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Wouldn't it be great to have swinging cafes just for social meets. Different from swinging clubs where action actually happens, the swinging cafes would just be where swingers can initially meet and socialise |
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"Cafe for swingers with day room facilities for those that saw a spark
No just for socialising. Like we nominate a particular cafe or coffee shop in each area and that's where swingers can meet"
We already have those in Derbyshire. They're called "cafes" or "coffee shops".
Swingers are allowed in them, just like other cafes, and they offer total anonymity so that no-one knows that you're there for a swinging social.
Well, I say "total anonymity", obviously that isn't the case if someone says, very loudly, "OMG, HOW DID YOU DO THE NAKED B&Q PIC". Then the whole cafe tends to stare at you like this 
Mr ddc |
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"Now that sounds ideal.
But maybe some kind of identifying feature that shows that your a swinger too? A certain bracelet?
Maybe a secret handshake..lol"
Nooooo you can't go around the whole cafe shaking everyone's hand lol |
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"Now that sounds ideal.
But maybe some kind of identifying feature that shows that your a swinger too? A certain bracelet?
Maybe a secret handshake..lol"
Or take a pot of pampas grass to show your a swinger lol |
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"Cafe for swingers with day room facilities for those that saw a spark
No just for socialising. Like we nominate a particular cafe or coffee shop in each area and that's where swingers can meet
We already have those in Derbyshire. They're called "cafes" or "coffee shops".
Swingers are allowed in them, just like other cafes, and they offer total anonymity so that no-one knows that you're there for a swinging social.
Well, I say "total anonymity", obviously that isn't the case if someone says, very loudly, "OMG, HOW DID YOU DO THE NAKED B&Q PIC". Then the whole cafe tends to stare at you like this
Mr ddc"
Now I think about it, I'm pretty certain we have those around me too. In fact there are cinemas, restaurants, pubs and shops where swingers can go and have socials
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"[Removed by poster at 05/11/16 09:43:54]"
But I don't mean random places that are organised. I mean named venues where swingers hang out but are normal places as well. But of course there has to be a way of recognising another swinger |
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"Just have this picture in my head of a packed coffee shop full of single guys drinking coffee all waiting for a woman to walk in!"
There is that! A bit like a porn cinema when the only female visits once a month if that |
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"Cafe for swingers with day room facilities for those that saw a spark
No just for socialising. Like we nominate a particular cafe or coffee shop in each area and that's where swingers can meet
We already have those in Derbyshire. They're called "cafes" or "coffee shops".
Swingers are allowed in them, just like other cafes, and they offer total anonymity so that no-one knows that you're there for a swinging social.
Well, I say "total anonymity", obviously that isn't the case if someone says, very loudly, "OMG, HOW DID YOU DO THE NAKED B&Q PIC". Then the whole cafe tends to stare at you like this
Mr ddc"
But you don't mind doing that at a cafe in another town  |
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"Cafe for swingers with day room facilities for those that saw a spark
No just for socialising. Like we nominate a particular cafe or coffee shop in each area and that's where swingers can meet"
How about going to a café to relax and chill, for example with your kids or even on your own .... to be hounded by swingers. Who is a hundred percent swinger all of the time? Just sort your own meetings and live the rest of your life without it. I would hate it ... |
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"[Removed by poster at 05/11/16 09:43:54]
But I don't mean random places that are organised. I mean named venues where swingers hang out but are normal places as well. But of course there has to be a way of recognising another swinger"
But if you are going on a swinging social, would it matter if the others were swingers too? Myself personally, I'd feel a lot better going somewhere vanilla land for my first social meet. |
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"Who wants to nominate a cafe in London? Or coffee place etc
How about the Tea Rooms at Fortnum and Mason's? 
We'll be there the week before Xmas as usual 
Mr ddc
Will Mrs DDC be in mufti ? "
As opposed to "in the buff, tea"?
(now there's a challenge  ) |
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"[Removed by poster at 05/11/16 09:43:54]
But I don't mean random places that are organised. I mean named venues where swingers hang out but are normal places as well. But of course there has to be a way of recognising another swinger
But if you are going on a swinging social, would it matter if the others were swingers too? Myself personally, I'd feel a lot better going somewhere vanilla land for my first social meet. "
Maybe if it was a swingers coffee shop people would be exchanging coffee partners mid drink or complaining how another couple just 'soft coffee' and just watch...
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"[Removed by poster at 05/11/16 09:43:54]
But I don't mean random places that are organised. I mean named venues where swingers hang out but are normal places as well. But of course there has to be a way of recognising another swinger
But if you are going on a swinging social, would it matter if the others were swingers too? Myself personally, I'd feel a lot better going somewhere vanilla land for my first social meet.
Maybe if it was a swingers coffee shop people would be exchanging coffee partners mid drink or complaining how another couple just 'soft coffee' and just watch...
Beard"
You forgot the T drinkers |
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"[Removed by poster at 05/11/16 09:43:54]
But I don't mean random places that are organised. I mean named venues where swingers hang out but are normal places as well. But of course there has to be a way of recognising another swinger
But if you are going on a swinging social, would it matter if the others were swingers too? Myself personally, I'd feel a lot better going somewhere vanilla land for my first social meet.
Maybe if it was a swingers coffee shop people would be exchanging coffee partners mid drink or complaining how another couple just 'soft coffee' and just watch...
