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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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How important is it to you?
Personally I find it a big turn off and a bit cringey to read profiles and forum posts littered with mistakes. Laziness (text speak for example) doesn't help either.
I know some people are dyslexic and others will blame autocorrect... I'm not trying to offend anyone here, just wondering if it's important to anyone else?
I personally find it easier to click and connect with someone online if we have similar levels of education. I'm not saying you need a degree to talk to me, just that being able to communicate effectively with the written word helps a great deal! For instance, if someone only responds to my messages with one sentence replies, I'll soon tire of propping up the conversation.
What do you think? Am I being too *ahem* anal about it? Do you care how they communicate, as long as they can fuck? Please discuss! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all subconsciously judge everyone we encounter. On here, and similar sites, I guess we do so somewhat more rigorously than usual. Grammar, body type, sexuality etc. However we do it, we are just trying to filter out all the normal people in the hope of finding others just as odd as us.
So yes, for us, text speak, awful grammar and worse photos, are all filters that matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im ok with spelling (thank you spell check) but my grammer is horrendous due to my dyslexia. I always feel like capital letters and commas are needed in irrelivant spots |
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I do my best with my spelling and grammar but I am dyslexic so can make mistakes it's at it's worst when I'm tired, so not concentrating as well as I should.
The fact that I have an iPhone with a predictive text function that appears to have some form of Tourette's syndrome for the crap it sometimes comes out with if I'm not paying attention |
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By *rimo4uMan
over a year ago
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"How important is it to you?
Personally I find it a big turn off and a bit cringey to read profiles and forum posts littered with mistakes. Laziness (text speak for example) doesn't help either.
I know some people are dyslexic and others will blame autocorrect... I'm not trying to offend anyone here, just wondering if it's important to anyone else?
I personally find it easier to click and connect with someone online if we have similar levels of education. I'm not saying you need a degree to talk to me, just that being able to communicate effectively with the written word helps a great deal! For instance, if someone only responds to my messages with one sentence replies, I'll soon tire of propping up the conversation.
What do you think? Am I being too *ahem* anal about it? Do you care how they communicate, as long as they can fuck? Please discuss!"
Don't mind as long as they are a good fuck! I wish..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm almost too afraid to reply in spelling and grammar posts because I know I'm far from perfect in both.
The odd mistake is fine. We all do it particularly when typing on telephone keypads (fat finger syndrome!). But I must admit a profile or message littered with spelling errors or poor grammar is more likely to turn me off than a well written one.
I appreciate that a lot of people have dyslexia and so they will always naturally struggle more than others. Sometimes though I feel that the dyslexia 'excuse' is overused by people that don't actually have it as a justification for poor spelling (tin hat on!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a sex site ...dont need an english degree to come on here
Although text speak does my head in .... dont understand it so i dont bother replying
Simple as ..as simple does  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The written word is a beautiful thing!  txt spk (not including LOL....it's my guilty pleasure!) makes me feel like I'm talking to a teenager. Intelligence doesn't always relate to education though. Someone can be highly educated, but lack the ability to think outside the box or have good social skills for example. Typos are an annoying part of messaging that happens to everyone, but a profile littered with spelling mistakes does put me off I'm afraid as it just comes across as lacking in effort? In saying that I've met people who have dyslexia, been upfront about it and I don't have a problem with that at all. There's a difference between a difficulty that someone may have, and inherent laziness in my opinion. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm almost too afraid to reply in spelling and grammar posts because I know I'm far from perfect in both.
The odd mistake is fine. We all do it particularly when typing on telephone keypads (fat finger syndrome!). But I must admit a profile or message littered with spelling errors or poor grammar is more likely to turn me off than a well written one.
I appreciate that a lot of people have dyslexia and so they will always naturally struggle more than others. Sometimes though I feel that the dyslexia 'excuse' is overused by people that don't actually have it as a justification for poor spelling (tin hat on!)"
**written with perfect grammar and punctuation**  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Makes me laugh when people have "if you can't type properly and spell don't bother" then a few lines later they have a load of text speak and mistakes.
It doesn't bother me too much, just simple things like you're and your.. |
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"I'm almost too afraid to reply in spelling and grammar posts because I know I'm far from perfect in both.
