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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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The stock answer to posts such as 'who would you like to spend a fun filled date with', and suchlike..but do they?
What if they aren't too sure?
And why not say who it is?
I thought part of the ethos of being a swinger was being open and honest...
Just pondering by the way ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The stock answer to posts such as 'who would you like to spend a fun filled date with', and suchlike..but do they?
What if they aren't too sure?
And why not say who it is?
I thought part of the ethos of being a swinger was being open and honest...
Just pondering by the way ... "
The age old fear of rejection, fear of upsetting someone else by naming another, fear of someone ruling you out based on your other choices, fear of anyone knowing your interactions, fear of being accused of lamp-post pissing, fear of not wanting to admit that you don't want that person that thinks you want them, or not fear but preference for being private with your interactions. Probably. Possibly. Maybe. It's a funny world.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've actually tell the people i fancy. (From the forum). Others don't speak to me. I'm more than confident to say it.
In no particular order the 'single ladies' who make me melt.
Ms Honey
Hanky
Leggy lady.
Lady Lick
Lady Tissington (auto corrects to tossington )
And 3 others in Wales.
The coy' " they already know" is because they do. (Or they do now)  |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"The stock answer to posts such as 'who would you like to spend a fun filled date with', and suchlike..but do they?
What if they aren't too sure?
And why not say who it is?
I thought part of the ethos of being a swinger was being open and honest...
Just pondering by the way ... "
I don't say for one reason I don't want to embarrass my friends on here nor do I want everyone knowing who they are as I'm a married guy cheating in effect and like it or not there is stigma attached to that fact which I'd rather not have my friends on here tarred with .
this reason is also why I say to a lot of people I meet through this site don't veri me, as I don't want the fact you met a married guy to prejudice future meets for them or for the fact they met me to be used against them by a fuckwit they turn down . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The stock answer to posts such as 'who would you like to spend a fun filled date with', and suchlike..but do they?
What if they aren't too sure?
And why not say who it is?
I thought part of the ethos of being a swinger was being open and honest...
Just pondering by the way ...
The age old fear of rejection, fear of upsetting someone else by naming another, fear of someone ruling you out based on your other choices, fear of anyone knowing your interactions, fear of being accused of lamp-post pissing, fear of not wanting to admit that you don't want that person that thinks you want them, or not fear but preference for being private with your interactions. Probably. Possibly. Maybe. It's a funny world. "
It's all a bit immature naming people but that's my view.
Message who you want to get nekkid with.
Simple. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"The stock answer to posts such as 'who would you like to spend a fun filled date with', and suchlike..but do they?
What if they aren't too sure?
And why not say who it is?
I thought part of the ethos of being a swinger was being open and honest...
Just pondering by the way ...
The age old fear of rejection, fear of upsetting someone else by naming another, fear of someone ruling you out based on your other choices, fear of anyone knowing your interactions, fear of being accused of lamp-post pissing, fear of not wanting to admit that you don't want that person that thinks you want them, or not fear but preference for being private with your interactions. Probably. Possibly. Maybe. It's a funny world.
It's all a bit immature naming people but that's my view.
Message who you want to get nekkid with.
Simple. "
Yes. If you are serious about wanting to meet someone, that's what messages are for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fear of rejection I can understand, but still I prefer telling the people I want to have sex with directly, and not in public. I'd rather just not participate in the threads at all. But I'm relatively private like that. I'd be worried if I said "you know who you are" they'd be thinking "oh crap, does she mean me?  "
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"I've actually tell the people i fancy. (From the forum). Others don't speak to me. I'm more than confident to say it.
In no particular order the 'single ladies' who make me melt.
Ms Honey
Hanky
Leggy lady.
Lady Lick
Lady Tissington (auto corrects to tossington )
And 3 others in Wales.
The coy' " they already know" is because they do. (Or they do now) "
You are right - I did indeed know  Thank you for the compliment too x Fancy a coffee!? Its only £2 dontcha know! haha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Those kinds of threads make me uncomfortable, I would join in with them and it was always like a tumble for me, I was like 'hello!' Gave up after a while.
