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Why is it that gym fit men are rude to me?
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By *iver2015 OP Woman
over a year ago
middlesbrough |
I've had several messages from local men who have defined muscles and six packs. When I've politely declined their offers which I do for many reasons (age, distance, attraction etc) it's always those guys who send me horrible, abusive messages.
It feels like these men see me as a guaranteed shag because I'm not as good looking or fit as them. Has anyone else experienced this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally no, I've found no correlation between rude messages and body type. But I just delete most of the ones I'm not interested in, so I don't really get any abuse back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had several messages from local men who have defined muscles and six packs. When I've politely declined their offers which I do for many reasons (age, distance, attraction etc) it's always those guys who send me horrible, abusive messages.
It feels like these men see me as a guaranteed shag because I'm not as good looking or fit as them. Has anyone else experienced this? "
I wouldn't worry about it, it could be the juice going to their head.
*disclaimer... I know not all gym goers are on steroids, hence why I said "could be" 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably because they think they are gods gift!!!"
There is probably more than a grain of truth in this. Entitlement is an awful thing and really not attractive, OP I'd say you're dodging bullets
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personally no, I've found no correlation between rude messages and body type. But I just delete most of the ones I'm not interested in, so I don't really get any abuse back.
This!  "
Absolutely this , if you don't like the drama simply block . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally. "
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get the same OP...hot women thinking am less than some gym buff cunt...I can pick up any woman regardless of her size..
I need a crane though...am weak as fuck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
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Bit of a judgement to make! |
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By *iver2015 OP Woman
over a year ago
middlesbrough |
"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
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Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about. "
You tell him girl!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
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Her version sounds more likely to me tbh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
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Controversial |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Bit of a judgement to make! "
I get the same though?
Everytime the gym fit beautiful women message me begging me for my cock and I politely tell them I arn't interested and they always get nasty because I've knocked them back !
The fat ugly birds are always very pleasant to me though ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Her version sounds more likely to me tbh."
Maybe, I have found something similar, why do all the stunning gym bunnys on here get arsey with me when I turn them down, I don't understand it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Bit of a judgement to make!
I get the same though?
Everytime the gym fit beautiful women message me begging me for my cock and I politely tell them I arn't interested and they always get nasty because I've knocked them back !
The fat ugly birds are always very pleasant to me though ?
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You beat me to it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Think the steroids are feeding the aggression! "
Yep, we all know it's impossible to be muscular without them  .
Sorry to hear that OP, block and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Bit of a judgement to make!
I get the same though?
Everytime the gym fit beautiful women message me begging me for my cock and I politely tell them I arn't interested and they always get nasty because I've knocked them back !
The fat ugly birds are always very pleasant to me though ?
You beat me to it "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about. "
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm "
He didn't really just "ask a question" though did he? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Bit of a judgement to make!
I get the same though?
Everytime the gym fit beautiful women message me begging me for my cock and I politely tell them I arn't interested and they always get nasty because I've knocked them back !
The fat ugly birds are always very pleasant to me though ?
"
Well aren't you a delight?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm "
Got a aggressive reply (God knows how the appointment got in there) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Bit of a judgement to make!
I get the same though?
Everytime the gym fit beautiful women message me begging me for my cock and I politely tell them I arn't interested and they always get nasty because I've knocked them back !
The fat ugly birds are always very pleasant to me though ?
Well aren't you a delight?! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm
He didn't really just "ask a question" though did he?"
Maybe not however she was aggressive with her words,exactly what she's moaning about in her post |
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"I've had several messages from local men who have defined muscles and six packs. When I've politely declined their offers which I do for many reasons (age, distance, attraction etc) it's always those guys who send me horrible, abusive messages.
It feels like these men see me as a guaranteed shag because I'm not as good looking or fit as them. Has anyone else experienced this? "
LOL don't worry about it. most will end up with trannies or men for sex anyway, you're just a smoke screen so don't let it bother you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had several messages from local men who have defined muscles and six packs. When I've politely declined their offers which I do for many reasons (age, distance, attraction etc) it's always those guys who send me horrible, abusive messages.
