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Blindfolded and bed restraints ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We don't do this very often but when we do its so Erotic do you swingers prefer hands free all seeing sex or being closed off having your sences heightend and restrained ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is most definitely a time and place for each. But yes, it can be fantastic - giving and receiving. Like anything though, it's about who you are with and the dynamic you provoke. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's all about what works in the moment, too much of anything can be a tad boring. With the right person blindfolds & restraints can be incredibly erotic.
I wouldn't let just anyone restrain me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is most definitely a time and place for each. But yes, it can be fantastic - giving and receiving. Like anything though, it's about who you are with and the dynamic you provoke. "
I agree there is a time and a place for this activity. I had an experience last week with a FAB lady who asked if I would tie her to the bed naked (save for a pair of red high heels) with a red silk blind fold. So dam erotic and I couldn't understand why the sales assistant from Bensons for Beds didn't think so. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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you don't have to physically restrain someone to restrain them .
you don't have to blindfold someone to take away the sensation of sight .
one can restrain by setting the rules of play failure to adhere to the rules brings about a instant stopping of play.
one can deprive a play partner of sight in a similar way with similar play and rules .
sometime the most erotic restrain is the restrain you have to endure with out being physically restrained . |
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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago
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"you don't have to physically restrain someone to restrain them .
you don't have to blindfold someone to take away the sensation of sight .
one can restrain by setting the rules of play failure to adhere to the rules brings about a instant stopping of play.
one can deprive a play partner of sight in a similar way with similar play and rules .
sometime the most erotic restrain is the restrain you have to endure with out being physically restrained . "
Totally agree with this, I learnt this lesson yesterday |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"you don't have to physically restrain someone to restrain them .
you don't have to blindfold someone to take away the sensation of sight .
one can restrain by setting the rules of play failure to adhere to the rules brings about a instant stopping of play.
one can deprive a play partner of sight in a similar way with similar play and rules .
sometime the most erotic restrain is the restrain you have to endure with out being physically restrained .
Totally agree with this, I learnt this lesson yesterday "
glad to here you enjoyed a lesson one heres so many stories about lessons learned of a different kind its good to hear of a positive experience for a change .  |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"Yet to have either but I've just bought the restraints & blindfold. All I need now is the man to use them on me."
I'd volunteer in a heart beat darling after seeing your pictures but sadly Preston even for a adventurer like me who likes to roam far and wide is a touch to far.
but I wish you well in your search and hope the experience when you do have it is great and totally mind blowing one. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"This is something I have always fantasised about but I have never done, I doubt I ever will either, I have a real trust issue  "
I fully understand that and is the reason why in the beginning its best to restrain with out restraining with any new play partner especially those new to the scene in my experience. heck even with a experience new play partner its best to start off in that way .as it builds trust and play can be stopped instantly with out words by just moving or removing ones hands.
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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago
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"you don't have to physically restrain someone to restrain them .
you don't have to blindfold someone to take away the sensation of sight .
one can restrain by setting the rules of play failure to adhere to the rules brings about a instant stopping of play.
one can deprive a play partner of sight in a similar way with similar play and rules .
sometime the most erotic restrain is the restrain you have to endure with out being physically restrained .
Totally agree with this, I learnt this lesson yesterday
glad to here you enjoyed a lesson one heres so many stories about lessons learned of a different kind its good to hear of a positive experience for a change . "
I'd never thought of it like that until yesterday, he basically echoed exactly what you said and it was extremely erotic having my eyes shut for me and told to keep my hands above my head without implements and as much as I wanted to move them at times they stayed firmly in place and I got rewarded |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is something I have always fantasised about but I have never done, I doubt I ever will either, I have a real trust issue
I fully understand that and is the reason why in the beginning its best to restrain with out restraining with any new play partner especially those new to the scene in my experience. heck even with a experience new play partner its best to start off in that way .as it builds trust and play can be stopped instantly with out words by just moving or removing ones hands.
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See this is my problem
I understand married women letting their husbands tie them up because in a marriage there is love and a husband more often than not will protect his wife not hurt her
But a play partner is just somebody you meet for sex, at what point do you decide somebody who only wants to fuck you is trustworthy enough to let them restrain you? 
