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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"Possibly more people comfortable being more open about it? Especially with the legalisation of gay marriage I think as a whole we're becoming a more open society."
and Fabswingers may soon catch up  |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
"Possibly more people comfortable being more open about it? Especially with the legalisation of gay marriage I think as a whole we're becoming a more open society.
and Fabswingers may soon catch up "
actually, the swinging community rather than Fabswingers |
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over a year ago
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"Possibly more people comfortable being more open about it? Especially with the legalisation of gay marriage I think as a whole we're becoming a more open society.
and Fabswingers may soon catch up "
only the fab straight one's maybe   |
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"Because it's "Trendy" to say you are, even of you are not. Pretty much like here.
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I think the opposite here I got loads of attention from so called straight guys ,so I think especially with guys it's still awkward for them to say there bi curious or bi  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because it's "Trendy" to say you are, even of you are not. Pretty much like here.
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I think the opposite here I got loads of attention from so called straight guys ,so I think especially with guys it's still awkward for them to say there bi curious or bi "
or just
Gay I'm not judging (people should just come out and stop sitting on the fence)the gays themself Disapprove of this immoral behavior |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Because it's "Trendy" to say you are, even of you are not. Pretty much like here.
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Try announcing you are bi to people and see how hip and trendy you feel  "
What makes you think I haven't?, all my family, most of my friends & work collegues, i've known i've been bi since I was 11 active since 15 and if I add up the years I spent in sole ff or fff relationships they pretty Much match the 14yrs I've been with S.
I only made the comment as I do not think there are any more or less bi guys & girls around, maybe the figures do show that it might be more accepted so people are happier to say so, but our experience so far on here also tells me that what I said applies to some as well.
I do however understand that the average heterosexual trog will go "cool" when a girl says they are bi & "Urgh" when a guy does the same..So my experience as a female will be different to yours as a male & possibly much different to a lot of other fems because of the life choices I have made, basically being pagan & fae, where people are far more open and accepting of others & their sexuality..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people in general are coming round to the idea that sexuality is more of a sliding scale, as opposed to black and white (and bi people being plonked right in the middle as grey). I like both men and women, but if i had to put myself on a scale from 0 to 100, with 0 being straight & only being attracted to men, 100 being women, and 50 being equally attracted to each gender... I'd probably be around 35-40. I enjoy both but have a slight preference for cock . I think people are realising you can "experiment" without being forced into a category. On a more romantic note, I've always loved the concept that we fall in love with the person, with their soul, not their genitals.
And on a completely different note, the statistics are probably skewed by the massive amount of young women who now find themselves going through a "bi phase", often to attract men and not for their own pleasure at all.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before I joined fab i'd of said that women had a greater propensity to be bisexual than men.
I've known a number of women before i joined fab that were bi, but even tho i knew gay men i couldnt really say i knew any bi men.
It was some what of a shock then, after joining fab and reading the forums and getting messages from guys. The amount of bi guys that were really out there.
We live in a society that is very much not ok with bi/gay men and I think a lot of guys hide their inclinations.
The anonymity of the internet gives them confidence to reach out and try and meet other people with the same preferences |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Before I joined fab i'd of said that women had a greater propensity to be bisexual than men.
I've known a number of women before i joined fab that were bi, but even tho i knew gay men i couldnt really say i knew any bi men.
It was some what of a shock then, after joining fab and reading the forums and getting messages from guys. The amount of bi guys that were really out there.
We live in a society that is very much not ok with bi/gay men and I think a lot of guys hide their inclinations.
The anonymity of the internet gives them confidence to reach out and try and meet other people with the same preferences "
well Teresa appreciates all the Tory leader she said in her broadcast  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there's a lot more opportunity for people to explore their sexuality these days and a lot of people are more open minded too.
If you'd asked me 5 years ago I'd have said I was straight (although I was probably more bi-curious) yet today I'm bisexual and have dated women as well as men. It's through sites like this one that I've been able to meet people and experiment, and at the risk of sounding cheesy I've 'found myself' without even knowing I was lost. Maybe other people are doing the same thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because it's "Trendy" to say you are, even of you are not. Pretty much like here.
H
I think the opposite here I got loads of attention from so called straight guys ,so I think especially with guys it's still awkward for them to say there bi curious or bi or just
Gay I'm not judging (people should just come out and stop sitting on the fence)the gays themself Disapprove of this immoral behavior"
Being bi isn't "sitting on the fence", it's being bi |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There's bi and then there is bi.
I am up for fun with a guy, but no way do i want to kiss, hug, cuddle or date a bloke.