It feels like these men see me as a guaranteed shag because I'm not as good looking or fit as them. Has anyone else experienced this? "
That will be ego or steroids I'd say...I like to think of myself as gym fit but would only talk to and treat others the same way id want in return, regardless of how good I think I look |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm
He didn't really just "ask a question" though did he?
Maybe not however she was aggressive with her words,exactly what she's moaning about in her post "
Leaping to the defence of the poor downtrodden single man doesn't really work in this case. You could have picked a much better example to make your point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm "
It is the usual forum double standards, I can hear the white knights mounting their horses, |
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By *iver2015 OP Woman
over a year ago
middlesbrough |
"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm
He didn't really just "ask a question" though did he?
Maybe not however she was aggressive with her words,exactly what she's moaning about in her post "
He was just being rude for the sake of it. It wasn't a question and if being called a prick was the extent of what I'd received then I wouldn't have made this post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about. "
Why does his response make him a prick ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm
He didn't really just "ask a question" though did he?
Maybe not however she was aggressive with her words,exactly what she's moaning about in her post
Leaping to the defence of the poor downtrodden single man doesn't really work in this case. You could have picked a much better example to make your point. "
Nope,simply pointing out she was exactly what she was moaning about,not defending anyone however feel free to see it how you wish |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Why does his response make him a prick ? "
Hey don't go defending him,the masses are on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You know when women get accused of being needy and insecure because they suggest there are people who they won't meet because they think they're out of their league and everyone says "there's no such thing as leagues, how immature" etc etc...?
Yeah, that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have found that a large amount of "6 pack men" in vanilla life are arrogant and to a degree narcissistic, but on swingers sites it seems to be multiplied, and they can be incredibly Narcissistic, and downright arrogant if a "lesser" person contacts them, or if they are rejected..
After 5 years on Fab I have seen this happen with several friends.. I've even had one ask how a fat fuck like me can get meets....
Report, Block and move on... it's their loss.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm
He didn't really just "ask a question" though did he?
Maybe not however she was aggressive with her words,exactly what she's moaning about in her post
Leaping to the defence of the poor downtrodden single man doesn't really work in this case. You could have picked a much better example to make your point.
Nope,simply pointing out she was exactly what she was moaning about,not defending anyone however feel free to see it how you wish "
But it's not the same, because he's called her a liar and said she's too unattractive to be messaging the people she's messaging. Not exactly the same as a polite no thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have found that a large amount of "6 pack men" in vanilla life are arrogant and to a degree narcissistic, but on swingers sites it seems to be multiplied, and they can be incredibly Narcissistic, and downright arrogant if a "lesser" person contacts them, or if they are rejected..
After 5 years on Fab I have seen this happen with several friends.. I've even had one ask how a fat fuck like me can get meets....
Report, Block and move on... it's their loss.
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Why have you been messaging men?? |
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We've never really experienced this but it is a shame and generally ruins the site.
We're both definitely not "fit" but we are fairly picky none the less and turn down a lot of people.
Still yet to have a bad nasty message. I guess we're lucky but I hope it isn't spoiling the site for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm
He didn't really just "ask a question" though did he?
Maybe not however she was aggressive with her words,exactly what she's moaning about in her post
Leaping to the defence of the poor downtrodden single man doesn't really work in this case. You could have picked a much better example to make your point.
Nope,simply pointing out she was exactly what she was moaning about,not defending anyone however feel free to see it how you wish
But it's not the same, because he's called her a liar and said she's too unattractive to be messaging the people she's messaging. Not exactly the same as a polite no thanks."
Agreed liar,a prick equally as bad,oh no it isn't sorry because one is said by a woman and the other by a guy,nope your right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had several messages from local men who have defined muscles and six packs. When I've politely declined their offers which I do for many reasons (age, distance, attraction etc) it's always those guys who send me horrible, abusive messages.
It feels like these men see me as a guaranteed shag because I'm not as good looking or fit as them. Has anyone else experienced this? "
They're probably just thick as fuck. |
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By *f4loanMan
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm
He didn't really just "ask a question" though did he?
Maybe not however she was aggressive with her words,exactly what she's moaning about in her post
Leaping to the defence of the poor downtrodden single man doesn't really work in this case. You could have picked a much better example to make your point.
