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Undatable

By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

Not the tele show but folk who are unlucky in love despite their best efforts and endless dating threads. I'll start.

I'm a female drag queen & dominatrix, outspoken, no tolerance for bullshit and a big woman. I don't fit the conventional 'partner' brief, therefore, undatable

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm so unlucky in love I'm an asshole magnet lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'm so unlucky in love I'm an asshole magnet lol

However I do believe at some stage it will be my turn when I least expect it

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By *ightfall79Man over a year ago

Dunbartonshire

I have been told mine is that I do not show emotion.

Apparently that is a big thing in a relationship hey ho that why I'm single again lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not the tele show but folk who are unlucky in love despite their best efforts and endless dating threads. I'll start.

I'm a female drag queen & dominatrix, outspoken, no tolerance for bullshit and a big woman. I don't fit the conventional 'partner' brief, therefore, undatable "

Nah you're not undatable, you've just been unlucky so far, you will be someone's perfect partner

Ess

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I'm undateable because I'm nearly 60, can't be bothered with all the skirting around issues, game playing and batting eyelashes stuff and would lay my cards firmly on the table from the start. I think I would put most men off.

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I'm so unlucky in love I'm an asshole magnet lol

However I do believe at some stage it will be my turn when I least expect it

That's what used to happen to me years ago, I'd get all tarted up and go out on the pull, but end up empty handed. If I just wanted a quiet night out with the lads, more often than not I'd end in bed with sexy lady

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm undateable because I'm nearly 60, can't be bothered with all the skirting around issues, game playing and batting eyelashes stuff and would lay my cards firmly on the table from the start. I think I would put most men off."

I'm sure a lot of men would relish that no messing approach, I know I did when I met em, we both knew exactly where we stood.

Ess

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

If jay popped his clogs i wouldnt even want anyone else.

I would just want me and the cats .

I couldnt be doing with all that getting to know someone all over again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm undateable..... I don't mind. It used to bother me but now I'm okay with it; going out with friends is a chore as they try their latest project on you... I'm okay. Sometimes a little lonely but not life threatening so.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I hope my luck happens soon as I would like kids but there are other means to have kids

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm puzzled by what a "female drag queen" is.....surely "drag" involves a man dressing up as a woman?

But I don't think that makes you undateable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mid 40s with a young son, most of the women my age have had their kids, and tghey are not so dependent on them now.

I like bad girls, but with that comes the bad girl attitude, and behavior.

Because I don't have ther jealous gene, I trust way to much.

I won't compromise who I am, I spent years doing that, and I couldn't go back now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm undateable. I'm a little awkward, a little difficult to understand at times and my mind wonders to odd places.

And alot of women won't date a guy with better hair than them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If undateable means being a fussy cow who won't meet men under a certain height then that's me

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By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

Not excuses, reality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I,m undateable as I can't conform to men's ideas of what a woman should do or be like. I can't be conventional anymore, I never really have been. I want swinger or player for a partner XXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not looking to date, hence I'm undateable...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sure a lot of men would relish that no messing approach, I know I did when I met em, we both knew exactly where we stood.

Ess"

Id like to think so but not exactley true and while id remain true to myself it would be lovely to find someone that embraced that and didnt try to change me.x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm undateable. I'm a little awkward, a little difficult to understand at times and my mind wonders to odd places.

And alot of women won't date a guy with better hair than them."

You can tempt them with your teamaking skills though x

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By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

"I'm puzzled by what a "female drag queen" is.....surely "drag" involves a man dressing up as a woman?

But I don't think that makes you undateable "

Er no. Google Holestar.

Makes me undatable as most folk think in gender binaries and my lifestyle appears too extreme

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nobody is undateable. Of the people on here saying they're undateable I bet there are hundreds out there that would absolutely love to date you all. Whether you like THEM is a different matter..

If I had to date again I wouldn't know where to start, I'm so socially awkward. But I'm sure there would be SOMEONE out there that would tolerate me, and if so, NOBODY is undateable!

Keep with it - there's someone out there *perfect* for you. And you WILL find them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

Not excuses DS. I am just undateable.... I require a certain type of mind which is something I won't compromise on at the grand age of 41.. maybe one day that mind will appear.. until then I am not going to be someone I am not just for a perfumed pillow next to me...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Updateable and unavailable to anyone whose expectation stretches beyond a simple one off meeting for no strings sex..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm undateable. I'm a little awkward, a little difficult to understand at times and my mind wonders to odd places.

And alot of women won't date a guy with better hair than them.

You can tempt them with your teamaking skills though x

I try

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm undateable. I'm a little awkward, a little difficult to understand at times and my mind wonders to odd places.

And alot of women won't date a guy with better hair than them."

