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By *issLiss OP Couple
over a year ago
south east |
Here's a thought....
Every girl claims to give the best blow jobs, every guy can make a woman orgasm like no one before. So does anyone lie to make the person feel better??
I personally probably do stroke the ego for the guys a bit... but never lie. I never say that's the best etc unless it actually was. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never said I give the best bj. I've been told a number of times that it's the best they've had but I always take that with a pinch of salt (pardon the pun!) especially if their cock is still twitching.
I wouldn't outright lie either OP, a bit like you I maybe stroke the ego a little bit here and there, but if someone has really blown my socks off they'd know anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I told one fwb she gave the best blowjob. Still occasionally see her and we have chatted about it and I've told her no one since has got close.
On the flip side I've never told anyone since her that they've given the best one but naturally would love to be proved wrong one day
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I've had some men who are a little needy in the feedback department as well as wanting to get their egos pumped.
I'll give feedback and usually in the form of direction or positive encouragement when they do things well.
Most drivers think they're above average drivers and I think the same distorted perceptions relate to lovers. I'd not shatter someone's confidence as I feel partners trust in us with their intimacy and it would betray that trust.
But definitely up for really being expressive and vocal when I'm ecstatic - you'll surely know that what you're doing is bang on target.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here's a thought....
Every girl claims to give the best blow jobs, every guy can make a woman orgasm like no one before. So does anyone lie to make the person feel better??
I personally probably do stroke the ego for the guys a bit... but never lie. I never say that's the best etc unless it actually was."
I only dance well with a willing interested partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like people to be honest with me, i will have an idea of what I've been like and I'm always looking to get better at it so any constructive feedback is appreciated
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all think we are good at this the I've never had any complaints bit makes you go 
But as brits we are polite the I would meet them again verification's say it all or maybe not if some of us were totally honest we would probably write was OK but had better  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've provided a few lasses with the best sex they've ever had and I'm so talented most women would gladly pay for my services.....obviously she would never lie or massage my ego.
Just as us guys would never tell a lie about your blow job skills!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here's a thought....
Every girl claims to give the best blow jobs, every guy can make a woman orgasm like no one before. So does anyone lie to make the person feel better??
I personally probably do stroke the ego for the guys a bit... but never lie. I never say that's the best etc unless it actually was."
Stroking egos is nice. . I'd never bug them up though. Why would they want you to? |
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I never lie, and I am quite understated normally, I hate those gushing veris that look like they are just begging for the same in return. I try to be flattering and kind, but honest, and I'm more likely to go for a humorous approach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Feedback?
Lol. I just give them a tissue and tell them to wipe their eyes. Counselling and a cup of tea to wind up a special evening
I am kidding of course.
I dont treat guys like performing seals. Encounters are about making contact with another human being and appreciated for their own worth. Some are more exciting than others but nonetheless valued. |
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Oh fuck no I don't say I'm the best at anything. I'm definitely not. I get nervous I won't be that good!
I don't tend to lie to a guy either. To be honest - good or bad I don't tend to comment either way? It just doesn't occur to me to.
My very first fuck on Fab asked me to give him marks out of ten which I thought was a bit  and I didn't know what to say for a minute.
I may have bumped his score. But really, how do you compare people? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never lie, and I am quite understated normally, I hate those gushing veris that look like they are just begging for the same in return. I try to be flattering and kind, but honest, and I'm more likely to go for a humorous approach. "
Your just a very nice person  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here's a thought....
Every girl claims to give the best blow jobs, every guy can make a woman orgasm like no one before. So does anyone lie to make the person feel better??
I personally probably do stroke the ego for the guys a bit... but never lie. I never say that's the best etc unless it actually was."
We never believe the sexual claims of prowess of anybody on here as they all claim to be amazing!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Her body should tell you all you need to know during, if you're listening to and reacting to her body then you won't have to rely on her words afterwards. |
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By *eo67Man
over a year ago
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"Here's a thought....
Every girl claims to give the best blow jobs, every guy can make a woman orgasm like no one before. So does anyone lie to make the person feel better??
I personally probably do stroke the ego for the guys a bit... but never lie. I never say that's the best etc unless it actually was."
Had one who said I made her cum 5 times. Felt proud that night as she said no one had made her cum more than 2 times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Her body should tell you all you need to know during, if you're listening to and reacting to her body then you won't have to rely on her words afterwards."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you listen to her, and read her body, you know if its good.
I've been told I'm the biggest, best, sexiest, loads of times. I never take it seriously. I assume it's one of the things people say whilst they are having sex.