Nope,simply pointing out she was exactly what she was moaning about,not defending anyone however feel free to see it how you wish
But it's not the same, because he's called her a liar and said she's too unattractive to be messaging the people she's messaging. Not exactly the same as a polite no thanks.
Agreed liar,a prick equally as bad,oh no it isn't sorry because one is said by a woman and the other by a guy,nope your right "
Glad you agree I'm right, even though you won't find your supposed double standard here. I'd think he was a prick for saying that if he was a woman too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had several messages from local men who have defined muscles and six packs. When I've politely declined their offers which I do for many reasons (age, distance, attraction etc) it's always those guys who send me horrible, abusive messages.
It feels like these men see me as a guaranteed shag because I'm not as good looking or fit as them. Has anyone else experienced this?
They're probably just thick as fuck. "
This is nonsense .
Gym fit guys with six packs are generally just as polite and respectful as anyone else from our experience . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had these kind of messages from women and couples who've messaged me and expect me just to say yes because I'm a single male on here. Also the "how are you" winks and instant friend requests that are so detested that apparently men are only at fault of. No generalisations there are some good people on here and there are assholes on her but it annoys me that the forums are basically used to have a go at men and its seen as OK but if its in reverse the op is seen as a cunt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm
He didn't really just "ask a question" though did he?
Maybe not however she was aggressive with her words,exactly what she's moaning about in her post
Leaping to the defence of the poor downtrodden single man doesn't really work in this case. You could have picked a much better example to make your point.
Nope,simply pointing out she was exactly what she was moaning about,not defending anyone however feel free to see it how you wish
But it's not the same, because he's called her a liar and said she's too unattractive to be messaging the people she's messaging. Not exactly the same as a polite no thanks.
Agreed liar,a prick equally as bad,oh no it isn't sorry because one is said by a woman and the other by a guy,nope your right
Glad you agree I'm right, even though you won't find your supposed double standard here. I'd think he was a prick for saying that if he was a woman too. "
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Why does his response make him a prick ? "
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm
He didn't really just "ask a question" though did he?
Maybe not however she was aggressive with her words,exactly what she's moaning about in her post
Leaping to the defence of the poor downtrodden single man doesn't really work in this case. You could have picked a much better example to make your point.
Nope,simply pointing out she was exactly what she was moaning about,not defending anyone however feel free to see it how you wish
But it's not the same, because he's called her a liar and said she's too unattractive to be messaging the people she's messaging. Not exactly the same as a polite no thanks.
Agreed liar,a prick equally as bad,oh no it isn't sorry because one is said by a woman and the other by a guy,nope your right
Glad you agree I'm right, even though you won't find your supposed double standard here. I'd think he was a prick for saying that if he was a woman too.
Your far from right but can't be arsed with the fab love in double standards "
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"I've had these kind of messages from women and couples who've messaged me and expect me just to say yes because I'm a single male on here. Also the "how are you" winks and instant friend requests that are so detested that apparently men are only at fault of. No generalisations there are some good people on here and there are assholes on her but it annoys me that the forums are basically used to have a go at men and its seen as OK but if its in reverse the op is seen as a cunt."
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Not at all. You sound exactly like the type of prick I'm talking about.
Aww a single women being abusive,that's ok that will be supported on here,the guy asked a question and got an appointment aggressive reply Hmmmm
He didn't really just "ask a question" though did he?
Maybe not however she was aggressive with her words,exactly what she's moaning about in her post
Leaping to the defence of the poor downtrodden single man doesn't really work in this case. You could have picked a much better example to make your point.
Nope,simply pointing out she was exactly what she was moaning about,not defending anyone however feel free to see it how you wish
But it's not the same, because he's called her a liar and said she's too unattractive to be messaging the people she's messaging. Not exactly the same as a polite no thanks.
Agreed liar,a prick equally as bad,oh no it isn't sorry because one is said by a woman and the other by a guy,nope your right
Glad you agree I'm right, even though you won't find your supposed double standard here. I'd think he was a prick for saying that if he was a woman too.