It was like the threads 'whose in your hotlist'. Always the same names popping up and makes me feel a bit 'less appealing' obviously the stunning women are all on the lists but it was like being back at school with those kinds of threads, I sound incredibly jealous don't I, this isn't my intention but I just wish people could be more 'open' about what they actually like instead of being a sheep.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Those kinds of threads make me uncomfortable, I would join in with them and it was always like a tumble for me, I was like 'hello!' Gave up after a while.
It was like the threads 'whose in your hotlist'. Always the same names popping up and makes me feel a bit 'less appealing' obviously the stunning women are all on the lists but it was like being back at school with those kinds of threads, I sound incredibly jealous don't I, this isn't my intention but I just wish people could be more 'open' about what they actually like instead of being a sheep.
G x"
I don't think you sound jealous - I totally agree. I don't participate in those threads, if I drop in to make a sarky comment then sometimes people see you and name you and then it feels awkward if it's someone I've got no interest in whatsoever. Plus they're shit threads, it's just people saying names and others saying thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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all a bit immature naming people but that's my view.
Message who you want to get nekkid with.
Simple. "
If me being immature has brought a smile to these lovely ladies and made them feel good then fine. It's all a little fun.
By the way. Your another. And so is ms Valient, and Rubywoo....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are right - I did indeed know Thank you for the compliment too x Fancy a coffee!? Its only £2 dontcha know! haha "
These coffee prices change throughout the day. I'm undecided what to do now.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree OP, but you know how petty jealousies are - if you name someone publically then you risk alienating those you haven't named. Kind of defeats the object.
There's loads of people I get on really well with on here and would love to meet in some capacity some day, if I listed them all I'd look like a Fab whore!
Easiest solution? Tell them privately rather than publically.
I think many use these threads to circumnavigate filters to be honest |
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"why not say who it is?"
Maybe the person you fancy isn't aware that you like them, also why embarrass both parties. It is ok if you know or have met the person, or for that matter even chatted to them.
Imagine me saying I really fancy you OP, I dare say I don't appear on your radar. So how would you feel about it if I named you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree OP, but you know how petty jealousies are - if you name someone publically then you risk alienating those you haven't named. Kind of defeats the object.
There's loads of people I get on really well with on here and would love to meet in some capacity some day, if I listed them all I'd look like a Fab whore!
Easiest solution? Tell them privately rather than publically.
I think many use these threads to circumnavigate filters to be honest "
Jealousy on a swinging website? I'm new to this but, realy?
Just because I've not named somebody it doesn't mean they are no less of a person than somebody I fancy. If your here, I asume you have cinficence with yourself to understand not everyone will fancy you.
And alienate? If i have already Dine this. What would that change who i fancy or not?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree OP, but you know how petty jealousies are - if you name someone publically then you risk alienating those you haven't named. Kind of defeats the object.
There's loads of people I get on really well with on here and would love to meet in some capacity some day, if I listed them all I'd look like a Fab whore!
Easiest solution? Tell them privately rather than publically.
I think many use these threads to circumnavigate filters to be honest
Jealousy on a swinging website? I'm new to this but, realy?
Just because I've not named somebody it doesn't mean they are no less of a person than somebody I fancy. If your here, I asume you have cinficence with yourself to understand not everyone will fancy you.
And alienate? If i have already Dine this. What would that change who i fancy or not?
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You are new aren't you? Oh yes, jealousy is rife! Trust me on this! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"... why not say who it is?
Fear of rejection? Even worse, in public?
We're all human deep down.
Mr ddc"
If you have fear of rejection, why would you send a message to anyone? Or approach them in a club?
Again like the Op, I ponder this. |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Im old enough and confident enough to know I won't be for everyone, rejection isn't something I fear...
Ipost on some of those type of threads ...the names I generally post are folk I'd like to know better but I'm often excluded by age so I can't directly message them...if they see me and wish to message me they can.
Those I'm within there preferences I'll be communicating directly with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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all a bit immature naming people but that's my view.
Message who you want to get nekkid with.
Simple.
If me being immature has brought a smile to these lovely ladies and made them feel good then fine. It's all a little fun.
By the way. Your another. And so is ms Valient, and Rubywoo....
