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Speak your mind or avoid confrontation?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll say what I feel but certainly wouldn't go out of my way to belittle or abuse someone.
As my mother told me 'if have nothing nice to say , say nothing at all'  |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
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I will most definitely speak my mind, if it is something which strongly concerns me or the safety of others. Wether my _iewpoint is listened to, is another matter.
If something doesn't concern me, or its a case of banging my head against a brick wall, then in those circumstances, I don't say anything.
Sometimes silence can be a stronger message than words themselves xxxxx Suzi  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on who it is, I'm not going to speak my mind on hearing some random express their _iews, when they weren't towards me. But if I disagree with what someone has said and I know them then yes I will speak my mind. Life isn't all roses and buttercups and I'm not going to agree with someone because they think they're right and I certainly wouldn't expect people to agree with me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It really depends on the situation. Sometimes it's best to confront something before it's too late. But I'm not one to constantly impose my will or opinion on others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you a speak your mind person, or do you do anything to avoid confrontation and agree with everything regardless?
Or are you somewhere in the middle?"
Speak my mind defo, why waste your time  |
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on the forums i speak my mind, if im at work i dont because i have to see people everyday and get on with them. Most of the time i dont say anything but i dont lie and people probably know how i feel about some things just by the way i act or by the odd comments or remarks i make. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I will say what I think as I see no point otherwise. I try to limit my posts to 3 on a thread as I won't get involved in tit for tat and I ignore anyone goading me.
It saddens me that so many lose their voice and it sways the dynamic in favour of females. Equality means all are treated the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will say what I think as I see no point otherwise. I try to limit my posts to 3 on a thread as I won't get involved in tit for tat and I ignore anyone goading me.
It saddens me that so many lose their voice and it sways the dynamic in favour of females. Equality means all are treated the same."
i like what you say most of the time - words of wisdom - choosing your words wisely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not so much that I avoid confrontation, I just don't really care.
I prefer a peaceful life, and I don't have the time and effort to get into arguments that I don't care about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I will say what I think as I see no point otherwise. I try to limit my posts to 3 on a thread as I won't get involved in tit for tat and I ignore anyone goading me.
It saddens me that so many lose their voice and it sways the dynamic in favour of females. Equality means all are treated the same."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you a speak your mind person, or do you do anything to avoid confrontation and agree with everything regardless?
Or are you somewhere in the middle?"
Neither, I prefer to discuss the situation in an adult and intelligent way.
If the person or the situation is not open to an intelligent discussion then I will leave it be.
Let's face it life is too short and if you spoke your mind to every idiot you met or argue at every opportunity just because things don't go your way.
Your going to end up going thru life angry, bitter and pissing everyone off.
There is nothing wrong with being reasonable.
Can't stand confrontational people who argue just because they always think they are right regardless of others feelings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i Don't seek out confrontation and I will try to avoid it. ...Unless i feel it necessary or I'm feeling devilish. But i always say what i think. I'm not one for saying what i think others want to hear. People think I'm unlikeable because of that but i don't see the point in falsity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In real life, I believe in picking my battles, most of the shit people get uptight over is utterly nonsensical.
On the internet, it's fun to poke sticks through cages
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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I'm naturally opinionated .
I have a opinion on everything just like everyone else does and I voice that opinion when ever the mood takes me .
Now sometimes what I say will upset others if it hits a nerve because I'm naturally a tease to sometimes I know what I'm about to say will put cat amongst the pigeons which can be fun .
But here's the thing I'm like that in real life as well as on line but in both one thing is true if someone is preaching hate as there opinion I will tell them exactly my thoughts on there opinion and them as a human being
giving my honest opinion does not mean I think I'm right in what I'm saying sometimes I think others _iew you as not liking them when you give a opinion that doesn't agree with there own .
But in my eyes not all my friends agree with everything I say sometimes they will tell me off for something I don't _iew them any differently when they do this because ultimately they are my friend and me there's .
My best friends are those who give me there honest opinion even when they know it goes against my own .
