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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx "

i dont but not on all the time ... i wud never ever ridiculs anyone as i find it un acceptable behaviour

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx "

Many are board, lonely and feel the need to pick on new posters. Its happened for months/years and most likely will but its usually a group activity.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

they do it to maintin what they see as their "established" position. There is a certain type that uses ridicule and abuse to keep people down because they are scared and lack confidence. This can sometimes occur with shift workers (just an observation)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx

i dont but not on all the time ... i wud never ever ridiculs anyone as i find it un acceptable behaviour

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Having a joke with people that are familiar to you is one thing, but i find the behaviour of some of the posters tonight distasteful, introverted and very unpleasant reading. Mina

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx "

in what way....

me personally.. I don't get two hoots if it a new poster or a regular spouting nonsense.... i'll call them out on it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx

in what way....

me personally.. I don't get two hoots if it a new poster or a regular spouting nonsense.... i'll call them out on it!"
Well if you treat all equally all well and good, but it is blatantly obvious that some do not adapt the same principal. Mina xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

untrue.

i never got abused when i was new...neither have many others.

this only ever gets dragged up when someone posts something ridiculous and everyone responds likewise.

you reap what you sow on these forums and it matters not a jot if you are new or not

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx

in what way....

me personally.. I don't get two hoots if it a new poster or a regular spouting nonsense.... i'll call them out on it!Well if you treat all equally all well and good, but it is blatantly obvious that some do not adapt the same principal. Mina xxx"

Stop just posting to defend your mate and read the threads.This is the east cliquey forum i have ever been on.You dont like it,don't read it.

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

I never abuse anyone and any 'ridicule' is restricted to humourous quips.

There isn't a clique, just a few folks who know each other, it's no more a clique than walking into a new pub and seeing a few people chatting together. Say hello and chat too and you'll find them friendly enough.

Also bare in mind the regulars see about a hundred repeated winge threads every week so they start to wear a bit thin after a while.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx

in what way....

Some are very brave behind a keyboard but so different in person. Often they lack self esteem in life so are abusive on line. Others though are just bored and have a low tolerance to others.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx

i dont but not on all the time ... i wud never ever ridiculs anyone as i find it un acceptable behaviour

Having a joke with people that are familiar to you is one thing, but i find the behaviour of some of the posters tonight distasteful, introverted and very unpleasant reading. Mina "

havnt read any post tonite ....was on earlier posted a forum about a warning and left again this is 1st ive been back but as i say wudnt ridicule anyone, i do banter with ones ive got to know, but anyone i dont i am cautious on what i reply to them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I never abuse anyone and any 'ridicule' is restricted to humourous quips.

Also bare in mind the regulars see about a hundred repeated winge threads every week so they start to wear a bit thin after a while. "
So they wear a bit thin? I can understand that people get a bit bored with the same old thing, but where has the respect gone? Mina

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I believe there are people on the forums who are obviously good friends etc but I have never had anyone be rude to me, quite the opposite, have had some very nice messages sent privately, if people post things which people do or dont agree with then so be it..thats the point of a forum surely??

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I believe there are people on the forums who are obviously good friends etc but I have never had anyone be rude to me, quite the opposite, have had some very nice messages sent privately, if people post things which people do or dont agree with then so be it..thats the point of a forum surely??"
I am pleased for you, but give it time. Mina xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hmmm a dodgy one this.

is it cliquey or is it going with the flow ???

i'm not a regular poster but do like to have my say from time to time and from my own personal experience i was never picked on as a 1st time poster. in fact i was made to feel more than welcome.

i treat the lounge as i do a works canteen.if i say something stupid i expect to be ridiculed.

just as long as there is no malice or offence intended then its all good fun and a learning curve.

there are serious things to be said but also many things that will make me smile. as it is with many forums i have been on.

this is just the opinion of a half d*unk horny fella trying to type and wank.

i'm sure there are those that will agree and those that will beg to differ but i dont really care coz i just want to perv your pics while i knock one out

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"I never abuse anyone and any 'ridicule' is restricted to humourous quips.

Also bare in mind the regulars see about a hundred repeated winge threads every week so they start to wear a bit thin after a while. So they wear a bit thin? I can understand that people get a bit bored with the same old thing, but where has the respect gone? Mina "

Why is respect obigatory? i respect ppl who earn it,some ppl clearly don't deserve it.

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

Respect is shown for those who use it.

A 'why am I not gettin a shag off you bints' type thread will get slated. A better phrased version will get jokes and some sound advice.

Some poeple are too ready to play victim to be posting on the forums in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I never abuse anyone and any 'ridicule' is restricted to humourous quips.

Why is respect obigatory? i respect ppl who earn it,some ppl clearly don't deserve it. "
Its in the forum rules is it not? Mina

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

I've been a member for over a year and don't ever recall anyone being mean or nasty towards me... quite the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been a member for over a year and don't ever recall anyone being mean or nasty towards me... quite the opposite."
I am pleased for you also. Mina xxx

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx "

I don't think they do. They just give their opinion to anybody old or new to the forum who make stupid or inflammatory comments.