The odd mistake is fine. We all do it particularly when typing on telephone keypads (fat finger syndrome!). But I must admit a profile or message littered with spelling errors or poor grammar is more likely to turn me off than a well written one.
I appreciate that a lot of people have dyslexia and so they will always naturally struggle more than others. Sometimes though I feel that the dyslexia 'excuse' is overused by people that don't actually have it as a justification for poor spelling (tin hat on!)"
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I'm sure it could be the case that it's just an excuse for some but for others it is genuine. I'd love if there was a function that can turn phone screens different colours as I see/read better on the colour yellow I always had a yellow note pad for school |
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"PhD or gtfo."
I nearly went on to do a PhD.
I just wanted to be able to rush up to people who'd fainted shouting "Let me through, I'm a Doctor", then just rip open their blouses and go "Phwoar, nice tits"
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OP: you can have any criteria you like, but I agree with Doc.
Mr ddc
Ps my problem isn't the autocorrect, it's the bloody auto-derange  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there's a clear difference between the written style of all of above which have been mentioned.
If I can't understand what has been written in a message then I can't reply, it's as simple as that. Usually that will be a combination of youth / text speak, reminds me of my kids so a big nooooo go area for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Obviously if I'm chatting away in the forums or texting, I'm going at a speed where I don't always check what I say, and typos take place. However our profile text has been checked and double checked and checked again for typos. I am also careful with first message. I am a great believer in first impressions and taking pride in good presentation and attention to detail. So I'm afraid I do find it a turn-off when someone can't be arsed. Im not criticising dyslexic people, just those who can't be bothered.
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"Honestly I am dyslexic and try my best to spell correctly and use appropriate grammar but I know I do get it wrong at times.
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Cood not have sed it better my self but i will add that wen sum of us get it wrong Thar is not all ways sum one to help with spelling. And alto spell don't always work. And y is spelling sutch a big deal. Thar Mor to sum one than just how good r u at spelling. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mr Lincs must admit my spelling is not the best nor is punctuation or grammar,but was left this way after an accident many years ago dyslexic but do use predictive on iPad to help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I care. Written communication is important to me. I always say this on these threads and it's still true - I'm really shy in real life and it takes a lot of effort for me to meet and chat to someone in person. If written communication doesn't come naturally to someone, why can't they make a similar effort to overcome it?
Obviously the odd word and typo here and there doesn't matter, but if I can't easily understand what they're saying or if it comes across lazy then it puts me straight off.
We like what we like, and don't have to justify it. |
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"Honestly I am dyslexic and try my best to spell correctly and use appropriate grammar but I know I do get it wrong at times.
Cood not have sed it better my self but i will add that wen sum of us get it wrong Thar is not all ways sum one to help with spelling. And alto spell don't always work. And y is spelling sutch a big deal. Thar Mor to sum one than just how good r u at spelling."
ive noticed the last couple of days that you seem to really be making an effort |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a tough one. It's hard to tell whether poor spelling and grammar is an indication of lack of effort, education or dyslexia. For me to have a connection with someone, I need to effectively communicate and if the spelling and grammar is bad, I can find that frustrating. We all have different standards and we're all looking for something different. |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"Honestly I am dyslexic and try my best to spell correctly and use appropriate grammar but I know I do get it wrong at times.
Cood not have sed it better my self but i will add that wen sum of us get it wrong Thar is not all ways sum one to help with spelling. And alto spell don't always work. And y is spelling sutch a big deal. Thar Mor to sum one than just how good r u at spelling.ive noticed the last couple of days that you seem to really be making an effort"
Thanks I do try.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find those that pick fault with others' spelling and grammar more of a turn off.
Absofuckinlutely "
It is extremely pedantic and condensending when they do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just like guys on my wavelength.
Ha! Good luck fella's.
I'm kidding....
**ducks**
Admittedly i agree. ...There aren't many 
Low shot.
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What did you expect? Come on. ...you know what you're dealing with! |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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I'm shit on my phone & the autocarrot is crap too, our kids have the lappy most of the time, i'm much better on that but rarely get hold of it for long.