Some of the most wonderful people are those who don't fit into boxes. You're interesting and you're different and I like that

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm undateable. So much so, I'm now too terrified to go on a date. I'm not okay with it, but I don't really know how to let down my defences.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm 6ft 2, fat, have two kids under 10, live with my mum due to her health. I suffer with depression, can be a bit moody. I'm also painfully shy and not very outgoing plus I'm not very flirtatious.

I'm just not what men want and I've kind of given up looking now to be honest. Been on dating sites, loads of winks but no messages.

Am I full of excuses? I don't know. It is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not undateable, I just can't seem to find anyone that'she attracted to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Used 5 different dating sites for over a year, I had 1 date...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm undateable. I'm a little awkward, a little difficult to understand at times and my mind wonders to odd places.

And alot of women won't date a guy with better hair than them.

Some of the most wonderful people are those who don't fit into boxes. You're interesting and you're different and I like that

That's very kind of you to say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

Well then you are lucky... my preferences are a little unusual in someone I would consider partnership material.. anyway.. I don't date... my choice I guess... happy (most of the time) that way x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm puzzled by what a "female drag queen" is.....surely "drag" involves a man dressing up as a woman?

But I don't think that makes you undateable

Er no. Google Holestar.

Makes me undatable as most folk think in gender binaries and my lifestyle appears too extreme "

Are you holestar? I am aware of her....didn't consider a "drag" queen tho....just a woman with extreme make-up.

I have played "dame" in pantos a couple of times btw.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not the tele show but folk who are unlucky in love despite their best efforts and endless dating threads. I'll start.

I'm a female drag queen & dominatrix, outspoken, no tolerance for bullshit and a big woman. I don't fit the conventional 'partner' brief, therefore, undatable "

Well i'm shite and not worth dating.. Thats why i go swinging instead

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im going too be a dating expert tell you all what to do and come on your dates with you

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By *enny79TV/TS over a year ago

chesterfield

I'm a 36 yr old transgender who hasn't started hormones yet I'm not a pretty girl and still find women more attractive to me but seme to repell them yay v undatable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not the tele show but folk who are unlucky in love despite their best efforts and endless dating threads. I'll start.

I'm a female drag queen & dominatrix, outspoken, no tolerance for bullshit and a big woman. I don't fit the conventional 'partner' brief, therefore, undatable "

No way are you undatable. You are such a fun person to be around. One day you will find someone and it will be magnificent. Everyone of us comes with baggage, but one day, hopefully, you will find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack.xx

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By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

"I'm puzzled by what a "female drag queen" is.....surely "drag" involves a man dressing up as a woman?

But I don't think that makes you undateable

Er no. Google Holestar.

Makes me undatable as most folk think in gender binaries and my lifestyle appears too extreme

Are you holestar? I am aware of her....didn't consider a "drag" queen tho....just a woman with extreme make-up.

I have played "dame" in pantos a couple of times btw."

I am. Just a woman with extreme make-up? Wow thanks

Winner of Best Drag Act at London Cabaret Awards 2015. Others clearly disagree.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

Well then you are lucky... my preferences are a little unusual in someone I would consider partnership material.. anyway.. I don't date... my choice I guess... happy (most of the time) that way x"

I could be off the mark here but, it seems the reason you are undateable is you.

Similarly I think I'm undateable because of myself. I'm very particular about who I want to be with and who I allow into my mind.

It also takes a certain type of person to let my defenses down and inspire me enough to get past theirs.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Im going too be a dating expert tell you all what to do and come on your dates with you

That could work

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By *rimo4uMan over a year ago

north kensington w10

"Not the tele show but folk who are unlucky in love despite their best efforts and endless dating threads. I'll start.

I'm a female drag queen & dominatrix, outspoken, no tolerance for bullshit and a big woman. I don't fit the conventional 'partner' brief, therefore, undatable "

Know how you feel guys, I have never had a girl friend yet and coming up to 30yrs soon. It is always on your mind and sometimes you just want a hug, that's when it's hard.

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By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

"Not the tele show but folk who are unlucky in love despite their best efforts and endless dating threads. I'll start.

I'm a female drag queen & dominatrix, outspoken, no tolerance for bullshit and a big woman. I don't fit the conventional 'partner' brief, therefore, undatable

Oh shush you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

Well then you are lucky... my preferences are a little unusual in someone I would consider partnership material.. anyway.. I don't date... my choice I guess... happy (most of the time) that way x

I could be off the mark here but, it seems the reason you are undateable is you.

Similarly I think I'm undateable because of myself. I'm very particular about who I want to be with and who I allow into my mind.

