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Have you gained confidence since joining fab?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I absolutely adore your avatar! 
And yes, I have a lot more confidence since joining fab x
Little pervert 
I can't help it. You're too sexy xx  "
 oh my spaghetti girl xx |
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"I absolutely adore your avatar!
And yes, I have a lot more confidence since joining fab x
Little pervert
I can't help it. You're too sexy xx
oh my spaghetti girl xx"
I'm coming to see you after pay day xx |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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I would say yes especially in the types of photos
My black and white with me on a bed I would never have done years ago
I have come to realise that people will like me and people won't that's the way life is  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I absolutely adore your avatar!
And yes, I have a lot more confidence since joining fab x
Little pervert
I can't help it. You're too sexy xx
oh my spaghetti girl xx
I'm coming to see you after pay day xx"
Next month? Xx |
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"I absolutely adore your avatar!
And yes, I have a lot more confidence since joining fab x
Little pervert
I can't help it. You're too sexy xx
oh my spaghetti girl xx
I'm coming to see you after pay day xx
Next month? Xx"
Yaaas x |
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"Safe to say I have - when I first joined last May I wouldn't even consider having a topless photo up.  "
Great question, I think in some ways yes, I'd never suffered from a lack of confidence or inhibitors. I've gained a lot more confidence in being able to talk openly with like minded fun people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Safe to say I have - when I first joined last May I wouldn't even consider having a topless photo up. "
I've got to say no... I haven't really gained confidence.. I think over the years many things have knocked me and Im not stupid enough to believe all the adoration women get on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I absolutely adore your avatar!
And yes, I have a lot more confidence since joining fab x
Little pervert
I can't help it. You're too sexy xx
oh my spaghetti girl xx
I'm coming to see you after pay day xx
Next month? Xx
Yaaas x"
Text me you ejit  x |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Safe to say I have - when I first joined last May I wouldn't even consider having a topless photo up. "
Yes I have had my confidence boosted and also massively reduced admittedly by a troll but still knocked me down again.
I have learnt that my perception of myself is different from others so it's my issues I have to deal with.
Someone will like me or not as I am.
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"I absolutely adore your avatar!
And yes, I have a lot more confidence since joining fab x
Little pervert
I can't help it. You're too sexy xx
oh my spaghetti girl xx
I'm coming to see you after pay day xx
Next month? Xx
Yaaas x
Text me you ejit x"
Alright alright! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Safe to say I have - when I first joined last May I wouldn't even consider having a topless photo up. "
And now your profile pic is a topless one. You go girl! Its a lovely pic  xxx |
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"Safe to say I have - when I first joined last May I wouldn't even consider having a topless photo up. I've got to say no... I haven't really gained confidence.. I think over the years many things have knocked me and Im not stupid enough to believe all the adoration women get on here. "
Wish there was more of a filter on here, I'm never fake with anyone and always honest. It's a shame that it seems falsehoods are prevalent when trying to get sex, I maybe be wrong here but that's not what this site is all about ? Yes it's formopen minded people to enjoy in whatever way they see fit but respect seems to be lacking. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Safe to say I have - when I first joined last May I wouldn't even consider having a topless photo up. "
I'm glad to here this op but I think its only fair to point out that sycophantic behaviour and desperation for sex go hand in hand .
which makes confidence gained off of here kind of fake as its strangers paying compliments because they have a agenda .
the best kind of confidence and the only confidence you or anyone should be interest in is the confidence that comes from with in not with out in my opinion .
sorry to be a spoil sport but this world is a fake one on the whole so everything said to you by those in it good and bad should be taken with a pinch of salt in my honest opinion failure to do so leads to false believe in my opinion . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Slightly, but still a hell of a way to go 
I enjoy the attention I get when dressed as a woman, whereas I've never garnered a second glance in my natural male state lol |
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I'm not sure if confidence is the right word but Fab has certainly taught me a lot about myself. For example being bi and enjoying different types of meets isn't just a phase , it is who I am and I know that if i go from being single to being a couple again in the future, the unlucky lady in question will almost certainly have to have the same lifestyle |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No, ever since phones were able to send pictures and videos I've sent smut, used to send my ex videos of me peeing, pictures of my arse hole, anything, not really bothered. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Safe to say I have - when I first joined last May I wouldn't even consider having a topless photo up.