I just can't be arsed on the phone..as long as peeps understand it then that's fine..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just like guys on my wavelength.
Ha! Good luck fella's.
I'm kidding....
**ducks**
Admittedly i agree. ...There aren't many
Low shot.
What did you expect? Come on. ...you know what you're dealing with! "
I know.
Absolutely I know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find those that pick fault with others' spelling and grammar more of a turn off.
Absofuckinlutely
It is extremely pedantic and condensending when they do it. "
*condescending Sorry, I couldn't stop myself  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"what a load of bollocks its a swinging site not a English class go back to school if it bothers u that much "
I don't think it's the people bothered by it that would need to go back to English class. |
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By *100Man
over a year ago
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"I do my best with my spelling and grammar but I am dyslexic so can make mistakes it's at it's worst when I'm tired, so not concentrating as well as I should.
The fact that I have an iPhone with a predictive text function that appears to have some form of Tourette's syndrome for the crap it sometimes comes out with if I'm not paying attention "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like text speak but my spelling and grammar is terrible! I type too quick and press send without reading, it's because I'm usually multitasking so my brain is never on just the one task. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't like text speak but my spelling and grammar is terrible! I type too quick and press send without reading, it's because I'm usually multitasking so my brain is never on just the one task. "
Does farting while typing count as multitasking?
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"The written word is a beautiful thing! txt spk (not including LOL....it's my guilty pleasure!) makes me feel like I'm talking to a teenager. Intelligence doesn't always relate to education though. Someone can be highly educated, but lack the ability to think outside the box or have good social skills for example. Typos are an annoying part of messaging that happens to everyone, but a profile littered with spelling mistakes does put me off I'm afraid as it just comes across as lacking in effort? In saying that I've met people who have dyslexia, been upfront about it and I don't have a problem with that at all. There's a difference between a difficulty that someone may have, and inherent laziness in my opinion. Xx"
Couldn't have put it any better myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find those that pick fault with others' spelling and grammar more of a turn off.
Absofuckinlutely
It is extremely pedantic and condensending when they do it.
*condescending Sorry, I couldn't stop myself "
Knew spell check was telling me something was wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The written word is a beautiful thing! txt spk (not including LOL....it's my guilty pleasure!) makes me feel like I'm talking to a teenager. Intelligence doesn't always relate to education though. Someone can be highly educated, but lack the ability to think outside the box or have good social skills for example. Typos are an annoying part of messaging that happens to everyone, but a profile littered with spelling mistakes does put me off I'm afraid as it just comes across as lacking in effort? In saying that I've met people who have dyslexia, been upfront about it and I don't have a problem with that at all. There's a difference between a difficulty that someone may have, and inherent laziness in my opinion. Xx
Couldn't have put it any better myself."
I've noticed that the majority of people who use text talk are single males over 40. Not many people my age use it. We just lose a lot of grammar |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Spelling and grammar are a deeply arbitrary set of rules which are a transparent proxy for age, race or education.
Who hasn't, for example; split an infinitive or ended a sentence in a preposition? So get off your high horses
Or to quote Churchill after someone corrected him for ending a sentence in a preposition: "This is the sort of English up with which I will not put" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it pathetic when below feel the need to correct others spelling/grammar whilst completely ignoring everything else.
These forums are rife with it, once one person takes the piss, other see it as a green light to do the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How important is it to you?
Personally I find it a big turn off and a bit cringey to read profiles and forum posts littered with mistakes. Laziness (text speak for example) doesn't help either.
I know some people are dyslexic and others will blame autocorrect... I'm not trying to offend anyone here, just wondering if it's important to anyone else?
I personally find it easier to click and connect with someone online if we have similar levels of education. I'm not saying you need a degree to talk to me, just that being able to communicate effectively with the written word helps a great deal! For instance, if someone only responds to my messages with one sentence replies, I'll soon tire of propping up the conversation.
What do you think? Am I being too *ahem* anal about it? Do you care how they communicate, as long as they can fuck? Please discuss!"
unfortunately my gramma is no longer with us.....I do believe in eternal life though  |
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It used to bother me, but I can ignore it now. Hate text speak though.
