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Is no reply a cardinal sin?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've not been here long, yet already noticed that if I don't reply to a message it's seen in a bad light.
Apparently I thought a guy was ugly, not sure why he assumed that.
Had a hex put on me that I'd be fucked up by a guy for my rudeness.
Yet when I quoted the FAQ that no reply just meant not interested, that was wrong too in their eyes. Does everyone want a no thanks reply? How does that differ.
Seems you can't win, whatever you do. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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why try and win..... just do what you feel is right.
it's nice to reply but there are people who will want to know 'why'...... spare yourself the drama and reply and block |
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By *lla_maiWoman
over a year ago
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Either way you cant win replying or not.
Some will take a no reply as a no thanks, others will pester if you dont. Same as if you do reply saying no thankssome will appreciate it, yest from others you may get abuse for saying it. Ive learnt that saying often causes less trouble but thats only my opinion.
Dont take it to heart and do what you think is best |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes if you reply, it opens communication, even if you just say that you're only browsing and not looking to play just now.
I'd ignore and block if they message you multiple times. I'm a newbie here too! (Waves) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A no reply a respect. I respect the woman even more if they do reply and say no. I find that to be very polite. I like polite.
But that's me. I'm not angry if they delete without replying. That's their prerogative.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sometimes if you reply, it opens communication, even if you just say that you're only browsing and not looking to play just now.
I'd ignore and block if they message you multiple times. I'm a newbie here too! (Waves)"
Waves back.  |
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I prefer a polite reply even if it's a no thank you... i'm never rude back unless folk are rude to me. If folk just delete message and not reply i often block their profile as it saves me seeing them again. I sometimes forget who ive contacted before so it's better if i dont see them again.
It used to piss me off when folk dont reply as i think it is good manners...unfortunately too many folk dont have such manners and i dont have the time or inclination to rebuke their oversight 
However a nice reply will always have my thanks   xx |
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By *GHertsCouple
over a year ago
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We don't reply to messages that have obviously had no effort put into them at all - the ones that are one liners saying "hi fancy meeting" or similar.
Where the sender has obviously taken the time to read our profile and string together something at least half decent but we're not interested in taking things further, we always reply with a polite "Thanks for your message but we're not looking to take things further. Good luck and happy Fabbing" - which being a closed statement discourages further messages.
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Having seen the multitude of men that inhabit the chat rooms here I always figure when I message that I will be lucky to get any response. I know that I am not everyone's cup of tea. That said have had some really pleasant messages and chats in my time here so far. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"I've not been here long, yet already noticed that if I don't reply to a message it's seen in a bad light.
Apparently I thought a guy was ugly, not sure why he assumed that.
Had a hex put on me that I'd be fucked up by a guy for my rudeness.
Yet when I quoted the FAQ that no reply just meant not interested, that was wrong too in their eyes. Does everyone want a no thanks reply? How does that differ.
Seems you can't win, whatever you do."
you'll be damned if you do... and damned if you don't.... so welcome to the wonderful world of fab!!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In a perfect rejection situation I would like - I send a message, they reply to say 'thanks but no thanks' and then I can reply to that to say 'thanks and good luck'.
Three messages, goodwill and politeness all round and we can then both block the other so that we don't have to bother each other again.
But - given the bloke to women ratio here - I accept it can't be a perfect world or women would spend their whole time send no thanks replies.
So you have to go with what works for you and if that involves delete and immediate block then go for it and don't look back. No one is owed a reply especially if all they have sent is 'can I cum on yr tits'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not been here long, yet already noticed that if I don't reply to a message it's seen in a bad light.
Apparently I thought a guy was ugly, not sure why he assumed that.
Had a hex put on me that I'd be fucked up by a guy for my rudeness.
Yet when I quoted the FAQ that no reply just meant not interested, that was wrong too in their eyes. Does everyone want a no thanks reply? How does that differ.
Seems you can't win, whatever you do."
Just block the Muppets with this attitude. Too many of them on the site at the moment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't reply if I'm not interested, I don't see the point in it. If people are bothered by that or if they want to berate me for having no manners then so be it.
Similarly if I message and I don't receive a reply I'm not bothered by it. Its obvious people are not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't reply if I'm not interested, I don't see the point in it. If people are bothered by that or if they want to berate me for having no manners then so be it.
Similarly if I message and I don't receive a reply I'm not bothered by it. Its obvious people are not interested. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It all depends for me, If it's a 'I'm free, let's Fuck' instant delete. If they put some effort in and actually hold a conversation then I'm happy to talk to anyone, at which point if play is mentioned, and they're not for me then a polite no thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people think they deserve a reply either way. Some people don't mind a straight delete. Either can cause abuse to be sent. I personally try and be polite and say no thanks but if the message is rude I normally just delete it.
Just do what ever you think works best for you |
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