Wow we have some great popcorn time threads this morning.

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

"I've been a member for over a year and don't ever recall anyone being mean or nasty towards me... quite the opposite.I am pleased for you also. Mina xxx"

Thanks

ps - I love your avatar xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think this is maybe not a Clique thread but a few members having personal digs at each other???

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been a member for over a year and don't ever recall anyone being mean or nasty towards me... quite the opposite.I am pleased for you also. Mina xxx

Thanks

ps - I love your avatar xx"
Thank you . Mina xxx

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"I've been a member for over a year and don't ever recall anyone being mean or nasty towards me... quite the opposite."

I think I once called you a wally.

I hope I didn't trauatise you too badly.

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

"I've been a member for over a year and don't ever recall anyone being mean or nasty towards me... quite the opposite.

I think I once called you a wally.

I hope I didn't trauatise you too badly.

I was crying myself to sleep for months after it happened, but thanks to my weekly meetings with my shrink I think I'm just about over it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hang on, i get it,out of the many men and women i fucked that night ,i didnt fuck you,does that rankle daring?"

erm ya didnt fuck me either, and yes it rankles.......................

oops i forgot i want even there but it still rankles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i hate everyone and everything with total equality

and you are all dirty filthy naaaaasty little munkeys

death to the west!

but i think some folks take things too much on forums at times - and humour and subtle jibes are never translated too well

but if you can not take it all too serious then that all helps - as its an internet forum and really - its just a lot of tosh like any net forum

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i hate everyone and everything with total equality

and you are all dirty filthy naaaaasty little munkeys

death to the west!

but i think some folks take things too much on forums at times - and humour and subtle jibes are never translated too well

but if you can not take it all too serious then that all helps - as its an internet forum and really - its just a lot of tosh like any net forum

what is this humour thing you speak of ???

i have never experienced such a thing before.

is it a new kind of sexual position ??

if so are there any ladies out there willing to demonstrate it ?

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

i hate everyone and everything with total equality

and you are all dirty filthy naaaaasty little munkeys

death to the west!

but i think some folks take things too much on forums at times - and humour and subtle jibes are never translated too well

but if you can not take it all too serious then that all helps - as its an internet forum and really - its just a lot of tosh like any net forum

im in the north ...does that count lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i hate everyone and everything with total equality

and you are all dirty filthy naaaaasty little munkeys

death to the west!

but i think some folks take things too much on forums at times - and humour and subtle jibes are never translated too well

but if you can not take it all too serious then that all helps - as its an internet forum and really - its just a lot of tosh like any net forum

oi! west is best!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ahh well your not really though are you. You will post like this here but wouldn't say boo to a goose on Sunday at chams. So please don't say you are the same in real life as you are clearly not."

I did actually avoid you if truth be told and there was no appeal whatsoever on my part. "

Anyone else spotting a slight inconsistency here...

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By *he Happy ManMan over a year ago

Merseyside

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx "

This forum is no different to other forums. I read a few forums on different subjects such as PC's, alternative healing etc. In each and every one if you make what people think is a stupid or inflammatory comment you will get called out on it. Sure you will always get forum trolls but I genuinely don't think we have any here.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx

as i have stated before i dont think anyone should be made to feel stupid, and anyone that does has a low self worth or opinion of themself, i have found there is a small minority,(1 or 2)that is all, that like nothing more than to cause upset and make themselves feel better, but to those i choose to ignore as i find it isnt worth it. I will however fight/stand up formyself if i fel the need.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple over a year ago

North Cornwall

clears throat. Im new to the Forums and have indeed found that new people are largely ignored unless they take a pitch fork and prod one or two posters in a good humoured manner (which I do enjoy a lot) but cant really say that I have felt picked on. I must admit to not having read the rules

but I would not have thought that there is much point in getting into a slanging match with individuals for no good purpose. This is entertainment people and airing dirty laundry in public is a little tacky. Also wonder where the gentlemanly behaviour is? Attacking over the net is pretty pointless.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx

can you stand and fight for me coz to be honest i cant be arsed to do it for myself

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

I suggest the more personal shit about specific uses be left out this thread.

I could lie and say I'd hate to see you banned I suppose.

... I'm a wuss really as well. No confidence or social skills unless I've got qwerty in front of me.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx

can you stand and fight for me coz to be honest i cant be arsed to do it for myself"

opps spelling got bad at the end ...its the drink i tell ya lol, yes i will stand up for ya

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"know when hotel rooms are over occupied "

ok folks...back of...carefully.....he knows how many people are in your room right now...he clearly does work for british intelligence...or laterooms, but dont take your chances.

each man for himself

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"clears throat. Im new to the Forums and have indeed found that new people are largely ignored unless they take a pitch fork and prod one or two posters in a good humoured manner (which I do enjoy a lot) but cant really say that I have felt picked on. I must admit to not having read the rules

weh hey someone that is on my wave link lol

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

Pitchforks? I wasn't issued with a pitchfork! I've been done!!