It also takes a certain type of person to let my defenses down and inspire me enough to get past theirs. "

Nail on the head Hatter... that's why I am undateable!! If I want someone to smash my head up again. I've no doubt I can find one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

Well then you are lucky... my preferences are a little unusual in someone I would consider partnership material.. anyway.. I don't date... my choice I guess... happy (most of the time) that way x

I could be off the mark here but, it seems the reason you are undateable is you.

Similarly I think I'm undateable because of myself. I'm very particular about who I want to be with and who I allow into my mind.

It also takes a certain type of person to let my defenses down and inspire me enough to get past theirs.

Nail on the head Hatter... that's why I am undateable!! If I want someone to smash my head up again. I've no doubt I can find one

So is it that we're not undateable, we're just afraid of being hurt?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let's all just date each other lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

Well then you are lucky... my preferences are a little unusual in someone I would consider partnership material.. anyway.. I don't date... my choice I guess... happy (most of the time) that way x

I could be off the mark here but, it seems the reason you are undateable is you.

Similarly I think I'm undateable because of myself. I'm very particular about who I want to be with and who I allow into my mind.

It also takes a certain type of person to let my defenses down and inspire me enough to get past theirs.

Nail on the head Hatter... that's why I am undateable!! If I want someone to smash my head up again. I've no doubt I can find one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

Well then you are lucky... my preferences are a little unusual in someone I would consider partnership material.. anyway.. I don't date... my choice I guess... happy (most of the time) that way x

I could be off the mark here but, it seems the reason you are undateable is you.

Similarly I think I'm undateable because of myself. I'm very particular about who I want to be with and who I allow into my mind.

It also takes a certain type of person to let my defenses down and inspire me enough to get past theirs.

Nail on the head Hatter... that's why I am undateable!! If I want someone to smash my head up again. I've no doubt I can find one

So is it that we're not undateable, we're just afraid of being hurt? "

Being afraid of being hurt sort of what makes us undateable. If you don't let someone in and develop a real connection they won't stick around.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

Well then you are lucky... my preferences are a little unusual in someone I would consider partnership material.. anyway.. I don't date... my choice I guess... happy (most of the time) that way x

I could be off the mark here but, it seems the reason you are undateable is you.

Similarly I think I'm undateable because of myself. I'm very particular about who I want to be with and who I allow into my mind.

It also takes a certain type of person to let my defenses down and inspire me enough to get past theirs.

Nail on the head Hatter... that's why I am undateable!! If I want someone to smash my head up again. I've no doubt I can find one

So is it that we're not undateable, we're just afraid of being hurt?

Being afraid of being hurt sort of what makes us undateable. If you don't let someone in and develop a real connection they won't stick around. "

Excellent. I'm still undateable then.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

"If jay popped his clogs i wouldnt even want anyone else.

I would just want me and the cats .

I couldnt be doing with all that getting to know someone all over again"

I feel that way too, that's why I say I couldn't be doing all that game playing stuff.

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By *ubbykittenWoman over a year ago

Kent

I have the 3 month itch!

I haven't got beyond 3 months dating a guy before it ends! That has been going on for 7 years now!

So even if it's going really well, I look at the calendar and think... oh ok..... 3 months is up soon! Any day now I will get the text... or email! If I am lucky I might get a telephone call but usually they just stop calling because they found a younger sweeter (and decidedly more dim!) replacement! Such is life for women when they hit their 40s! Guts always looking for the next best thing! Assisted greatly by social media and online dating apps! Too much choice makes people indecisive.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"Used 5 different dating sites for over a year, I had 1 date..."

And a wonderful advisor no doubt

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

And half these people have posted in the dating thread so they must think they are datable

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By *ubbykittenWoman over a year ago

Kent

"And half these people have posted in the dating thread so they must think they are datable"

Always hope! Always hope! (Apparantly! Lol!)

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

I'm sure a lot of men would relish that no messing approach, I know I did when I met em, we both knew exactly where we stood.

Ess"

Some would I'm sure but lots of men feel threatened by women like me. I hope I never have occasion to date again Mr N and I often say it's lucky we met since nobody else would put up with us

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

This tether wos made for me lol

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm undateable too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm undateable. So much so, I'm now too terrified to go on a date. I'm not okay with it, but I don't really know how to let down my defences. "

Oh Estella, I so much disagree with you... You are totally dateable! I know you are just afraid of being hurt, but many men would enjoy a date with you, and if you take away the scenic fear of the date itself I'm sure you would enjoy it too.

You, and many others in this thread, could try to dedramatize all the hype and expectations about having a date... It's no more than having a drink or meal with someone you fancy.

Hope this helps you all

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

Well then you are lucky... my preferences are a little unusual in someone I would consider partnership material.. anyway.. I don't date... my choice I guess... happy (most of the time) that way x

I could be off the mark here but, it seems the reason you are undateable is you.

Similarly I think I'm undateable because of myself. I'm very particular about who I want to be with and who I allow into my mind.

