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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only available daytimes in the week."
I,m only available daytimes in the week and I am NOT attached. I have a family to look after. Too many assumptions on this forum. X |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
The give away is when they say 'I do' at the altar...
After that I've no idea.. every reason someone suggest could have an equally valid reason for not being . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They have the haunted look of a man who has committed to one woman for the rest of their lives but who long ago discovered she's a nag and has given up shaving her legs. The anal queen that she once was has vanished, along with her sex drive.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Only available daytimes in the week.
I,m only available daytimes in the week and I am NOT attached. I have a family to look after. Too many assumptions on this forum. X"
It's a clue , I didn't say it was set in stone.  |
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"They have the haunted look of a man who has committed to one woman for the rest of their lives but who long ago discovered she's a nag and has given up shaving her legs. The anal queen that she once was has vanished, along with her sex drive.
Rushes to get the shaver and lube ....
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Rushes to get the lady shave and lube |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"Girlie stuff in the background in the guys photos. Although they could just be a t girl.
Dammit, is there no surefire way of knowing?!  "
I've two daughters .. they stay at mine and have various things at my house
The last bit is definitely true. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
"If they come across articulate, funny, smart & sexy.
The hotties are usually attached  "
What do you call an intelligent, caring, compassionate loyal honest sexy funny guy?
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A myth.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They have the haunted look of a man who has committed to one woman for the rest of their lives but who long ago discovered she's a nag and has given up shaving her legs. The anal queen that she once was has vanished, along with her sex drive.
Rushes to get the shaver and lube ....
Rushes to get the lady shave and lube "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only way you will 100% know that someone is married is if it's there on their profile, or if they have a conscience and they tell you ....
Otherwise you can keep guessing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They throw up a 'clues someone is attached' thread as a double bluff"
I have it on authority that some (not all!) of the most vocal 'anti-cheaters' are indeed married themselves and use the ruse to both put themselves on a pedestal whilst undermining others ...
Whether true or not - who knows. But this comes from more than one lady who says that they've met people who have admitted they're attached (either married or with long term partner) despite being vehemently anti-married in public forums
I can only take what they say at face value but obviously this is third hand info so must be treated with the appropriate caution. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clues that forum regulars are attached, male / female ~ they never post in the "all cheating marrieds are b*stards" threads
I am attached but I don't write this"
I'm not saying they write it but they tend to stay away from those kind of threads so as not to out themselves.
I'm going with the theme that the threads about attached as in cheating! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some combination of:
- Doesn't chat or answer mails in the evening.
- Won't meet local to them in a public place.
- Won't meet at home.
- Won't allow themselves to be marked during sex.
There are perfectly reasonable explanations for all of those things - but my playtime isn't equal opportunities and therefore I'm entitled to turn people down based on one or more of those characteristics. |
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"Some combination of:
- Doesn't chat or answer mails in the evening.
- Won't meet local to them in a public place.
- Won't meet at home.
- Won't allow themselves to be marked during sex.
There are perfectly reasonable explanations for all of those things - but my playtime isn't equal opportunities and therefore I'm entitled to turn people down based on one or more of those characteristics."
Good points. I like to meet people at their own homes for play - you can soon see if there is zero evidence of female influence in decor or bathroom products lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clues that forum regulars are attached, male / female ~ they never post in the "all cheating marrieds are b*stards" threads "
I don't post in these sorts of threads and I'm definitely single....
Actually this is my FIRST post in this type of thread.... 
I don't post in them because, I don't care what someone else does, it's not my business and it's not my concern.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clues that forum regulars are attached, male / female ~ they never post in the "all cheating marrieds are b*stards" threads "
Oops! Should I avoid those threads ? I thought they were being ironic  |
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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago
Where the streets have no name |
I knew married women who were honest with me and for a moment, no personal issues interfered between us, just two souls enjoying each other.
I knew single women whose only intention was feed their self- esteem, collecting guys messages and promising a good shag, but without further answer or showing up.
Catching attached people here? Is that the most terrible sin, a reason to be despised...?
With respect of everyone's opinion on that, this is mostly a refuge for the soul from the daily madness... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?"
