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What do you take away from fab? What is the attraction?
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Hi all,
I was thinking about this earlier, what do I actually get from fab? What does it do for me and what is the attraction?
The answer, certainly from my point of view is deeper than what I expected.
For me, it's an avenue in which I can meet fun friends. I like meeting new people and I like the whole social build up that leads to fun.
I find people to be very interesting and I love learning from them.
Chatting to women can give me a large ego boost too, I suppose that is also an element which adds to this site's addictivness.
A major thing for me too, is that it allows me to find someone who shares similar interests to me or who is at the same sexual 'level' as me. I suppose the main drive is that, finding someone at the same sexual 'level', if that makes sense.
I suppose the draw is the possibility of finding something special or even 'perfect'. It's that which keeps me coming back.
Anyway, what about you? |
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"Honestly....
A boost in self confidence
Some truly amazing friends who I meet socially as well as for play
Interesting reading
Good laughs in the forums
Endless possibilities
Escapism"
Escapism? That's interesting. I suppose it is like a different world really. A world where men are 50 times more common! A woman's dream. Maybe... Lol, I don't really know. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Very deep and meaningful OP but inciteful also 
I guess we all may get different things from it but for me it's an opportunity to discuss sex and sexuality in a way that I couldn't on other forums or with vanilla friends.
It's also provided an opportunity to physically explore my own sexuality both as part of the couples profile I'm part of, and hopefully now as part of this new solo profile.
Add to that some much needed light relief by way of parts of these forums and it's now become my go to site over and above the likes of FB and Twitter....I even pick up most breaking news of any importance here!!
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I come on here for a bit of an escape to my day to day life ..
I enjoy looking through the forums as there is such a diverse bunch of people on here, some nice.. others not so..
I have met some lovely people though which is always a bonus, and is what keeps me coming back I guess
I also have a bullshit filter so white knights beware  lol |
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"Very deep and meaningful OP but inciteful also
I guess we all may get different things from it but for me it's an opportunity to discuss sex and sexuality in a way that I couldn't on other forums or with vanilla friends.
It's also provided an opportunity to physically explore my own sexuality both as part of the couples profile I'm part of, and hopefully now as part of this new solo profile.
Add to that some much needed light relief by way of parts of these forums and it's now become my go to site over and above the likes of FB and Twitter....I even pick up most breaking news of any importance here!!
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Haha, that's interesting.
I find the forums to be a bit heavy at times... The forums are a bit like a lion pit! |
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FAB is probably my social media if that makes sense. I don't use FB anymore, my Twitter account is for my photography.
I post here on the forums and I chat to a few privately. One or two have become friends.
This has become a go to place I guess which takes me away from quietness of living alone.
Also a few on here I would like to get to know more. |
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"I come on here for a bit of an escape to my day to day life ..
I enjoy looking through the forums as there is such a diverse bunch of people on here, some nice.. others not so..
I have met some lovely people though which is always a bonus, and is what keeps me coming back I guess
I also have a bullshit filter so white knights beware lol "
Yeah, I've met some lovely people here too. Ok, I'll make a note about your filter. Lol... Which filter are you using?  |
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"FAB is probably my social media if that makes sense. I don't use FB anymore, my Twitter account is for my photography.
I post here on the forums and I chat to a few privately. One or two have become friends.
This has become a go to place I guess which takes me away from quietness of living alone.
Also a few on here I would like to get to know more. "
Yes! I'd say some of my best friends have come from here, I just wish it wasn't so taboo. |
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Some commonality with many other people, though we're all very different - I really appreciate that: better than if we were all very much alike.
Friendship, sex, attachment - information - amusement etc via the forum and the great randomness of life all here. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Very deep and meaningful OP but inciteful also
I guess we all may get different things from it but for me it's an opportunity to discuss sex and sexuality in a way that I couldn't on other forums or with vanilla friends.
It's also provided an opportunity to physically explore my own sexuality both as part of the couples profile I'm part of, and hopefully now as part of this new solo profile.
Add to that some much needed light relief by way of parts of these forums and it's now become my go to site over and above the likes of FB and Twitter....I even pick up most breaking news of any importance here!!
Haha, that's interesting.