It also takes a certain type of person to let my defenses down and inspire me enough to get past theirs. "

Neither of you are undatable - you just want something very special and particular, and why not!! I am totally datable, prime girlfriend material - I just very rarely find anyone I really want! Don't sell yourselves short guys xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do wish I could find real true love, the kind that you see in the movies, but as far as I can see it doesn't exist.

I'd kill for an all consuming feeling of devotion to someone, but, I fear its made up like cops who get nothing more than a flesh wound after a gunfight, and constant happy endings.

Love is more like game of thrones than love actually

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody is undateable. Of the people on here saying they're undateable I bet there are hundreds out there that would absolutely love to date you all. Whether you like THEM is a different matter..

If I had to date again I wouldn't know where to start, I'm so socially awkward. But I'm sure there would be SOMEONE out there that would tolerate me, and if so, NOBODY is undateable!

Keep with it - there's someone out there *perfect* for you. And you WILL find them! "

I totally agree with this... apart from the last paragraph (sorry Dan!).

There's someone out there for everyone, but the people that think they are undateable won't ever meet them. You won't let anyone in because you're convinced no-one wants you. Even if the perfect person comes along you're giving off 'stay away' signals. Subconsciously you have to prove your belief is right- that no-one wants you.

If you're open to meeting someone you give off more inviting signals. You're more likely to notice when people are interested because you believe it's possible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Nobody is undateable. Of the people on here saying they're undateable I bet there are hundreds out there that would absolutely love to date you all. Whether you like THEM is a different matter..

If I had to date again I wouldn't know where to start, I'm so socially awkward. But I'm sure there would be SOMEONE out there that would tolerate me, and if so, NOBODY is undateable!

Keep with it - there's someone out there *perfect* for you. And you WILL find them!

I totally agree with this... apart from the last paragraph (sorry Dan!).

If you're open to meeting someone you give off more inviting signals. You're more likely to notice when people are interested because you believe it's possible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never really dated before I met Marc. I asked him why he thought guys didn't ask me out and he said that I was really hard to approach. So I'm just really glad that I have Marc because I think I'd be undateable if I were single.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And half these people have posted in the dating thread so they must think they are datable"

Because I at least have to try, to be honest being alone scares me.

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By *ubbykittenWoman over a year ago

Kent

I never found it that difficult to date. It was just a case of finding the right person. But once I hit my 40s, my love life took a sharp decline! And it has been going down steadily more and more since! Nowadays I rarely go on a date and it has been over 10 years since a man told me he loved me. Even then he turned out to be a cheat so it doesn't count. Boo hoo! I feel sorry for me! Lol!!!!! Oh fuck it. Let's all eat chocolate and have another drink!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I never really dated before I met Marc. I asked him why he thought guys didn't ask me out and he said that I was really hard to approach. So I'm just really glad that I have Marc because I think I'd be undateable if I were single.

In my opinion you have a very friendly/approachable face

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm terminally single too - I've had a few relationships but I have spent most of my life single.

I'm 41 now I've been single for 6 years!

I've given up!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to say though, I would far rather be single and undateable than stuck (for whatever reason)

in a relationship that just wasn't working, as a lot of people are.

I think the idea of a relationship is more appealing than the reality a lot of the time. For me anyway.

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Im so UnDatable that I've never had a date in my life. At lest most on this tether has had 1.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm terminally single too - I've had a few relationships but I have spent most of my life single.

I'm 41 now I've been single for 6 years!

I've given up!

https://youtu.be/dQw4w9WgXcQ

Have a listen

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I am, for all of the reasons already listed along with the work roles I have held, being 51 and ornery.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm terminally single too - I've had a few relationships but I have spent most of my life single.

I'm 41 now I've been single for 6 years!

I've given up!

https://youtu.be/dQw4w9WgXcQ

Have a listen

I don't understand ......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm undateable. So much so, I'm now too terrified to go on a date. I'm not okay with it, but I don't really know how to let down my defences.

You, and many others in this thread, could try to dedramatize all the hype and expectations about having a date... It's no more than having a drink or meal with someone you fancy.

Hope this helps you all

Thank you, that's very kind. I'll take this on board.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have to say though, I would far rather be single and undateable than stuck (for whatever reason)

in a relationship that just wasn't working, as a lot of people are.

I think the idea of a relationship is more appealing than the reality a lot of the time. For me anyway."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm terminally single too - I've had a few relationships but I have spent most of my life single.

I'm 41 now I've been single for 6 years!

I've given up!

https://youtu.be/dQw4w9WgXcQ

Have a listen

I don't understand ......

There's probably someone out there singing this, thinking of you

What I'm basically trying to say, if you give up there is no opportunity to succeed, that's why I still keep trying on the dating sites, despite of constant rejections

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm terminally single too - I've had a few relationships but I have spent most of my life single.