C can't spell to save his life, but in person he is articulate and intelligent. I do sometimes need to read messages a couple of times to get it though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"'ave an art for the wans wot don't care for the likes of full stops and knowing where to put a semi-colon.
My kinda lady
Good morning to you.
Good to see ya "
wtf b best i go do my functional skills brb  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone has said you don't need an English degree to be on here, but if you use text speak or stuggle to construct a basic sentence then that is a major turn off for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'ave an art for the wans wot don't care for the likes of full stops and knowing where to put a semi-colon.
My kinda lady
Good morning to you.
Good to see ya "
Thank you.
How's the day looking for you? |
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"'ave an art for the wans wot don't care for the likes of full stops and knowing where to put a semi-colon.
My kinda lady
Good morning to you.
Good to see ya
Thank you.
How's the day looking for you?"
Just trying to decide where to start on my sweet FA I'm on holiday for another week so very very little. How about you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'ave an art for the wans wot don't care for the likes of full stops and knowing where to put a semi-colon.
My kinda lady
Good morning to you.
Good to see ya
Thank you.
How's the day looking for you?
Just trying to decide where to start on my sweet FA I'm on holiday for another week so very very little. How about you x"
learn a new language
or eat a food you've never tried
or have sex with the first person to message you here
or
get a pet
or or
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'ave an art for the wans wot don't care for the likes of full stops and knowing where to put a semi-colon.
My kinda lady
Good morning to you.
Good to see ya
Thank you.
How's the day looking for you?
Just trying to decide where to start on my sweet FA I'm on holiday for another week so very very little. How about you x"
I'm good apart from a callous cold knocking me flat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"'ave an art for the wans wot don't care for the likes of full stops and knowing where to put a semi-colon.
My kinda lady
Good morning to you.
Good to see ya
Thank you.
How's the day looking for you?
Just trying to decide where to start on my sweet FA I'm on holiday for another week so very very little. How about you x
Swing of a tree
learn a new language
or eat a food you've never tried
or have sex with the first person to message you here
or
get a pet
or or
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"'ave an art for the wans wot don't care for the likes of full stops and knowing where to put a semi-colon.
My kinda lady
Good morning to you.
Good to see ya
Thank you.
How's the day looking for you?
Just trying to decide where to start on my sweet FA I'm on holiday for another week so very very little. How about you x
learn a new language
or eat a food you've never tried
or have sex with the first person to message you here
or
get a pet
or or
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Hmmm I struggle enough with the language I've got so stuff that. I love my steaks to much to think about strange foods. I already have 1 budgie a parrot a rabbit and 2 dogs. Guess I'm waiting on your mail then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine is about as far from perfect as you can get. So most of it doesn't bother me. The your/you're one always stands out, but doesn't really affect me. Though some peoples posts, I just can't read at all. Or I'd need to read a reply, two or three times, to fully understand it. On the whole though, as long as I can get what they mean, I don't really care. |
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D is dyslexic and does text wrighting
He was in the army fighting to keep you all safe so u can complain about people spelling Pmsl
It is a disability and not lazy ness
He is very gym fit and make up for it in other ways unlike some unfit ugly good spellers
Please fill in our questionnaire be for Messageing us
This is a sex site not a spelling test lol
But please block us if that is your thing
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Communication in any form of relationship is important to me but is just one aspect of it. A can't be bothered attitude wouldn't appeal much in a profile or message. Text speak deters me and I may not read it.
In the forum then it's a little different - my autocorrect and tiredness affect my posts and I'm generous to others. We're here for fun and not critical language classes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Communication in any form of relationship is important to me but is just one aspect of it. A can't be bothered attitude wouldn't appeal much in a profile or message. Text speak deters me and I may not read it.