Weird as it sounds. I also think anal sex is a dodgy subject for bi people. It's not for me, but it is a way of cross infecting! |
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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago
A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain |
I could be wrong, but I noticed a decided upswing of fluid sexuality in the 90's with the Chemical Generation. People, & in particular men, reassessed the importance they placed on certain attitudes including sexuality.
The advance of the Internet & technology has also made hooking up with others far easier from the comfort of your own home, on the move & in general terms.
Society has also made it's advances with the advent of Civil Ceremonies & Gay Marriage, so on the whole the younger generation have become more accustomed to being with the same sex as the norm.
Perhaps the fact that today younger folk have less opportunity to have their own home & remain longer with their parents has affected things too. So they find it easier to hook up at someone else's than at home.
There's a host of other factors probably come into play too, but I still think there's a long way to go before everyone is completely at ease with people being Bi or Gay, & some sections will always find it abhorrent or against their institutionalised thinking, rather than the truth of the matter being that sexuality is a fluid scale for the majority of us. |
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There are some ignorant comments on this thread that shows you exactly why it's so tricky for men to come out as bi.
I know loads of bi guys, only one of them is out. Women's fluid sexuality is far more accepted. Men are supposed to choose, gay or straight. Pick a side and don't slide between the two  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm happy to be bi on here and with Redhead but i would never out myself in my greater life. it makes no odds to my work colleagues what I do or with whom so they don't need to know and to the person on the street it makes little odds. Simply put; the way that society and straight men treat and _iew bi men is enough to keep me quiet for a very long time
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I felt obliged to put bi on my profile because I enjoyed a woman, sexually.
Although, when I had straight on my profile and made a comment about liking pussy and enjoying licking them, not one person rushed to my profile to out me. Which is what happens very often to men on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I felt obliged to put bi on my profile because I enjoyed a woman, sexually.
Although, when I had straight on my profile and made a comment about liking pussy and enjoying licking them, not one person rushed to my profile to out me. Which is what happens very often to men on here. "
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I agree entirely with Random. I was a teenager in the 90's and it was very much a more accepting generation of sexuality, I found group sex with men and women to be a very exciting and liberating activity and thoroughly enjoyed partying in this scene.
A very good gay friend of mine always said that homophobic men were just confused about their sexuality and so used homophobia as a way to deflect attention from their desire for sexual contact with men.
I prefer women to men, but it's more about the person/people than their gender.
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"I agree entirely with Random. I was a teenager in the 90's and it was very much a more accepting generation of sexuality, I found group sex with men and women to be a very exciting and liberating activity and thoroughly enjoyed partying in this scene.
A very good gay friend of mine always said that homophobic men were just confused about their sexuality and so used homophobia as a way to deflect attention from their desire for sexual contact with men.
I prefer women to men, but it's more about the person/people than their gender.
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Morgan Freeman said 'homophobia isnt a fear, you're just an asshole'
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm openly bi and everyone knows. It's a non issue for me."
My family knows, the important people in my life know and if anyone asked I would be honest
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"I've heard about this whole "fab straight" thing, can someone please explain in more detail. "
Ok...
Straight straight is a line drawn with a sharp new pencil and a ruler.
Fab straight is a line drawn by hand, using a blunt pencil.
The lines are blurred. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Surely you're born with your sexuality and according to Kinsey no one is 100% straight most are about 70/30
Not true"
Exactly. My bisexuality is born purely from boredom and being a pervert. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"Surely you're born with your sexuality and according to Kinsey no one is 100% straight most are about 70/30
Not true
Exactly. My bisexuality is born purely from boredom and being a pervert. "
And being greedy! |
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"Surely you're born with your sexuality and according to Kinsey no one is 100% straight most are about 70/30
Not true
Exactly. My bisexuality is born purely from boredom and being a pervert.
And being greedy! "
Being greedy. Best answer |
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"I could be wrong, but I noticed a decided upswing of fluid sexuality in the 90's with the Chemical Generation. People, & in particular men, reassessed the importance they placed on certain attitudes including sexuality.
The advance of the Internet & technology has also made hooking up with others far easier from the comfort of your own home, on the move & in general terms.
Society has also made it's advances with the advent of Civil Ceremonies & Gay Marriage, so on the whole the younger generation have become more accustomed to being with the same sex as the norm.
Perhaps the fact that today younger folk have less opportunity to have their own home & remain longer with their parents has affected things too. So they find it easier to hook up at someone else's than at home.
There's a host of other factors probably come into play too, but I still think there's a long way to go before everyone is completely at ease with people being Bi or Gay, & some sections will always find it abhorrent or against their institutionalised thinking, rather than the truth of the matter being that sexuality is a fluid scale for the majority of us. "
A considered reply but I still think it wide of the mark.
