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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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OK so I LOVE sex I really do but it is hard for me to cum and guys I've been with in the past just don't come close. I hate being hard to please I thought the excitment from on here would be enough to just cum over and over but it's not. Anyone else have the same ???  I want and need to come so bad it's been almost a year since I have had sex and pleasing myself gets harder plus keep breaking my rampant rabbits haha. (1st time posting please be nice) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK so I LOVE sex I really do but it is hard for me to cum and guys I've been with in the past just don't come close. I hate being hard to please I thought the excitment from on here would be enough to just cum over and over but it's not. Anyone else have the same ??? I want and need to come so bad it's been almost a year since I have had sex and pleasing myself gets harder plus keep breaking my rampant rabbits haha. (1st time posting please be nice) "
Breaking them in what context ? |
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t's difficult to share problems so well done you for being brave.
I'm sure you're not alone and i'm equally sure that there will be a lot of people along to give you great advice.
Stress , tiredness , diet etc .......way too many factors for me to guess at. It's not always as simple as you think. x
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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Maybe you could be putting too much preasure on yourself?
There's far more to sex and pleasure than just an orgasm.
Try if you can to explore yourself in other ways. Don't rush straight to the obvious pleasure points. Infact try avoiding them all together at first.
Relax.
Take your time and see how you go over a few weeks of this.
You may surprise yourself |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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OP, welcome aboard.
You need to relax your body and brain about this. The more you want it and expect it the more pressure you put on yourself.
Orgasms happen as much in the mind as the body. Find what works physically and then think about what it is that is blocking that.
Try enjoying sex without the orgasm for a while.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We wouldn't even bother playing if we didn't get satisfaction from meets . So you need to go into a meet with no expectations , and enjoy whatever happens , without expecting mind blowing orgasms every time . The more scenarios you have , the more likely you will find what works for you . So get out there and enjoy more meets  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not quite the same, if I have sober sex then everything works, if I have had alcohol, then there's not a chance in hell I am going to cum, not even by my own hand "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"OK so I LOVE sex I really do but it is hard for me to cum and guys I've been with in the past just don't come close. I hate being hard to please I thought the excitment from on here would be enough to just cum over and over but it's not. Anyone else have the same ??? I want and need to come so bad it's been almost a year since I have had sex and pleasing myself gets harder plus keep breaking my rampant rabbits haha. (1st time posting please be nice)
Breaking them in what context ?"
Think how I Hold them lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"t's difficult to share problems so well done you for being brave.
I'm sure you're not alone and i'm equally sure that there will be a lot of people along to give you great advice.
Stress , tiredness , diet etc .......way too many factors for me to guess at. It's not always as simple as you think. x
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Thank you It does put me off meets x |
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"Do you find it hard to orgasm through foreplay or actual intercourse?
Both but intercourse more "
Well this sounds like something that could be sorted with the right guy/guys. Surely a bit of communication and a great deal of practise combined with a determination to please should achieve the desired result.
Plenty of delicious foreplay, plenty of time and focussed attention. You'll be cumming in no time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Maybe you could be putting too much preasure on yourself?
There's far more to sex and pleasure than just an orgasm.
Try if you can to explore yourself in other ways. Don't rush straight to the obvious pleasure points. Infact try avoiding them all together at first.
Relax.
Take your time and see how you go over a few weeks of this.
You may surprise yourself "
Maybe I should give this a try thank you. I only really get any pleasure from clit stimulation but only if the guy tries or knowsomething me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, welcome aboard.
You need to relax your body and brain about this. The more you want it and expect it the more pressure you put on yourself.
Orgasms happen as much in the mind as the body. Find what works physically and then think about what it is that is blocking that.
Try enjoying sex without the orgasm for a while.
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I honestly feel I've tried so much. It took over a year of faking and then being brutally honest with my best friend of 10 years till he made me then I had 3 years of amazing fun but I am now back to just me. I don't want hand fulls of meets but I do want good sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you find it hard to orgasm through foreplay or actual intercourse?
Both but intercourse more "
I never cum through intercourse, been extremely close once but the guy changed position & I completely lost it.
I always find it hard to cum through foreplay, unless I direct, the guy just treats me like a jackrabbit & that's not what works for me.
I have one regular fwb who is learning how I react to touches & it gets better every meet.
For my first meets, I never expect to cum as it's too much pressure but I do enjoy sex.
I don't have to cum to enjoy it, if needs be then I'll finish myself off afterwards
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"maybe this where a regular would be handy, to feel relaxed around and get a connection going on."
Definitely old be but I find it hard to see any options on here lol the most are want a meet now and it's not me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you find it hard to orgasm through foreplay or actual intercourse?
Both but intercourse more
I never cum through intercourse, been extremely close once but the guy changed position & I completely lost it.
I always find it hard to cum through foreplay, unless I direct, the guy just treats me like a jackrabbit & that's not what works for me.
I have one regular fwb who is learning how I react to touches & it gets better every meet.
For my first meets, I never expect to cum as it's too much pressure but I do enjoy sex.
I don't have to cum to enjoy it, if needs be then I'll finish myself off afterwards
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Yeah I find I can be close but lose it. I think I do put myself under too much strain I don't even enjoy it unsure if I am replying properly on here lol. It does take time and meets but most just want to meet quick bang and go. Imy not for that |
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It is obviously concerning you which means it is a worry..
The more you build things as a problem, the more they actually become that problem.. It is a self perpetuating vicious circle worsened by a cocktail of hormones your brain kicks out because you are stressed...
Maybe going to speak with your gp may help, there may be a deeper seated cause rather than just a lack of enjoyment of sex..
Stress is a really awful condition to suffer and it affects us all slightly differently...
Talking openly is always the first step to curing any problem..
Psx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i've had the same, with guys who are great in bed (to me) and are in no way selfish.
did get to a point where i wasn't bothered about cumming and enjoyed the sex anyway.
dunn, i cum really easily in relationships or if the guy is amazing at oral and spends ages doing that, or if he gets into my head. i'm guessing not enough of the guys i meet do any of these things.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i've had the same, with guys who are great in bed (to me) and are in no way selfish.
did get to a point where i wasn't bothered about cumming and enjoyed the sex anyway.
dunn, i cum really easily in relationships or if the guy is amazing at oral and spends ages doing that, or if he gets into my head. i'm guessing not enough of the guys i meet do any of these things.
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Definitely this!
You have to have a mental connection too, the mind must be stimulated to allow the body to relax!
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How many men have you met though. I never cum having intercourse but nearly did with a man i met recently, I cum quickly if i use my toy, some men make me cum with their finger or mouth, it doesnt matter if they dont as i can use my toy, maybe youre not using the right toy, i had to try a lot before i found the right one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OK so I LOVE sex I really do but it is hard for me to cum and guys I've been with in the past just don't come close. I hate being hard to please I thought the excitment from on here would be enough to just cum over and over but it's not. Anyone else have the same ??? I want and need to come so bad it's been almost a year since I have had sex and pleasing myself gets harder plus keep breaking my rampant rabbits haha. (1st time posting please be nice) "
hello and welcome to the forums.
Stop worrying about it. I wont orgasm with meets. Thats not what I meet them for. However if your wanting to then look at what does it for you alone and why it doesn't happen on here. For me its a control thing... I wont allow a meet to get me to that stage but doesnt mean I don't enjoy.. I get my pleasure from getting. I can only really relax to get from Mr x |
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