I'm 41 now I've been single for 6 years!

I've given up!

https://youtu.be/dQw4w9WgXcQ

Have a listen

I don't understand ......

There's probably someone out there singing this, thinking of you

What I'm basically trying to say, if you give up there is no opportunity to succeed, that's why I still keep trying on the dating sites, despite of constant rejections

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having met both of you, I can say you are both two of the friendliest, loveliest people I've met

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By *yldstyleWoman over a year ago

A world of my own

I've resigned myself to the fact I probably wont ever find my happy ever after. (Despite being hopelessly in love with someone who says he loves me) its just too complicated. It hurts.

If I ever give up on him or if he decides to give up on me then I'd be pretty lost.

I've spent so long being the other woman that traditional dating would terrify me. I don't know the rules.

I also don't really fit the girlfriend material box. Divorced, single mum of 3 with no time and far too many hang ups.

I saw a quote the other day that summed things up for me quite well.

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i am dateable, just not vanilla-able..

you want me, you get a road to the wild side..and not many want that, on a full time basis..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell.""

This quote! Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm unwilling to dateable.

I have no inclination or need for a boyfriend.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes. "

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think if I were ever single again, I'd stay single and take advantage of all the advantages that status has. I'd be no good at dating anyone. I can't get past the mind set of 'lets have a drink and go and have sex with some more people".

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"I think if I were ever single again, I'd stay single and take advantage of all the advantages that status has. I'd be no good at dating anyone. I can't get past the mind set of 'lets have a drink and go and have sex with some more people". "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having met both of you, I can say you are both two of the friendliest, loveliest people I've met "

Thank you for that. You know the feeling is mutual.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

No one is undateable in my humble opinion

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I keep getting not my type even been told to get a mask as your hideous told her to go fuck herself which she promptly did

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm an old fashioned romantic my parents installed that in me and like someone said it's hard in a hook up world we live in now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Asshole here Hello.but am a loveable one lol.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple over a year ago

near cardiff

I've only been on one date in my life, and it wasn't with my husband, so the moral of my story is you don't need dates to find your dream partner, just randomly fuck your boyfriend's brother and hey presto, happilyeverafter

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think there should be a fab dating show on TV where u can only judge a potential date on what they're profile says bit like blind date without the silly questions without cilla or holly willerbooby

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I happen to find Laurel and Hardy films very funny, thank you very much

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By *issLissCouple over a year ago

south east

I'm just dating myself... I'm happier on my own then when I'm with someone so I'm very undateable lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's the first date that's the problem, I'm not Brad Pitt but I do seem to make women laugh a lot.

I'd love to meet someone I fancy the hell out of and who I just click with, it's just getting that chance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always say I'm Brad's little brother Arm as an opening line/ice breaker

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being part of a couple is surely a bit of give and take. I have to switch my emotions off at work because some of the things I see would end up breaking you so I can come across as a heartless bastard at times its my way of dealing with my day to day worklife.

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By *piritsonfabCouple over a year ago

Nottingham

Age isn't a barrier.

At 47 I found my soul mate, after 20 years of a boring unsatisfying marriage.

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Cant say for sure as people and situations change. I was once on a dating site and only met a couple of men i liked, i was comparing some of them to my husband, which is what some men do, they think they cant meet anyone they liked as much as their ex. I think it would be best to meet someone for companionship first then see how it goes. I think its harder as you get older, have health problems and stuff.

I didnt meet that many men though, how many men would you have to meet before you decided you were undatable though, an awful lot i think.

Idealy i would only want to date men who didnt have any kids, there arent as many of them around when they get to a certain age.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Short arsed smoker with a bit of a belly, slightly fugly and not suited to monogamy! Yet I try my best!

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By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

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By *yldstyleWoman over a year ago

A world of my own

I blame Disney for giving me false hopes about life, hair and woodland creatures to do the housework

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Should it really be called undatable ? I think it makes a person sound like they have nothing to offer ?

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I blame Disney for giving me false hopes about life, hair and woodland creatures to do the housework"

I think a lot of the stories, books and films we grew up with gave us skewed ideas about what to expect for love and relationships.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles"

Let's have a drink, a cuddle and commiserate soon?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles"

I really need to get a cat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not all stories just the soppy girl ones lol

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat"

The next best thing to a dog.

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat"

I saw a huge giraffe stuffed toy in TK Maxx yesterday. Get that instead.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat

I saw a huge giraffe stuffed toy in TK Maxx yesterday. Get that instead.