And, glad that do. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
I've never claimed to be great at anything sexually. Because I am well aware that one person's great is someone else's meh so it's all about you and the person you're with at the time rather than prior experiences. I have a regular squeeze who likes my top 3 highlights the day after via text. That's actually good fun and hindsight has led to some future interesting shenanigans as a result. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never be completely honest if a man wasn't that great. Why hurt someone's feelings unnecessarily? It's a kind lie. I wouldn't go as far as to say they were the best though. I've only told one that.... And he's still the best . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always assume any positive feedback is exaggerated.
It's just the nature of language; we say it was amazing when we really mean it scratched an itch.
But a woman once told me I was the second best she'd ever had.
This woman had had a LOT of lovers in the past so I was well chuffed with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would never be completely honest if a man wasn't that great. Why hurt someone's feelings unnecessarily? It's a kind lie. I wouldn't go as far as to say they were the best though. I've only told one that.... And he's still the best . "
must be love, love, love, |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
I claim to be a multi orgasm giver, double figures are easy.
But only with H, been together 14yrs & I know every mm & every button. We would not expect either me to be able to do it with others nor others to be able to do it with H..Be nice of it happened for all parties but wouldn't upset us too much if it didn't..at least for the first couple of meets..
We are all different & we all have slightly different buttons. One of the reasons we'd really like regular fwbs.
But on the subject if we were below par we'd want to know.
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By *issLiss OP Couple
over a year ago
south east |
Well to me "best sex" takes two people together and it has multiple factors. I have a best lover, who at times could make me cum over 100 times a night (no exaggeration or lie either) but these required a multiple of factors beyond his control and the main one was that I was deeply in love with him and thought him to be my soulmate.
The only other time that has come close is bdsm - another ball game completely!!
But I just saw on a few profiles today women claiming "best head ever" and I admit I have had many men say the same thing which I know is in the moment and just got me thinking about the last guy I was seeing... I probably did stroke his ego a bit much as sex wise I would only cum like 5 times which by normal standard is very good but like I mentioned before that's slim pickings :p
Why do we do it?! And the veris on here are good but I'd love to see some actual completely honest ones put up hahah |
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I don't feel there's any great need to rate or slate anybody...sex as a competitive sport where you judge someone on their performance and prowess doesn't interest me. I'm not that kind of person. I'd be complimentary and I'd be kind but I'd never say someone was the best or the worst at anything.
I always think it takes two to tango. Who am I to pull someone up on their performance? Who told me I was so great? What one person classes as a great kiss or a great blowjob or a great shag could be absolute crap to the next person. Different strokes for different folks.
I think a lot of the time whether something works or not comes down to compatiabilty and chemistry and what's happening in the moment. Claiming to be the best at this or that or pulling someone down for their performance I would see as pretty immature behaviour. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never ask about my performance as i would hate to be dissaponted lmao.
I do ask if they enjoyed it though (usually after their 3rd screaming orgasm so i know for sure that i didn't misunderstand) as thats pretty much what matters.
Ive had some fantastic fucks. But its usually just that session being fantastic rather than the person. Mind, i have a few favourite women for different reasons. I just wish i was still in a sexual position with them not just friends.
Never lied and say it was great if it wasnt. Just usually say yeah good thanks.
I'm pretty sure women stroke my ego just to get me to meet them again regularly because they cant be bothered to find someone else or until they do find a permanent bf.
Unfortunately ive not had a single fb or fwb that doesnt try to turn it into a bf/gf situation. I can never work out if thats a compliment, or just womens nature horemones make them "fall in love" if they have a orgasm followed by a good spooning cuddle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Here's a thought....
Every girl claims to give the best blow jobs, every guy can make a woman orgasm like no one before. So does anyone lie to make the person feel better??
I personally probably do stroke the ego for the guys a bit... but never lie. I never say that's the best etc unless it actually was."
If a girl wants to say I did great then that's cool, but I'm happy enough with the responses I get during sex - facial expressions, moans, shaking, wetness, grabbing, screaming etc. I don't need a girl to actually tell me afterwards... And likewise I make sure my responses during sex let her know exactly what she's doing well |
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"I don't feel there's any great need to rate or slate anybody...sex as a competitive sport where you judge someone on their performance and prowess doesn't interest me. I'm not that kind of person. I'd be complimentary and I'd be kind but I'd never say someone was the best or the worst at anything.