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By *arambarMan over a year ago

swindon

"Also wonder where the gentlemanly behaviour is? Attacking over the net is pretty pointless. "

Agreed - even if you win you're still a loser.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ahh well your not really though are you. You will post like this here but wouldn't say boo to a goose on Sunday at chams. So please don't say you are the same in real life as you are clearly not.

I did actually avoid you if truth be told and there was no appeal whatsoever on my part.

Anyone else spotting a slight inconsistency here..."

oh yes have just read the other post and this one

I love being a newbie to the forums most are frienly lively debators with some very funny banter

shame there's few obviously so down on it all

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"Pitchforks? I wasn't issued with a pitchfork! I've been done!!

wheres mt pitchfork, i dint get one either opps hold on im an angel dont need one lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Pitchforks? I wasn't issued with a pitchfork! I've been done!!

did it hurt ???

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple over a year ago

North Cornwall

Im the rebel leader who stole the pitchfork in the last clique. Keep up! You lot wouldnt let me in so I just prod ya when the mood takes me...

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"Im the rebel leader who stole the pitchfork in the last clique. Keep up! You lot wouldnt let me in so I just prod ya when the mood takes me...

ohhh i like to be prod every now and again lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"know when hotel rooms are over occupied

ok folks...back of...carefully.....he knows how many people are in your room right now...he clearly does work for british intelligence...or laterooms, but dont take your chances.

each man for himself"

Oops Ilove swapping rooms caught me red handed and what about the dogging in the car park after hours.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple over a year ago

North Cornwall

weh hey someone that is on my wave link lol

welcome to the cause... grab a pitchfork and keep your eyes peeled

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Sorry Invictus the postie delivered yours to my address.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

weh hey someone that is on my wave link lol

welcome to the cause... grab a pitchfork and keep your eyes peeled

ouch....bit severe.....is it a clique requirement?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

weh hey someone that is on my wave link lol

welcome to the cause... grab a pitchfork and keep your eyes peeled

ouch....bit severe.....is it a clique requirement?"

where's mine i want to join hehe

can i can i

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ooh would love to poke you please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

weh hey someone that is on my wave link lol

welcome to the cause... grab a pitchfork and keep your eyes peeled

ouch....bit severe.....is it a clique requirement?

where's mine i want to join hehe

can i can i

only if you peel your eyes

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

weh hey someone that is on my wave link lol

welcome to the cause... grab a pitchfork and keep your eyes peeled

ouch....bit severe.....is it a clique requirement?

where's mine i want to join hehe

can i can i

only if you peel your eyes"

ouch that sounds painful lol

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple over a year ago

North Cornwall

Ok, now I can see a problem looming. This is a rebellion and if you all bloody join it just makes me one of the flock... aint liking it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"But why do so many regular posters, feel its acceptable to abuse and ridicule new posters?

Mina xxx

in what way....

Some are very brave behind a keyboard but so different in person. Often they lack self esteem in life so are abusive on line. Others though are just bored and have a low tolerance to others.

yawn disagreeing is not abuse,if it hurts perhaps you ought to stop posting in a place where ppl are free to disagree with your mad ideas.And cod psychology and a condescending attitude just encourage ppl to think,troll .

without a life.

So shall we discuss the motivations and elf awareness of someone who goes out to be abusive and attack others? What might be missing from the life of someone who claims to be Dom but needs to seek attention from strangers in this manner?

Oh and i am exactly the same in real

life.

Ahh well your not really though are you. You will post like this here but wouldn't say boo to a goose on Sunday at chams. So please don't say you are the same in real life as you are clearly not.

Ahem,i dont remember talking to you at chams,but i am definaty no shrinking violet,and i think ppl who were actually there will agree ,i'm not exactly sure who u might be confusing me with,but i'm the one femme and madchick described as making the party go with a "swing"

hang on, i get it,out of the many men and women i fucked that night ,i didnt fuck you,does that rankle daring?

I did actually avoid you if truth be told and there was no appeal whatsoever on my part. People will say nice things though to you if they deem you need pepping up. I would suggest not using names though in threads as its against the rules."

arrogance is such an ugly thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok, now I can see a problem looming. This is a rebellion and if you all bloody join it just makes me one of the flock... aint liking it

Did someone call me? Oh, Ooops... you said 'flock'

*throws pitchfork down and flounces off*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"arrogance is such an ugly thing

Isn't it just

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Crass! I think it's incredibly poor for a thread to end up in some sort of personal tit for tat bunfight for whatever reason but to be quite so rude is just unnecessary. Clique or not, there is no need to behave like a child.

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

"Crass! I think it's incredibly poor for a thread to end up in some sort of personal tit for tat bunfight for whatever reason but to be quite so rude is just unnecessary. Clique or not, there is no need to behave like a child.

Buns? There's buns? Jeez.... I'm late too, bet I've missed the buns!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A clique is a group that deliberately seeks to keep people out is it not? But there are so many new people who become regular users and part of the banter that, how can it be? Obviously naming no names, but in the year since I've been here I've seen numerous newbies who have become well known regulars both on the forums and at socials.