In the forum then it's a little different - my autocorrect and tiredness affect my posts and I'm generous to others. We're here for fun and not critical language classes. "
don't sorry there will be no communication here dear...... |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"D is dyslexic and does text wrighting
He was in the army fighting to keep you all safe so u can complain about people spelling Pmsl
It is a disability and not lazy ness
He is very gym fit and make up for it in other ways unlike some unfit ugly good spellers
Please fill in our questionnaire be for Messageing us
This is a sex site not a spelling test lol
But please block us if that is your thing
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My dyslexia is no longer my problem it's yours. With a hell of a lot of determination blood and sweat. I've got myself to a standard that most people with some intelligence can easily understood what I'm writing and those that can't well it really is your intelligence under question not mine. It takes 10x plus more effort and concentration for every post a dyslexic puts on here than any normal poster not to mention balls because we know full well some cock womble it just itching to try and impress by putting us down. Thankfully for me I stopped being put down when I left school  |
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"I'm almost too afraid to reply in spelling and grammar posts because I know I'm far from perfect in both.
The odd mistake is fine. We all do it particularly when typing on telephone keypads (fat finger syndrome!). But I must admit a profile or message littered with spelling errors or poor grammar is more likely to turn me off than a well written one.
I appreciate that a lot of people have dyslexia and so they will always naturally struggle more than others. Sometimes though I feel that the dyslexia 'excuse' is overused by people that don't actually have it as a justification for poor spelling (tin hat on!)"
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I have A level literature also when i was younger i taught people basic english mostly in a prison. I did this voluntary i made a small positive impact on a few peoples lives who could do know more than sign their names.
Now tiredness and a lifetime of extremely strong medication has aggled my brain. At this time of day im lucky i can manage to get something out that people can even understand.
So if people who complain about poor spelling and grammer care that much they can always get off their arses and go help someone |
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"I have A level literature also when i was younger i taught people basic english mostly in a prison. I did this voluntary i made a small positive impact on a few peoples lives who could do know more than sign their names.
Now tiredness and a lifetime of extremely strong medication has aggled my brain. At this time of day im lucky i can manage to get something out that people can even understand.
So if people who complain about poor spelling and grammer care that much they can always get off their arses and go help someone"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Text speak annoys me. I used to use it, when the characters in a text message were limited and cost 10p a go. I was 14. But poor spelling and grammar is something I'm used to, having two dyslexic brothers, I can pretty much always figure out what is being said in conversation context. |
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By *VBethTV/TS
over a year ago
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Everyone makes the odd spelling mistake, no issues with that. I know dyslexia is more rife nowadays too. I have decoded several messages and no issue with that either. I will delete completely incomprehensible messages that I can't translate in under 5 minutes.
My big issue is lazy messages. "Wuu2" or "fck now?" are lazy messages and tend to be ignored. I find it hard to believe that someone who is not willing to make an effort to send a decent message, would make an effort to actually meet up. Multiple lazies also get blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people are becoming bilingual in English and "text speak"!
Call me a traditionalist, but it doesn't look like a revolution to me. Instead it looks like a simple decline in proper language skills and a very bad habit.
If I cannot understand a message that is written in text speak, then I simply will not reply. My choice.
I absolutely love the English Language!!!
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"Everyone makes the odd spelling mistake, no issues with that. I know dyslexia is more rife nowadays too. I have decoded several messages and no issue with that either. I will delete completely incomprehensible messages that I can't translate in under 5 minutes.
My big issue is lazy messages. "Wuu2" or "fck now?" are lazy messages and tend to be ignored. I find it hard to believe that someone who is not willing to make an effort to send a decent message, would make an effort to actually meet up. Multiple lazies also get blocked. "
is dyslexia more rife? Or do people just actually know what it is these days |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I've said before, anyone can use text speak. It was invented to save time when texting.
One wouldn't use it when writing a letter or email, but for communication it's useful. My friend has an English degree from Oxford and works on the BBC news in the political department and he uses text language. |
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"Everyone makes the odd spelling mistake, no issues with that. I know dyslexia is more rife nowadays too. I have decoded several messages and no issue with that either. I will delete completely incomprehensible messages that I can't translate in under 5 minutes.
My big issue is lazy messages. "Wuu2" or "fck now?" are lazy messages and tend to be ignored. I find it hard to believe that someone who is not willing to make an effort to send a decent message, would make an effort to actually meet up. Multiple lazies also get blocked. is dyslexia more rife? Or do people just actually know what it is these days"
Before it was identified people were called stupid. |
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"Everyone makes the odd spelling mistake, no issues with that. I know dyslexia is more rife nowadays too. I have decoded several messages and no issue with that either. I will delete completely incomprehensible messages that I can't translate in under 5 minutes.