I find the forums to be a bit heavy at times... The forums are a bit like a lion pit!"
They can be...which is why I said "parts of the forums"...I tend to take the approach of sneak quietly into a thread and if it's gone a bit gladitorial sneak back out again closing the door behind me....unless of course it's a topic that takes my interest and I feel I can add something to, in which case I'm happy to go all Maximus on them...even if my body shape is more akin to Frankie Howerd in Up Pompeii!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A bit self confidence, these forums have turned me into a flirt
Talk to ladies I'd never normally talk to, and talk to some proper hotties
Good laugh in forums, even though I've only just started using them.
Takes all the shit out of dating etc, both parties know what's what. |
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Fab has given us some awesome friends, some wtf moments and plenty of laughs in the forums and such an ever expanding collection of pics and vids that we've had to save them on a separate hard drive as a memory stick was too small  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I was talking to one half of a couple about this yesterday and I said the best thing for me to come out it is the friendships and it was the same for him. I didn't really know what I was joining for when I did, I liked to just chat with others in the chatrooms, never thought I'd end up meeting them. Some I met 4 years ago, some 2 years ago and I have a great social life with a few of them.
I said when I have a weekend to myself I'd rather go to a club or a social than go out up the town, or to a friends house (that isn't on the scene), because they're really good nights. The group I socialise with all are there for a good laugh, a natter and anything else is a bonus. We do a variety of things together, not just stuff within the swinging scene and it makes it much nicer.
They joined to build a new circle of friends, as their current group were all going off and having young children, so they were no longer getting involved with doing stuff, or very rarely. Now they have several friends that have come from fab. |
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"Very deep and meaningful OP but inciteful also
I guess we all may get different things from it but for me it's an opportunity to discuss sex and sexuality in a way that I couldn't on other forums or with vanilla friends.
It's also provided an opportunity to physically explore my own sexuality both as part of the couples profile I'm part of, and hopefully now as part of this new solo profile.
Add to that some much needed light relief by way of parts of these forums and it's now become my go to site over and above the likes of FB and Twitter....I even pick up most breaking news of any importance here!!
Haha, that's interesting.
I find the forums to be a bit heavy at times... The forums are a bit like a lion pit!
They can be...which is why I said "parts of the forums"...I tend to take the approach of sneak quietly into a thread and if it's gone a bit gladitorial sneak back out again closing the door behind me....unless of course it's a topic that takes my interest and I feel I can add something to, in which case I'm happy to go all Maximus on them...even if my body shape is more akin to Frankie Howerd in Up Pompeii!!"
Haha! I tend to speak my mind about a lot of issues. I get into trouble haha! |
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"A bit self confidence, these forums have turned me into a flirt
Talk to ladies I'd never normally talk to, and talk to some proper hotties
Good laugh in forums, even though I've only just started using them.
Takes all the shit out of dating etc, both parties know what's what."
Haha! Me too! I'm more confident. |
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"I use fab mainly for club visits I very rarely meet people on a whim anymore. They have to be really special! "
Hiya!  I hope you're ok!
I suppose it gives you a heads up on who you can expect. If I went to clubs, I guess I'd do the same.
Xx |
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"Honestly....
A boost in self confidence
Some truly amazing friends who I meet socially as well as for play
Interesting reading
Good laughs in the forums
Endless possibilities
Escapism
Escapism? That's interesting. I suppose it is like a different world really. A world where men are 50 times more common! A woman's dream. Maybe... Lol, I don't really know."
I'm a single mum to a teenage lad, I work unsociable hours. Don't really get much in the way of conversation from the dog either!
