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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some time ago there was a thread about first loves. I put a comment on about a girl called Katherine. I hadn't really thought about much over the years as I got married , kids , divorce ! But she sometimes crossed my mind. So I thought I would try to see what she was up to. I did the usual searching. Facebook , twitter , etc. No luck at all. Then last weekend I went to Sunday lunch with my daughter and she happened to ask if her mum was my first love. I was honest and told her no and talked about this long lost love in the early 80s. Thought nothing more about it. Just a nice conversation between father and daughter. Then a few nights ago she told me she had found her. She to is divorced and living back in the UK and said that I should get in touch. Now I'm not looking for advice as I know sometime soon I will....but I wonder if we have changed so much that those teenage days should just remain as a memory ? |
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Go for it, there's no harm in getting in touch, it may re-kindle something it may not. Just go in aiming to reconnect as friends and what will be will be my friend.
Good luck, let us know how you get on. |
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I met my first proper love at the age of 36 sadly it ended I wish it had turned out differently as I didn't know what love really was until I met him...I'm a hopeless romantic so I would say go for it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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this happened to a girl mate at work recently - he found her on fb and they met up and went for a meal and a drink or few- they still had loads in common but never going to be more than friends now - so yeah go for it nowt to lose |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You won't know till you try. People who have stayed together still change. It's whether you can adapt to those changes. Go find out!  "
I agree with this, you have to give it a chance. |
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I've met up with my first love as a result of facebook, there was a bit of the old spark there but she hadn't really changed and I'd moved on so although I'd have shagged her, it just didn't seem right, we remain friends and that's all it'll ever be.
Was worth finding out though as prior to that I'd held a candle for her for years so glad I could get some closure there. |
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By *annooWoman
over a year ago
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"This story made me smile. Go find out, you never know.
Sure some things are best left in the past; but on this I would take the plunge. At the very least it might rekindle a friendship."
Totally agree with this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go for it chap; the worst that can happen? Well is there a worst?
You reminisce, you recall your youth (never a bad thing), you find out what happened to others in your social circle, you reconnect with a part of yourself and a friend.
The only thing I would caution is managing expectations; go with the right mindset... catching up, reconnecting, reminiscing.... and then who knows..... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Well I bit the bullet and sent her an email with my number. 10 minutes later Katherine rang. We chatted for a couple of hours. Catching up and reminiscing. Like myself she is divorced. Like me she has two children. She named her eldest son James after me. Although she never told her then husband. She looked me up a few times but never had the courage to make contact. She told me that her ex use to knock her about and she often day dreamed about what might have been if her parents had never moved to New Zealand.
So next weekend we are meeting up for in London for dinner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I bit the bullet and sent her an email with my number. 10 minutes later Katherine rang. We chatted for a couple of hours. Catching up and reminiscing. Like myself she is divorced. Like me she has two children. She named her eldest son James after me. Although she never told her then husband. She looked me up a few times but never had the courage to make contact. She told me that her ex use to knock her about and she often day dreamed about what might have been if her parents had never moved to New Zealand.
So next weekend we are meeting up for in London for dinner."
I got goosebumps at the bit where you said she named her son after you. Good luck |
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"Well I bit the bullet and sent her an email with my number. 10 minutes later Katherine rang. We chatted for a couple of hours. Catching up and reminiscing. Like myself she is divorced. Like me she has two children. She named her eldest son James after me. Although she never told her then husband. She looked me up a few times but never had the courage to make contact. She told me that her ex use to knock her about and she often day dreamed about what might have been if her parents had never moved to New Zealand.
So next weekend we are meeting up for in London for dinner."
Good for you , have a great time but take it slow xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Then last weekend I went to Sunday lunch with my daughter and she happened to ask if her mum was my first love. I was honest and told her no "
^ lulz.
...lie dude....lie... you broke your own daughters heart. 
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"Well I bit the bullet and sent her an email with my number. 10 minutes later Katherine rang. We chatted for a couple of hours. Catching up and reminiscing. Like myself she is divorced. Like me she has two children. She named her eldest son James after me. Although she never told her then husband. She looked me up a few times but never had the courage to make contact. She told me that her ex use to knock her about and she often day dreamed about what might have been if her parents had never moved to New Zealand.
So next weekend we are meeting up for in London for dinner."
Yay!!! I'd say that was a result!! I got goosebumps at the bit where she named her son after you too. Hope dinner goes well. |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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"Well I bit the bullet and sent her an email with my number. 10 minutes later Katherine rang. We chatted for a couple of hours. Catching up and reminiscing. Like myself she is divorced. Like me she has two children. She named her eldest son James after me. Although she never told her then husband. She looked me up a few times but never had the courage to make contact. She told me that her ex use to knock her about and she often day dreamed about what might have been if her parents had never moved to New Zealand.
So next weekend we are meeting up for in London for dinner."
Aww I love this!! Good luck. And how amazing is your daughter. You must be very proud xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well...I couldn't help myself so I rang her an hour ago. I asked if she was busy tonight. She said she wasn't and so in about ... Oh 5 minutes I'm driving down to North London to see her. No flowers , no chocolates. Just me. |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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"Well...I couldn't help myself so I rang her an hour ago. I asked if she was busy tonight. She said she wasn't and so in about ... Oh 5 minutes I'm driving down to North London to see her. No flowers , no chocolates. Just me."