My big issue is lazy messages. "Wuu2" or "fck now?" are lazy messages and tend to be ignored. I find it hard to believe that someone who is not willing to make an effort to send a decent message, would make an effort to actually meet up. Multiple lazies also get blocked. is dyslexia more rife? Or do people just actually know what it is these days"
Or is dyslexia cited as the 'stock' answer / reason when *some* people simply can't spell (and in the process possibly undermines / trivialises the issues that genuine dyslexics have) |
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"Everyone makes the odd spelling mistake, no issues with that. I know dyslexia is more rife nowadays too. I have decoded several messages and no issue with that either. I will delete completely incomprehensible messages that I can't translate in under 5 minutes.
My big issue is lazy messages. "Wuu2" or "fck now?" are lazy messages and tend to be ignored. I find it hard to believe that someone who is not willing to make an effort to send a decent message, would make an effort to actually meet up. Multiple lazies also get blocked. is dyslexia more rife? Or do people just actually know what it is these days
Or is dyslexia cited as the 'stock' answer / reason when *some* people simply can't spell (and in the process possibly undermines / trivialises the issues that genuine dyslexics have) "
No idea. I pretty bad at spelling. Thankfully I'm very good at using a spell-checker, so nobody knows I can't spell
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"Everyone makes the odd spelling mistake, no issues with that. I know dyslexia is more rife nowadays too. I have decoded several messages and no issue with that either. I will delete completely incomprehensible messages that I can't translate in under 5 minutes.
My big issue is lazy messages. "Wuu2" or "fck now?" are lazy messages and tend to be ignored. I find it hard to believe that someone who is not willing to make an effort to send a decent message, would make an effort to actually meet up. Multiple lazies also get blocked. is dyslexia more rife? Or do people just actually know what it is these days
Before it was identified people were called stupid. "
And now it has been identified, dyslexia is used as an excuse by stupid and lazy people.
Which is a problem as it dilutes the attention and assistance that should be paid to people who truly have dyslexia . |
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"Everyone makes the odd spelling mistake, no issues with that. I know dyslexia is more rife nowadays too. I have decoded several messages and no issue with that either. I will delete completely incomprehensible messages that I can't translate in under 5 minutes.
My big issue is lazy messages. "Wuu2" or "fck now?" are lazy messages and tend to be ignored. I find it hard to believe that someone who is not willing to make an effort to send a decent message, would make an effort to actually meet up. Multiple lazies also get blocked. is dyslexia more rife? Or do people just actually know what it is these days
Before it was identified people were called stupid. "
Up until the day I left school I was told how stupid I was and believed it I'd been told it that long. Then I started working on cars and could strip rebuild engine in my sleep it made perfect sense to me. That was when I realised I was far from thick and was destined not to work at mcminger but run my own little garage be a full time engineer and rent my own property out. So all in all thick I defiantly was not |
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There are several people on this thread who said they were dyslexic and there in nothing wrong with their profiles. It's clear that a lot of effort has gone into their profiles and probably even more so due to their dyslexia.
I don't think the OP was really talking about people with genuine difficulties, more so people who are perfectly capable but can't be bothered. And you can usually identify those who have a sloppy lazy approach, as it comes out in a variety of ways, not just the way they write.
Yes it's a swingers site, but that being an excuse for not taking pride in how a person presents themselves doesn't wash with me.
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Here's a fun story for the 'grammar nazis' .
One night at your favourite club, you get chatting to a new, sexy couple. They are fun, into just the same things as you and everything is going great. As the evening progresses, no-one can wait any longer and you all decide it's time to play.
You have the most amazing time, all leaving with an inner glow, heads still full of the unbelievable mix of fun just enjoyed. You exchange Fab user names, so you can plan your next meet together as soon as possible.
The next morning, you see the little yellow square of an unread message, noticing it's from the couple from the night before. You eagerly open it and begin to read:
' Hiya yous two. Last nite was gr8, we think your amazin. carnt wait to see ya again, msg us when your free xx '
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Don't worry, it is only fiction, sleep tight, don't have nightmares |
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"Here's a fun story for the 'grammar nazis' .