I'm glad to here this op but I think its only fair to point out that sycophantic behaviour and desperation for sex go hand in hand .
which makes confidence gained off of here kind of fake as its strangers paying compliments because they have a agenda .
the best kind of confidence and the only confidence you or anyone should be interest in is the confidence that comes from with in not with out in my opinion .
sorry to be a spoil sport but this world is a fake one on the whole so everything said to you by those in it good and bad should be taken with a pinch of salt in my honest opinion failure to do so leads to false believe in my opinion ."
It's not fab that's given me confidence - I don't believe compliments on here 
It's more seeing well taken photos of myself and thinking 'wow I look good without feeling the need to suck my stomach in or filter it.' That & other non-fab occurrences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Safe to say I have - when I first joined last May I wouldn't even consider having a topless photo up.
I'm glad to here this op but I think its only fair to point out that sycophantic behaviour and desperation for sex go hand in hand .
which makes confidence gained off of here kind of fake as its strangers paying compliments because they have a agenda .
the best kind of confidence and the only confidence you or anyone should be interest in is the confidence that comes from with in not with out in my opinion .
sorry to be a spoil sport but this world is a fake one on the whole so everything said to you by those in it good and bad should be taken with a pinch of salt in my honest opinion failure to do so leads to false believe in my opinion ."
Absolutely spot on,Jackie gets compliments daily on here but they don't mean one jot to her because she knows they have an agenda and the very same compliment would of been said by the same guy on the same day to many others |
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Confidence nope, ego boost meh take each comment with a pinch of salt as its designed to get into my knickers.
Am I having kinky fuckery fun, yes! my confidence issues are nowt to do with sex, and all to do with cunt exes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely a confident booster it has been for me in different areas though also self worth self esteem has bounced up but it can be dangerous for people with serious issues like these |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
It's made me think differently about myself and people's perceptions of me...whether that means I'm more confident I'm not sure...ask me again in a few months when I've had this solo profile a while longer |
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"Confidence nope, ego boost meh take each comment with a pinch of salt as its designed to get into my knickers.
Am I having kinky fuckery fun, yes! my confidence issues are nowt to do with sex, and all to do with cunt exes!"
You mean nothing they said is true?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm the same as when I joined.
I'm meh to be honest. Came in with an open mind and gave it a shot. My experience is exactly as I expected it to be.
I'm just walking through the field. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes , a massive confidence booster .
Not because of the messages and compliments received . No , because of the actual meeting , chatting and shagging we have done .
It extends to real life , in as much as the way we feel is more confident and assured in what and who we are .
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"Safe to say I have - when I first joined last May I wouldn't even consider having a topless photo up.
I'm glad to here this op but I think its only fair to point out that sycophantic behaviour and desperation for sex go hand in hand .
which makes confidence gained off of here kind of fake as its strangers paying compliments because they have a agenda .
the best kind of confidence and the only confidence you or anyone should be interest in is the confidence that comes from with in not with out in my opinion .
sorry to be a spoil sport but this world is a fake one on the whole so everything said to you by those in it good and bad should be taken with a pinch of salt in my honest opinion failure to do so leads to false believe in my opinion .
Absolutely spot on,Jackie gets compliments daily on here but they don't mean one jot to her because she knows they have an agenda and the very same compliment would of been said by the same guy on the same day to many others "
There's more to Fab than the false compliments you get from random men.
Meeting men who become actual friends and like you for who you are has been confidence boosting for me.
The stuff in messages isn't part of it. |
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"Yes , a massive confidence booster .
Not because of the messages and compliments received . No , because of the actual meeting , chatting and shagging we have done .
It extends to real life , in as much as the way we feel is more confident and assured in what and who we are .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes and no.
No because I'm mostly contacted by couples who see me as a piece of meat judging by their messages, and yes because I've managed to attract the attention of some fine ladies.
POF on the other hand...yes I've had a huge confidence on that site, I messaged ladies who I thought were way out of my league but received responses. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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In some ways, yes. Not in changing the fact I am still fairly shy with new people but I at least feel confident enough to meet people I will probably have sex with in the first place, even if I am still shy when I do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I've always been a bit shy. Meetin new people has been something that I've struggled with.
Being on fab however I have been able to chat to all sorts of wonderful people and their advice and feedback has been helpful.