Incidentally, it's interesting how the people who regularly complain about the foru, saying how cliquey and agressive they are, can't stay away and also help to promote such behaviour. I've rarely seen any personal attacks, yes people can get heated but it's a forum at the end of the day, why would anyone be so childish as to carry a disagreement over into real life. The odd time someone does step too far, they are dealt with.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Ok this is probably gonna get me accused if sticking up for my friends (sorry I know we are not allowed them on here

) but I really don't understand people who go around spouting about cliques.

If you start a new job and you go down to the canteen one lunchtime does everyone there talk to you? No. Because they are talking to their friends. But eventually.you get to know people and develop your own friendships etc.

If this is in reference to the thread I think.it.is then anyone, even me a forum regulations. Who posted a thread like that would receive the same treatment. And to be fair I think he got off lightly and also gave as good as he got. I doubt we will see him in the forums again unless to have another moan cos no one wants to be his friend

People on here do develop friendships and shock horror even meet just socially, I have met a fair few off the forums now (ok not all.just socially

) its what makes this site so great.

Mina - please don't take this as an attack on you but this is not the first thread you have put up about the forums being cliquey. Maybe if you took the time to get involved you would understand that they really aren't but at the moment all I see is you moaning about a part of the site that many people like.

If you want cliquey go in the sodding chat rooms

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"know when hotel rooms are over occupied

ok folks...back of...carefully.....he knows how many people are in your room right now...he clearly does work for british intelligence...or laterooms, but dont take your chances.

each man for himself

Oops Ilove swapping rooms caught me red handed and what about the dogging in the car park after hours."

There was dogging!!!!i was so busy hiding from everyone i missed it!

ps isnt over occupancy at a swinging club called an orgy!

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

There are cliques in every walk ov life ,in pubs ,wrk at events and on ere so those ppl who say there are not clique's well you are either blind or ignorant to the fact and those that notice certain cliques u either bite to them or just ignore ,i for 1 have notices alot ov cliquey activity and all i say is bollox to them and grow up i left skool years ago and im not getting involved in this sort of play ground bichyness but there are cliques for deff its a fact ov life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you part of the FAB Inner Circle?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Zzzzzzz you newbies have bored me with all your talk of Cliques...

Now wheres Femme and BB I want to talk about all of you...But not to you cos I only ever talk to the regulars...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't worry to much about the existance of cliques. A lot depends on your own tolerance levels to how you view them.

The forum moderators are pretty quick to stamp out any unsavoury threads or exchanges so just let them do their jobs.

I will put my hand up and freely admit that I have been responsible for some tongue in cheek or attempted ironic replies that have been received in a different way to how I hoped they would be read.

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Are you part of the FAB Inner Circle?

All the best people are part of the Fab Magic Circle....the Inner Circle is soooo last year....

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By *im53Man over a year ago

Boldon

"know when hotel rooms are over occupied

ok folks...back of...carefully.....he knows how many people are in your room right now...he clearly does work for british intelligence...or laterooms, but dont take your chances.

each man for himself

Oops Ilove swapping rooms caught me red handed and what about the dogging in the car park after hours.

There was dogging!!!!i was so busy hiding from everyone i missed it!

ps isnt over occupancy at a swinging club called an orgy!

just to but in here

i booked the room for the three of us and chams were well aware of how many were in the room as they served 3 breakfasts both days

so whats it got to do with any body how many were in the room if chams were happy then so were we

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you part of the FAB Inner Circle?

All the best people are part of the Fab Magic Circle....the Inner Circle is soooo last year...."

think I'm going to start a vicious circle

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"Ok this is probably gonna get me accused if sticking up for my friends (sorry I know we are not allowed them on here

) but I really don't understand people who go around spouting about cliques.

People on here do develop friendships and shock horror even meet just socially, I have met a fair few off the forums now (ok not all.just socially

) its what makes this site so great.

If you want cliquey go in the sodding chat rooms

^^^ Pretty much covers it I reckon.

The only people who seem to think there is a clique are newbies, do they still feel the same a few weeks later when they join in and find it fun I wonder? Do they suddenly think 'OMG! I'm in that horrible clique now! I'm a bad person!'

I doubt it somehow.

This is not an attack at anyone, least of all the OP who has brought the matter up in such a reasonable way, but it's an open forum and some people will post things you don't like. If you can't handle that either grow some balls or go and find something less challenging to do with your time. Act a twat on here and you'll be treated like one just as you would in the real world.

I've had fun on here and made friends, I was a newbie once and had to work at it a bit as did everyone on here.

Only two things tend to irritate me on here these days; the victim types who turn to jelly the first time someone sniffs in their direction and the 'knights in shining armour' who leap about telling everyone how we are all bullies who have the social skills of a slug when we are not behind the keyboard.

Is telling me how I should use the forums a kind of bullying as well I wonder

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

To answer the OP - rather than 'attacking' newbies who post, I think people actually respond to what has been posted rather than who has posted it.

If someone opens a thread to say that everyone on here is a timewaster/idiot/minger etc then do they really expect people who are on here to make a considered and welcoming response?

Anyone who has been reading the forums for a while will know that some 'regular' posters do sometimes get carried away with themselves but Ive seen lots of examples where other regulars have stepped in and tried to

support a new poster when the grammar police start or when the OP has made a genuine post and people are taking the piss....