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People seem to be making conclusions that some behaviors are symptomatic of being in a relationship based on how there own behaviour is/could be dictated by being in a relationship.
Most of the thread is one person posting a clue and another discounting it by providing a totally valid explanation for it.
I think unfortunately there isn't really a way to know, you just have to take their word for it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
No"
And that's absolutely fine, you're perogative. However there are ladies that are happy to, particularly if they are attached themselves. Even both with or without their partners knowledge. Both ladies I met in the past were attached and cheating. Some actually prefer attached/married and cheating because you ensure mutual discretion and less likelihood of drama. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware."
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?"
An honest cheat? Well that's a new one on me
But to answer the question yes, peoples personal life is no concern of mine as mine is not theirs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married. "
Well, not everyone feels the same way as myself, and I don't feel the same way as everyone else... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married. "
I tend to stay away from male half's of swinging couples
I've had to much drama with it in the past |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married.
I tend to stay away from male half's of swinging couples
I've had to much drama with it in the past"
Do you mind if I ask what's happened in the past, cause this has been said to me a few times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some combination of:
- Doesn't chat or answer mails in the evening.
- Won't meet local to them in a public place.
- Won't meet at home.
- Won't allow themselves to be marked during sex.
There are perfectly reasonable explanations for all of those things - but my playtime isn't equal opportunities and therefore I'm entitled to turn people down based on one or more of those characteristics.
Good points. I like to meet people at their own homes for play - you can soon see if there is zero evidence of female influence in decor or bathroom products lol! "
But do remember that some men have good conditioners and shampoos that aren't female influenced.
And a bit of flair interior design. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married. "
I'm not keen on meeting the male half even with permission, it's the dynamics of it all which unsettles me.
For example I like to flirt,chat in a way I wouldn't be comfortable with knowing the OH could well be looking.
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married.
I'm not keen on meeting the male half even with permission, it's the dynamics of it all which unsettles me.
For example I like to flirt,chat in a way I wouldn't be comfortable with knowing the OH could well be looking.
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Ah, well that does make sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married.
I'm not keen on meeting the male half even with permission, it's the dynamics of it all which unsettles me.
For example I like to flirt,chat in a way I wouldn't be comfortable with knowing the OH could well be looking.
Ah, well that does make sense."
I solve that problem by chatting to them on their own private profile, or moving it to Kik straight away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?"
for me its more about the person, not the situation they find themselves in..
if I don't like the person, married or not, I won't meet them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married.
I'm not keen on meeting the male half even with permission, it's the dynamics of it all which unsettles me.
For example I like to flirt,chat in a way I wouldn't be comfortable with knowing the OH could well be looking.
Ah, well that does make sense.
I solve that problem by chatting to them on their own private profile, or moving it to Kik straight away."
I get what you're saying & this would work for me if they were say just FB's & didn't live together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married.
I tend to stay away from male half's of swinging couples
I've had to much drama with it in the past
Do you mind if I ask what's happened in the past, cause this has been said to me a few times."
Women wanting to meet me before I meet their husband, why would I want to meet them I'm not fucking them, does it matter if they like me
Women who think they will be ok with their husbands meeting alone then finding out they are not and them keep texting and phoning their fella in our meet, or sending me messages after, even had one women take my number off her fellas phone and call me up giving me grief
I've had a few problems in the past |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married.
I'm not keen on meeting the male half even with permission, it's the dynamics of it all which unsettles me.
For example I like to flirt,chat in a way I wouldn't be comfortable with knowing the OH could well be looking.
Ah, well that does make sense.
I solve that problem by chatting to them on their own private profile, or moving it to Kik straight away.
I get what you're saying & this would work for me if they were say just FB's & didn't live together."
I'm not sure I understand. Why does the place someone lives make a difference? |
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By *enny79TV/TS
over a year ago
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Ok I can't accommodate but because I live with my mum I work v long hours so not available that much to meet but still v single I know people do lie about it but for some there is a valid reason xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The only way you could genuinely know is if they admit that they are "
Which is why I do from the outset. If that rules me out for many, so be it. I'm a patient man..horny, but patient. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married.
I tend to stay away from male half's of swinging couples
I've had to much drama with it in the past
Do you mind if I ask what's happened in the past, cause this has been said to me a few times.