Your far from right but can't be arsed with the fab love in double standards
I can tell, you're trying to find it where it doesn't even exist - like in my posts. "
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"I've had several messages from local men who have defined muscles and six packs. When I've politely declined their offers which I do for many reasons (age, distance, attraction etc) it's always those guys who send me horrible, abusive messages.
It feels like these men see me as a guaranteed shag because I'm not as good looking or fit as them. Has anyone else experienced this?
They're probably just thick as fuck.
This is nonsense .
Gym fit guys with six packs are generally just as polite and respectful as anyone else from our experience ."
Ive never a problem either. But at end of the day, if they delete ur message theyre not interested just move on. So many women do...why cant men? If u send another message n ask why...how many of us women would growl n say 'read profile...if I delete it means not interested'. Its a two-way...not just women can delete n block n dont need to give a reason. |
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We only have the ops word that the gym fit guys abuse her . He suggested she may have posted for different reasons than the one she suggested .
That doesn't make him a prick .
He just offers a possible different scenario .
She could have said no , that's not the case at all rather than call him a prick . |
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"We only have the ops word that the gym fit guys abuse her . He suggested she may have posted for different reasons than the one she suggested .
That doesn't make him a prick .
He just offers a possible different scenario .
She could have said no , that's not the case at all rather than call him a prick ."
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I have never received any rude messages after I declined their offer.
(I'm beginning to think that they are actually thankful )
I just keep it simple:
"Thank you. However I have to decline. I'm sorry." |
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By *ilfy85Woman
over a year ago
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It's the narcissist in them they think you are on here so you want them when in reality you aren't interested so you bruise their ego. A brusied ego doesn't go down to well with Neanderthals  |
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"It's the narcissist in them they think you are on here so you want them when in reality you aren't interested so you bruise their ego. A brusied ego doesn't go down to well with Neanderthals "
So your saying all gym fit guys are Narcissists and Neanderthals? ?
I suppose you think all good looking blonde women are air head bimbo's too??
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"It's the narcissist in them they think you are on here so you want them when in reality you aren't interested so you bruise their ego. A brusied ego doesn't go down to well with Neanderthals "
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"I'd probably call someone a prick if they said I was a liar who was punching above my weight too. "
I was about to change my height to 6'10" but then I read your profile . Still considering that it might be worth it |
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By *ilfy85Woman
over a year ago
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"It's the narcissist in them they think you are on here so you want them when in reality you aren't interested so you bruise their ego. A brusied ego doesn't go down to well with Neanderthals
So your saying all gym fit guys are Narcissists and Neanderthals? ?
I suppose you think all good looking blonde women are air head bimbo's too??
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nope but any man who feels the need to build a body of a god and abuse people clearly has a narcasstic streak and an odeous thought of them needing to be admired |
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"I've had these kind of messages from women and couples who've messaged me and expect me just to say yes because I'm a single male on here. Also the "how are you" winks and instant friend requests that are so detested that apparently men are only at fault of. No generalisations there are some good people on here and there are assholes on her but it annoys me that the forums are basically used to have a go at men and its seen as OK but if its in reverse the op is seen as a cunt."
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Wow this got tense didn't it, you may or may not want my opinion. I will not defend the actions of the rude but offer a balanced opinion.
I think that no matter how you want to label a set of people as gym fit, average, or large it really doesn't matter there are rude people in all walks of life and total pricks in all walks of life who seem to think they have the right to abuse people verbally or even worse physically. I detest these people with a passion, sadly this is how they get their kicks.
The human brain will link the fact that you got a rude message from someone who was seen as gym fit, it may have happened a couple of times, but because it happened it means in the future if it happens again the brain thinks oh it's those gym fit blokes, or whatever group of people it was.
There's no excuse for bad manners in any walk of life, some people may not deserve your consideration so simply walk away, don't raise to it, make a meal of it. It will get their rocks off and they win. Easier said than done I know when It seems personal but seriously in 99% of cases you could be anyone providing they are getting a reaction.
I will talk to anyone and help anyone I can, but if they are rude in a bad way then I cut them out my life. There are too many good people in this world to talk to, to waste time on idiots of any shape, age or gender is a waste of the good within yourself.
