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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
Very occasionally. I've actually turned all my filters back on and when I have time to meet again will do the contacting myself. It's not a decision I took lightly since it means I might miss out on the occasional gem but they have proved so few and far between amongst the random dross that it's the only logical step. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely get the opportunity and don't really need to...but my regular fwb I messaged first and even without seeing a face pic lol... we have been partners in crime for almost 2 months now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Roosters must be an endangered species and some tree hugging busy bodies have put a hunting ban on me. The only possible explanation on account of me being so fit 'n' all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've probably sent less than 5 in the whole time I've been here.
However I've not had a proper meet in ages so I'm considering that I might have to be a bit more proactive  |
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"They send winks!!
Hypocritical bastards!!  "
Interesting you should say this. A couple of weeks ago I did send some winks.
I knowing that men like them and women don't it seemed like an interesting experiment  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I message a woman first and she responds, it always seems like she's not really into it and she usually loses interest 
The ones who are more proactive and message me first are usually the ones who are actually interested in finding out more and meeting up. I've had a fair few women make the first move, and it seems to work best |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Never done it, probably never will. It's too much of a headache finding the needle in a haystack.
I'm just lazy "
I thought that initially since I too am lazy. But sifting through messages is much more of a chore than sending a few. Disclaimer: I would not have been very happy for years with the regular squeeze if I hadn't read the message he sent me first and responded. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do think stopping single guys from massaging for a while would be a good thing "
Can I still get my massages from a married man? They have stronger hands to get at my knots. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was contacted by a newbie a few weeks back who had hot body pics, I actually thought it was a wind up, but we met and she was indeed hot, it didn't work out but yes, women do sometimes make the first move, not often in my experience though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do think stopping single guys from massaging for a while would be a good thing
Can I still get my massages from a married man? They have stronger hands to get at my knots."
No you have to search |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will message people if I see a person/profile that is appealing to me. I like the idea that I choose the person that is right for me, rather than just expecting people to message me and select from them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I sent one this morning.
Ten minutes it's been and he hasn't replied yet. Bastard!"
Oh you should see the abuse a guy gets if no reply. How dare a single guy turn a female down  |
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"I sent one this morning.
Ten minutes it's been and he hasn't replied yet. Bastard!
Oh you should see the abuse a guy gets if no reply. How dare a single guy turn a female down "
I'd quite like to abuse him if he wants to meet, to be honest. |
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"All my meets come from ladies making the first move, I gave up sending preemptive messages (apart from something forum related) about 8 yrs ago "
Oh, and a couple of ladies that I've met at mine, have can't travel and won't meet smokers on their profile, but hey why bother reading a profile eh!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got a message from a couple yesterday, that said simply "any face pics?" I didn't reply, as if I sent that to anyone I guarantee they wouldn't reply. Also their profile said not to bother messaging if you have no veris... so why did they message me? Their whole profile was a list of things they don't like, so I felt quite empowered by giving them the cold shoulder, especially impressive as the female was pretty hot. Bit of a digression but it's kind of related to making the first move! |
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I've said it many times but I've no idea why more women on here don't actively do more of the searching. Fab is a veritable smorgasbord for women. I don't understand why you'd sit back and have to wade through a load of unsuitable messages and other crap, when the Fab fruit tree's so ripened in your favour, inviting you to go out and do the picking yourself.
A bit like walking into Tesco's knowing you need to get yourself some sausage but you choose to just wander around the store waiting and hoping for the brand of sausage you like, to grow legs and jump into your shopping trolley all by itself. If I was a woman I'd be treating Fab like it was some sort of crazy Supermarket Sweep-style trolley dash
Thankfully, some do message first. Pretty much all my Fab highlights have come from women messaging me first. |
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"I've said it many times but I've no idea why more women on here don't actively do more of the searching. Fab is a veritable smorgasbord for women. I don't understand why you'd sit back and have to wade through a load of unsuitable messages and other crap, when the Fab fruit tree's so ripened in your favour, inviting you to go out and do the picking yourself.
A bit like walking into Tesco's knowing you need to get yourself some sausage but you choose to just wander around the store waiting and hoping for the brand of sausage you like, to grow legs and jump into your shopping trolley all by itself. If I was a woman I'd be treating Fab like it was some sort of crazy Supermarket Sweep-style trolley dash
Thankfully, some do message first. Pretty much all my Fab highlights have come from women messaging me first."
I do like sausages to make the effort though. So I know they actually fancy me and aren't just meeting cos I offered it on a plate and it's (I'm) something to do on a Friday night. |
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"I've said it many times but I've no idea why more women on here don't actively do more of the searching. Fab is a veritable smorgasbord for women. I don't understand why you'd sit back and have to wade through a load of unsuitable messages and other crap, when the Fab fruit tree's so ripened in your favour, inviting you to go out and do the picking yourself.
A bit like walking into Tesco's knowing you need to get yourself some sausage but you choose to just wander around the store waiting and hoping for the brand of sausage you like, to grow legs and jump into your shopping trolley all by itself. If I was a woman I'd be treating Fab like it was some sort of crazy Supermarket Sweep-style trolley dash
Thankfully, some do message first. Pretty much all my Fab highlights have come from women messaging me first.
I do like sausages to make the effort though. So I know they actually fancy me and aren't just meeting cos I offered it on a plate and it's (I'm) something to do on a Friday night."
Very true. A good quality sausage is essential. Some are full of all kinds of crap and not very good for your health. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do think stopping single guys from massaging for a while would be a good thing
Can I still get my massages from a married man? They have stronger hands to get at my knots."
Hmmmm indeed we do have strong hands for your knots. I'd offer you some help but you are too far away. What a shame! X |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"I'm surprised, always thought men didn't like women coming onto them."
Many ladies seem to think they have a monopoly on fear of rejection, they do not & as another poster said earlier after that fear is conquered there comes "Are they only talking to me till someone shinier (I refuse to use the word better) comes along?"
Being contacted is the better experience for us partly due to what we want and who we are, too old, too young, dredds, too public etc. To the extent that we very rarely send first messages at all.
After all we only need to like one person which for us is easy but a fem has to like both of us, so we may as well wait till they make themselves known..a few do, many we'd like to, do not..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually find that the ladies send a wink initially, though some send a message as well.
It rarely leads anywhere but I think the numbers ratio is such that the ladies are overwhemed.
Of course (before someone says it) talking to me may also leave them underwhelmed! |
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