I'm more confident in a lot of aspects of my life and has helped my job, friends and sex life. Go fab! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"First time I ever took my top off infront of people I don't know, is currently my avatar, so it's helped in some sense I guess lol
I can help you take off more "
Could always do with a hand  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yes, in some ways. I've developed confidence in exploring my sexuality as although FAB can be judgemental with the right way for NSAing at times, it's enabled me to meet like minded people more easily. In terms of other types of confidence it's a no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really. I'm better with the written word. Although I agonise about everything I write in messages or on the forums in case it's misinterpreted and upsets someone. So..not really.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fab has no impact on my general self-confidence. However I am significantly more sexually confident now as my time on here had led me to be more adventurous, try things I wouldn't have dreamed I'd enjoy years ago, and clearer on what I like and want. Being on Fab, perversely has helped me sort my priorities in life and focus on what really matters. So I'm thankful to those who helped me see myself more clearly in the mirror and slay a couple of dragons |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fab has no impact on my general self-confidence. However I am significantly more sexually confident now as my time on here had led me to be more adventurous, try things I wouldn't have dreamed I'd enjoy years ago, and clearer on what I like and want. Being on Fab, perversely has helped me sort my priorities in life and focus on what really matters. So I'm thankful to those who helped me see myself more clearly in the mirror and slay a couple of dragons"
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"Personally I've always been a bit shy. Meetin new people has been something that I've struggled with.
Being on fab however I have been able to chat to all sorts of wonderful people and their advice and feedback has been helpful.
I'm more confident in a lot of aspects of my life and has helped my job, friends and sex life. Go fab! "
That's a result |
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"First time I ever took my top off infront of people I don't know, is currently my avatar, so it's helped in some sense I guess lol
I can help you take off more
Could always do with a hand "
I'll hold you to that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I absolutely adore your avatar!
And yes, I have a lot more confidence since joining fab x
Little pervert
I can't help it. You're too sexy xx
oh my spaghetti girl xx
I'm coming to see you after pay day xx
Next month? Xx
Yaaas x
Text me you ejit x"
You both are a naughty pair arnt ya x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say it's made me more confident. It's allowed me to be more vocal sexually about my wants and needs, with like minded folk, which has been a sexually liberating experience. I'm not naive enough to believe that every compliment thrown at me on here is a sincere one, as I'm aware that there is a hidden agenda behind it. So I can't take it on board to fuel my confidence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont think its a case of since joining here I have become confident but just experience and getting older has made me more confident. I do have my down days but I have never felt sexier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really
I've never rated myself as anything special and i still don't
I'm realistic enough to know men only mail me because i'm a woman who meets single men and not because i'm attractive
You need to stay grounded on here and take offers for what they are |
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I guess my confidence has improved.
My husband has been ignoring me as a woman for so many years I could not believe any man could find me attractive or want to have sex with me. Being here has made me realise there are men out there who get turned on by my curves. |
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"Not really
I've never rated myself as anything special and i still don't
I'm realistic enough to know men only mail me because i'm a woman who meets single men and not because i'm attractive
You need to stay grounded on here and take offers for what they are "
It's a shame if that's how you feel, although I guess I can understand it. I only message ladies who I feel particularly attracted to and I'm sure I'm not the only one.
From a blokes point of view i have less confidence after being on here. This place is a bit like being a young pauper in hamleys at xmas. |
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"I guess my confidence has improved.
My husband has been ignoring me as a woman for so many years I could not believe any man could find me attractive or want to have sex with me. Being here has made me realise there are men out there who get turned on by my curves."
That's really sad to hear, for both of you! I know how you feel though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I joined here because I was already confident and wanted to meet people who were willing to explore. My confidence just keeps on growing with the more fun I have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No as my confidence has always been high. Validation from men on a sex site wanting to get in my pants mean nothing. "
its right though
why would men complimenting you because they want a fuck give you confidance |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes and no
Yes I am feeling more confident as, on the whole, people have been pretty nice. I've never really had anyone tell me I am good looking before - it is a rare thing and I'm not sure I believe them either.
Some of it is down to me though and the efforts I've made to lose a load of weight and get fitter but it is validated by the positive comments.
Just need to get out and meet some people now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have gained confidence but been on off since I was 23 but am still shy at 1st dnt know why because am a kinky fuck 1ns the shyness dissappear which is normally 1nc I get hard lol |
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