And not forgetting that many people start threads purely with the intention of causing a reaction...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are you part of the FAB Inner Circle?

All the best people are part of the Fab Magic Circle....the Inner Circle is soooo last year....

think I'm going to start a vicious circle

too late...it started without you.

you must decide now whether you are inside or outside the circle...

the circle is a hole

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

It's better to be inside criticising the wall paper than stood out side shouting through the window...

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

I didn't get picked on when I was a newbie at all and in fact found it quite welcoming.

I do however get picked on all the time now.

A shower of bastards the lot of you!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's better to be inside criticising the wall paper than stood out side shouting through the window...

what's up with my wallpaper?

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"I didn't get picked on when I was a newbie at all and in fact found it quite welcoming.

I do however get picked on all the time now.

A shower of bastards the lot of you!"

Be quiet and go and eat some glitter monkey boy, the adults are talking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I didn't get picked on when I was a newbie at all and in fact found it quite welcoming.

I do however get picked on all the time now.

A shower of bastards the lot of you!"

would that be a group shower?

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"It's better to be inside criticising the wall paper than stood out side shouting through the window...

what's up with my wallpaper?"

It's the skulls mainly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's better to be inside criticising the wall paper than stood out side shouting through the window...

what's up with my wallpaper?

It's the skulls mainly

they're behind the wall...doesn't count

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I actually have to agree to a point with the OP. I am getting into my third year on Fab and have actually witnessed people who post end up deleting their profiles. This fact cannot be ignored it has happened. So on that basis yes there has been bullying in one form or another at some point. Of late the forums don't seem too bad. Okay fair point, some people do come on new and whinge, but in fairness they don't think to do a search in forums on the post they want to make. I certainly wouldn't have done when I started. I for one find it distasteful no matter what to see someone new ganged up on. I find it sad then to see that the person has deleted their profile.

As far as cliques. I will say the same thing I normally do. A clique is just a bunch of people you don't yet know.

I have banter on here with people I have met and people I haven't.

But reading this thread and some of the posts in the middle. The mention of Chams.........just what is the point in that being raised!!!!!! Handbags at Ten paces.....wtf

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"It's better to be inside criticising the wall paper than stood out side shouting through the window...

what's up with my wallpaper?

It's the skulls mainly

they're behind the wall...doesn't count"

I can see dead people...

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

Mmm fab magic inner circle eh!

Are they affiliated to the Judean popular peoples front?

Hope not they were a right bunch of splitters

Been on here a bit more than usual this past 5 months and to be honest not seen any abuse, i would have jumped on my trusty steed and said 'oi' cos it aint nice.

Would have done this regardless of whether i was a 'newbie'

Not saying it has not happened just have not seen it.

As for ridicule, well surely thats more of a personal interpretation?

If your having a bad day then say something daft it may well feel worse when people respond compared to if all is well in your world and you do the same??

As for personal bun fights, take it on pm as it does end up in a sort of school yard nar nar na nar nar

Pitchforks are for wusses btw.

*sits back & starts up petrol rotavator*

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Quit your jibber jabber and show us your bum!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have just read (I think) the thread that is being related to by this thread. To be honest all I can see is that the OP came on quite aggressive with his Thread. All that came back was valid and fun responses. I can not see anything wrong with the replies.

Perhaps am not seeing something, that's most probably why am not seeing dead people too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's better to be inside criticising the wall paper than stood out side shouting through the window...

what's up with my wallpaper?

It's the skulls mainly

they're behind the wall...doesn't count

I can see dead people...

i suggest you stop hanging out in the crem then

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

I've Googled clique and apparently its the sound of two snooker balls in a sock.

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By *etillanteWoman over a year ago

"I've Googled clique and apparently its the sound of two snooker balls in a sock."

I've read that somewhere recently

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've Googled clique and apparently its the sound of two snooker balls in a sock.

I've read that somewhere recently

look above/

glad to be of help

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

weh hey someone that is on my wave link lol

welcome to the cause... grab a pitchfork and keep your eyes peeled

ouch....bit severe.....is it a clique requirement?

where's mine i want to join hehe

can i can i

only if you peel your eyes

ouch that sounds painful lol "

oh it does meanies, I'm going to run off and cry now

hehe

On a more serious note AS A NEWBIE

This is more than a sex site people have various reasons for being here.

There is a very much a sense of it being a community and being to discuss things and have difference of opinions. I also feel people are welcomed in

The guy asked a question "Why do people join when they're not actually gonna meet anybody?".

All I got from the posts where light hearted banter and people answering the actual question asked

Having seen his profile I could see why his not getting want he wanted expected.

If people come along all aggressive and making asumpsion about people

Obviously people within that community are going to defend it

It does make people follower's etc

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"I've Googled clique and apparently its the sound of two snooker balls in a sock.

I've read that somewhere recently

It so good I intend to use it every 10 minutes...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have never found the forums cliquey. There have been times when I have read topics seen that it is heated and decided not to get involved. Other times I have. Whether to poster was a newbie to the forums has never even entered my head.