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you're not Michae Landon are you?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree OP, but you know how petty jealousies are - if you name someone publically then you risk alienating those you haven't named. Kind of defeats the object.
There's loads of people I get on really well with on here and would love to meet in some capacity some day, if I listed them all I'd look like a Fab whore!
Easiest solution? Tell them privately rather than publically.
I think many use these threads to circumnavigate filters to be honest
Jealousy on a swinging website? I'm new to this but, realy?
Just because I've not named somebody it doesn't mean they are no less of a person than somebody I fancy. If your here, I asume you have cinficence with yourself to understand not everyone will fancy you.
And alienate? If i have already Dine this. What would that change who i fancy or not?
You are new aren't you? Oh yes, jealousy is rife! Trust me on this!"
There's also the fact that if you name loads of people, it renders it a bit pointless because you might as well just say "everyone who has posted in this thread". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jealousy towards somebody I have no emotional attachment or relationship to? Again, this makes me wonder.
"I agree OP, but you know how petty jealousies are - if you name someone publically then you risk alienating those you haven't named. Kind of defeats the object.
There's loads of people I get on really well with on here and would love to meet in some capacity some day, if I listed them all I'd look like a Fab whore!
Easiest solution? Tell them privately rather than publically.
I think many use these threads to circumnavigate filters to be honest
Jealousy on a swinging website? I'm new to this but, realy?
Just because I've not named somebody it doesn't mean they are no less of a person than somebody I fancy. If your here, I asume you have cinficence with yourself to understand not everyone will fancy you.
And alienate? If i have already Dine this. What would that change who i fancy or not?
You are new aren't you? Oh yes, jealousy is rife! Trust me on this!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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all a bit immature naming people but that's my view.
Message who you want to get nekkid with.
Simple.
If me being immature has brought a smile to these lovely ladies and made them feel good then fine. It's all a little fun.
By the way. Your another. And so is ms Valient, and Rubywoo....
you're not Michae Landon are you?
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Michael*
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree OP, but you know how petty jealousies are - if you name someone publically then you risk alienating those you haven't named. Kind of defeats the object.
There's loads of people I get on really well with on here and would love to meet in some capacity some day, if I listed them all I'd look like a Fab whore!
Easiest solution? Tell them privately rather than publically.
I think many use these threads to circumnavigate filters to be honest
Jealousy on a swinging website? I'm new to this but, realy?
Just because I've not named somebody it doesn't mean they are no less of a person than somebody I fancy. If your here, I asume you have cinficence with yourself to understand not everyone will fancy you.
And alienate? If i have already Dine this. What would that change who i fancy or not?
You are new aren't you? Oh yes, jealousy is rife! Trust me on this!"
For me it's the cringing not the jealousy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But, I fancy you, it's the way I'm wired. You attract me. Should I not tell you, or is it the norm' to work through the women one at a time, swinging?
All I've done is tell you something innocent and flattering that I think your nice. This 'I fancy you thread is a very good/nice idea, but nobody ever says anything.
It's better than answering on a 'wink, coffee, snog, fuck your back door untill your teeth rattle, avoid thread. Isn't it. Imagine when somebody says 'AVOID,AVOID,AVOID!!! That's pointless.
"I agree OP, but you know how petty jealousies are - if you name someone publically then you risk alienating those you haven't named. Kind of defeats the object.
There's loads of people I get on really well with on here and would love to meet in some capacity some day, if I listed them all I'd look like a Fab whore!
Easiest solution? Tell them privately rather than publically.
I think many use these threads to circumnavigate filters to be honest
Jealousy on a swinging website? I'm new to this but, realy?
Just because I've not named somebody it doesn't mean they are no less of a person than somebody I fancy. If your here, I asume you have cinficence with yourself to understand not everyone will fancy you.
And alienate? If i have already Dine this. What would that change who i fancy or not?
You are new aren't you? Oh yes, jealousy is rife! Trust me on this!
