also been called out as being part of a clique but that's only because I made the effort to go to a social and get to know people.

Just keep posting, and saying hi to people!

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By *BW Snowbunny OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

"There's a lot of truth in what you say.

I remember recently someone said 'there is no clique. I just reply to those people I know and like on here and tend to ignore the others'

You can't stop the regulars posting but I hope newbs or lurkers are not put off.

Best advice - keep with it, keep posting and don't worry about it. The more you post the more you'll be noticed.

That's exactly it - you post something it's ignored, then someone else posts the same and everybody responds

Maybe there should be a separate heading for "newbies" to introduce themselves etc and to be welcomed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes l agree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just adopt a post when I want to post approach, maybe start an occasional thread

I'm still ignored on the whole, including by people I've messaged before and get replies from away from the forums

My advice is to keep at it, plenty will notice you if you do

R x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When i first came in the forums i got attacked from both sides,maybe i was to honest and told a few people what i thought,im a bit more chilled out now and stay away from the controversial threads

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't see no response as unfriendly. It tells me there's no objection or challenge to my input so in a way, agreement with me, by omission, if you will

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No idea about clubs. The forums are cliquey, but I don't subscribe to the view that there's "a clique". Posters come and go, and there are people monopolising countless threads with plans and flirting that I'd never even seen 3 months ago. In another 3 months it will be entirely different people.

I've been posting on these forums for over 2 years and I still get points ignored in favour of whoever is flavour of the month. Don't take it personally, just barge your way in if you want to and keep on posting what you want

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Every one gets ignored on the forums at some point.

It happens to me quite often. I wouldn't let it bother you though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't see no response as unfriendly. It tells me there's no objection or challenge to my input so in a way, agreement with me, by omission, if you will

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By *ynonValleyBullMan over a year ago

Aberdare

That's a pretty good bit of advice really...

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple over a year ago

home sweet home

"Every one gets ignored on the forums at some point.

It happens to me quite often. I wouldn't let it bother you though. "

This

Welcome to the forums op

MrsSB

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Every one gets ignored on the forums at some point.

It happens to me quite often. I wouldn't let it bother you though. "

*Apart from those in the clique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No idea about clubs. The forums are cliquey, but I don't subscribe to the view that there's "a clique". Posters come and go, and there are people monopolising countless threads with plans and flirting that I'd never even seen 3 months ago. In another 3 months it will be entirely different people.

This is true. The 'popular' Forum core evolves over time for sure. And of course not every point everyone makes will be acknowledged - everyone gets overlooked to a degree.

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By *BW Snowbunny OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

Thank you everyone.

It's good to know it's not me being paranoid I shall keep posting and see what happens. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

some of my forum favorites have gone,its really changed on here over the last few months

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple over a year ago

home sweet home

"Thank you everyone.

It's good to know it's not me being paranoid I shall keep posting and see what happens. Xx"

The more you post and start threads the more people will know you and will want to get in your pants

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some of my forum favorites have gone,its really changed on here over the last few months"

Yes. ...is nice to see some new people in the forum. It keeps it fresh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I (Mrs) find quite often I'm ignored on a forum but I just let it go over my head

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By *aughty_amazonWoman over a year ago

BRISTOL

"Every one gets ignored on the forums at some point.

It happens to me quite often. I wouldn't let it bother you though. "

Who are you?.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't do Clicks since I lost my thumbs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some of my forum favorites have gone,its really changed on here over the last few months

Yes. ...is nice to see some new people in the forum. It keeps it fresh.

the forum is/was the only thing keeping me on this site,but lately iv been thinking of doing one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in my own little world anyway so it all goes over the top of my head

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

That's exactly it - you post something it's ignored, then someone else posts the same and everybody responds"

Sometimes I post what I think is a sensible, balanced answer, but it immediately gets lost in a rush of newer posts.

I'd worry that I'd look like a sycophant if I quoted every post I liked and added a

There are many people here who understand my humour, so I know I can get away with saying certain things, whereas a newbie might take offence, so I am more reticent.

I can happily point you in the direction of many of my threads that died without a single post, and I am still the reigning champion on the thread-killer game. (Although this comment rather assumes you consider me to be part of the clique, whereas I have yet to be formally inducted

)

Keep posting, there are many people who will read your post and quietly nod...

..even if it's a whinge about the forum clique.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some of my forum favorites have gone,its really changed on here over the last few months

Yes. ...is nice to see some new people in the forum. It keeps it fresh.

the forum is/was the only thing keeping me on this site,but lately iv been thinking of doing one"

A change is as good as a rest.

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By *icassolifelikeMan over a year ago

Luton

For the men: just remember you're not aloud an opinion that differs from the ladies.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Everyone in the forums was new once. I just joined in. Still do.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I'm in my own little world anyway so it all goes over the top of my head

I find that with most of the threads arguing about height...

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By *eaded_BazMan over a year ago

Truro

"There's a lot of truth in what you say.

I remember recently someone said 'there is no clique. I just reply to those people I know and like on here and tend to ignore the others'

You can't stop the regulars posting but I hope newbs or lurkers are not put off.

Best advice - keep with it, keep posting and don't worry about it. The more you post the more you'll be noticed.

Wise words here from oh what's his name !

Best advice if they aren't prepared to know you they may not be worth knowing.

But agree get to some socials and keep posting, I try and read and comment no matter who posts, don't let it get to you galaxy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Every one gets ignored on the forums at some point.

It happens to me quite often. I wouldn't let it bother you though.

Who are you?.