"
i want a sully teddy from mosters inc..ive seen one but dont justify myself buying it..my kinda monster

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat

I saw a huge giraffe stuffed toy in TK Maxx yesterday. Get that instead.

i want a sully teddy from mosters inc..ive seen one but dont justify myself buying it..my kinda monster

I have one going spare.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat

I saw a huge giraffe stuffed toy in TK Maxx yesterday. Get that instead.

It would require less care.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not the tele show but folk who are unlucky in love despite their best efforts and endless dating threads. I'll start.

I'm a female drag queen & dominatrix, outspoken, no tolerance for bullshit and a big woman. I don't fit the conventional 'partner' brief, therefore, undatable "

So what's the next step?

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat

I saw a huge giraffe stuffed toy in TK Maxx yesterday. Get that instead.

i want a sully teddy from mosters inc..ive seen one but dont justify myself buying it..my kinda monster

I have one going spare.

Give it to Hatter. He needs something to stroke.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat

I saw a huge giraffe stuffed toy in TK Maxx yesterday. Get that instead.

i want a sully teddy from mosters inc..ive seen one but dont justify myself buying it..my kinda monster

I have one going spare.

Give it to Hatter. He needs something to stroke.

True story

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat

I saw a huge giraffe stuffed toy in TK Maxx yesterday. Get that instead.

i want a sully teddy from mosters inc..ive seen one but dont justify myself buying it..my kinda monster

I have one going spare.

"
really?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat

I saw a huge giraffe stuffed toy in TK Maxx yesterday. Get that instead.

i want a sully teddy from mosters inc..ive seen one but dont justify myself buying it..my kinda monster

I have one going spare.

Give it to Hatter. He needs something to stroke.

Hahahaha. That made me guffaw.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hatter needs a rabbit or an alice to stroke lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat

I saw a huge giraffe stuffed toy in TK Maxx yesterday. Get that instead.

i want a sully teddy from mosters inc..ive seen one but dont justify myself buying it..my kinda monster

I have one going spare.

really?

Yeah!

My child doesn't want his anymore.

It has been loved and cherished but now cast aside.

I'm upset for poor Sully.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hatter needs a rabbit or an alice to stroke lol"

I have a rabbit too.

Fnarr, smirk.

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat

I saw a huge giraffe stuffed toy in TK Maxx yesterday. Get that instead.

i want a sully teddy from mosters inc..ive seen one but dont justify myself buying it..my kinda monster

I have one going spare.

really?

Yeah!

My child doesn't want his anymore.

It has been loved and cherished but now cast aside.

I'm upset for poor Sully.

"
id give him a loving home..can you make the 18th nov Harlot? x

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By *ohnaronMan over a year ago

london

"I have been told mine is that I do not show emotion.

Apparently that is a big thing in a relationship hey ho that why I'm single again lol."

In my case it's a lack of emulsion. After 5 minutes staring at my bedroom ceiling they want to leave.

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman over a year ago

Bedfordshire

I'm an emotional retard...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being an old school romantic in a hook up culture is a special type of hell."

This quote! Yes.

Yup. Probably should give up. At least I've a dog for cuddles

I really need to get a cat

I saw a huge giraffe stuffed toy in TK Maxx yesterday. Get that instead.

i want a sully teddy from mosters inc..ive seen one but dont justify myself buying it..my kinda monster

I have one going spare.

really?

Yeah!

My child doesn't want his anymore.

It has been loved and cherished but now cast aside.

I'm upset for poor Sully.

id give him a loving home..can you make the 18th nov Harlot? x"

Oh erm, racking my poor memory.

If it's near me then yeah!

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By *ohnaronMan over a year ago

london

"I'm undateable too. "

They used Carbon 14 on me!

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By *acLe0dMan over a year ago

Preston

"I'm an old fashioned romantic my parents installed that in me and like someone said it's hard in a hook up world we live in now "

Nah you just have to find an old fashioned romantic guy.

But back to the point, no one is undatebale it's just finding the right person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been told I have a resting bitch face so no one approaches me and I'm too awkward to start conversations too. So I'm just fucked

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Undateable due to my circumstances and issues.

Plus im an ugly one

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Undateable due to my circumstances and issues.

Plus im an ugly one"
didnt you start a thread a couple of weeks ago about having a new partner

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By *km45Man over a year ago

UTTOXETER

I've had two dates in the vanilla world in the last two years. Happy to be single and have female friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Undateable due to my circumstances and issues.

Plus im an ugly onedidnt you start a thread a couple of weeks ago about having a new partner "

Wasnt me ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Undateable due to my circumstances and issues.

Plus im an ugly onedidnt you start a thread a couple of weeks ago about having a new partner

Wasnt me ?"
oh ok

I cant keep up i thought it was you that said you now swung as a couple

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

I'm undateable as I don't give off the right dating vibe, I give off the "let's have some fun" vibe so that's all anyone ever sees

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think the neon 'damaged' sign dangling over my head is probably putting people off..... or maybe it's the dog..... he's very barky towards other people....

