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I find it very exciting when some one replies me no matter it's decline from other end but to me at least they replied out of decency. It frustrates me when you write a message and then find out that even after many days let alone same time, they haven't checked messages yet and also when they have checked yet no reply yes or no. Well that's my philosophy that at least we should reply no matter YES or NO. |
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"Dont keep looking if theyve checked them"
Well if you are serious and have taken on board what they wrote in their profile and feel that there is chemistry there then clearly you will be excited and then naturally you will check whether they have read it .... |
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Some women get them many messages that they would never get to yours if they spent all week goin through messages. Some receive more messages as they are reading so never progress lower through the 100s they have. And so then they bulk delete and your message is gone. It's the luck of the draw that hopefully you can message just as they click read next message and then yours gets read. Then it's the time to moan if they haven't replied when they have actually read it  |
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"Dont keep looking if theyve checked them
Well if you are serious and have taken on board what they wrote in their profile and feel that there is chemistry there then clearly you will be excited and then naturally you will check whether they have read it .... "
You sound arrogant. You know you will not be every woman's type. Women are allowed to not fancy you. So therefore you still wouldn't fit what she's looking for. Deleted messages are your answer...no thank you. |
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The general concensus that I've picked up from the forums is that as a rule women do not reply to messages but bulk delete due to the number of messages they receive. If however you stick around the forums there is a remote chance a woman will message you but that's about as good as it gets here. |
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"Dont keep looking if theyve checked them
Well if you are serious and have taken on board what they wrote in their profile and feel that there is chemistry there then clearly you will be excited and then naturally you will check whether they have read it .... "
ok, heres a tip, make the first sentence of your message interesting. |
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"The general concensus that I've picked up from the forums is that as a rule women do not reply to messages but bulk delete due to the number of messages they receive. If however you stick around the forums there is a remote chance a woman will message you but that's about as good as it gets here. "
I never bulk delete incase I miss a gem. However, I dont need to read messages in order to see whether a man is local or nearby. Because i travel, location is my main priority on here. So if receive a message and I can obviously see he isn't local, I instantly delete without reading it. If my profile was read before messaging, a guy wouldn't of wasted his time sending the message in the first place.
I'm sure many other women do the same. |
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"Dont keep looking if theyve checked them
Well if you are serious and have taken on board what they wrote in their profile and feel that there is chemistry there then clearly you will be excited and then naturally you will check whether they have read it .... ok, heres a tip, make the first sentence of your message interesting."
Saying what ... for instance what would be interesting near you had I written to you? |
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"Dont keep looking if theyve checked them
Well if you are serious and have taken on board what they wrote in their profile and feel that there is chemistry there then clearly you will be excited and then naturally you will check whether they have read it .... ok, heres a tip, make the first sentence of your message interesting.
Saying what ... for instance what would be interesting near you had I written to you? "
i dont know, but if its telling me im stunning gorgeous or any other buzz word it doesnt get opened |
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"The general concensus that I've picked up from the forums is that as a rule women do not reply to messages but bulk delete due to the number of messages they receive. If however you stick around the forums there is a remote chance a woman will message you but that's about as good as it gets here. "
you missed my post then...I always reply.. f*ck the FAQs, I'm bucking the trend  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm here for fun, and to chat to people I want to chat to. If I'm not getting paid to do admin, then I'm certainly not going to do the work of one. I get far too many messages. Most I don't open, as I know I can't reply. To ignore a message, is not rude, it's a way of saying you're not interested... Please check Fab FAQ's. Try being a woman for a day, and see how much fun you have replying to every single message you receive. Because if that's all I did, I wouldn't even bother logging in, to be fair. |
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"The general concensus that I've picked up from the forums is that as a rule women do not reply to messages but bulk delete due to the number of messages they receive. If however you stick around the forums there is a remote chance a woman will message you but that's about as good as it gets here. "
^ This, I've not sent a preemptive message for about 8 yrs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it very exciting when some one replies me no matter it's decline from other end but to me at least they replied out of decency. It frustrates me when you write a message and then find out that even after many days let alone same time, they haven't checked messages yet and also when they have checked yet no reply yes or no. Well that's my philosophy that at least we should reply no matter YES or NO. "
I think something like a no button would be great. Then for the recipient they could stop further messages or invite more of a conversation. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"I find it very exciting when some one replies me no matter it's decline from other end but to me at least they replied out of decency. It frustrates me when you write a message and then find out that even after many days let alone same time, they haven't checked messages yet and also when they have checked yet no reply yes or no. Well that's my philosophy that at least we should reply no matter YES or NO. "
Lol no. Just...NO!