Beard
You forgot the T drinkers "
Tea drinkers have to get their own room. Infusions have no place in swingers coffee shops |
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"Cafe for swingers with day room facilities for those that saw a spark
No just for socialising. Like we nominate a particular cafe or coffee shop in each area and that's where swingers can meet
How about going to a café to relax and chill, for example with your kids or even on your own .... to be hounded by swingers. Who is a hundred percent swinger all of the time? Just sort your own meetings and live the rest of your life without it. I would hate it ..."
I have to agree with this .
It would be truly awful to be sitting with your parents or kids and have random swingers checking you out etc....
I guess if you knew which cafe was the swingers cafe , you could avoid it if it was inappropriate, but that being the case , the cafe would soon go out if business wouldn't it ? |
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"[Removed by poster at 05/11/16 09:43:54]
But I don't mean random places that are organised. I mean named venues where swingers hang out but are normal places as well. But of course there has to be a way of recognising another swinger
But if you are going on a swinging social, would it matter if the others were swingers too? Myself personally, I'd feel a lot better going somewhere vanilla land for my first social meet. "
Actually as usual I think you're right lol |
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There's a valid argument here. Women and couples go on about how they're happy just to socialise in clubs and it doesn't matter so much if they don't get a chance to play, then several single guys remind them of how much more they paid to get in. A regular coffee shop, small, tasteful artwork, somewhere you could have that social interaction with like-minded swingers without guys causing an issue cos they think the big entrance fee entitles them to a shag, kinky conversation without offending the middle class mums at the next table like you would in a Starbucks. Maybe in London there might just be enough of a market to support somewhere very small? |
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"But how would it remain hidden from non swingers, press, tv etc
Size would pretty much keep it under the raider, like it does with the majority of clubs.
How?"
Well the press only really pick up on the larger events like swingfields. I go to small clubs that have never had any press coverage. |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Cafe for swingers with day room facilities for those that saw a spark
No just for socialising. Like we nominate a particular cafe or coffee shop in each area and that's where swingers can meet
We already have those in Derbyshire. They're called "cafes" or "coffee shops".
Swingers are allowed in them, just like other cafes, and they offer total anonymity so that no-one knows that you're there for a swinging social.
Well, I say "total anonymity", obviously that isn't the case if someone says, very loudly, "OMG, HOW DID YOU DO THE NAKED B&Q PIC". Then the whole cafe tends to stare at you like this
Mr ddc"
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"Just have this picture in my head of a packed coffee shop full of single guys drinking coffee all waiting for a woman to walk in!"
Dressed in towels and tugging away?
Aka 'the Walking Wankers' found in clubs? |
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"Who wants to nominate a cafe in London? Or coffee place etc
How about the Tea Rooms at Fortnum and Mason's? "
Definitely! For classy swingers! Taken a very successful date there in the past!  |
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We recently had a social meet with another couple in a costa. It was really relaxed, conversation flowed and before we knew it, 2 hours had past
Great way to get to know others x |
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If you really think about this it just isn't practical. There's no way of telling who's there for coffee, who's there to chat to other swingers, who's there to meet a friend. It would only need an over enthusiastic person to be a bit insistent with someone who had no idea what was going on for a whole lot of trouble to ensue.
We have had many a social in pubs, cafes and restaurants but we knew who we were meeting before and with one notable exception they all understood what social meant.
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"If you really think about this it just isn't practical. There's no way of telling who's there for coffee, who's there to chat to other swingers, who's there to meet a friend. It would only need an over enthusiastic person to be a bit insistent with someone who had no idea what was going on for a whole lot of trouble to ensue.
We have had many a social in pubs, cafes and restaurants but we knew who we were meeting before and with one notable exception they all understood what social meant.
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I kept my hands strictly above the table!!!! |
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A little off topic, but we met a couple for a social at a public place, sat chatting away at a table away from everyone else in this little snug, talking about swinging and sharing stories, when after a while two little old ladies appeared from behind us getting their coats on to leave.
We didn't realise they were there the whole time as we hadn't spotted them, as they left, one of the old dears gave us a wink and a smile, they had easily overheard the whole conversation, a bit embarrassing, but we all saw the funny side |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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Think, we're just stick to meeting up socially in 'normal' cafes and pubs.
Only once, did we have to find somewhere else as it was so busy and crowded. It wasnt really appropriate to chat about certain things. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"If you really think about this it just isn't practical. There's no way of telling who's there for coffee, who's there to chat to other swingers, who's there to meet a friend. It would only need an over enthusiastic person to be a bit insistent with someone who had no idea what was going on for a whole lot of trouble to ensue.
We have had many a social in pubs, cafes and restaurants but we knew who we were meeting before and with one notable exception they all understood what social meant.
I kept my hands strictly above the table!!!! "
But, what were you doing with your feet? |
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"If you really think about this it just isn't practical. There's no way of telling who's there for coffee, who's there to chat to other swingers, who's there to meet a friend. It would only need an over enthusiastic person to be a bit insistent with someone who had no idea what was going on for a whole lot of trouble to ensue.
We have had many a social in pubs, cafes and restaurants but we knew who we were meeting before and with one notable exception they all understood what social meant.
I kept my hands strictly above the table!!!! "
It wasn't your hands I was worried about |
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"Think, we're just stick to meeting up socially in 'normal' cafes and pubs.
Only once, did we have to find somewhere else as it was so busy and crowded. It wasnt really appropriate to chat about certain things. "
See, told you we need a dedicated swingers café, lol. |
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