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

"I'm so unlucky in love I'm an asshole magnet lol

However I do believe at some stage it will be my turn when I least expect it

I had this belief but as I can't even get a guy as a fwb the chances of a boyf is way out of my league

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

You get sick and tired of people just wanting one thing from you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You get sick and tired of people just wanting one thing from you"

Curse your divine skill in Jenga.

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By *oxic1998Woman over a year ago

Belfast

Was once told I'm not girlfriend material......does that make me undatable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never dated and now I'm married. I guess that makes me undateable.

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

"You get sick and tired of people just wanting one thing from you

Curse your divine skill in Jenga.

This is not the time for joke's,I'm having a moment here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

after being fucked around/use to wear my heart on my sleeve, I now never let anyone in or get close, people are pretty much disposable to me now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thought I was.......then BOOM!!! Never say never guys...

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

I'm sorry op but I have to agree with this statement .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Was once told I'm not girlfriend material......does that make me undatable

Me too...

I'd like to know what does make girlfriend material

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest though... I quite like being undateable a) it confuses people and b) I have a niche I can't scratch

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"You get sick and tired of people just wanting one thing from you"

I fully understand that being super rich and all

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Apparently those of us who are undateable may consciously or sub consciously be afraid of true intimacy

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Apparently those of us who are undateable may consciously or sub consciously be afraid of true intimacy

"
you have to open yourself to positive energy or else how else you going to receive it, it wont go through a brick wall

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By *acLe0dMan over a year ago

Preston

"Apparently those of us who are undateable may consciously or sub consciously be afraid of true intimacy

you have to open yourself to positive energy or else how else you going to receive it, it wont go through a brick wall"

Well I'm less datebale because I'm not that good looking, I'm short (for a bloke) etc.. but that doesn't mean I don't try to varying degrees for time to time.

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Apparently those of us who are undateable may consciously or sub consciously be afraid of true intimacy

Everyone is afraid of true intimacy because it opens us up to being hurt .

The trick is to except that fact find joy in the fact you care enough to be hurt then enjoy the bitter sweet moment you share safe in the knowledge that you have found someone worth being hurt by .

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By *uzy444Woman over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"Apparently those of us who are undateable may consciously or sub consciously be afraid of true intimacy

Everyone is afraid of true intimacy because it opens us up to being hurt .

The trick is to except that fact find joy in the fact you care enough to be hurt then enjoy the bitter sweet moment you share safe in the knowledge that you have found someone worth being hurt by ."
this...

which is why im poly..i could get hurt by lots of people, but i still love them anyway..its not my business whether they love me back, in some specific way..they care, i care, simples

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't want to date someone who thinks its OK to fuck other people.

Its no different to them cheating on me.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Apparently those of us who are undateable may consciously or sub consciously be afraid of true intimacy

you have to open yourself to positive energy or else how else you going to receive it, it wont go through a brick wall

Well I'm less datebale because I'm not that good looking, I'm short (for a bloke) etc.. but that doesn't mean I don't try to varying degrees for time to time. "
your 5ft 6 ive tended to attract taller guys but my ex husband was 5ft 6 my partner has shrunk to about 5ft 4 my son is 5ft 5and1/2" ( we measured him) and hes never been short of a girlfriend

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Apparently those of us who are undateable may consciously or sub consciously be afraid of true intimacy

you have to open yourself to positive energy or else how else you going to receive it, it wont go through a brick wall"

Exactly, though getting over the fear of doing that is a challenge in itself.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"The trick is to except that fact find joy in the fact you care enough to be hurt then enjoy the bitter sweet moment you share safe in the knowledge that you have found someone worth being hurt by ."

That sounds lovely, and I am starting to feel that way

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"this...

which is why im poly..i could get hurt by lots of people, but i still love them anyway..its not my business whether they love me back, in some specific way..they care, i care, simples"

Perhaps this is why I favour the Poly lifestyle.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Apparently those of us who are undateable may consciously or sub consciously be afraid of true intimacy

you have to open yourself to positive energy or else how else you going to receive it, it wont go through a brick wall

Exactly, though getting over the fear of doing that is a challenge in itself."
you have to work at it, its not easy but it starts with being truelly content with yourself, it shines through

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By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

"Not the tele show but folk who are unlucky in love despite their best efforts and endless dating threads. I'll start.

I'm a female drag queen & dominatrix, outspoken, no tolerance for bullshit and a big woman. I don't fit the conventional 'partner' brief, therefore, undatable

So what's the next step?