They guy that gets ignored

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm in my own little world anyway so it all goes over the top of my head

I find that with most of the threads arguing about height...

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I don't overanalyse internet forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyone in the forums was new once. I just joined in. Still do. "

I was just about to post the exact same thing

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By *eaded_BazMan over a year ago

Truro

"For the men: just remember you're not aloud an opinion that differs from the ladies.

Wow seriously, pleased I'm off to work and not about to watch you get torn apart....ok may be ten mins ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you everyone.

It's good to know it's not me being paranoid I shall keep posting and see what happens. Xx"

Yep. Don't worry it's not you. Use the reply and quote more. You'll find people interact more with you when you do.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't do Clicks since I lost my thumbs

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS over a year ago

London&Dublin

If you post something and waiting to get replies, you might get frustrated sometimes.

Just post what you want and don't put any expectations.

Or you can always troll..that will get response quite easily.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you everyone.

It's good to know it's not me being paranoid I shall keep posting and see what happens. Xx

Yep. Don't worry it's not you. Use the reply and quote more. You'll find people interact more with you when you do....."

I tried that. ....The buggers just ended up arguing with me

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple over a year ago

Derbyshire

"and I am still the reigning champion on the thread-killer game."

Bugger me, even Mrs ddc is beating me

{runs off to find a closed thread...}

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Everyone in the forums was new once. I just joined in. Still do. "

Sometimes it's quite fun to just join in a thread that's become the clique love in and see how long I am ignored for. You'll find your way OP. I've been on here for a few years now and the regulars and flirters change over time. Good luck!

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By *eaded_BazMan over a year ago

Truro

"I post on the forums regardless of if I'm ignored or not.

They make me chuckle x"

Plough on through Floppsy x

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

On every Internet forum I've posted on, I've heard people saying there's a "clique".

Are there people on here who tend to respond more to people they know? Yes. Are there people who seem to be a bit unfriendly? Yes.

To me, that's just the Internet writ large though. I've said it before, but I've lost count of the amount of times I've posted something utterly fascinating on some forum on the internet and it's been completely ignored. I've also lost count of the times I've posted utter drivel and it's been the catalyst for a huge discussion and just lapped up by others.

It's not because people are horrible, it's just the internet in all its unfathomable glory.

There's some right loons on here, but it's possible to make some great connections and friendships. Frankly, you do see a lot of utter bollocks posted, so people may be naturally wary take a little while to see how people are. Many's the time I've seen someone get advised to join in the forums and they go from posting stuff like "I've got my love rocket in my hand and I'm parked in a layby on the A35 near Mansfield. Why no replies?

" to become really valued contributors.

I also think there's excellent knowledge and advise dispensed on the forums about general stuff. There's good people with good things to say. Focus on that and it's a good place to be.

Btw - I doubt there's an A35 in Mansfield. I made it up. I made Mansfield up too, truth be told

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you everyone.

It's good to know it's not me being paranoid I shall keep posting and see what happens. Xx

Yep. Don't worry it's not you. Use the reply and quote more. You'll find people interact more with you when you do.....

I tried that. ....The buggers just ended up arguing with me

No they didn't, you were imagining it

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I know this is me being a spelling Nazi, but "advice".

Sorry, it'd ruin my day if I left it.

LS (fully paid-up member of the spelling/ grammar/punctuation clique)

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple over a year ago

home sweet home

I've been ignored in this thread

MrsSB

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you everyone.

It's good to know it's not me being paranoid I shall keep posting and see what happens. Xx

Yep. Don't worry it's not you. Use the reply and quote more. You'll find people interact more with you when you do.....

I tried that. ....The buggers just ended up arguing with me

No they didn't, you were imagining it

Yes they di......wait a minute! I see what's happening here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've been ignored in this thread

MrsSB

Mwah! !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thank you everyone.

It's good to know it's not me being paranoid I shall keep posting and see what happens. Xx

Yep. Don't worry it's not you. Use the reply and quote more. You'll find people interact more with you when you do.....

I tried that. ....The buggers just ended up arguing with me

No they didn't, you were imagining it

Yes they di......wait a minute! I see what's happening here

Nice fandango

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I post in the forums almost daily (sad I know) and to be honest I'm more likely to interact with someone I've seen post before simply because I don't want someone to yell back at me 'who the fuck are you and who asked you?' type of replies rather than the more gentle 'fuck off steve' ones. I just don't know you and don't know how you'd respond.

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By *rnortholtMan over a year ago

E Suffolk

I think it's a lot less of a problem on here than in chat, but perhaps that because the discussions here are so wide ranging.

OK, there are a lot of posts asking for profile advice, cheating on partners, bareback and - well hey you all know the other topics of legend! But as forums go, I think the ones here are pretty good ones and people have come across my radar who might otherwise never have caught my attention.

Yeah, I mean you...no not you....you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's no clique.

And non of the members will post arsey responses on this or other threads about cliques angry that their behaviour is being criticised or hurt that outside of their band of sycophants there are some that don't worship every word they type.

Just let them get on with it. Their acceptance is irrelevant to me

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple over a year ago

home sweet home

"I've been ignored in this thread

MrsSB

Mwah! !!

Yeah. I'm bending straight ladies now

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By *eaded_BazMan over a year ago

Truro

QED

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You just have to post regardless. Not worry about what everyone else is doing.

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By *harpDressed ManMan over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

Clique is not a term for "established regulars"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We get ignored quite regularly it's disheartening but keep at it sometimes we see how many times we get ignored in a day! Always on the snog/fuck/pass posts or the poster above etc but we like to rant and sometimes we get good advice on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I can show 3 threads this morning where I've been ignored.

