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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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If you arrange a meet too far in advance,do you ever find that, come the night, you actually would rather have a cuddle, cup of tea and a game of Scrabble? Instead you have to be a sexual athlete for at least several hours.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you arrange a meet too far in advance,do you ever find that, come the night, you actually would rather have a cuddle, cup of tea and a game of Scrabble? Instead you have to be a sexual athlete for at least several hours. "
Interesting because I know when my sex drive veers off a little, at certain times of the month.
Timing it is easier for me than your good self.
Can't you be honest and say?
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That's why I don't plan meets.
How will I know if I fancy fucking someone on November 2nd. I might have had a shit day and all I want to do is curl up on the sofa with a book. But I've made plans, so do I cancel or go through with it.
Easier to not plan anything and see how I feel on the night then go down a club if I fancy a shag. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yeah ive had that but would feel bad about canceling or postponing the meet.
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I thought us men always wanted sex...I was wondering whether in my case it's an age thing. I have not had to cancel and, once there, things have been fine when I have 'warmed up'. Women of course can probably predict better. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"If you arrange a meet too far in advance,do you ever find that, come the night, you actually would rather have a cuddle, cup of tea and a game of Scrabble? Instead you have to be a sexual athlete for at least several hours. "
Never happens to me OP I find the anticipation in the build up to the meet a. aphrodisiac   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you arrange a meet too far in advance,do you ever find that, come the night, you actually would rather have a cuddle, cup of tea and a game of Scrabble? Instead you have to be a sexual athlete for at least several hours.
Never happens to me OP I find the anticipation in the build up to the meet a. aphrodisiac "
Judging from most of the replies, it does seem to be more an issue for women! I do love build up messages, and always appreciate them. At the heart of my conundrum is a fundamental conflict between the need to fix times and the ideal to act spontaneously when the desire is there. I have never considered clubs, but I can see the attraction. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"If you arrange a meet too far in advance,do you ever find that, come the night, you actually would rather have a cuddle, cup of tea and a game of Scrabble? Instead you have to be a sexual athlete for at least several hours.
Never happens to me OP I find the anticipation in the build up to the meet a. aphrodisiac
Judging from most of the replies, it does seem to be more an issue for women! I do love build up messages, and always appreciate them. At the heart of my conundrum is a fundamental conflict between the need to fix times and the ideal to act spontaneously when the desire is there. I have never considered clubs, but I can see the attraction."
Interesting OP I struggle in a club environment to impersonal for me .
I find if i take a play partner out for the night making the sex the secondary goal .
the sex is mind blowing as by the time it comes around both of us are in the right frame of mind thanks to a evening in each others company of sparkling conversation and teasing touches . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you arrange a meet too far in advance,do you ever find that, come the night, you actually would rather have a cuddle, cup of tea and a game of Scrabble? Instead you have to be a sexual athlete for at least several hours.
Never happens to me OP I find the anticipation in the build up to the meet a. aphrodisiac
Judging from most of the replies, it does seem to be more an issue for women! I do love build up messages, and always appreciate them. At the heart of my conundrum is a fundamental conflict between the need to fix times and the ideal to act spontaneously when the desire is there. I have never considered clubs, but I can see the attraction."
I find it can be an issue because of everything else going on in life. Sadly life doesn't revolve around sex so the build up sometimes gets lost in work and family life,particularly if I've had a busy or stressful day. I wouldn't have it any other way though. My real everyday life is far more important than sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you arrange a meet too far in advance,do you ever find that, come the night, you actually would rather have a cuddle, cup of tea and a game of Scrabble? Instead you have to be a sexual athlete for at least several hours.
Never happens to me OP I find the anticipation in the build up to the meet a. aphrodisiac
Judging from most of the replies, it does seem to be more an issue for women! I do love build up messages, and always appreciate them. At the heart of my conundrum is a fundamental conflict between the need to fix times and the ideal to act spontaneously when the desire is there. I have never considered clubs, but I can see the attraction.
I find it can be an issue because of everything else going on in life. Sadly life doesn't revolve around sex so the build up sometimes gets lost in work and family life,particularly if I've had a busy or stressful day. I wouldn't have it any other way though. My real everyday life is far more important than sex."
And the trouble is it's because of these life things that meets have to be planned in advance! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you arrange a meet too far in advance,do you ever find that, come the night, you actually would rather have a cuddle, cup of tea and a game of Scrabble? Instead you have to be a sexual athlete for at least several hours.
Never happens to me OP I find the anticipatwwion in the build up to the meet a. aphrodisiac
Judging from most of the replies, it does seem to be more an issue for women! I do love build up messages, and always appreciate them. At the heart of my conundrum is a fundamental conflict between the need to fix times and the ideal to act spontaneously when the desire is there. I have never considered clubs, but I can see the attraction.
Interesting OP I struggle in a club environment to impersonal for me .
I find if i take a play partner out for the night making the sex the secondary goal .
the sex is mind blowing as by the time it comes around both of us are in the right frame of mind thanks to a evening in each others company of sparkling conversation and teasing touches . "
Big dinners can send me to sleep. As does a surfeit of alcohol, not to mention the other effects...! But yes, a light meal, the anticipation building...all good.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If you arrange a meet too far in advance,do you ever find that, come the night, you actually would rather have a cuddle, cup of tea and a game of Scrabble? Instead you have to be a sexual athlete for at least several hours.
Never happens to me OP I find the anticipation in the build up to the meet a. aphrodisiac
Judging from most of the replies, it does seem to be more an issue for women! I do love build up messages, and always appreciate them. At the heart of my conundrum is a fundamental conflict between the need to fix times and the ideal to act spontaneously when the desire is there. I have never considered clubs, but I can see the attraction.
I find it can be an issue because of everything else going on in life. Sadly life doesn't revolve around sex so the build up sometimes gets lost in work and family life,particularly if I've had a busy or stressful day. I wouldn't have it any other way though. My real everyday life is far more important than sex.
And the trouble is it's because of these life things that meets have to be planned in advance! "
Tell about it! I am operating a month ahead at the moment...  |
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