And what if they are being nice just to lure you into a false sense of security and once they have won your trust they abuse it
I did say I have trust issues |
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By (user no longer on site)
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An FwB and I used to take it in turns to tie and blindfold each other and then give a sensual massage. It was so erotic and led to some very hot and passionate fun  |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
in the eye of the storm |
"you don't have to physically restrain someone to restrain them .
you don't have to blindfold someone to take away the sensation of sight .
one can restrain by setting the rules of play failure to adhere to the rules brings about a instant stopping of play.
one can deprive a play partner of sight in a similar way with similar play and rules .
sometime the most erotic restrain is the restrain you have to endure with out being physically restrained .
Totally agree with this, I learnt this lesson yesterday
glad to here you enjoyed a lesson one heres so many stories about lessons learned of a different kind its good to hear of a positive experience for a change .
I'd never thought of it like that until yesterday, he basically echoed exactly what you said and it was extremely erotic having my eyes shut for me and told to keep my hands above my head without implements and as much as I wanted to move them at times they stayed firmly in place and I got rewarded "
read my on going sub space story its a way I love to play at times .
as from my point of view the s is surrendering voluntarily restraining herself because you want her to and because she wants to .
for me such play reinforces my feelings of control I have over her because its voluntary control its like the s is proving to me she's mine and will do all I ask no matter how many pleasure of pain is involved voluntarily because she's not restrained by restrains but by her need to please me.  |
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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago
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"you don't have to physically restrain someone to restrain them .
you don't have to blindfold someone to take away the sensation of sight .
one can restrain by setting the rules of play failure to adhere to the rules brings about a instant stopping of play.
one can deprive a play partner of sight in a similar way with similar play and rules .
sometime the most erotic restrain is the restrain you have to endure with out being physically restrained .
Totally agree with this, I learnt this lesson yesterday
glad to here you enjoyed a lesson one heres so many stories about lessons learned of a different kind its good to hear of a positive experience for a change .
I'd never thought of it like that until yesterday, he basically echoed exactly what you said and it was extremely erotic having my eyes shut for me and told to keep my hands above my head without implements and as much as I wanted to move them at times they stayed firmly in place and I got rewarded
read my on going sub space story its a way I love to play at times .
as from my point of view the s is surrendering voluntarily restraining herself because you want her to and because she wants to .
for me such play reinforces my feelings of control I have over her because its voluntary control its like the s is proving to me she's mine and will do all I ask no matter how many pleasure of pain is involved voluntarily because she's not restrained by restrains but by her need to please me. "
Yes completely voluntary and they never moved although in my mind at moments I wanted to but they stayed firmly in place and I showed that I wanted to submit myself without being forced with restraints. X |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"This is something I have always fantasised about but I have never done, I doubt I ever will either, I have a real trust issue
I fully understand that and is the reason why in the beginning its best to restrain with out restraining with any new play partner especially those new to the scene in my experience. heck even with a experience new play partner its best to start off in that way .as it builds trust and play can be stopped instantly with out words by just moving or removing ones hands.
See this is my problem
I understand married women letting their husbands tie them up because in a marriage there is love and a husband more often than not will protect his wife not hurt her
But a play partner is just somebody you meet for sex, at what point do you decide somebody who only wants to fuck you is trustworthy enough to let them restrain you?
And what if they are being nice just to lure you into a false sense of security and once they have won your trust they abuse it
I did say I have trust issues
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interesting a cant answer that because I'm not a vanilla guy looking to get a shag at any cost.
I'm a D we fuck for more than a orgasm in fact in my case my own orgasm is not even thought of during play or during sex .
D/s is about so much more that getting a orgasm its about getting my needs as a human being met to . a thrive on the responsibility of being a D I get turned on by the trust and responsibility placed on me by a S .
I'm naturally a protectorate nurturing kind of man. I need to feel like a man needed trusted admired respected thought kindly of allowed to be a man. all that is part of who I am its also part of my sexuality .
I cant answer your question because I would never dream of abusing trust placed upon my shoulders in the bedroom in such a situation my soul aim would be to deliver the greatest sexual experience possible not only for myself but my partner to.
heck that's the only way I know how to fuck if I'm being totally honest here . |
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_andsonjohn spot on you could not have summarised it any better.
I too am Dom and I would never abuse that trust the Submissive places in me.
If you do then you are not a Dominate you are Domineering and they are two very very different things.
For me as a Dom the biggest Dom high is a submissive consensually giving your her trust safe in the knowledge that you will not betray it at any cost. |
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