And more people on this thread have been passed over for a reply too.

Why? Nobody will ever know.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"We get ignored quite regularly it's disheartening but keep at it sometimes we see how many times we get ignored in a day! Always on the snog/fuck/pass posts or the poster above etc but we like to rant and sometimes we get good advice on here

Ads"

It's laughable when on a post like that, the straight man under me manages to miss me out and name a woman further up the thread. Can't be seen interacting with the bi guys

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ads

It's laughable when on a post like that, the straight man under me manages to miss me out and name a woman further up the thread. Can't be seen interacting with the bi guys

Sorry pass

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can show 3 threads this morning where I've been ignored.

And more people on this thread have been passed over for a reply too.

Why? Nobody will ever know.

And just when you thought you were being ignored, some Twat replies to you

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By *rnortholtMan over a year ago

E Suffolk

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It's laughable when on a post like that, the straight man under me manages to miss me out and name a woman further up the thread. Can't be seen interacting with the bi guys

Who said that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On every Internet forum I've posted on, I've heard people saying there's a "clique".

Are there people on here who tend to respond more to people they know? Yes. Are there people who seem to be a bit unfriendly? Yes.

It's not because people are horrible, it's just the internet in all its unfathomable glory.

" to become really valued contributors.

I also think there's excellent knowledge and advise dispensed on the forums about general stuff. There's good people with good things to say. Focus on that and it's a good place to be.

Btw - I doubt there's an A35 in Mansfield. I made it up. I made Mansfield up too, truth be told

A clique is a group of people who interact with each other to the exclusion of others.

There are definitely little cliques on here in the truest sense of the word - but as you say that's bound to happen - it's human nature.

What I don't like is when little groups turn on an outsider that might say something at odds with one of their mates. Then en masse pile in to demean or belittle said outsider and keep backing each other up with praise and validation and ultimately a public display of joyous triumphalism as the outsider is finally mortally slain by the pack.

That does happen on occasion and it's a sad sight when it does!

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"There's a lot of truth in what you say.

I remember recently someone said 'there is no clique. I just reply to those people I know and like on here and tend to ignore the others'

You can't stop the regulars posting but I hope newbs or lurkers are not put off.

Best advice - keep with it, keep posting and don't worry about it. The more you post the more you'll be noticed.

i think you settled in ok

some make the effort op, some dont

some people like you, some dont.

some people you would prefer to not speak to, and spme you would prefer it if they ignored you.

the forums are what you make it tbh. and we are all ignored constantly whether new or not, sometimes by accident we are skipped. ita the nature of linear postings x be well, be happy.. youll soon be accused of being part of some group or other

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I can show 3 threads this morning where I've been ignored.

And more people on this thread have been passed over for a reply too.

Why? Nobody will ever know.

Not everyone on a thread needs a reply - otherwise we'd never get anywhere. I've lost count over the years of the amount of threads I've started and no one has posted on them (the thread of shame) and to individual posts within threads. It just takes time to get 'known'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This.

Only been doing it for 7 years x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe I'm wrong but something I've noticed both on these forums and clubs is that they are cliquey.

Forums: seems to be the same people posting and anyone new gets ignored How is someone supposed to enjoy the forums and get to know others if you're not included?

Do you not find that there are Cliques every where you go?

Pubs, works all have cliques, thats life

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman over a year ago

London

I do think that there is a clique. Generally cliques occur when people know each other over time.

Personally, I don't care. I really don't.

I will talk to anyone. Anything.

Man, woman, child, dog, puss or rat.

If they refuse to talk to me... Well...

I. Don't. Care.

I always wander off to have a blether with someone else. No skin off my nose.

People are generally like answerphones. They get back to you. Eventually.

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"I post on the forums regardless of if I'm ignored or not.

They make me chuckle x"

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Ads

It's laughable when on a post like that, the straight man under me manages to miss me out and name a woman further up the thread. Can't be seen interacting with the bi guys

Who said that?"
exactly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I can show 3 threads this morning where I've been ignored.

And more people on this thread have been passed over for a reply too.

Why? Nobody will ever know.

That's my point.

I just join in another conversation instead. One where I am involved.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are cliques in all walks of life. You say you and your friends go to a club, some people will refer to you being in a clique regardless of your attitude/approach. I go to clubs and know quite a few people, but if I go to a new club I tend to go with friends. When we go people see us as a clique, but my group of friends within the club scene has grown loads, mainly due to how sociable we are and welcoming of anyone. But many people are intimidated by groups of friends, some don't know how to take us or don't think it's right, but one thing is for sure we will talk to anyone (most of the time).

A clique is just a group of people that spend time talking and getting to know one another, it's much easier to get to noticed by people in person than it is over an Internet forum, for obvious reasons.

With these forums you need patience and persistence, or a couldn't care less attitude. Just use the forums for what you want and don't be afraid to post differing views.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't really care or read to much into the cliques - I take the forums with a pinch of salt. They are fun - especially when someone drops a spectacular spanner in and it all goes mental

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By *aughty_amazonWoman over a year ago

BRISTOL

I think friendship can be misinterpreted. If you've met people socially or as a meet you're obviously gonna get on and chat, doesn't mean there's a hidden agenda

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On every Internet forum I've posted on, I've heard people saying there's a "clique".

Are there people on here who tend to respond more to people they know? Yes. Are there people who seem to be a bit unfriendly? Yes.

It's not because people are horrible, it's just the internet in all its unfathomable glory.

