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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Okie dokie here goes ...when you get messages from people and they describe themselves as good looking do you inwardly think, hmm I'll decide on that one! Or do you think , wow they've got some confidence! ..does it put you off them or do you get a bit defensive and want to prove them wrong lol...how do you react  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I suppose we all have our preference , but if someone feels the need to introduce themselves as being "Good looking" I'm just gonna leave them too it....
I mean c'mon ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's a similar thread in the Swingers Chat section - attractiveness is very subjective, I see a number of people who describe themselves as attractive and think 'not my type at all' so it's kind of a pointless thing to say really.
One man's (or woman's) beautiful will be another's ugly, and vice versa.
But hey, if you don't love your yourself I guess you can't expect others too either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess this question is aimed at ladies?
For me I never describe myself as good looking but if I read somewhere that they said theyre good looking I'd be like" oh yeh"? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Incidentally just for the record, I feel obligated to say that being this really-really-really good looking can be such a burden...
I mean you wouldn't believe some of the bitchy names people call me....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the context / intent.
Message me that & expect me to be in awe - off putting.
Message me that as a general description of yourself - perfectly acceptable. |
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"Okie dokie here goes ...when you get messages from people and they describe themselves as good looking do you inwardly think, hmm I'll decide on that one! Or do you think , wow they've got some confidence! ..does it put you off them or do you get a bit defensive and want to prove them wrong lol...how do you react "
I would never, ever, ever describe myself as good looking in a message or on my own profile as I think it sounds conceited
Although I think I'm ok and only hit half of the ugly tree branches when I fell out of it that's for the person I message to decide when I say hi.
I normally get "you're not my type" replies rather than you're not good looking which I guess is a polite way of saying it lol |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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If I wasn't me I would be my own type. So from that point of _iew I do consider myself good-looking/attractive. However, that is a totally subjective point of _iew so I wouldn't describe myself as such to other people since I am well aware that their opinions may differ. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm, I'm smart, funny, down to earth, humble and down right bloody handsome. Now, I don't put that in my profile because it would be like stating the obvious  . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hmmm, I'm smart, funny, down to earth, humble and down right bloody handsome. Now, I don't put that in my profile because it would be like stating the obvious ."
If you think all those things it's great and you're obviously a confident person which in itself can be attractive. .so long as it's not over confidence because then it's a different matter xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The thing is good looking is subjective isn't it ...you're good looking if the majority of people "deem " you to be "
There are also those that are what I would call 'classically' good looking but they're not my type.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmm, I'm smart, funny, down to earth, humble and down right bloody handsome. Now, I don't put that in my profile because it would be like stating the obvious .
If you think all those things it's great and you're obviously a confident person which in itself can be attractive. .so long as it's not over confidence because then it's a different matter xx "
Oh, never. I'm a gentleman, I only beckon ladies over when I'm interested in them rather than to just use them for my entertainment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is a fine line between confidence n cockiness.
Because "nobody likes a big head" it seems to be much more socially acceptable to belittle yourself n your abilities...(oh I'm rubbish at this n that/make shrek look like Brad Pitt!)...rather than talking about your good points n what you may be great at for fear of being thought of as blowing your own trumpet!
Anyway I'll stop rambling...nothing wrong with being confident if you can do so without coming across as narcissistic |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is a fine line between confidence n cockiness.
Because "nobody likes a big head" it seems to be much more socially acceptable to belittle yourself n your abilities...(oh I'm rubbish at this n that/make shrek look like Brad Pitt!)...rather than talking about your good points n what you may be great at for fear of being thought of as blowing your own trumpet!
Anyway I'll stop rambling...nothing wrong with being confident if you can do so without coming across as narcissistic "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If people felt more confident, an increased level of self worth, these forums would be reduced of the volumes of needy validation threads...."
Then what would I amuse myself with?. ...but I totally agree.
For what it's worth I like people who are confident with their looks. ...much more attractive than those who constantly put themselves down....The devil in me just wants to agree with them
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"The thing is good looking is subjective isn't it ...you're good looking if the majority of people "deem " you to be
There are also those that are what I would call 'classically' good looking but they're not my type.
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Yes I find that sometimes - handsome, but not attractive to me, and the reverse - not classically handsome but fills me with lust lol! Strange thing that brain chemistry! |
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