One night at your favourite club, you get chatting to a new, sexy couple. They are fun, into just the same things as you and everything is going great. As the evening progresses, no-one can wait any longer and you all decide it's time to play.
You have the most amazing time, all leaving with an inner glow, heads still full of the unbelievable mix of fun just enjoyed. You exchange Fab user names, so you can plan your next meet together as soon as possible.
The next morning, you see the little yellow square of an unread message, noticing it's from the couple from the night before. You eagerly open it and begin to read:
' Hiya yous two. Last nite was gr8, we think your amazin. carnt wait to see ya again, msg us when your free xx '
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Don't worry, it is only fiction, sleep tight, don't have nightmares "
ha, still it's definitely a better message than 'um, you'd better call a clinic' |
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"There are several people on this thread who said they were dyslexic and there in nothing wrong with their profiles. It's clear that a lot of effort has gone into their profiles and probably even more so due to their dyslexia.
I don't think the OP was really talking about people with genuine difficulties, more so people who are perfectly capable but can't be bothered. And you can usually identify those who have a sloppy lazy approach, as it comes out in a variety of ways, not just the way they write.
Yes it's a swingers site, but that being an excuse for not taking pride in how a person presents themselves doesn't wash with me.
Mrs"
Genuine dyslexics are masters at hiding the fact. I've worked for the same company for the last 18 years and only 2 people know I'm dyslexic and they only know because I sussed they was so I told them |
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"There are several people on this thread who said they were dyslexic and there in nothing wrong with their profiles. It's clear that a lot of effort has gone into their profiles and probably even more so due to their dyslexia.
I don't think the OP was really talking about people with genuine difficulties, more so people who are perfectly capable but can't be bothered. And you can usually identify those who have a sloppy lazy approach, as it comes out in a variety of ways, not just the way they write.
Yes it's a swingers site, but that being an excuse for not taking pride in how a person presents themselves doesn't wash with me.
Mrs
Genuine dyslexics are masters at hiding the fact. I've worked for the same company for the last 18 years and only 2 people know I'm dyslexic and they only know because I sussed they was so I told them"
Yes I know a number of people who I was genuinely surprised when they told me they were dyslexic. People who have achieved in life what I could only dream of. And it's certainly not obvious in your profile either. Absolutely nothing wrong with the spelling and grammar. |
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My sons dyslexia wasnt picked up at school..
He hid it and tried to do things himself and had a coping mechanism which manafested itself as a lazy attitude.
His employers picked up on it and he had a proper assesment.
His employers have been brilliant, hes ythe only one there with dyslexia and his employers have put so much in place for him
Its given him so much more confidence and belief in himself |
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"There are several people on this thread who said they were dyslexic and there in nothing wrong with their profiles. It's clear that a lot of effort has gone into their profiles and probably even more so due to their dyslexia.
I don't think the OP was really talking about people with genuine difficulties, more so people who are perfectly capable but can't be bothered. And you can usually identify those who have a sloppy lazy approach, as it comes out in a variety of ways, not just the way they write.
Yes it's a swingers site, but that being an excuse for not taking pride in how a person presents themselves doesn't wash with me.
Mrs
Genuine dyslexics are masters at hiding the fact. I've worked for the same company for the last 18 years and only 2 people know I'm dyslexic and they only know because I sussed they was so I told them
Yes I know a number of people who I was genuinely surprised when they told me they were dyslexic. People who have achieved in life what I could only dream of. And it's certainly not obvious in your profile either. Absolutely nothing wrong with the spelling and grammar. "
OK OK I confess I got somebody to help me with that. My old profile said I was dyslexic but so many people told me I should take it off so I did as I was told which is a 1st for me |
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"There are several people on this thread who said they were dyslexic and there in nothing wrong with their profiles. It's clear that a lot of effort has gone into their profiles and probably even more so due to their dyslexia.
I don't think the OP was really talking about people with genuine difficulties, more so people who are perfectly capable but can't be bothered. And you can usually identify those who have a sloppy lazy approach, as it comes out in a variety of ways, not just the way they write.
Yes it's a swingers site, but that being an excuse for not taking pride in how a person presents themselves doesn't wash with me.