" to become really valued contributors.

I also think there's excellent knowledge and advise dispensed on the forums about general stuff. There's good people with good things to say. Focus on that and it's a good place to be.

Btw - I doubt there's an A35 in Mansfield. I made it up. I made Mansfield up too, truth be told

A clique is a group of people who interact with each other to the exclusion of others.

There are definitely little cliques on here in the truest sense of the word - but as you say that's bound to happen - it's human nature.

That does happen on occasion and it's a sad sight when it does!"

Yes I can think of two or three discrete groups who do that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think friendship can be misinterpreted. If you've met people socially or as a meet you're obviously gonna get on and chat, doesn't mean there's a hidden agenda "

I get that - but there's chatting, and then there's taking over entire threads by messaging between two or three posters which, in my view, should be taken to PM because it's not relevant to anyone else on that thread.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't mind chatting to people I don't know but I'm just wary of me thinking they're thinking I'm some sort of pushy person and I'm not, so I don't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't worry about it.It's cyber after all !!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think friendship can be misinterpreted. If you've met people socially or as a meet you're obviously gonna get on and chat, doesn't mean there's a hidden agenda

Yes i agree with this. I've avoided many a thread where this happens. It's tedious to anyone else trying to respond to the points raised by the op.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman over a year ago
Forum Mod

My Own Little World

I've been posting on here for 6 years, seen many changes of forumites over the years, people come and go. The forums are pretty much the same though, interesting, boring, witty, pedantic, stroppy, supportive.....all within 5 minutes.

I add my comments because I have something to say, not because I want to be part of a group. If it gets quoted or a

its nice, if it doesn't I couldn't care less, but it isn't the reason I post, nor will I stop posting if I get 'ignored'.

Nicky

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"There's a lot of truth in what you say.

I remember recently someone said 'there is no clique. I just reply to those people I know and like on here and tend to ignore the others'

You can't stop the regulars posting but I hope newbs or lurkers are not put off.

Best advice - keep with it, keep posting and don't worry about it. The more you post the more you'll be noticed.

I couldn't have put it better than this to be honest

Welcome OP...have fun, join in and be careful out there

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"I think friendship can be misinterpreted. If you've met people socially or as a meet you're obviously gonna get on and chat, doesn't mean there's a hidden agenda

Yes i agree with this. I've avoided many a thread where this happens. It's tedious to anyone else trying to respond to the points raised by the op."

Just this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

took me months to be noticed but i loved the banter - been here over 6 years and when old account deleted only a very few even noticed - does it bother me - nope - its still fun - stay away from the threads that piss you off unless you enjoy an argument

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I get that - but there's chatting, and then there's taking over entire threads by messaging between two or three posters which, in my view, should be taken to PM because it's not relevant to anyone else on that thread. "

Yes. Sometimes I'm tempted to suggest PMing but then I can't be arsed with the inevitable backlash.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I post anyway lol. Chatting away to myself as I would do at home!

I'm happy to be the girly in the corner who pipes up now and then.

I love to talk to folk so the forum is a pretty cool way to do that without actually stepping into the cold.

Eve. Xx

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"I've posted and being ignored more times than I can count, I've also been called out as being part of a clique but that's only because I made the effort to go to a social and get to know people.

Just keep posting, and saying hi to people!

Agreed !! I am part of my own clique - me myself and I

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I've been posting on and off for a few years.

Most of my posts, go unnoticed or get ignored. *Shrugs* Doesn't stop me joining in, when I feel like it. I'm used to talking to myself, I do it regularly.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Whatever comes out from this thread it's nice to see people post who I've not seen post before (or much). More the merrier. Carry on posting....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Agree with all that's been said.

I sometimes get ignored and sometimes don't same as everyone.

The more you post the more you'll be noticed.

Sometimes on a long thread it's a case of replying to the post you relate more to.

I wish there was a 'like' button for individual posts!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"Never mention the c word.....you will meet ruggers naughty step!"

You won't

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By *aughty_amazonWoman over a year ago

BRISTOL

"Never mention the c word.....you will meet ruggers naughty step!

You won't"

Thought this topic was banned?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"For the men: just remember you're not aloud an opinion that differs from the ladies.

You are...it will just probably be ignored

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"Never mention the c word.....you will meet ruggers naughty step!

You won't

Thought this topic was banned?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For the men: just remember you're not aloud an opinion that differs from the ladies.

You are...it will just probably be ignored

Or shot down in flames by a White Knight desperate to get into the ladies knickers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyway, there you go OP - already around 100 replies to your thread so 'welcome to the clique'

Fancy a fuck??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For the men: just remember you're not aloud an opinion that differs from the ladies.

You are...it will just probably be ignored

Or shot down in flames by a White Knight desperate to get into the ladies knickers

You called

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You'll get this in all areas of life where some people get on with some more than others. People's personalities will also clash. Thing is to remain consistent. If you enjoy forum discussions and want to post then post. We all have the same right to be here and to be respected. Anyone that doesn't respect that I feel shows more about their character to yourself and other forum users

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Never mention the c word.....you will meet ruggers naughty step!

You won't

Thought this topic was banned?"

haha the b word is

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Maybe I'm wrong but something I've noticed both on these forums and clubs is that they are cliquey.

Forums: seems to be the same people posting and anyone new gets ignored How is someone supposed to enjoy the forums and get to know others if you're not included?

Op you have only scratch the surface with this post cliques exist on here and they even effect who can or can not meet who . Hence my preference to stay well clear of certain little groups and there mixed up ideas on who can be friends with who and who can play with who .