I don't dislike my life, but it's far more fun with fab in it
An escape from the mundane.....and housework  |
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Initially I joined to meet people for sex. I never even looked at the Forums until very recently. I spend a lot of time on my own so for me chatting and laughing with people in here is my little bit of "me time", escapism from a very stressful life. I have a close group of girlfriends who know nothing about my "secret life" so I cannot talk to them about this. But Fab does have it's pitfalls. I'm quite a trusting person and not very confident in myself so I have found the Forum chat quite challenging at times. Not everybody is nice and can say hurtful things. However, I'm a very sexual being so it works for me talking about it in here and, on the whole, I enjoy it. And flipping heck, my pics seem to get a good response and that really helps with my self esteem as, prior to joining this madness, I never really saw myself as sexy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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love the forums - have met some great people sexually and socially on the same level as myself - lots more sex than id get otherwise - realised i am bisexual without doubt - whats not to like |
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"Initially I joined to meet people for sex. I never even looked at the Forums until very recently. I spend a lot of time on my own so for me chatting and laughing with people in here is my little bit of "me time", escapism from a very stressful life. I have a close group of girlfriends who know nothing about my "secret life" so I cannot talk to them about this. But Fab does have it's pitfalls. I'm quite a trusting person and not very confident in myself so I have found the Forum chat quite challenging at times. Not everybody is nice and can say hurtful things. However, I'm a very sexual being so it works for me talking about it in here and, on the whole, I enjoy it. And flipping heck, my pics seem to get a good response and that really helps with my self esteem as, prior to joining this madness, I never really saw myself as sexy! "
Hmmm, it's really interesting that a lot of women see it as a form of escapism... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A social circle of friends more diverse that we could have imagined, some of which could be lifelong friends hopefully.
Great sex if we're lucky and enough stories to make us blush. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a massive confidence boost that does it for me... after six years on this site of met some fantastic people, and had the good fortune to 'meet' a few of them too...
It is a form of escapism, that allows me to come out of my shell, and be as flirtatious and as complimentary as I like with like-minded people.
I genuinely think that the 'fab' me is the real me - but it's not the sort of person I am in my day-to-day life (especially the flirty side of my personality)
So I have to say that Fab (and my Fab friends) have given my the confidence to find out who I really am.... oh yes and the sex is superb too (..when it happens)  |
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I'm here to boost my self confidence but I'm finding it hard as I can barely ever get a message from someone. I'm not even looking for sex most of the time, just a chat. 6 months and I've had only 2 messages xD I'm a bit like you, having a message from a lady boosts my confidence. |
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"I use fab mainly for club visits I very rarely meet people on a whim anymore. They have to be really special!
Hiya! I hope you're ok!
I suppose it gives you a heads up on who you can expect. If I went to clubs, I guess I'd do the same.
Yep. It means I can get back into contact with people I've met.
Xx"
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"It's a massive confidence boost that does it for me... after six years on this site of met some fantastic people, and had the good fortune to 'meet' a few of them too...
It is a form of escapism, that allows me to come out of my shell, and be as flirtatious and as complimentary as I like with like-minded people.
I genuinely think that the 'fab' me is the real me - but it's not the sort of person I am in my day-to-day life (especially the flirty side of my personality)
So I have to say that Fab (and my Fab friends) have given my the confidence to find out who I really am.... oh yes and the sex is superb too (..when it happens) "
Oh, men also like this escapism idea then!
I know what you mean about confidence...
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"I'm here to boost my self confidence but I'm finding it hard as I can barely ever get a message from someone. I'm not even looking for sex most of the time, just a chat. 6 months and I've had only 2 messages xD I'm a bit like you, having a message from a lady boosts my confidence. "
Mate, it's not so hard on here, it depends on how you view it and what your attitude is like. The biggest issue is standing out, but even that isn't as hard as what a lot of men make out.
Remember this one thing: We out number women on here something crazy like 40:1, BUT!!! A massive majority of those men are instantly completely ignored because they have not understood the basics!!!
Message me and I'll explain! |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
some silent self reflection.
what do I actually get from fab?:
Firstly sex, but secodly the need to interact, I have networked and have got some life time close freinds from here snd the scene.
What does it do for me:
gives me a network, a place for an external social life away from work.
and what is the attraction?
Sex, but meeting new peoples and the club/party scene.
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"I use fab mainly for club visits I very rarely meet people on a whim anymore. They have to be really special!
Hiya! I hope you're ok!
I suppose it gives you a heads up on who you can expect. If I went to clubs, I guess I'd do the same.
Yep. It means I can get back into contact with people I've met.
Xx"
I did this once! The time I went to Townhouse, I met this girl, we were just chatting, etc...
I left without getting her phone number (I couldn't find her). I thought I'd have no chance of finding her, but the day after, she tracked me down on the forums somehow and we started chatting again!