On sites like fab I'm just calling it as I see it 90 percent of the time not trying to offend just being true to who I am as a human being the other 10 percent I'm teasing playing devils advocate for the shear fun of it .
Yes I'm a sod a opinionated sod who sometimes like to play devils advocate for the fun of it especially online |
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I am famed for my bluntness, it saves time to say what you mean. I'm also very happy to speak truth unto power.
However:
There's more than one way to skin a cat and tact and diplomacy have their place too.
Depends on the arsehole.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you a speak your mind person, or do you do anything to avoid confrontation and agree with everything regardless?
Or are you somewhere in the middle?"
Why would anyone want to agree with things they don't agree with regardless?
I don't sugarcoat I say things how they are. |
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"I am famed for my bluntness, it saves time to say what you mean. I'm also very happy to speak truth unto power.
However:
There's more than one way to skin a cat and tact and diplomacy have their place too.
Depends on the arsehole.
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I agree with the tact and diplomacy but some people (not saying on here) lack that skill...the things that have been said to me recently I wouldn't even say to my worst enemy....im more fucked off that I wasn't given the opportunity to respond back... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a saint.
There you go again!
I'm always kind, gentle and understanding until you fuck with me.
So Saturday night was 'kind, gentle and understanding' was it? "
I thought so.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always speak your mind otherwise it will just eat away at you
I so agree with that....the things I want to say to someone at this present time but can't  "
What's the worst that can happen?? |
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"Always speak your mind otherwise it will just eat away at you
I so agree with that....the things I want to say to someone at this present time but can't
What's the worst that can happen??"
The cunt blocked me on every level so he could come out with shit but didn't want me to say anything in return (it's non fab related) |
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Speak my mind - but only if I can back it up with with facts and rational, not just because of an opinion I have, that may be something so far wrong, uneducated and only based on emotion or something someone else told me,
Nothing worse than a loud mouth who speaks their mind but has no substance behind what they say other than it's just what they think, and then try to inflict their opinion as a fact on others. |
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Have always spoken my mind, long before this media came along. Have learnt over the years (maybe) that a bit of tact etc will help with some things and there are some situations when you know saying what you think may not be the best idea..
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Speak my mind - but only if I can back it up with with facts and rational, not just because of an opinion I have, that may be something so far wrong, uneducated and only based on emotion or something someone else told me,
Nothing worse than a loud mouth who speaks their mind but has no substance behind what they say other than it's just what they think, and then try to inflict their opinion as a fact on others."
I slightly disagree with that sometime a passionate emotional opinion can change opinions better than facts ever can
Facts can be manipulated just like emotions can be manipulated to suit the ends of a intelligent person or group .
And as for a loud mouth voicing their opinion if they believes in that opinion it is a fact in their mind maybe not in the minds of those who hold a different opinion to them .
But in there mind their opinion is a fact because its how they feel .
I think the best thing anyone can do when dealing with opinion that goes against the own is to remember opinions are like arseholes we all have one and like a arsehole everyone's opinion can be _iewed as full of shit by just about everyone hearing it apart from the one voicing it .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm an American, and as such I speak my mind more than is generally acceptable in British society. "
I sympathise, as I lived abroad when younger in an ex pat community which was mainly American. So some of that has rubbed of on me.
I sometimes struggle with the passive-aggressive streak running through British society. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"I will say what I think as I see no point otherwise. I try to limit my posts to 3 on a thread as I won't get involved in tit for tat and I ignore anyone goading me.
It saddens me that so many lose their voice and it sways the dynamic in favour of females. Equality means all are treated the same.
i like what you say most of the time - words of wisdom - choosing your words wisely "
Thank you very much |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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I'm better at speaking my mind, but I'll never be a "natural" at it.
My default mode is to quietly harrumph and go off somewhere and be a bit grumpy and silent.
I've worked with plenty of the opposite types and I do have a sneaking regard for their approach |
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"Always speak your mind otherwise it will just eat away at you
I so agree with that....the things I want to say to someone at this present time but can't
What's the worst that can happen??