Lets face it how are people supposed to know who is a newbie to the forums or not. I very much doubt that users keep lists to check who has or has not posted before.

Not everyone is going to like everyone on a forum the same as in real life. You can either choose to let it bother you or choose not to interact with them.

People are entitled to individual opinions. If someone got personally insulting and nasty then thats a different matter. Having a different opinion and being able to argue a point is not insulting. If someone is nasty or insults you then report it don't engage you only stoop the their level. Common sense really.

Having said that I have never had someone be nasty or insult me. I have had differences of opinion. But thats the point of debate isn't it.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

I reckon I am going to be shot down now but what the hell.

The other thread was started with a perfectly good question, it wasn't stupid, it wasn't a sweeping generalisation...it was just a question that is allowed.

If the person has found that a lot of people only want to chat on here, then why can't he ask why are people joining a swinging site just to chat?

Obviously, it is allowed to join just to chat, but there is no harm in him asking the question.

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By *rs Sugar Mr SpiceCouple over a year ago

We are about 15 mins outa Pontypridd and we do go to Crawley in west sussex 2-3 times a year so get in touch !!

"Zzzzzzz you newbies have bored me with all your talk of Cliques...

Now wheres Femme and BB I want to talk about all of you...But not to you cos I only ever talk to the regulars...

We been on ere 3 and a half years guy so we are far from newbies but there has always been cliques on ere since we been on ere and nothing changes

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"I reckon I am going to be shot down now but what the hell.

The other thread was started with a perfectly good question, it wasn't stupid, it wasn't a sweeping generalisation...it was just a question that is allowed.

If the person has found that a lot of people only want to chat on here, then why can't he ask why are people joining a swinging site just to chat?

Obviously, it is allowed to join just to chat, but there is no harm in him asking the question.

BANG!

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

Cliques are like Santa, they only exist if you believe in them

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"Cliques are like Santa, they only exist if you believe in them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Cliques are like Santa, they only exist if you believe in them

santas real!

i believe

and i do not say that in jest!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

9.52 and I have been banged already

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"9.52 and I have been banged already

Good girl

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"9.52 and I have been banged already

If I could I'd bang you every morning darling.

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

Pfft!

I used a silencer...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"9.52 and I have been banged already

If I could I'd bang you every morning darling.

"
now now cool down i may need to get cold water out , lol

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

@ funky and Invictus.

Ok, I am willing to get banged again for the cause, so I will add......

I think the thread started off as banter and good humour and wasn't meant to be malicious, the only thing I would say is , once people realised the OP wasn't getting the banter it could have eased off a bit. A good piss taker knows when to stop if someone doesn't like it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"9.52 and I have been banged already

Lucky you

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"9.52 and I have been banged already

Lucky you

...but I practice safe banging and used a silencer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"9.52 and I have been banged already

stop showing off biatch

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

What is a 'BANG'?

married so not sure of the concept

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love the ones who say they don't exist on here as they are in the main the instigators.

To the op some people on here just like to abuse new posters they don't like so you will have to live with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As ive said many times before a clique is just people ya haven't yet spoken too

No one as far as i know stops anyone joining in

We all started as newbies after all

I really feel its the way some folk look at things that's the real problem

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I love the ones who say they don't exist on here as they are in the main the instigators.

To the op some people on here just like to abuse new posters they don't like so you will have to live with it.

Interesting... can you instigate a clique then?

I run a forum and they all moaned left, right and centre about cliques... so when said forum needed a new domain... that's the name I gave it!!

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"I love the ones who say they don't exist on here as they are in the main the instigators.

To the op some people on here just like to abuse new posters they don't like so you will have to live with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As ive said many times before a clique is just people ya haven't yet spoken too

No one as far as i know stops anyone joining in

We all started as newbies after all

I really feel its the way some folk look at things that's the real problem

Yep some dont wear rose tinted glasses.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As ive said many times before a clique is just people ya haven't yet spoken too

No one as far as i know stops anyone joining in

We all started as newbies after all

I really feel its the way some folk look at things that's the real problem

Yep some dont wear rose tinted glasses.

Well maybe they should then lol

At the end a the day this is all fantasy anyway the real worlds outside

The day i let owt on here bother me that much will be the day i packs it all in xx

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"I love the ones who say they don't exist on here as they are in the main the instigators.

To the op some people on here just like to abuse new posters they don't like so you will have to live with it.

I disagree. Join in and you become a forum regular/clique member (delete to taste) anyway - so in my mind it invalidates the clique argument anyway.

New posters are generally treated pretty well in my opinion, they are often defended by regulars if anyone oversteps the line. Idiots and unpleasant folk fair less well, be they regulars or newbies.

Someone said 'you reap what you sow' on the forums and I tend to agree on the whole.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As ive said many times before a clique is just people ya haven't yet spoken too

No one as far as i know stops anyone joining in

We all started as newbies after all

I really feel its the way some folk look at things that's the real problem

Yep some dont wear rose tinted glasses.