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I've said it before, but the biggest clique on Fab is "I hate the cliqueness of Fab" clique

I'm not being entirely serious, but there's a sort of point about perceptions in there somewhere.

I spent months thinking I was a Fab outsider and was shocked when someone accused a key member of "the clique"!

I do think people often get a bit too fixated on being ignored. I probably read every post in a thread and respond to one in twenty. If I had more time I'd respond to more. That's not "ignoring" them.

I'm not saying there isn't little groups of people on here and some aren't nice. It's the same in the real world though - human nature in all its lovely and horrible glory.

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By *aughty_amazonWoman over a year ago

BRISTOL

"Never mention the c word.....you will meet ruggers naughty step!

You won't

Thought this topic was banned?

haha the b word is

I can't win can I, maybe I should just be aggressive and attack everyone instead

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some of my forum favorites have gone,its really changed on here over the last few months

Yes. ...is nice to see some new people in the forum. It keeps it fresh.

the forum is/was the only thing keeping me on this site,but lately iv been thinking of doing one"

Are we not worthy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been on and off the forums for years. Most of what I write probably gets read, but doesn't get a reply. That's because I only add to the topic, the same as others. My words don't warrant a reply, usually, and I don't expect one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some of my forum favorites have gone,its really changed on here over the last few months

Yes. ...is nice to see some new people in the forum. It keeps it fresh.

the forum is/was the only thing keeping me on this site,but lately iv been thinking of doing one

Are we not worthy?

Why of course you are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some of my forum favorites have gone,its really changed on here over the last few months

Yes. ...is nice to see some new people in the forum. It keeps it fresh.

the forum is/was the only thing keeping me on this site,but lately iv been thinking of doing one

Are we not worthy?

Why of course you are"

Well, that's made me feel so much better

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"some of my forum favorites have gone,its really changed on here over the last few months

Yes. ...is nice to see some new people in the forum. It keeps it fresh.

the forum is/was the only thing keeping me on this site,but lately iv been thinking of doing one

Are we not worthy?

Why of course you are"
yeah don't bugger off, you're the only one who knows where his towel is consistently xxx its the only reason, im not unlos yet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

Just join in, I get ignored too. Who cares

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are always cliques on life. There is nothing you can do and yes I agree with you. Clubs are cliquey and unless you are very pushy you can easily get ignored. I also have found this at parties where upwards of 20 are invited. It is off-putting. Not too bothered about the forums...I tend to chat on the main ones however as the Scotland one can be cliquey at times which is a shame.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some of my forum favorites have gone,its really changed on here over the last few months

Yes. ...is nice to see some new people in the forum. It keeps it fresh.

the forum is/was the only thing keeping me on this site,but lately iv been thinking of doing one

Are we not worthy?

Why of course you areyeah don't bugger off, you're the only one who knows where his towel is consistently xxx its the only reason, im not unlos yet

Oooooh sarky!!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I know this is me being a spelling Nazi, but "advice".

Sorry, it'd ruin my day if I left it.

LS (fully paid-up member of the spelling/ grammar/punctuation clique)"

You're not allowed to correct spelling - you get a ban for it now!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When i first came in the forums i got attacked from both sides,maybe i was to honest and told a few people what i thought,im a bit more chilled out now and stay away from the controversial threads"

Oh you and me both !

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"some of my forum favorites have gone,its really changed on here over the last few months

Yes. ...is nice to see some new people in the forum. It keeps it fresh.

the forum is/was the only thing keeping me on this site,but lately iv been thinking of doing one

Are we not worthy?

Why of course you areyeah don't bugger off, you're the only one who knows where his towel is consistently xxx its the only reason, im not unlos yet

Oooooh sarky!!

"
i wasnt being sarky i was refering to the hitch hikers guide and getting lost..do you feel i am mean or something???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some of my forum favorites have gone,its really changed on here over the last few months

Yes. ...is nice to see some new people in the forum. It keeps it fresh.

the forum is/was the only thing keeping me on this site,but lately iv been thinking of doing one"

I'm also only really here for the forum now as I have a strong interest in sex as a subject .

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too..."

Of course. People meet, enjoy each other's company and want to carry on conversing. As long as there's not the continuation of thread hijacking I really don't see too many fussed about that.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"I know this is me being a spelling Nazi, but "advice".

Sorry, it'd ruin my day if I left it.

LS (fully paid-up member of the spelling/ grammar/punctuation clique)

You're not allowed to correct spelling - you get a ban for it now!

People have always been banned for it if they keep doing it

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By *adyDangerWoman over a year ago

land of debauchery and kink

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too..."

Really

I might go UNLOS now then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

Really

I might go UNLOS now then. "

nah xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I've been a regular forum inhabitant since day-dot and in all that time, I can honestly say all the guff I repeatedly hear about the existence of a clique elite just rolls off the back of this maverick poster....

Forum participation is a transient frivolity that serves no purpose other than providing those who read them or contribute too them with platform of distraction from the daily grind

If anyone is posting to gain popularity or mass acceptance within what they consider the in-crowd they're missing the point completely .....

Yes you can learn a lot from listening to the opinions of others ... you can even learn a lot from challenging your own thoughts in here ,,,,,,,

Everyone who posts should enjoy the process of engaging in lightered banter and thought-exchange with whoever chooses to respond to their continuations...

But do that in-between the moments when we just simply enjoy watching the entertainment of others doing the same.....

