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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'll be the first to admit I'm not the most convincing CD around, but I was a bit taken aback earlier tonight with a friends comments
Its a young lady I've known a few years, we have met up in the past ( platonic) , she now lives a fair distance away and although meeting is improbable, we talk a lot via email
So tonight, I finally told her my CD secret, and she was quite cool about it and asked if I had any photos.So I sent her a few... and she doesn't believe its me! She thinks its either my wife or another girl I'm seeing! I felt quite brave telling her and showing her the pictures, now I feel totally deflated, or should I feel flattered that I've somehow managed to be more 'convincing' than I thought? |
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"I'll be the first to admit I'm not the most convincing CD around, but I was a bit taken aback earlier tonight with a friends comments
Its a young lady I've known a few years, we have met up in the past ( platonic) , she now lives a fair distance away and although meeting is improbable, we talk a lot via email
So tonight, I finally told her my CD secret, and she was quite cool about it and asked if I had any photos.So I sent her a few... and she doesn't believe its me! She thinks its either my wife or another girl I'm seeing! I felt quite brave telling her and showing her the pictures, now I feel totally deflated, or should I feel flattered that I've somehow managed to be more 'convincing' than I thought?"
Yes! Isn't it more important though to talk to her about her reaction and how it made you feel, if she's important/close enough to share this with, then be open and ask her. Good luck OP.  |
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I speak to her regularly on the phone anyway so will maybe get a bit more reaction then.She seemed accepting enough but maybe thinks I'm just winding her up! |
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Its not so much about talking honestly, because I don't see it affecting our relationship, its just that I feel I've made a massive statement to someone I care about and got little more than a shrug in return |
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"I think you should be flattered...
She is comparing you to other women rather than other men who dress as women ...
I'd take that  "
Thanks, the more I think about it, the more I'm coming round to that point of view!
Hopefully when I speak to her, I'll have a bit more clarity as to how she feels about it.Ideally I'd love to surprise her by meeting her when dressed up, but she's in Newcastle lol |
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I think too much emphasis is put upon being so-called convincing. I never wanted to convince anyone of anything - I just wanted to be myself. Allowing others to be themselves is something that I love doing - when we live in a world that tries to convince people to be insecure.
I digress. I'd just let your friend know again that it's you and that you'd like to discuss it by phone conversation - you could always do skype etc instead. She's not fully accepting atm as her way of dealing with it. |
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