The cunt blocked me on every level so he could come out with shit but didn't want me to say anything in return (it's non fab related) "
Whats the point in saying anything though, i get annoyed with people and feel like saying things to them sometimes but what would it achieve.
They arent going to suddenly think oh i should change my behaviour and be nicer.
You say something to them and it may make them even nastier its best if you dont let them know they have upset you. |
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I used to know a woman, well... less a woman and more a force of nature... a mental health worker. The kind of woman who'd single-handedly storm a crack house. Impressive.
Occasionally in my life, in moments of sudden crisis or opportunity, I have thought, What would Renée do? and gone and stormed the battlements.
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Always speak your mind otherwise it will just eat away at you
I so agree with that....the things I want to say to someone at this present time but can't
What's the worst that can happen??
The cunt blocked me on every level so he could come out with shit but didn't want me to say anything in return (it's non fab related)
Whats the point in saying anything though, i get annoyed with people and feel like saying things to them sometimes but what would it achieve.
They arent going to suddenly think oh i should change my behaviour and be nicer.
You say something to them and it may make them even nastier its best if you dont let them know they have upset you."
We are on a site based around meeting people for like minded fun so in my opinion best to call it as you see it because by doing that you are being true to yourself and those you interact with .plus by doing so everyone who may have a interest in you can see exactly the type of person you really are and that way they know what to expect from you during their interactions with you .
As for showing someone has upset you I've obviously upset quite a few as I'm blocked by quite a few so really those I have upset have done a rather poor job of hiding that fact I've upset their sensibilities haven't they |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm trying real hard to be mellow, have a few things going on outside of fab that I need to keep a cool head for. I'm a swan right now, look ok on the surface but paddling like fuck underneath. All the patience and tolerance I have is reserved purely for my child, everyone and everything else and my temper goes from 1 to 100 pretty quickly. |
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"Always speak your mind otherwise it will just eat away at you
I so agree with that....the things I want to say to someone at this present time but can't
What's the worst that can happen??
The cunt blocked me on every level so he could come out with shit but didn't want me to say anything in return (it's non fab related)
Whats the point in saying anything though, i get annoyed with people and feel like saying things to them sometimes but what would it achieve.
They arent going to suddenly think oh i should change my behaviour and be nicer.
You say something to them and it may make them even nastier its best if you dont let them know they have upset you.
We are on a site based around meeting people for like minded fun so in my opinion best to call it as you see it because by doing that you are being true to yourself and those you interact with .plus by doing so everyone who may have a interest in you can see exactly the type of person you really are and that way they know what to expect from you during their interactions with you .
As for showing someone has upset you I've obviously upset quite a few as I'm blocked by quite a few so really those I have upset have done a rather poor job of hiding that fact I've upset their sensibilities haven't they "
If you say so. Blocking someone isnt the same as saying something to them though, you are still ignoring them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Speak my mind always, but using a modicum of tact where necessary. Purposely avoiding confrontation has much uglier longer term consequences. I think some people just really need to be liked by everyone and at any cost. Very worrying. |
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"Always speak your mind otherwise it will just eat away at you
I so agree with that....the things I want to say to someone at this present time but can't
What's the worst that can happen??
The cunt blocked me on every level so he could come out with shit but didn't want me to say anything in return (it's non fab related)
Whats the point in saying anything though, i get annoyed with people and feel like saying things to them sometimes but what would it achieve.
They arent going to suddenly think oh i should change my behaviour and be nicer.
You say something to them and it may make them even nastier its best if you dont let them know they have upset you."
I get where you are coming from and silence is sometimes the best thing, the person in question won't care what I say anyway I just feel like I need to say a few things but you are probably right just move on and forget it but they have royally pissed me off... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to be non confrontational, because if I did speak my mind I would say some TERRIBLE things that would portray me as the worst person in the world since that German bloke tried taking over the world back in 1939!!! |
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