In your face Sox.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think friendship can be misinterpreted. If you've met people socially or as a meet you're obviously gonna get on and chat, doesn't mean there's a hidden agenda

Totally agree with you

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"I know this is me being a spelling Nazi, but "advice".

Sorry, it'd ruin my day if I left it.

LS (fully paid-up member of the spelling/ grammar/punctuation clique)

You're not allowed to correct spelling - you get a ban for it now!

People have always been banned for it if they keep doing it "

Even correcting your own spelling? Just wondering, like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I've been a regular forum inhabitant since day-dot and in all that time, I can honestly say all the guff I repeatedly hear about the existence of a clique elite just rolls off the back of this maverick poster....

Forum participation is a transient frivolity that serves no purpose other than providing those who read them or contribute too them with platform of distraction from the daily grind

If anyone is posting to gain popularity or mass acceptance within what they consider the in-crowd they're missing the point completely .....

Yes you can learn a lot from listening to the opinions of others ... you can even learn a lot from challenging your own thoughts in here ,,,,,,,

Everyone who posts should enjoy the process of engaging in lightered banter and thought-exchange with whoever chooses to respond to their continuations...

But do that in-between the moments when we just simply enjoy watching the entertainment of others doing the same.....

In your face Sox.....

Very well said

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too..."

I'm not so sure, admittedly those going by and large use the forums from everyday to occasional but there's only so much forty(ish) people over two weekends can take over really..I'd also say if people don't want threads to be taken over (bugs me too & I'm guilty of doing it sometimes

) then get posting more..

To me its a bit like stirring custard, don't stir enough & you get clumps. Everyone gets ignored at some point on here, you can either take it that peeps are nodding their head at your comment or that they don't give a toss, usually apart from the odd

or quote most of the interesting threads are where someone doesn't agree unless of course they get personal then I just walk away, no point getting out your pram about something/someone you in all likelihood will never meet or want to..

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By *iamondjoeMan over a year ago

Glastonbury

"There's a lot of truth in what you say.

I remember recently someone said 'there is no clique. I just reply to those people I know and like on here and tend to ignore the others'

You can't stop the regulars posting but I hope newbs or lurkers are not put off.

Best advice - keep with it, keep posting and don't worry about it. The more you post the more you'll be noticed.

Yeah, just ignore the cunts and push your way to the front of the bar.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

I just post shit, well not literally shit erghhhhh. That would be so wrong. Now sits back and sniggers. Waiting for the who said that comment

xxxxx Suzi

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Myself and Adam are really new to this world so when we were invited to a party, I was so nervous!

We walked in and everyone seemed to know each other. They were all chatting and I tried to sink into a walk ha ha.

Then some lovely Fabbers came to our rescue. They were so lovely and chatted to us as if we had been friends for years. They them continued to introduce us to others and we ended up having a blast.

Those amazing people will forever be in my good books and they reminded me that no matter what, there are always some fantastic souls around.

Keep posting. I intend to!

Eve. Xx

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

if you chat with friends in another thread its called hijacking, if you start a thread to chat to them, its called being a clique..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Maybe I'm wrong but something I've noticed both on these forums and clubs is that they are cliquey.

Forums: seems to be the same people posting and anyone new gets ignored How is someone supposed to enjoy the forums and get to know others if you're not included?

I think most have that feeling at some point. My comments mostly get ignored, but see it as a way to get involved in the discussion. I just see it as a way to get my two pennies worth in, regardless of whether my point us picked up or not. Try not to take it to heart. There are some on here who are friends, and will naturally gravitate towards each others comments... If all else fails, and you are still feeling ignored, write something very controversial.... You won't get ignored then!

. Just keep plugging OP. I was writing on these forums 4 years ago, and most are new faces compared to then. People come and go on here

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Exactly. It's not a clique, it's just the familiarity of the rolling collection of people currently posting the most, or trying the hardest to get in someone's knickers (or get someone in their knickers!!) - if you don't like them now, come back in a few months it will be a whole different batch!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I know this is me being a spelling Nazi, but "advice".

Sorry, it'd ruin my day if I left it.

LS (fully paid-up member of the spelling/ grammar/punctuation clique)

You're not allowed to correct spelling - you get a ban for it now!

People have always been banned for it if they keep doing it

Even correcting your own spelling? Just wondering, like

Oh that's not being a grammar Nazi then, just anal!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

the good thing about these threads is that they reach 175 quite quickly

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"if you chat with friends in another thread its called hijacking, if you start a thread to chat to them, its called being a clique..

If the OP has nothing to do with what the conversation becomes about between those friends and it becomes a flirting session which prevents or stops the original discussion then yes, it is. It's great you can put your penultimate point so succinctly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

176

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"if you chat with friends in another thread its called hijacking, if you start a thread to chat to them, its called being a clique..

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By *piritsonfabCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

"There's a lot of truth in what you say.

I remember recently someone said 'there is no clique. I just reply to those people I know and like on here and tend to ignore the others'

You can't stop the regulars posting but I hope newbs or lurkers are not put off.

Best advice - keep with it, keep posting and don't worry about it. The more you post the more you'll be noticed.

That's exactly it - you post something it's ignored, then someone else posts the same and everybody responds

Maybe there should be a separate heading for "newbies" to introduce themselves etc and to be welcomed. "

Yep. I completely agree.

And there is, the introduction part. My post was ignored there too. The only way to get attention is to post something "ist". And I can do without that really.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"you cant please all the people all the time..

Thanks! I'd forgotten you couldn't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah, I've noticed how they all leap on new people when something is said they don't agree with as well. Like a pack of hyenas. I still quite like the forums though.

