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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How many members of FAB seriously think that they have an addiction to sex ?
If you have.. Has it caused you problems in relationships and in your work/personal life ?
Do you wish you had better control over your addiction ? Do you wish you could control your addiction and any damaging effect it may have on you and your life?
And if you want to stop? What have you tried to stop or curb your sex addiction?
What problems has your sex addiction caused you so far in your life ?
And when did you first realise you are a sex addict?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i do.
it can ruin potential relationships. especially those where men think if you enjoy sex you aren't worthy of dating, but they'll (try to) come back to you when they're sexually bored of their 'worthy' partner coz they're stupid...most men like sex, dunno why they'd think they're irreplaceable? these 'relationships' are worth ruining though, give me a man with his own mind who knows what he wants any day who understands people are complicated.
hasn't ruined jobs.
i don't want to stop, i want to find someone who will fuck me a lot. if we loved each other that'd be nicer, if we experimented sexually occasionally that'd be good too.
not sure when i realised, i have memory issues. hasn't really caused my many problems apart from i stayed with an abusive ex coz we fucked a lot, that was the main one.
i have managed to curb it by having horrible experiences on here that made me realise i was being risky, plus being treated like i am only a sex object helped a lot too, i can see others with sex addiction and how that plays out for them and it also helps. also looking at my past i can see i had curbed it better since the bad relationship also, but now i think i'm doing fairly well and pretty much on top of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i do.
it can ruin potential relationships. especially those where men think if you enjoy sex you aren't worthy of dating, but they'll (try to) come back to you when they're sexually bored of their 'worthy' partner coz they're stupid...most men like sex, dunno why they'd think they're irreplaceable? these 'relationships' are worth ruining though, give me a man with his own mind who knows what he wants any day who understands people are complicated.
hasn't ruined jobs.
i don't want to stop, i want to find someone who will fuck me a lot. if we loved each other that'd be nicer, if we experimented sexually occasionally that'd be good too.
not sure when i realised, i have memory issues. hasn't really caused my many problems apart from i stayed with an abusive ex coz we fucked a lot, that was the main one.
i have managed to curb it by having horrible experiences on here that made me realise i was being risky, plus being treated like i am only a sex object helped a lot too, i can see others with sex addiction and how that plays out for them and it also helps. also looking at my past i can see i had curbed it better since the bad relationship also, but now i think i'm doing fairly well and pretty much on top of it."
You're probably one of the loveliest most grounded women in here and I always enjoy your posts  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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nice of you to say.
i'll always be fucked up (just never as fucked up as the people who did that to me) but yes i am grounded now. i understand a lot more now than i did too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"nice of you to say.
i'll always be fucked up (just never as fucked up as the people who did that to me) but yes i am grounded now. i understand a lot more now than i did too."
It's not such an issue if you know and accept that your fucked up.
It only becomes a worry if you're fucked up but refusing to admit it to yourself!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"nice of you to say.
i'll always be fucked up (just never as fucked up as the people who did that to me) but yes i am grounded now. i understand a lot more now than i did too.
It's not such an issue if you know and accept that your fucked up.
It only becomes a worry if you're fucked up but refusing to admit it to yourself!
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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"I have an addictive personality and in the past I've put myself in some risky instances because I wanted sex.
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In my younger swinger days I used to go clubbing every week
Nowadays I go every few weeks it makes me enjoy more when I am there
I have the same addictive personality, and very OCD as well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, my addiction is the gym  admit it - you go to the gym to look hot so you can pull chicks for sex = sex addiction ????"
That is right as well and as well when going on holiday when you are on the beach having a sun tan. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not an addiction. Though I did fear I did at one point a few years ago. Having a baby settled me a lot. So now, even though my drive is still high, it's not as out of control as it used to be. Looking back on some things i did a few years ago, I was pretty reckless, and put myself in some risky situations, that I would not even consider putting myself in today. |
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I've known a couple of women who HAD to have sex with someone every night they went out, and at the time we were all going out partying 4-5 nights a week. Both thought they were addicts but in the cold light of day both had their supposed addiction confused with the desperate need to feel worthwhile. Both had been taken advantage of in their much younger years and had been made to feel totally worthless and therefore felt that by having sex with lots and lots of guys was the only way they would be viewed as anything other than useless. It turns out that both eventually realised they weren't addicts and there were far more deep seated issues that took years to get to terms with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've known a couple of women who HAD to have sex with someone every night they went out, and at the time we were all going out partying 4-5 nights a week. Both thought they were addicts but in the cold light of day both had their supposed addiction confused with the desperate need to feel worthwhile. Both had been taken advantage of in their much younger years and had been made to feel totally worthless and therefore felt that by having sex with lots and lots of guys was the only way they would be viewed as anything other than useless. It turns out that both eventually realised they weren't addicts and there were far more deep seated issues that took years to get to terms with."
Do you think a lot of women in here have deep rooted issues too that's why they are in places like this ? |
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I definitely wouldn't call myself a sex addict - though I do adore great sex!
However - there were times on my old profile when I was probably addicted to fab! I didn't meet particularly often (in my opinion anyway!) but I chatted via message a lot, spent a long time each day on the forums - and cared far too much how many fabs my latest pictures got!
I still go on the forums and post pics - but I know (because I made myself do it) that I can also stay offline for days or weeks at a time - and due to work, kids etc I don't really go online much during the week now!
Anything can become an addiction if you let it. Xx |
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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago
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"How many members of FAB seriously think that they have an addiction to sex ?