Guaranteed that if women replied to each and every message, yours would be right at the end so...would you like that "no" answer today or in about three weeks time! lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find it very exciting when some one replies me no matter it's decline from other end but to me at least they replied out of decency. It frustrates me when you write a message and then find out that even after many days let alone same time, they haven't checked messages yet and also when they have checked yet no reply yes or no. Well that's my philosophy that at least we should reply no matter YES or NO.
Lol no. Just...NO!
Guaranteed that if women replied to each and every message, yours would be right at the end so...would you like that "no" answer today or in about three weeks time! lol "
Love this answer  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The general concensus that I've picked up from the forums is that as a rule women do not reply to messages but bulk delete due to the number of messages they receive. If however you stick around the forums there is a remote chance a woman will message you but that's about as good as it gets here.
^ This, I've not sent a preemptive message for about 8 yrs "
Agreed. I've stopped sending initial messages now as out really isn't worth the calorie burn. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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how do you find the time to answer the 2 or 3 hundred messages you get a day OP? Maybe you could impart your method to the single ladies on here who get that many? |
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Just get it into your mind set that no reply = no interest
The ladies on fab are inundated with messages(some get hundreds) so they haven't got time to send a no to everyone.
And I've heard that when a woman does reply with a polite 'no thanks' the guy takes that as she's gagging for sex and continues to reply 
Personally I would reply to any message but in all my years on here I've never been messaged first so it's different circumstances
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By (user no longer on site)
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Why is an inbox of "no thanks" messages better than having it deleted? I've never understood this. When I do my own messaging proactively I'd much rather they just deleted it than getting loads of rejection males.
It's a waste of my time writing one, and it's a waste of your time reading it. Deleting is just more efficient all round. |
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"Women get literally 100's of msgs not sure if I'd be replying to all my msgs if that was me especially shit ones."
The only time women get 100s of messages is when they first join and know nothing of filters etc, and so get bombarded by all the desperadoes on here who take advantage of that fact...
With filters in place and age barriers set most women average about 20 messages per day, unless they are actively chatting to others ...
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"Women get literally 100's of msgs not sure if I'd be replying to all my msgs if that was me especially shit ones.
The only time women get 100s of messages is when they first join and know nothing of filters etc, and so get bombarded by all the desperadoes on here who take advantage of that fact...
With filters in place and age barriers set most women average about 20 messages per day, unless they are actively chatting to others ...
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I got over a thousand in a day once when one of my photos got on page 1. That was with filters on, so they were all from verified site supporting men with photos between 27 and 47.
Normal for me is more like 40 though. |
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"Women get literally 100's of msgs not sure if I'd be replying to all my msgs if that was me especially shit ones.
The only time women get 100s of messages is when they first join and know nothing of filters etc, and so get bombarded by all the desperadoes on here who take advantage of that fact...
With filters in place and age barriers set most women average about 20 messages per day, unless they are actively chatting to others ...
I got over a thousand in a day once when one of my photos got on page 1. That was with filters on, so they were all from verified site supporting men with photos between 27 and 47.
Normal for me is more like 40 though. "
How many 98.5 yr olds message you now?
A lot less surely.  |
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"Women get literally 100's of msgs not sure if I'd be replying to all my msgs if that was me especially shit ones.
The only time women get 100s of messages is when they first join and know nothing of filters etc, and so get bombarded by all the desperadoes on here who take advantage of that fact...
With filters in place and age barriers set most women average about 20 messages per day, unless they are actively chatting to others ...
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Fuck. I'm more of a minger than i thought. I average far less than that and have no need for filters....(obviously not with my current profile set up as i don't expect any atm! ) |
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"Women get literally 100's of msgs not sure if I'd be replying to all my msgs if that was me especially shit ones.
The only time women get 100s of messages is when they first join and know nothing of filters etc, and so get bombarded by all the desperadoes on here who take advantage of that fact...
With filters in place and age barriers set most women average about 20 messages per day, unless they are actively chatting to others ...
I got over a thousand in a day once when one of my photos got on page 1. That was with filters on, so they were all from verified site supporting men with photos between 27 and 47.
Normal for me is more like 40 though.
How many 98.5 yr olds message you now?
A lot less surely. "
I don't have the age filtered out, people of all ages can still message me - that's just so I don't appear in local updates and similar because I don't really want that at the moment. |
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I used to reply to everyone be it yes or no. Unfortunately some people on here don't like when you reply and say no. They get really offended like it's my duty to have sex with them because they messaged me!! So I've stopped replying and guess what? I get called arrogant and ignorant and blah blah blah.
Trust me you cannot win so ignore people if you want. Reply to people if you want. Don't concern yourself with checking if they've read your message. And if they don't reply or just delete your message without a response just block. It works for me. |
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