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"Well...I couldn't help myself so I rang her an hour ago. I asked if she was busy tonight. She said she wasn't and so in about ... Oh 5 minutes I'm driving down to North London to see her. No flowers , no chocolates. Just me."
Well done you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Contact her if you can! I lost contact with my first real love 26 years before we found one another again! Both of us had married, had kids and divorced. We are now 6 years into our relationship and 4 months newly weds! I e never been happier |
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No reply from OP since, so either going really well or a bit heart broken....
Hope...as we all do that all is going fabulous, laughs, smiles and the eye contact that....well the eye contact that was there when they first met |
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"It's sweet that your daughter looked her up for you."
That's exactly what I was thinking.
You have your daughter's blessing as it were and as everyone else says, nothing to lose.
I've known people have this happen and they ended up married so who knows how it may turn out.
But to miss the opportunity might play on your mind more, so take it |
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"Well...I couldn't help myself so I rang her an hour ago. I asked if she was busy tonight. She said she wasn't and so in about ... Oh 5 minutes I'm driving down to North London to see her. No flowers , no chocolates. Just me."
Ooo I missed this bit, hope it's working out for you OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It was during my nightclubbing phase back in the 80's. I was an arsehole and treated her like shit, then was broken hearted when I got dumped.
Served me fucking right! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Well I'm just home from London. It went wonderfully. Katherine was just as I remember her. Yes older but still the same girl. When I knocked on the door I admit I was very... Very nervous but that just disappeared once I saw her again. We chatted the night away. Caught up on our lives. Then at some point we both fell asleep on her sofa. I woke up to find her snuggled up to me. I asked why she didn't just get herself to bed. She replied that she was scared I might be gone in the morning and just wanted to be near me. So we had breakfast and then ww kissed properly for the first time in over 30 years. She kissed as I remembered. Then made love. Not the fubblings of two teenagers but two adults who wanted to be close. We agreed to see each other again and so next weekend she is coming here....I better tidy up ! |
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"Well I'm just home from London. It went wonderfully. Katherine was just as I remember her. Yes older but still the same girl. When I knocked on the door I admit I was very... Very nervous but that just disappeared once I saw her again. We chatted the night away. Caught up on our lives. Then at some point we both fell asleep on her sofa. I woke up to find her snuggled up to me. I asked why she didn't just get herself to bed. She replied that she was scared I might be gone in the morning and just wanted to be near me. So we had breakfast and then ww kissed properly for the first time in over 30 years. She kissed as I remembered. Then made love. Not the fubblings of two teenagers but two adults who wanted to be close. We agreed to see each other again and so next weekend she is coming here....I better tidy up !"
Wow such a great story
It sounds like there's great potential there. Hope it all works out for you OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I'm just home from London. It went wonderfully. Katherine was just as I remember her. Yes older but still the same girl. When I knocked on the door I admit I was very... Very nervous but that just disappeared once I saw her again. We chatted the night away. Caught up on our lives. Then at some point we both fell asleep on her sofa. I woke up to find her snuggled up to me. I asked why she didn't just get herself to bed. She replied that she was scared I might be gone in the morning and just wanted to be near me. So we had breakfast and then ww kissed properly for the first time in over 30 years. She kissed as I remembered. Then made love. Not the fubblings of two teenagers but two adults who wanted to be close. We agreed to see each other again and so next weekend she is coming here....I better tidy up !"
That's wonderful. Hope it works out for you both.
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"Awwww, that is so lovely!!! I'm a soppy git and love a happy ending.
Now get your marigolds on and the hoover out (to clean)!!!"
Glad you cleared that up with (to clean) I was thinking of a new feature involving a hoover as an extra coathanger.. hehe only kidding. |
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"Well I'm just home from London. It went wonderfully. Katherine was just as I remember her. Yes older but still the same girl. When I knocked on the door I admit I was very... Very nervous but that just disappeared once I saw her again. We chatted the night away. Caught up on our lives. Then at some point we both fell asleep on her sofa. I woke up to find her snuggled up to me. I asked why she didn't just get herself to bed. She replied that she was scared I might be gone in the morning and just wanted to be near me. So we had breakfast and then ww kissed properly for the first time in over 30 years. She kissed as I remembered. Then made love. Not the fubblings of two teenagers but two adults who wanted to be close. We agreed to see each other again and so next weekend she is coming here....I better tidy up !"
Fabulous! I wish you the best of luck, I wish mine was free I would love to see him again! |
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"There is hope for us all I doubt I will get back with my first ever love "
Me neither, time has moved on. My first love was actually unrequited as I never told her. My first proper love married a few years after we drifted apart.
I was really pleased for her and hope she is still happy x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I'm just home from London. It went wonderfully. Katherine was just as I remember her. Yes older but still the same girl. When I knocked on the door I admit I was very... Very nervous but that just disappeared once I saw her again. We chatted the night away. Caught up on our lives. Then at some point we both fell asleep on her sofa. I woke up to find her snuggled up to me. I asked why she didn't just get herself to bed. She replied that she was scared I might be gone in the morning and just wanted to be near me. So we had breakfast and then ww kissed properly for the first time in over 30 years. She kissed as I remembered. Then made love. Not the fubblings of two teenagers but two adults who wanted to be close. We agreed to see each other again and so next weekend she is coming here....I better tidy up !"
Beautiful |
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