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"some silent self reflection.
what do I actually get from fab?:
Firstly sex, but secodly the need to interact, I have networked and have got some life time close freinds from here snd the scene.
What does it do for me:
gives me a network, a place for an external social life away from work.
and what is the attraction?
Sex, but meeting new peoples and the club/party scene.
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It's suprising what people really think of this isn't it? Most people actually enjoy meeting new friends! Sex doesn't seem to be necessarily the most important thing. |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"some silent self reflection.
what do I actually get from fab?:
Firstly sex, but secodly the need to interact, I have networked and have got some life time close freinds from here snd the scene.
What does it do for me:
gives me a network, a place for an external social life away from work.
and what is the attraction?
Sex, but meeting new peoples and the club/party scene.
It's suprising what people really think of this isn't it? Most people actually enjoy meeting new friends! Sex doesn't seem to be necessarily the most important thing."
tis Surprising
I feel there are two main overiding motives why people are on this site and in the lifestyle ; people have many motives but there always seems two be two main motives (gauged from speaking to peoples)
A) Sex most people are on sites like this for that reason.
B) other motive that person hokds. for me that motive is freindship and meeting people. |
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"Hi all,
I was thinking about this earlier, what do I actually get from fab? What does it do for me and what is the attraction?
The answer, certainly from my point of view is deeper than what I expected.
For me, it's an avenue in which I can meet fun friends. I like meeting new people and I like the whole social build up that leads to fun.
I find people to be very interesting and I love learning from them.
Chatting to women can give me a large ego boost too, I suppose that is also an element which adds to this site's addictivness.
A major thing for me too, is that it allows me to find someone who shares similar interests to me or who is at the same sexual 'level' as me. I suppose the main drive is that, finding someone at the same sexual 'level', if that makes sense.
I suppose the draw is the possibility of finding something special or even 'perfect'. It's that which keeps me coming back.
Anyway, what about you?"
Yeh rite, why not just say you wanna fuck? |
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"Hi all,
I was thinking about this earlier, what do I actually get from fab? What does it do for me and what is the attraction?
The answer, certainly from my point of view is deeper than what I expected.
For me, it's an avenue in which I can meet fun friends. I like meeting new people and I like the whole social build up that leads to fun.
I find people to be very interesting and I love learning from them.
Chatting to women can give me a large ego boost too, I suppose that is also an element which adds to this site's addictivness.
A major thing for me too, is that it allows me to find someone who shares similar interests to me or who is at the same sexual 'level' as me. I suppose the main drive is that, finding someone at the same sexual 'level', if that makes sense.
I suppose the draw is the possibility of finding something special or even 'perfect'. It's that which keeps me coming back.
Anyway, what about you?"
Over the years I got different things. First I got pure fuck and go sex because that was what I needed. Then I met my OH on what should have been a tuck and go, and we didn't go .... now it's a mix of a laugh and banter on the forums, seeing how crazy people really are and the occasional link to a first rate event or meet to keep us topped up ...., |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
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"Hi all,
I was thinking about this earlier, what do I actually get from fab? What does it do for me and what is the attraction?
The answer, certainly from my point of view is deeper than what I expected.
For me, it's an avenue in which I can meet fun friends. I like meeting new people and I like the whole social build up that leads to fun.
I find people to be very interesting and I love learning from them.
Chatting to women can give me a large ego boost too, I suppose that is also an element which adds to this site's addictivness.
A major thing for me too, is that it allows me to find someone who shares similar interests to me or who is at the same sexual 'level' as me. I suppose the main drive is that, finding someone at the same sexual 'level', if that makes sense.
I suppose the draw is the possibility of finding something special or even 'perfect'. It's that which keeps me coming back.
Anyway, what about you?
Over the years I got different things. First I got pure fuck and go sex because that was what I needed. Then I met my OH on what should have been a tuck and go, and we didn't go .... now it's a mix of a laugh and banter on the forums, seeing how crazy people really are and the occasional link to a first rate event or meet to keep us topped up ....,"
people change as a result of fab. I know I have what was a to make me feel confident about myself and to fuck like minded people had changed. it always surprises me when people say I look good or whatever. |
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