I always think it takes two to tango. Who am I to pull someone up on their performance? Who told me I was so great? What one person classes as a great kiss or a great blowjob or a great shag could be absolute crap to the next person. Different strokes for different folks.
I think a lot of the time whether something works or not comes down to compatiabilty and chemistry and what's happening in the moment. Claiming to be the best at this or that or pulling someone down for their performance I would see as pretty immature behaviour."
Good post, whats good for one person isnt good for another. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't feel there's any great need to rate or slate anybody...sex as a competitive sport where you judge someone on their performance and prowess doesn't interest me. I'm not that kind of person. I'd be complimentary and I'd be kind but I'd never say someone was the best or the worst at anything.
I always think it takes two to tango. Who am I to pull someone up on their performance? Who told me I was so great? What one person classes as a great kiss or a great blowjob or a great shag could be absolute crap to the next person. Different strokes for different folks.
I think a lot of the time whether something works or not comes down to compatiabilty and chemistry and what's happening in the moment. Claiming to be the best at this or that or pulling someone down for their performance I would see as pretty immature behaviour."
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"I don't feel there's any great need to rate or slate anybody...sex as a competitive sport where you judge someone on their performance and prowess doesn't interest me. I'm not that kind of person. I'd be complimentary and I'd be kind but I'd never say someone was the best or the worst at anything.
I always think it takes two to tango. Who am I to pull someone up on their performance? Who told me I was so great? What one person classes as a great kiss or a great blowjob or a great shag could be absolute crap to the next person. Different strokes for different folks.
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Yes and I am very aware I am only as good as the chemistry on the night anyway - if someone isn't turning me on I won't be at my best and vice versa I am sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't feel there's any great need to rate or slate anybody...sex as a competitive sport where you judge someone on their performance and prowess doesn't interest me. I'm not that kind of person. I'd be complimentary and I'd be kind but I'd never say someone was the best or the worst at anything.
I always think it takes two to tango. Who am I to pull someone up on their performance? Who told me I was so great? What one person classes as a great kiss or a great blowjob or a great shag could be absolute crap to the next person. Different strokes for different folks.
Yes and I am very aware I am only as good as the chemistry on the night anyway - if someone isn't turning me on I won't be at my best and vice versa I am sure. "
It takes two to Tango! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't feel there's any great need to rate or slate anybody...sex as a competitive sport where you judge someone on their performance and prowess doesn't interest me. I'm not that kind of person. I'd be complimentary and I'd be kind but I'd never say someone was the best or the worst at anything.
I always think it takes two to tango. Who am I to pull someone up on their performance? Who told me I was so great? What one person classes as a great kiss or a great blowjob or a great shag could be absolute crap to the next person. Different strokes for different folks.
I think a lot of the time whether something works or not comes down to compatiabilty and chemistry and what's happening in the moment. Claiming to be the best at this or that or pulling someone down for their performance I would see as pretty immature behaviour."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would never claim to be the best at anything. There is always someone better at it than you.
Nope - you are always best at being you"
Being you yes, I would agree. Being good at a blow job/sex/kissing not always. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't feel the need to go telling anyone they were the best/worst/indifferent..just live in the moment..there are so many factors it would be impossible to pin down. A partner could give you the most mind blowing orgasm..but if you had started 5 mins earlier it could have just been ok...you could be receiving the blowjob of your life..but if you are busy trying to hold in a fart or worried about work..again it could just be OK.
And just to point out, it takes 2 to tango..so if he or she seemed lacklustre, was it you not hitting the right buttons? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always write the truth in a verification and put a lot of thought into them. I wouldn't want the next person to have a bad experience by lying if they weren't so good.
However, I would never slate a guy after a meet. If he wasn't so good then I normally just say that I wouldn't be looking to meet again. Everybody has feelings and I consider myself to be warmhearted and polite in these matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also if your confident you know your not going to be every ones best and sometimes your not with the right person. I tend to go for quietly confident men who dont need to be told"
Exactly this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never claimed to be the best at any sexual act nor have I met men that claim to be amazing either.
Overall I'm a pretty confident person but I do doubt my sexual prowess on numerous occasions. So whilst I wouldn't want anyone to lie I certainly wouldn't want to be rated either. |
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"I always write the truth in a verification and put a lot of thought into them. I wouldn't want the next person to have a bad experience by lying if they weren't so good.
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After meeting a very handsome young Spaniard I once felt compelled to use the word 'jackhammer' in a veri to warn the ladies of fab........he thanked me profusely and soon had a queue going round the block!! |
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