As I say just my opinion, and everyone is entitled to them. Peace out.
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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The usual crap....
If you go to the gym, have a good body. You must be vain/ arrogant/ up yourself, have an ego the size of a mountain and be on steroids.
Good job, I'm overweight and avoid the gym. |
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"Wow this got tense didn't it, you may or may not want my opinion. I will not defend the actions of the rude but offer a balanced opinion.
I think that no matter how you want to label a set of people as gym fit, average, or large it really doesn't matter there are rude people in all walks of life and total pricks in all walks of life who seem to think they have the right to abuse people verbally or even worse physically. I detest these people with a passion, sadly this is how they get their kicks.
The human brain will link the fact that you got a rude message from someone who was seen as gym fit, it may have happened a couple of times, but because it happened it means in the future if it happens again the brain thinks oh it's those gym fit blokes, or whatever group of people it was.
There's no excuse for bad manners in any walk of life, some people may not deserve your consideration so simply walk away, don't raise to it, make a meal of it. It will get their rocks off and they win. Easier said than done I know when It seems personal but seriously in 99% of cases you could be anyone providing they are getting a reaction.
I will talk to anyone and help anyone I can, but if they are rude in a bad way then I cut them out my life. There are too many good people in this world to talk to, to waste time on idiots of any shape, age or gender is a waste of the good within yourself.
As I say just my opinion, and everyone is entitled to them. Peace out.
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Very well said that man
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"I've had several messages from local men who have defined muscles and six packs. When I've politely declined their offers which I do for many reasons (age, distance, attraction etc) it's always those guys who send me horrible, abusive messages.
It feels like these men see me as a guaranteed shag because I'm not as good looking or fit as them. Has anyone else experienced this? "
i havent noticed that gym fit guys are more abusive but when they are its clear they feel I should have been grateful they were lowering their standards x |
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
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"It's the narcissist in them they think you are on here so you want them when in reality you aren't interested so you bruise their ego. A brusied ego doesn't go down to well with Neanderthals "
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"The usual crap....
If you go to the gym, have a good body. You must be vain/ arrogant/ up yourself, have an ego the size of a mountain and be on steroids.
Good job, I'm overweight and avoid the gym. "
It's like people who are wealthy. They are perceived by some people to be show offs and arrogant snobs etc etc .
But the people who usually make these types of assumptions are usually people with their own negative personal issues of their own looks, body size/shape and lack of wealth.
These sort of comments usually says more about the person who makes these types of assumptions than the people it's directed at in my opinion. |
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I've never noticed more rude messages from gym fit guys than from anyone else, really. We don't get many rude messages but when we do they tend to be from couples, regardless of their level of fitness. |
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It feels like these men see me as a guaranteed shag because I'm not as good looking or fit as them. Has anyone else experienced this? "
You have hurt their fragile ego's, they expect you to get on your back and open your legs for them just at a profile picture. |
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I just don't read most of my messages. So if they want to be rude, let them be, I have no idea they're being abusive anyway . As for the odd abusive one that I have opened, they vary in body type... Even had a couple of shadows, ooooh. I just report and block. Hopefully a little rap on the knuckles from the mods, makes them think twice, before they decide to message another person and spill out all their negativity on them. |
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"Wow this got tense didn't it, you may or may not want my opinion. I will not defend the actions of the rude but offer a balanced opinion.
I think that no matter how you want to label a set of people as gym fit, average, or large it really doesn't matter there are rude people in all walks of life and total pricks in all walks of life who seem to think they have the right to abuse people verbally or even worse physically. I detest these people with a passion, sadly this is how they get their kicks.
The human brain will link the fact that you got a rude message from someone who was seen as gym fit, it may have happened a couple of times, but because it happened it means in the future if it happens again the brain thinks oh it's those gym fit blokes, or whatever group of people it was.
There's no excuse for bad manners in any walk of life, some people may not deserve your consideration so simply walk away, don't raise to it, make a meal of it. It will get their rocks off and they win. Easier said than done I know when It seems personal but seriously in 99% of cases you could be anyone providing they are getting a reaction.