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By *eliz NelsonMan over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

Hi!

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"you cant please all the people all the time..

Thanks! I'd forgotten you couldn't.

"
..yes well, easy done..have a wonderful day xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We post on things we are interested in and don't take it to heart if no one comments on our opinion, to be fair I read the first few messages then skipped down to the bottom to write this.. no ignoring anyone, just haven't got the time to read the whole thread.

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By *eliz NelsonMan over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"Hi!

See OP!

See what I did there!

Completely ignored

Tut tut the sacrifices I make to reassure people!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. "
maybe no one will care, is that worse?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP...... see what you done?...... now you've got a lot of responding too do if you don't want people feeling ignored .....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If it looks like a thread is going to be commented on loads and it's quite juicy I'll try and limit my comments so everyone can have their say (threads have limits to how many posts)

Things that get me quoting a response to are arguments, if I fancy someone or if it's something particularly funny or that I strongly agree with.

I get ignored as well, think everyone does at some point.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. maybe no one will care, is that worse?

I reckon there will be another 'clique' thread within a week

I just think, you go to a social, make friends so of course you're going to want to chat to them on the forums. It's natural, right!? I think you've said this before.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If it looks like a thread is going to be commented on loads and it's quite juicy I'll try and limit my comments so everyone can have their say (threads have limits to how many posts)

Things that get me quoting a response to are arguments, if I fancy someone or if it's something particularly funny or that I strongly agree with.

I get ignored as well, think everyone does at some point. "

Did you say something

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By *dam_TinaCouple over a year ago

Hampshire

Just start a thread on cake. You´ll get more responses than you can shake a stick at.

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"I know this is me being a spelling Nazi, but "advice".

Sorry, it'd ruin my day if I left it.

LS (fully paid-up member of the spelling/ grammar/punctuation clique)

You're not allowed to correct spelling - you get a ban for it now!

People have always been banned for it if they keep doing it

Even correcting your own spelling? Just wondering, like

Oh that's not being a grammar Nazi then, just anal!

I know, I know. I don't think I've ever corrected someone else's mistakes (I've maybe made supportive comments about checking spelling generally when advice has been asked).

I just correct my own errors. It would have bugged me all day otherwise.

Yep, I need to get a life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. maybe no one will care, is that worse?

I reckon there will be another 'clique' thread within a week

I just think, you go to a social, make friends so of course you're going to want to chat to them on the forums. It's natural, right!? I think you've said this before."

Maybe so but they shouldn't take over what the thread is about which happens alot,if they have something to add regarding the topic great

But not to go off in a tangent and take over,isn't that what the pm button is for

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By *BW Snowbunny OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

"If you post something and waiting to get replies, you might get frustrated sometimes.

Just post what you want and don't put any expectations.

Or you can always troll..that will get response quite easily.

I don't expect people to reply all the time. It when they blatantly ignore a question you ask, I just think have you got a broom stuck up your arse ??

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. maybe no one will care, is that worse?

I reckon there will be another 'clique' thread within a week

I just think, you go to a social, make friends so of course you're going to want to chat to them on the forums. It's natural, right!? I think you've said this before."
right..thing is people moan until they actually feel they belong and then they are quite happy with whatever because they aren't an 'onlooker'..so they perceive it differently. not everyone is going to get on on here, some people at flitting in and out, some people are busy..its easy to miss someone out..sometimes its intentional but other times quite innocently..the only time i speak to absolutely everyone is when i host a thread. hosting a thread s different to posting a thread..imo..i dont ignore anyone when im hosting..every single person gets a response, but that takes a lot of time..worth it, yes for me and for the thread, but, i don't have that kind of time often..and some dont really care, they are here to have their kind of fun..thats just the way it is x

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By *BW Snowbunny OP Woman over a year ago

Somewhere over the Rainbow

"On every Internet forum I've posted on, I've heard people saying there's a "clique".

Are there people on here who tend to respond more to people they know? Yes. Are there people who seem to be a bit unfriendly? Yes.

It's not because people are horrible, it's just the internet in all its unfathomable glory.

" to become really valued contributors.

I also think there's excellent knowledge and advise dispensed on the forums about general stuff. There's good people with good things to say. Focus on that and it's a good place to be.

Btw - I doubt there's an A35 in Mansfield. I made it up. I made Mansfield up too, truth be told

Mansfield does exist and it'll be the A38 lol

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By *iver2015Woman over a year ago

middlesbrough

I always get ignored. I bet nobody will even reply to this post...

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. maybe no one will care, is that worse?

I reckon there will be another 'clique' thread within a week

I just think, you go to a social, make friends so of course you're going to want to chat to them on the forums. It's natural, right!? I think you've said this before.

Maybe so but they shouldn't take over what the thread is about which happens alot,if they have something to add regarding the topic great

But not to go off in a tangent and take over,isn't that what the pm button is for "
sometimes hijacking can diffuse nasty situations, take the heat out of a conversation..the posters may not like it, but it saves people a spell on the naughty step. if its not open to everyone the op should write in their first post, what they do and dont want to hear....then all the people on the same page can write and others leave them alone..simples.

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. maybe no one will care, is that worse?