There's also the fact that if you name loads of people, it renders it a bit pointless because you might as well just say "everyone who has posted in this thread". "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jealousy towards somebody I have no emotional attachment or relationship to? Again, this makes me wonder
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I'm with you 100% fella, on a swinging site, it's crazy hey? But it happens. Some spectacular spats on here over the years based on who's talking to who or seen who. Madness!
Believe it or not, even I've been a victim, Mr so fucking average it's unbelievable. Had an ex-Forumite spreading lies and rumour and basically trash talking me just because I'd met a couple of people he liked but they hadn't met him.
FFS hey? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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For me it's the cringing not the jealousy. "
Agreed. If I like someone, I'll message them. The same posters pop up naming the same people so often. Bite the bullet and message them or accept as much as there is an element of public flattery, they aren't as interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Okay I get it. I'll move on I thought the Op had a point.
An apology to the woman I named, your really all ugly as sin.
The women I didn't name are the true beauties on here. They know who they are.
Is that more to the forums pleasure? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Okay I get it. I'll move on I thought the Op had a point.
An apology to the woman I named, your really all ugly as sin.
The women I didn't name are the true beauties on here. They know who they are.
Is that more to the forums pleasure? "
I wouldn't worry about how anyone else operates fella, you post how you see fit 
As will others! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's that fear of treading on someone else's toes especially when you read some of the comments and witness territorial behaviour.
It's all very cloak and dagger as not to upset the apple cart.
Some people are happy to flirt with others on here but ignore the person they have met as not to hurt potential meets feelings. Go figure |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to let them know personally as at least they get to know. The main problem with posting on threads for me is they fly past at a rate of knots so it's possible the compliment gets lost. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think folk just hedge their bets. If they don't name anyone then everyone is fair game. Once you name someone you're kind of committed and other women/men can feel a bit put out.
I don't tell anyone I find them attractive because the last time I did that (on the hot or not threads) I was accused of sending it as a sympathy message. And it wasn't  , but because I obviously wasn't the woman he wanted sending him the message I just scuttled off back under my stone.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a bit of a popularity contest once names start getting named,gets a tad cringey at times.
I suppose if you're specific & name one or two people who don't already know then it does the job. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"But, I fancy you, it's the way I'm wired. You attract me. Should I not tell you, or is it the norm' to work through the women one at a time, swinging?
All I've done is tell you something innocent and flattering that I think your nice. This 'I fancy you thread is a very good/nice idea, but nobody ever says anything.
It's better than answering on a 'wink, coffee, snog, fuck your back door untill your teeth rattle, avoid thread. Isn't it. Imagine when somebody says 'AVOID,AVOID,AVOID!!! That's pointless."
Sure, there's nothing wrong with it and I find those threads equally pointless, but why not just tell me? Why do you have to tell them? |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
Filthy Fuckeryville |
So if you were all to walk into a bar would you flirt with EVERYONE so as not to upset people or would you just flirt with someone you fancy?
I see the forums as place for this as well as plenty other stuff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are usually a -post who you fancy. - who is on your hotlist- thread going around. Nobody ever puts a name down. It's always the answer that the op pointed out. 'They already know' is the usual generic useless answer. of course they do, I messaged them my self and I'm replying privately. So why am I posting that?.
RubyWoo, I fancy you, but I've never messaged you to tell you that as you live miles away, you and I was having an argument with a guy about this yesterday
Here is my opportunity to contribute to the post in a way the op wanted and asked for, at the same time I throw a compliment to a beutifull and strong intelectual woman I think would appreciate it, (it appears I was wrong)
And if any woman/man is jealous or has issues with that, I can't help them can I. But I can't see why.
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It's better than answering on a 'wink, coffee, snog, fuck your back door untill your teeth rattle, avoid thread. Isn't it. Imagine when somebody says 'AVOID,AVOID,AVOID!!! That's pointless.
Sure, there's nothing wrong with it and I find those threads equally pointless, but why not just tell me? Why do you have to tell them?"
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"It's better than answering on a 'wink, coffee, fuck your back door until your teeth rattle thread.
... why not just tell me? "
Blimey, talk about a shameless fishing for "please fuck my back door until my teeth rattle" post... 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So if you were all to walk into a bar would you flirt with EVERYONE so as not to upset people or would you just flirt with someone you fancy?