Well maybe they should then lol

At the end a the day this is all fantasy anyway the real worlds outside

The day i let owt on here bother me that much will be the day i packs it all in xx

I heard you did let it bother you at times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love the ones who say they don't exist on here as they are in the main the instigators.

To the op some people on here just like to abuse new posters they don't like so you will have to live with it.

I disagree. Join in and you become a forum regular/clique member (delete to taste) anyway - so in my mind it invalidates the clique argument anyway.

New posters are generally treated pretty well in my opinion, they are often defended by regulars if anyone oversteps the line. Idiots and unpleasant folk fair less well, be they regulars or newbies.

Someone said 'you reap what you sow' on the forums and I tend to agree on the whole."

Well you would disagree wouldn't you. There are many new posters that get ignored or abused. It happened again last night by all accounts. Some even logged back in to have a go. Sad really but we all have a right to an opinion and those who stand back and watch are more likely to see it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"As ive said many times before a clique is just people ya haven't yet spoken too

No one as far as i know stops anyone joining in

We all started as newbies after all

I really feel its the way some folk look at things that's the real problem

Yep some dont wear rose tinted glasses.

Well maybe they should then lol

At the end a the day this is all fantasy anyway the real worlds outside

The day i let owt on here bother me that much will be the day i packs it all in xx

I heard you did let it bother you at times."

Only certain things but not fa long

And yes you were right to point that out

But the thing is i really dont take anything that seriously anyway

My life outside fab is serious enough fa me thanks xx

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By *orestersCouple over a year ago

The Forest

To me, "clique" is the sound of a Mexican woman crossing a wooden floor in stillettos.

I must check my CO2 monitor

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People do get a warm welcome. I thought it was clicky when I first started out but then you get used to the humour. I have nearly ruined my laptop before now or peed my pants laughing at some of the comments and yes its great when at night kids in bed noone to talk to I talk to my friends on fabs and yes some of us are guilty of biting sometimes. But when you get threads such as your all idiots or moaning whinging threads then what do you expect.

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By *UNCHBOXMan over a year ago

folkestone

Not sure about cliques, but it seems every thread turns into regular posters trying to show how funny they can be by writing sarcastic posts to genuine questions. So you get half the posts in a thread taken up by complete rubbish.

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By *ex.IncCouple over a year ago

Castleford

We havent really seen much abuse to be fairly honest..or anything that smacks of abuse anyway. We've seen a lot of people being ignored though, us included in the past and still occasionally. In chat you actually have to dive on peoples conversations to get noticed, or just be another name on the screen. At least in the forum all topics are open for anyone to join in with.

As whats been said probably in this rather long thread, a lot on here go to socials so they know each other..same as on the chatrooms.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I cant get on with the chat rooms unless we have an invasion.

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"I love the ones who say they don't exist on here as they are in the main the instigators.

To the op some people on here just like to abuse new posters they don't like so you will have to live with it.

I disagree. Join in and you become a forum regular/clique member (delete to taste) anyway - so in my mind it invalidates the clique argument anyway.

New posters are generally treated pretty well in my opinion, they are often defended by regulars if anyone oversteps the line. Idiots and unpleasant folk fair less well, be they regulars or newbies.

Someone said 'you reap what you sow' on the forums and I tend to agree on the whole.

You see? The regulars can't win, we give our opinion in a reasonable manner and we are still a bunch of nasty bullies.

May I respectfully suggest you click on the little green arrow next to my user name and see how many 'why can't I get a meet' or 'timewaster' threads I have offered genuine advice on before you say such pointlessly dismissive things as 'well you would disagree wouldn't you'?

I'm not having a go here, I'm trying to show you the way it really is.

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"Not sure about cliques, but it seems every thread turns into regular posters trying to show how funny they can be by writing sarcastic posts to genuine questions. So you get half the posts in a thread taken up by complete rubbish. "

One man's rubbish is another man's joy. Who do we set up to judge this then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I love the ones who say they don't exist on here as they are in the main the instigators.

To the op some people on here just like to abuse new posters they don't like so you will have to live with it.

I disagree. Join in and you become a forum regular/clique member (delete to taste) anyway - so in my mind it invalidates the clique argument anyway.

New posters are generally treated pretty well in my opinion, they are often defended by regulars if anyone oversteps the line. Idiots and unpleasant folk fair less well, be they regulars or newbies.

Someone said 'you reap what you sow' on the forums and I tend to agree on the whole.

You see? The regulars can't win, we give our opinion in a reasonable manner and we are still a bunch of nasty bullies.

I'm not having a go here, I'm trying to show you the way it really is. "

I have been here a lot longer than you and i do see who does what. The difference though is i am here to meet people. Its funny though how many have told me about pm's going round about someone and you shouldn't like them.

I will just say your idea of the way it really is doesn't happen to be anyway near right in my opinion but i don't feel the need to suck up to people.

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By *ushroom7Man over a year ago

Bradford

May I respectfully suggest you click on the little green arrow next to my user name "

Oh yeah, little green arrows. Fancy that.

Wonder what they do?

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By *nvictusMan over a year ago

Beeston

"I love the ones who say they don't exist on here as they are in the main the instigators.