Women wanting to meet me before I meet their husband, why would I want to meet them I'm not fucking them, does it matter if they like me
Women who think they will be ok with their husbands meeting alone then finding out they are not and them keep texting and phoning their fella in our meet, or sending me messages after, even had one women take my number off her fellas phone and call me up giving me grief
I've had a few problems in the past"
Ah that's a shame, but yes once bitten twice shy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married.
I'm not keen on meeting the male half even with permission, it's the dynamics of it all which unsettles me.
For example I like to flirt,chat in a way I wouldn't be comfortable with knowing the OH could well be looking.
Ah, well that does make sense.
I solve that problem by chatting to them on their own private profile, or moving it to Kik straight away.
I get what you're saying & this would work for me if they were say just FB's & didn't live together.
I'm not sure I understand. Why does the place someone lives make a difference?"
It may sound silly but I wouldn't be comfortable with chatting away to him with her looking over his shoulder, being a topic of discussion that kind of thing.
I have idea this actually happens it's just my thoughts that's all.
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married.
I'm not keen on meeting the male half even with permission, it's the dynamics of it all which unsettles me.
For example I like to flirt,chat in a way I wouldn't be comfortable with knowing the OH could well be looking.
Ah, well that does make sense.
I solve that problem by chatting to them on their own private profile, or moving it to Kik straight away.
I get what you're saying & this would work for me if they were say just FB's & didn't live together.
I'm not sure I understand. Why does the place someone lives make a difference?
It may sound silly but I wouldn't be comfortable with chatting away to him with her looking over his shoulder, being a topic of discussion that kind of thing.
I have idea this actually happens it's just my thoughts that's all.
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From my own POV - my partners never see the private conversations that I have with other people who aren't them. They have no right to see either what I say to my other partners, or to people I'm thinking about hooking up with.
I always ask when I chat to people too - I ask them if they show their partners their chats with people. I they say yes, I generally arrange a meet sooner rather than later so that we can talk in person rather than online. |
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"Some combination of:
- Doesn't chat or answer mails in the evening.
- Won't meet local to them in a public place.
- Won't meet at home.
- Won't allow themselves to be marked during sex.
There are perfectly reasonable explanations for all of those things - but my playtime isn't equal opportunities and therefore I'm entitled to turn people down based on one or more of those characteristics.
Good points. I like to meet people at their own homes for play - you can soon see if there is zero evidence of female influence in decor or bathroom products lol! "
people may have children stay over so maybe there are mixed toiletries , dont always assume.....or should they assume you are not single because you cannot accommodate |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" lets throw a bomb in would you ladies / cpls meet a married man if he was honest ?
I have no problem with meeting married men.
I have a problem with meeting married men if their wife isn't aware.
My Mrs is fully aware of me being here plus it's on my profile that I'm married and our couples profile is listed there too, but even when I'm so open, most women still say they won't meet me cause I'm married.
I tend to stay away from male half's of swinging couples
I've had to much drama with it in the past
Do you mind if I ask what's happened in the past, cause this has been said to me a few times.
Women wanting to meet me before I meet their husband, why would I want to meet them I'm not fucking them, does it matter if they like me
Women who think they will be ok with their husbands meeting alone then finding out they are not and them keep texting and phoning their fella in our meet, or sending me messages after, even had one women take my number off her fellas phone and call me up giving me grief
I've had a few problems in the past"
Ah, well that would never happen with me, when either my Mrs or myself goes on a meet, the other never has anything to do with the person the meet was arranged with and never text during, we are both happy with our arrangement which does get frowned upon by others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some combination of:
- Doesn't chat or answer mails in the evening.
- Won't meet local to them in a public place.
- Won't meet at home.
- Won't allow themselves to be marked during sex.
There are perfectly reasonable explanations for all of those things - but my playtime isn't equal opportunities and therefore I'm entitled to turn people down based on one or more of those characteristics."
If Mrs M found any marks on me, it would more than likely be my back! (Scratched to fuck) and also letting me out to play at any hour of the day or night, even a coffee at our local McDonald's or Tesco
Won't meet at home due to a BIG dog that hates people. |
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