I see the forums as place for this as well as plenty other stuff "
This isn't real life apparently. I keep having that pointed out to me when I refer to how you act off this site. 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's better than answering on a 'wink, coffee, fuck your back door until your teeth rattle thread.
... why not just tell me?
Blimey, talk about a shameless fishing for "please fuck my back door until my teeth rattle" post...
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I was hoping that would be spotted. I don't like to start threads. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The stock answer to posts such as 'who would you like to spend a fun filled date with', and suchlike..but do they?
What if they aren't too sure?
And why not say who it is?
I thought part of the ethos of being a swinger was being open and honest...
Just pondering by the way ... "
But I thought women were natural mind readers! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are usually a -post who you fancy. - who is on your hotlist- thread going around. Nobody ever puts a name down. It's always the answer that the op pointed out. 'They already know' is the usual generic useless answer. of course they do, I messaged them my self and I'm replying privately. So why am I posting that?.
RubyWoo, I fancy you, but I've never messaged you to tell you that as you live miles away, you and I was having an argument with a guy about this yesterday
Here is my opportunity to contribute to the post in a way the op wanted and asked for, at the same time I throw a compliment to a beutifull and strong intelectual woman I think would appreciate it, (it appears I was wrong)
And if any woman/man is jealous or has issues with that, I can't help them can I. But I can't see why.
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Are you taking the piss? You messaged me to tell me that yesterday. I can absolutely appreciate a compliment, I just think they have more value when stated directly to the person, instead of in front of everyone else.
And don't call me nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's better than answering on a 'wink, coffee, fuck your back door until your teeth rattle thread.
... why not just tell me?
Blimey, talk about a shameless fishing for "please fuck my back door until my teeth rattle" post...
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Oi stop taking me out of context  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry bitch! I meant 'I've never messaged you before yesterday!' I'm not proof reading my posts because I've gone on to long.
There's more value in a private message yes, I completely agree. But in now way have I watered down how much I fancy somebody because I put a name in a post.
"There are usually a -post who you fancy. - who is on your hotlist- thread going around. Nobody ever puts a name down. It's always the answer that the op pointed out. 'They already know' is the usual generic useless answer. of course they do, I messaged them my self and I'm replying privately. So why am I posting that?.
RubyWoo, I fancy you, but I've never messaged you to tell you that as you live miles away, you and I was having an argument with a guy about this yesterday
Here is my opportunity to contribute to the post in a way the op wanted and asked for, at the same time I throw a compliment to a beutifull and strong intelectual woman I think would appreciate it, (it appears I was wrong)
And if any woman/man is jealous or has issues with that, I can't help them can I. But I can't see why.
Are you taking the piss? You messaged me to tell me that yesterday. I can absolutely appreciate a compliment, I just think they have more value when stated directly to the person, instead of in front of everyone else.
And don't call me nice. "
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"It's better than answering on a 'wink, coffee, fuck your back door until your teeth rattle thread.
... why not just tell me?
Blimey, talk about a shameless fishing for "please fuck my back door until my teeth rattle" post...
Oi stop taking me out of context "
{quietly zips up flies and walks away disconsolately hoping no-one noticed}
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even publicly flirting here can be very dangerous. You would think that swingers should be open and honest? You would think that swingers should be adults too, though that is often not the case. Naming people you are attracted too on here, is likely to lead to all sorts of bitching, fighting, mud slinging and all sorts of other nastiness. I'd vastly prefer to keep my private life, private and avoid all the school yard antics that go on with women here. |
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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago
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"It's better than answering on a 'wink, coffee, fuck your back door until your teeth rattle thread.
... why not just tell me?
Blimey, talk about a shameless fishing for "please fuck my back door until my teeth rattle" post...
Oi stop taking me out of context
{quietly zips up flies and walks away disconsolately hoping no-one noticed}
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psssst mr ddc ya zippers broke passes a saftey pin |
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"It's better than answering on a 'wink, coffee, fuck your back door until your teeth rattle thread.
... why not just tell me?
Blimey, talk about a shameless fishing for "please fuck my back door until my teeth rattle" post...