I will talk to anyone and help anyone I can, but if they are rude in a bad way then I cut them out my life. There are too many good people in this world to talk to, to waste time on idiots of any shape, age or gender is a waste of the good within yourself.
As I say just my opinion, and everyone is entitled to them. Peace out.
Very well said that man
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Ty I've sore fingers now. I can't stand people being upset by people who don't deserve any air time, I get this feeds their over inflated egos. Im too thick skinned and somewhat ambivalent to someone trying to abuse me, well unless they had me tied to the four corners of a bed and carrying a whip. |
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"No its usualy men who arent gym fit who get a bit huffy or say why?"
same with me. older, unatractive, men seem to have a sense of entitlement to me.
i've met a fair few gym fit guys though and chat to them in between meets, seem to be nice guys to me?
doesn't matter who is doing though, it's still not nice to be treated like shit just because you have a fanny that isn't personally open for business 24/7. |
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"I've had several messages from local men who have defined muscles and six packs. When I've politely declined their offers which I do for many reasons (age, distance, attraction etc) it's always those guys who send me horrible, abusive messages.
It feels like these men see me as a guaranteed shag because I'm not as good looking or fit as them. Has anyone else experienced this? i havent noticed that gym fit guys are more abusive but when they are its clear they feel I should have been grateful they were lowering their standards x "
Not many men are rude, but whoever they are if they want to think they were lowering their standards thats up to them, i could say i have lowered mine a few times does it really matter that much. |
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
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I know it my be difficult for some men to fathom, but fat (and old) women attract physically fit men too. I've fucked many myself, and turned some away for not being suitable.
We aren't here looking for life partners. |
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I dont get abusive messages. But if someone messages me and describes themselves as gym fit i reply that i dont mind them being gym fit just dont expect me to be. They usually just laugh and end up being nice guys |
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Bit of a judgement to make!
I get the same though?
Everytime the gym fit beautiful women message me begging me for my cock and I politely tell them I arn't interested and they always get nasty because I've knocked them back !
The fat ugly birds are always very pleasant to me though ?
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seems to me ur soul is uglier than any so called fat bird and anyone not associated with u has struck it lucky. |
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"Think the steroids are feeding the aggression! "
Careful.. that's as nasty as suggesting the OP posted this thread on a sugar rush from cake.!!
I think the correct answer is some men just as some women are idiots xx |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I've had several messages from local men who have defined muscles and six packs. When I've politely declined their offers which I do for many reasons (age, distance, attraction etc) it's always those guys who send me horrible, abusive messages.
It feels like these men see me as a guaranteed shag because I'm not as good looking or fit as them. Has anyone else experienced this? "
op a can honestly say after 9 years swimming in this world you are correct ego goes hand in hand with attractiveness and that goes for both sexes .
the odds are the better looking the person the more likely they are on the whole to give you abuse when you turn them down go missing mid conversation the lot . all such behaviour is a by product of being popular on the whole the more popular someone is the less they bother the less they try and the harder they take rejection as their not used to it .
yes that is a sweeping statement but trust me its a generally correct one going off of my own personal experiences .
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Always somebody for somebody. Takes a lot for the world to go round. Some arrogant men and women but some real lovely people also. Some can't take rejection but we have to realise we don't all like the same thing. Just be polite |
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"It is a general sweeping statement. I am sure lots of average men are doing the same.
Possibly but not to me personally.
Are you sure the truth isn't really this??
Its you who is messaging the gym fit hunks and "punching above your weight"
And because they aren't interested in you you are pissed off so accuse them of having a superior attitude ?
You sure that's not more like the truth ?
Bit of a judgement to make!
I get the same though?
Everytime the gym fit beautiful women message me begging me for my cock and I politely tell them I arn't interested and they always get nasty because I've knocked them back !
The fat ugly birds are always very pleasant to me though ?
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Great filter thread OP thank you |
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By *eeowlsMan
over a year ago
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I personally wouldn't dream of being rude too anybody not unless a person was being rude to me but even saying that I would most likely come back at them with a humorous type of answer back rather than be rude unfortunately not everybody feels or thinks that way x I honestly always try and treat people how I would hope to be treat with manners and respect hope it doesn't put you off and also hope you find what or who you are looking for OP xx |
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