To the op some people on here just like to abuse new posters they don't like so you will have to live with it.

I disagree. Join in and you become a forum regular/clique member (delete to taste) anyway - so in my mind it invalidates the clique argument anyway.

New posters are generally treated pretty well in my opinion, they are often defended by regulars if anyone oversteps the line. Idiots and unpleasant folk fair less well, be they regulars or newbies.

Someone said 'you reap what you sow' on the forums and I tend to agree on the whole.

You see? The regulars can't win, we give our opinion in a reasonable manner and we are still a bunch of nasty bullies.

I'm not having a go here, I'm trying to show you the way it really is.

I will just say your idea of the way it really is doesn't happen to be anyway near right in my opinion but i don't feel the need to suck up to people."

I'm not going to enter into a Fab 'Top Trumps' with you here. I am also here to meet people and I certainly do that, I don't suck up to people, if I have an opinion on a subject I will share it if I feel the need. As for PM rumours I rarely hear them and I never take any interest in them.

So we disagree, but I shall hold my opinion and you may hold yours and Fab will roll on regardless. Yet if I am told what I am when it is wrong I shall certainly not just sit back and accept it.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

"We havent really seen much abuse to be fairly honest..or anything that smacks of abuse anyway. We've seen a lot of people being ignored though, us included in the past and still occasionally. In chat you actually have to dive on peoples conversations to get noticed, or just be another name on the screen. At least in the forum all topics are open for anyone to join in with.

As whats been said probably in this rather long thread, a lot on here go to socials so they know each other..same as on the chatrooms."

I just wanted to respond to this cause I remember when I first started posting on a forum and it was scary... all of these people seemed to know each other and and here was I, wet behind the ears and utterly clueless about swinging. However... not being a shrinking violet I just waded in there, same as I did here really. I've been a member here for a few years now. I've only started to use the forums fairly recently so I wasn't part of any clique. I just joined in. If someone ignores a post I write (it happens all the time!) and I think I've put lots of thought and effort into it but I have a tendancy to waffle so chances are some people read the first line and then think fuck that... I can't be bothered reading that same old drivel she's posted again.

I don't take it personally. I don't care. Made me feel better to get whatever I had to say off my chest and if it helps someone else, makes them smile or even makes them roll their eyes then its all good.

Join in. That's the key to any clique.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

actually I find it interesting that certain people only ever come into threads to have a go... always negative and never positive, it is as if they like to fan the flames.. make it a bit hotter... and then have a giggle while inciting other people.....hmmm

onto the topic

anyway....if new people come in and asks a question they may have been asked at all recently.. so no one answers it... the regs get flamed

if new people come in, ask question and someone points them in the direction of a thread.... the regs get flamed...

if new people come in, get abusive as that person did last night...started a thread called "the site is full of idiots"..people answered back.... the regs get flamed... and newbie gets "there there there" from certain people...

i am sorry... thats bizzare!!

sometimes I thing the regs are damned if they do... and damned if they don't... and if they have the audacity to question a question or a statement... thens its bullying....

so lets go back to my favourite word at the moment......pish!!!

are the forums anymore of a clique then the chatrooms.... hell no... than the socials... hell no..

you are going to gravitate to people you talk to... regardless of what situation you are in.. be that work, pub, or anything in between....

would you expect everyone in a pub who don't know to talk to you your first time in.... no... would you at work... no... so what would any situation in real life and here any different?

so maybe the regs have a part in this.... but then so do the newbies, and that is the thing we forget.....

so maybe they should get a feel for the place before jumping in two footed...

maybe they should read the hints and tips....

maybe they should read the FAQ's.....

it is a two part process.. and those laying the blame on those who may be here the most i think are very unfair...

yes we were all new here once... but good old common sense got us thru that...

maybe the same common sense that knows that 1st post whinges aren't really the way to get yourself known....

that abusive threads aren't going to get you meets....

that you are going to be rightly or wrongly judged on your words because we are not going to have anything else to go on at that stage!!

remember... two way street.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think Archangel has a point. I don't know how people can claim there isn't a clique on here when there is.

I don't think people necessarily have a go at newbies, but some do tend to make their first post a whine - not attractive.

I tend to respond to a post and not look at who has written it. I also tend not to use fluffy wuffy language as usually by the time I've come to post the sugar level on the thread has got to hyperglycemic proportions and insulin is required!

What is funny is the messages I get in my inbox asking me if I've fallen out with so and so. I'm usually clueless to what they're on about until I realise I've disagreed with one of the "regulars" as I've just responded to a post and not looked at who wrote it.

Some people are afraid to voice their opinion as they are so worried people they don't know and will probably never meet will not "like" them: now isn't that a sad state of affairs?!! Some people pack up and go if everyone doesn't say "there, there" at their whine, with the usual "I'm not going to post here ever again".

Everyone's entitled to their opinion, and shouldn't be afraid to voice it. I'd like to think I'm able to put my thoughts across without belittling or offending anyone, but sometimes, with the best will in the world, some people will take offense where none is intended.

My post sounds a bit confusing - even to me - but I know what I mean!