Oi stop taking me out of context
{quietly zips up flies and walks away disconsolately hoping no-one noticed}
psssst mr ddc ya zippers broke passes a saftey pin"
. For fecks sake vodds, a safety pin, watch yourself there mr ddc, ( he had Mrs ddc tied up, getting her into the fet scene for the forum challenge, I think she liked ) Mrs ddc, step away from the safety pin and mr ddc's bollocks Mrs blue eyes |
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"Even publicly flirting here can be very dangerous. You would think that swingers should be open and honest? You would think that swingers should be adults too, though that is often not the case. Naming people you are attracted too on here, is likely to lead to all sorts of bitching, fighting, mud slinging and all sorts of other nastiness. I'd vastly prefer to keep my private life, private and avoid all the school yard antics that go on with women here. "
You'd think so.... |
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By *oddyWoman
over a year ago
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"It's better than answering on a 'wink, coffee, fuck your back door until your teeth rattle thread.
... why not just tell me?
Blimey, talk about a shameless fishing for "please fuck my back door until my teeth rattle" post...
Oi stop taking me out of context
{quietly zips up flies and walks away disconsolately hoping no-one noticed}
psssst mr ddc ya zippers broke passes a saftey pin. For fecks sake vodds, a safety pin, watch yourself there mr ddc, ( he had Mrs ddc tied up, getting her into the fet scene for the forum challenge, I think she liked ) Mrs ddc, step away from the safety pin and mr ddc's bollocks Mrs blue eyes "
its ok mrs BE i used a nappy pin and didnt prick his bollocks mind you i would have made them better if i had |
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"Even publicly flirting here can be very dangerous. You would think that swingers should be open and honest? You would think that swingers should be adults too, though that is often not the case. Naming people you are attracted too on here, is likely to lead to all sorts of bitching, fighting, mud slinging and all sorts of other nastiness. I'd vastly prefer to keep my private life, private and avoid all the school yard antics that go on with women here. "
Or so you would think |
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"The stock answer to posts such as 'who would you like to spend a fun filled date with', and suchlike..but do they?
What if they aren't too sure?
And why not say who it is?
I thought part of the ethos of being a swinger was being open and honest...
Just pondering by the way ...
But I thought women were natural mind readers!"
What about the men?? |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
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"So if you were all to walk into a bar would you flirt with EVERYONE so as not to upset people or would you just flirt with someone you fancy?
I see the forums as place for this as well as plenty other stuff
This isn't real life apparently. I keep having that pointed out to me when I refer to how you act off this site.
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My hair apparently isn't like real life so maybe I am not either!? (come bugger in chat asked me if it was a wig! ) |
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i have noticed its something that men do more than women, especially the threads that name someone specifically..
maybe, as already mentioned, people do it in order to get around filters or blocks even idk |
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In all honesty, as a newbie, those threads are a bit cliquey. It appears to be the same people expressing interest in a person they did it to on a previous thread.
Please don't come for me with your pitchforks... |
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"In all honesty, as a newbie, those threads are a bit cliquey. It appears to be the same people expressing interest in a person they did it to on a previous thread.
Please don't come for me with your pitchforks... "
Erm it kinda is.
Pitchforks will be along soon.
Can you smell burning? |
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"In all honesty, as a newbie, those threads are a bit cliquey. It appears to be the same people expressing interest in a person they did it to on a previous thread.
Please don't come for me with your pitchforks...
Erm it kinda is.
Pitchforks will be along soon.
Can you smell burning? "
did you forget yours?  |
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"i have noticed its something that men do more than women, especially the threads that name someone specifically..
maybe, as already mentioned, people do it in order to get around filters or blocks even idk "
I rarely meet, for a number of reasons, so it's playful fun and morale boosting attention-seeking when I do it. Idiot that I am. |
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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago
Just where I need to be. |
Most post on the threads just to get their name mentioned.So would just say they know who they are, hoping to get a mention. The flirty, always on forums and ass kissing posters will always be mentioned. Right off to reread think before you type. |
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"In all honesty, as a newbie, those threads are a bit cliquey. It appears to be the same people expressing interest in a person they did it to on a previous thread.