I reckon there will be another 'clique' thread within a week

I just think, you go to a social, make friends so of course you're going to want to chat to them on the forums. It's natural, right!? I think you've said this before. right..thing is people moan until they actually feel they belong and then they are quite happy with whatever because they aren't an 'onlooker'..so they perceive it differently. not everyone is going to get on on here, some people at flitting in and out, some people are busy..its easy to miss someone out..sometimes its intentional but other times quite innocently..the only time i speak to absolutely everyone is when i host a thread. hosting a thread s different to posting a thread..imo..i dont ignore anyone when im hosting..every single person gets a response, but that takes a lot of time..worth it, yes for me and for the thread, but, i don't have that kind of time often..and some dont really care, they are here to have their kind of fun..thats just the way it is x"

I hosted my first thread the other day which I was nervous about actually but it went ok as it goes but I didn't respond to everyone as I didn't have the time but I like your point next time I will make time I think.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. maybe no one will care, is that worse?

I reckon there will be another 'clique' thread within a week

I just think, you go to a social, make friends so of course you're going to want to chat to them on the forums. It's natural, right!? I think you've said this before."

Agreed, One thing I will say from our own experience is if you are going to get involved be "You" we got nowhere out in the general find/message/delete world of Fab..So I came here & started posting, Based around what you say & how you say it some will dislike you, some will like you & your posts may even make someone contact you & lead to a playmeet..

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. maybe no one will care, is that worse?

I reckon there will be another 'clique' thread within a week

"
my favourite time on here is when i host...practice your scroll type speed, sometimes you need it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi!

See OP!

See what I did there!

Completely ignored

Tut tut the sacrifices I make to reassure people!

.... I'm not ignoring you babe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too..."

I think it might be less so. I already know who's planning on fucking who, who's counting down, who's going to soak the bed, blah blah blah and the incessant counting down type posts might end.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple over a year ago

West Wales

"I always get ignored. I bet nobody will even reply to this post...

Hellooooo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

I think it might be less so. I already know who's planning on fucking who, who's counting down, who's going to soak the bed, blah blah blah and the incessant counting down type posts might end."

You need to fill me in with this gossip!

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. maybe no one will care, is that worse?

I reckon there will be another 'clique' thread within a week

I just think, you go to a social, make friends so of course you're going to want to chat to them on the forums. It's natural, right!? I think you've said this before.

Maybe so but they shouldn't take over what the thread is about which happens alot,if they have something to add regarding the topic great

But not to go off in a tangent and take over,isn't that what the pm button is for sometimes hijacking can diffuse nasty situations, take the heat out of a conversation..the posters may not like it, but it saves people a spell on the naughty step. if its not open to everyone the op should write in their first post, what they do and dont want to hear....then all the people on the same page can write and others leave them alone..simples."

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"I always get ignored. I bet nobody will even reply to this post...

Hellooooo

hi river hi hmmmmmaybe..hope you are having a good tuesday x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just think have you got a broom stuck up your arse ??"

Sometimes needs must..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Clicker

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. maybe no one will care, is that worse?

I reckon there will be another 'clique' thread within a week

my favourite time on here is when i host...practice your scroll type speed, sometimes you need it

That's so true I'm always going over what I wrote checking my spelling lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Clikey

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. maybe no one will care, is that worse?

I reckon there will be another 'clique' thread within a week

I just think, you go to a social, make friends so of course you're going to want to chat to them on the forums. It's natural, right!? I think you've said this before.

Maybe so but they shouldn't take over what the thread is about which happens alot,if they have something to add regarding the topic great

If it's to diffuse a potential situation then ok maybe,however that ain't always the case is it and the fact someone wanted to mention the "Manchester social " and others will be moaning about the clique actually probably just highlights the fact there is one,but it's all about opinion and hear say and to be honest who really cares just do what you wanna do,it will offend some not others you can't please them all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Click

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Clock

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"On every Internet forum I've posted on, I've heard people saying there's a "clique".

Are there people on here who tend to respond more to people they know? Yes. Are there people who seem to be a bit unfriendly? Yes.

It's not because people are horrible, it's just the internet in all its unfathomable glory.

" to become really valued contributors.

I also think there's excellent knowledge and advise dispensed on the forums about general stuff. There's good people with good things to say. Focus on that and it's a good place to be.

Btw - I doubt there's an A35 in Mansfield. I made it up. I made Mansfield up too, truth be told

Mansfield does exist and it'll be the A38 lol"

Thank you. I do know it's a real place - I used to live in the East Midlands. I was just going for cheap laughs. I should have known the A38 went through it though - used to drive that damn dual carriageway for years

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"You know it's going to be much more 'cliquey' after the Manchester meets, too...

) then get posting more..

I actually meant that as people will moan about it being more cliquey after the Manchester meets. maybe no one will care, is that worse?

I reckon there will be another 'clique' thread within a week

I just think, you go to a social, make friends so of course you're going to want to chat to them on the forums. It's natural, right!? I think you've said this before.

Maybe so but they shouldn't take over what the thread is about which happens alot,if they have something to add regarding the topic great

I've seen people say that before and they still get everyone doing the opposite those people are really annoying, sick of hearing because we can speech as that works both ways, you can also cannot ruin someone post. "
i dont get aggro on my hosted threads those that dont like me, or, the thread stay away..new people feel included and everyone has fun..light hearted, inclusive and nice..other people can attract what they want... and you can ignore it if it shows up anyway, no one has to join in with anything x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We all talk shite but at least I know I talk site,,,, so that makes my shite better than your shite.....

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"Every one gets ignored on the forums at some point.

It happens to me quite often. I wouldn't let it bother you though. "

Exactly,but then it wouldn't give people a reason to have a good old moan would it

. Some people have been on here year's or have met each other,they're clearly going to take more notice of each other rather than me. You have a choice either join in and be prepared for others to ignore you or quit the moaning and stay away from the forums.

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