If you have.. Has it caused you problems in relationships and in your work/personal life ?
Do you wish you had better control over your addiction ? Do you wish you could control your addiction and any damaging effect it may have on you and your life?
And if you want to stop? What have you tried to stop or curb your sex addiction?
What problems has your sex addiction caused you so far in your life ?
And when did you first realise you are a sex addict?
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Yep i lost my home and job as a result of sex addition. And never been in a relationship ether so it can really mess things up like any other addition. Had some therapy in the past but with not much success. one of the therapists even suggested trying internet casual sex sites, so here i am. But Not working for me yet.
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I've no sex addiction - I'm just highly sexed but keep all of my life pretty much in balance (chocolate can knock it off, sometimes).
If I sensed that I had an addiction, then I'd not be comfortable - I'd take steps to reformulate my life, as great as sex is. |
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I used to suffer from hypersexuality, it was terrible, not only am i embarressed by what i did, it was fucking dangerous, im lucky to still be here because of some of the situations i put myself in. I had some of my medication changes ( not for that reason) and it calmed me down.
Now i have a normal sex drive and its been bliss. Not a time in my life i want to repeat |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I used to suffer from hypersexuality, it was terrible, not only am i embarressed by what i did, it was fucking dangerous, im lucky to still be here because of some of the situations i put myself in. I had some of my medication changes ( not for that reason) and it calmed me down.
Now i have a normal sex drive and its been bliss. Not a time in my life i want to repeat"
Can you give us a few examples of some of the crazy shit you did ? |
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"I used to suffer from hypersexuality, it was terrible, not only am i embarressed by what i did, it was fucking dangerous, im lucky to still be here because of some of the situations i put myself in. I had some of my medication changes ( not for that reason) and it calmed me down.
Now i have a normal sex drive and its been bliss. Not a time in my life i want to repeat
Can you give us a few examples of some of the crazy shit you did ?"
i could, but im not going to |
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"By most people's standards we would be classed as sex addicts .
But we love it and have no intention of stopping "
The difference between addiction and just loving it is, do you feel you have to do it even if you deep down don't really want to or do you do it because you both really love it and massively get off on it? One is addiction and the other is just being a pair of very naughty feckers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sex is the greatest hobby anyone can have! It's also the most fun job anyone can have! I'm addicted to sex and have always been. I adore women. They fascinate me and they're all wonderful in and out of bed. I just can't get enough of learning about and experiencing these extraordinarily gorgeous and seductive creatures! |
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"I used to suffer from hypersexuality, it was terrible, not only am i embarressed by what i did, it was fucking dangerous, im lucky to still be here because of some of the situations i put myself in. I had some of my medication changes ( not for that reason) and it calmed me down.
Now i have a normal sex drive and its been bliss. Not a time in my life i want to repeat"
I can identify with you there K. I'm much more in balance and in synch with myself now and glad I understood what was going on for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you think a lot of women in here have deep rooted issues too that's why they are in places like this ? "
people are fairly complicated but i've no doubt this site, and similar ones, attract all kinds of people with issues. men and women.
it suited me very well after i split up with someone and wanted NSA sex while i got over him. it helped me talk about sex so i felt more 'normal' about my thoughts, which helps a lot because if you feel you are somewhat abnormal it can cause more issues in itself (stress, worry).
having a high sex drive alone would attract someone to here, even if they had no issues. |
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Me & Kim were serial shaggers when we first met 20yrs back so the sex industry & swinging was the perfect way to quench our thirst so to speak.
Obviously we are now slowing down a bit now but our sex lives are still above the norm for our age group, we decided from the start to channel our energies in a productive way rather than a destructive one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am not quite sure what constitutes as a sex addiction but answer to your question..
I have been known to want it too much and it has caused problems in my personal life. I have actually had men complain I want it too much... like someone said about 20 hours a day should suffice lol
My work life, not so much; that is probably a good thing.
I don't really want to control it. Just someone that would satisfy me to the point I won't want so much. It's rare but it has happened.
I have had some very good moments in the bedroom but it never seems to be enough for me and I always want more. I just think I'm greedy and like having too much of a good thing.
I have managed to bring myself to a point in life where actually doing it myself seems to work to calm me down. Means I can go a while without meets as I'm curing the itch, so to speak. It also means I can get a quick fix and carry on with whatever work I need to be doing.
now if that means I am an addict, so be it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am not quite sure what constitutes as a sex addiction but answer to your question..
I have been known to want it too much and it has caused problems in my personal life. I have actually had men complain I want it too much... like someone said about 20 hours a day should suffice lol
My work life, not so much; that is probably a good thing.
I don't really want to control it. Just someone that would satisfy me to the point I won't want so much. It's rare but it has happened.
I have had some very good moments in the bedroom but it never seems to be enough for me and I always want more. I just think I'm greedy and like having too much of a good thing.
I have managed to bring myself to a point in life where actually doing it myself seems to work to calm me down. Means I can go a while without meets as I'm curing the itch, so to speak. It also means I can get a quick fix and carry on with whatever work I need to be doing.
now if that means I am an addict, so be it. "
I think you managing your cravings with masturbation and not with random strangers in risky situation's etc is a good way to deal with your urges though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not sure about addiction but I know that before I was certainly obsessed with the site and the chase involved, so much so that I nearly ruined something that was very important to me.
I had time off and now fab is just a small part of my life, things are in perspective now and I focus on the people in my life. If it ever felt like getting out of hand again I'd step back and go do something else
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