Please don't come for me with your pitchforks... "
I agree with this - I'm no newbie but I worry that it's offputting and a bit unwelcoming to newer posters. |
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"The stock answer to posts such as 'who would you like to spend a fun filled date with', and suchlike..but do they?
What if they aren't too sure?
And why not say who it is?
I thought part of the ethos of being a swinger was being open and honest...
Just pondering by the way ...
The age old fear of rejection, fear of upsetting someone else by naming another, fear of someone ruling you out based on your other choices, fear of anyone knowing your interactions, fear of being accused of lamp-post pissing, fear of not wanting to admit that you don't want that person that thinks you want them, or not fear but preference for being private with your interactions. Probably. Possibly. Maybe. It's a funny world. "
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"In all honesty, as a newbie, those threads are a bit cliquey. It appears to be the same people expressing interest in a person they did it to on a previous thread.
Please don't come for me with your pitchforks...
Erm it kinda is.
Pitchforks will be along soon.
Can you smell burning?
did you forget yours? "
No. I was hoping you'd bring two. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Are we actually allowed to name people on a forum or is it just etiquette?
There is one lovely lovely lady I would love to meet. She is on this thread too. She probably doesnt have a clue |
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Lady Tissington (auto corrects to tossington )"
I like that autocorrect
I like seeing who's up who's bum. Makes it much easier to see white knighting in context. |
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"In all honesty, as a newbie, those threads are a bit cliquey. It appears to be the same people expressing interest in a person they did it to on a previous thread.
Please don't come for me with your pitchforks... "
I agree with you. The trouble is some people when they're caught up in it all don't see it that way.
Keep posting & do what I do, drop random comments in until someone notices. I sometimes play a little game to see how many I get in before someone comments.
I am sane I promise you |
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"In all honesty, as a newbie, those threads are a bit cliquey. It appears to be the same people expressing interest in a person they did it to on a previous thread.
Please don't come for me with your pitchforks...
I agree with you. The trouble is some people when they're caught up in it all don't see it that way.
Keep posting & do what I do, drop random comments in until someone notices. I sometimes play a little game to see how many I get in before someone comments.
I am sane I promise you "
Haha, I'm going to look out for these now... |
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"In all honesty, as a newbie, those threads are a bit cliquey. It appears to be the same people expressing interest in a person they did it to on a previous thread.
Please don't come for me with your pitchforks... "
Spot on, its hard enough trying to join in ,but being ignored aswell doesn't help a newbie unfortunately |
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"In all honesty, as a newbie, those threads are a bit cliquey. It appears to be the same people expressing interest in a person they did it to on a previous thread.
Please don't come for me with your pitchforks...
Spot on, its hard enough trying to join in ,but being ignored aswell doesn't help a newbie unfortunately "
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"In all honesty, as a newbie, those threads are a bit cliquey. It appears to be the same people expressing interest in a person they did it to on a previous thread.
Please don't come for me with your pitchforks...
Spot on, its hard enough trying to join in ,but being ignored aswell doesn't help a newbie unfortunately "
We'll all be newbies together! |
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"In all honesty, as a newbie, those threads are a bit cliquey. It appears to be the same people expressing interest in a person they did it to on a previous thread.
Please don't come for me with your pitchforks...
I agree with you. The trouble is some people when they're caught up in it all don't see it that way.
Keep posting & do what I do, drop random comments in until someone notices. I sometimes play a little game to see how many I get in before someone comments.
I am sane I promise you "
I like to think I spot the freshers |
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For me it's the cringing not the jealousy.
Agreed. If I like someone, I'll message them. The same posters pop up naming the same people so often. Bite the bullet and message them or accept as much as there is an element of public flattery, they aren't as interested. "
they probably do message them, but I think sometimes when they name them it's sometimes territory marking |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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For me it's the cringing not the jealousy.
Agreed. If I like someone, I'll message them. The same posters pop up naming the same people so often. Bite the bullet and message them or accept as much as there is an element of public flattery, they aren't as interested. they probably do message them, but I think sometimes when they name them it's sometimes territory marking "
oh so true and rather pathetic in my opinion |
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