Kinsey quoted "10% of people are gay". According to the ONS in 2015 in the UK, 1.5% of people identified as gay, bi or lesbian.
This rises to 2% amongst 15-24 yr olds (where our rise in numbers presumably stems) and the figure is between 2.7/3% in London.
But over-all the figures are small.
There have been some recent milestones (if you really want to do what straight people do and get married) but it's lip service by the Conservative Party - their Clause 4 moment, if you will.
But as legislation in other areas of the law, notably gender equality or black rights, it's it's not enough to make a law and think everything's gonna be fine now...
But, just on a personal note of acceptance, I've had more shit from gay men about being bi than I ever had from straight people |
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"Surely you're born with your sexuality and according to Kinsey no one is 100% straight most are about 70/30
Not true
Exactly. My bisexuality is born purely from boredom and being a pervert.
And being greedy! "
Yeah but I'm not. Most men are cunts. I haven't met one for about 2 years. And that was an MMF. Most guys on here think me sucking them off in a car is what I'm here for, well think again. It's all horny married "straight" guys. I hope they catch something. |
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"I could be wrong, but I noticed a decided upswing of fluid sexuality in the 90's with the Chemical Generation. People, & in particular men, reassessed the importance they placed on certain attitudes including sexuality.
The advance of the Internet & technology has also made hooking up with others far easier from the comfort of your own home, on the move & in general terms.
Society has also made it's advances with the advent of Civil Ceremonies & Gay Marriage, so on the whole the younger generation have become more accustomed to being with the same sex as the norm.
Perhaps the fact that today younger folk have less opportunity to have their own home & remain longer with their parents has affected things too. So they find it easier to hook up at someone else's than at home.
There's a host of other factors probably come into play too, but I still think there's a long way to go before everyone is completely at ease with people being Bi or Gay, & some sections will always find it abhorrent or against their institutionalised thinking, rather than the truth of the matter being that sexuality is a fluid scale for the majority of us.
A considered reply but I still think it wide of the mark.
Kinsey quoted "10% of people are gay". According to the ONS in 2015 in the UK, 1.5% of people identified as gay, bi or lesbian.
This rises to 2% amongst 15-24 yr olds (where our rise in numbers presumably stems) and the figure is between 2.7/3% in London.
But over-all the figures are small.
There have been some recent milestones (if you really want to do what straight people do and get married) but it's lip service by the Conservative Party - their Clause 4 moment, if you will.
But as legislation in other areas of the law, notably gender equality or black rights, it's it's not enough to make a law and think everything's gonna be fine now...
But, just on a personal note of acceptance, I've had more shit from gay men about being bi than I ever had from straight people "
Most of the lesbians I've ever met who knew Im bu have been the same. One stranger online once referred to me as 'half a lesbo' which was very endearing
I do feel for bi guys more though, that's a tough gig you lot have |
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" Just listening to LBC and they are having a discussion about why in the last 3yrs in a poll being bi has risen by 45% ,is this due to more tolerant society ? ,discuss xx "
I wasn't asked in this poll, as I'm sure a vast majority on here and over the uk were not asked. Therefore, the results can't really be treated as accurate, not this time nor last time, so any increases are strictly in the group which was polled. |
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Then its how does the individual define bisexuality?
Go in town any weekend and see girls snogging girls...if asked "im not bi, its just fun" so lipstick lovers?
Does thinking about acts with the same sex define as bi? Or is it actually doing the act?
Terms are always very black and white, straight, bi, gay, ect ect....there are various shades of grey though....where do they fall in it all?
Personally why cant people just be themsevles without worrying about what label do they fall under |
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"Then its how does the individual define bisexuality?
Go in town any weekend and see girls snogging girls...if asked "im not bi, its just fun" so lipstick lovers?
Does thinking about acts with the same sex define as bi? Or is it actually doing the act?
Terms are always very black and white, straight, bi, gay, ect ect....there are various shades of grey though....where do they fall in it all?
Personally why cant people just be themsevles without worrying about what label do they fall under"
I had years of not knowing what the hell I was. I was curious but afraid to experiment, then convinced myself I was wrong, then experimented and freaked out, then played with girls in group scenarios, then finally on my own with a girl, but still didn't really class myself as bi. I thought I was still curious or just messing around.
Wasn't til I realised I had a 'type' that I told myself I was actually bi, and about a year later I told some of my family and friends. Up until then if someone had asked me my sexuality I'd have said straight probably |
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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago
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"Straight people love to pigeonhole people "
Joe, stop giving the hetties a hard time & generalising as if they're all the same.
(Does that count as a gay guy giving you a hard time? If not... oh & you're a bit of a c@#[ too.) |
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