Will have to settle for brief moments of intimacy via swinging

I've been advised to tone it down but fuck no. If they don't like me as I am, I'd rather be single

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By *acLe0dMan over a year ago

Preston

"Apparently those of us who are undateable may consciously or sub consciously be afraid of true intimacy

you have to open yourself to positive energy or else how else you going to receive it, it wont go through a brick wall

Well I'm less datebale because I'm not that good looking, I'm short (for a bloke) etc.. but that doesn't mean I don't try to varying degrees for time to time. your 5ft 6 ive tended to attract taller guys but my ex husband was 5ft 6 my partner has shrunk to about 5ft 4 my son is 5ft 5and1/2" ( we measured him) and hes never been short of a girlfriend"

But as I said I don't let my physical attributes stop me from trying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find to be really intimate with someone I love I feel simultaneously the most exposed and vulnerable while being affirmed and cherished at the same time. There was a time I thought I might not experience it again. However, with fortune I didn't deserve I have.

Feeling undateable is a state of mind - change your mind and you'll change your feelings. If you think differently you'll act differently and like a magnet you'll attract what you most desire

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By *iSTARess OP Woman over a year ago

London

"Apparently those of us who are undateable may consciously or sub consciously be afraid of true intimacy

Everyone is afraid of true intimacy because it opens us up to being hurt .

The trick is to except that fact find joy in the fact you care enough to be hurt then enjoy the bitter sweet moment you share safe in the knowledge that you have found someone worth being hurt by ."

Sorry but this is nonsense. I'm very much open to intimacy. Getting hurt is part and parcel of dating, it happens, so what.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"you have to work at it, its not easy but it starts with being truelly content with yourself, it shines through"

This is so true and I have done a lot of work on it. I am actually at the stage where I think I could date.

Because if it went pear shaped I'd still be good.

Fab helps too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Personally, I don't think anyone is undateable. Even the most complex of us will have a quality that another person wants to explore in depth.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

"you have to work at it, its not easy but it starts with being truelly content with yourself, it shines through

This is so true and I have done a lot of work on it. I am actually at the stage where I think I could date.

Because if it went pear shaped I'd still be good.

Fab helps too

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there you are, i have some firm beliefs which i wont bore you with but it comes from inside yourself. Pisitivity attracts positivity

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I'm a loser who has no luck inthe vanilla work despite trying.ove to meeta great girl but no one is interested

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mid 40s with a young son, most of the women my age have had their kids, and tghey are not so dependent on them now.

I like bad girls, but with that comes the bad girl attitude, and behavior.

Because I don't have ther jealous gene, I trust way to much.

I won't compromise who I am, I spent years doing that, and I couldn't go back now"

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By *asokittyWoman over a year ago

Nr Worksop

Im fat therefore undatable apparently.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not the tele show but folk who are unlucky in love despite their best efforts and endless dating threads. I'll start.

I'm a female drag queen & dominatrix, outspoken, no tolerance for bullshit and a big woman. I don't fit the conventional 'partner' brief, therefore, undatable

So what's the next step?

Will have to settle for brief moments of intimacy via swinging

I've been advised to tone it down but fuck no. If they don't like me as I am, I'd rather be single "

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Apparently those of us who are undateable may consciously or sub consciously be afraid of true intimacy

Everyone is afraid of true intimacy because it opens us up to being hurt .

The trick is to except that fact find joy in the fact you care enough to be hurt then enjoy the bitter sweet moment you share safe in the knowledge that you have found someone worth being hurt by .

Sorry but this is nonsense. I'm very much open to intimacy. Getting hurt is part and parcel of dating, it happens, so what.

to you getting hurt maybe a so what moment but to others it is not just a so what moment .

for my part I enjoy the fact I can be hurt and mostly likely will be hurt by by those I truly let behind my walls because that pain when it comes proves to me what I shared with them was real to me and there fore had real meaning to me .

by that fact alone I know I had something real not fake something with true meaning and true worth to me .such friendship enrich me as a human being more than they harm me when they end in my opinion, so I actively search for true intimacy with those who can breach my walls for the simple reason .I want something that has true meaning to me and is there fore real not fake to me .

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Im fat therefore undatable apparently. "

bollocks your not undatable even a cheeky brat like you can have her walls ripped down and have her inner brat tamed by the right kind of guy .

I don't care who said that to you tell em to piss off as there totally wrong and complete fuck wits to boot to in my opinion xx

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Not the tele show but folk who are unlucky in love despite their best efforts and endless dating threads. I'll start.

I'm a female drag queen & dominatrix, outspoken, no tolerance for bullshit and a big woman. I don't fit the conventional 'partner' brief, therefore, undatable "

Apart from drag queen everything else you've written applies to me. Yet I met my other half on here. He's a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis.

No one is undateable, anyone can come up with excuses though.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Nobody is undatable, but we could all make excuses if we wanted.

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