Mrs
Genuine dyslexics are masters at hiding the fact. I've worked for the same company for the last 18 years and only 2 people know I'm dyslexic and they only know because I sussed they was so I told them
Yes I know a number of people who I was genuinely surprised when they told me they were dyslexic. People who have achieved in life what I could only dream of. And it's certainly not obvious in your profile either. Absolutely nothing wrong with the spelling and grammar.
OK OK I confess I got somebody to help me with that. My old profile said I was dyslexic but so many people told me I should take it off so I did as I was told which is a 1st for me "
And nothing wrong with getting someone to check. Don't know if I'm dyslexic or not, but I wouldn't write something without getting it checked by another eye. Obviously texting and forums don't count. Luckily my husband can check what I write for the profile. Probably a bit harder for single people. But if possible 2 pairs of eyes are better than one.
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The answer to spelling and grammar is this. Language and communication has evolved over many thousands of years, who said it stopped evolving!
Over 1000 words were adding to the Oxford dictionary this year which proves my point on language evolving, and grammar has to adapt as new words are brought in. Lazyness doesn't come into it( to a degree ); it's just a question of how antiquated you are or how modern you are. It works both ways as long as you understand it.
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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Get this
People war talking to eatch other befor the words wos rittin. Hoo ses that the 1st pursoen to spell out stuff for the rest of the wold to coppy it as how to spell stuff spelt it rite in the 1st place. You only can spell how your tort it. Wot if you war tort rong ? Hoo ses this is how its spell. Dus this make sense to anyone. ?????
And yes im disleksik and just finished a long day at work so im also tiyourd witch is wen dislesik is at its worst. |
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"Honestly I am dyslexic and try my best to spell correctly and use appropriate grammar but I know I do get it wrong at times.
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My daugher is dyslexic and her spelling and grammar is better than most because she makes more of an effort to make sure it's right, when she sends an email she double checks everything, with help, to make sure it's right before sending
You tend to find this with most people with learning disabilities |
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"Get this
People war talking to eatch other befor the words wos rittin. Hoo ses that the 1st pursoen to spell out stuff for the rest of the wold to coppy it as how to spell stuff spelt it rite in the 1st place. You only can spell how your tort it. Wot if you war tort rong ? Hoo ses this is how its spell. Dus this make sense to anyone. ?????
And yes im disleksik and just finished a long day at work so im also tiyourd witch is wen dislesik is at its worst."
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Thar r also difrount tips of disleksik....
Sum spell how words sound.
Sum will spell 1 word a difrount way evey time thay use it.
Sum can spell good but not reed Thar own ritting.
Ect....
And just to point it out. thos with disleksik. we may be bad at spelling but almost all of us are grate at pratikall things / doing stuff / hands on stuff. And ofton do things better than sum hoo don't have disleksik. |
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I tend to use spelling and gramm as a good indication of intelligence although there are exceptions obviously!
If someone talks in text speak or merely monosyllables on their profile I always skipped to the next one
I need to be with someone who can hold a decent conversation to really get that connection with our clothes off |
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"Get this
People war talking to eatch other befor the words wos rittin. Hoo ses that the 1st pursoen to spell out stuff for the rest of the wold to coppy it as how to spell stuff spelt it rite in the 1st place. You only can spell how your tort it. Wot if you war tort rong ? Hoo ses this is how its spell. Dus this make sense to anyone. ?????
And yes im disleksik and just finished a long day at work so im also tiyourd witch is wen dislesik is at its worst.
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Thar r also difrount tips of disleksik....
Sum spell how words sound.
Sum will spell 1 word a difrount way evey time thay use it.
Sum can spell good but not reed Thar own ritting.
Ect....
And just to point it out. thos with disleksik. we may be bad at spelling but almost all of us are grate at pratikall things / doing stuff / hands on stuff. And ofton do things better than sum hoo don't have disleksik."
One of my daughters is dyslexic she's a maths genius though and her drawings are fantastic
When she was a young child she was just branded as lazy and didn't get any help at all from school, so she just sat at the back of the class doing what she could do, and for her that was numbers and drawings
I told the school for years I didn't believe she was just lazy and I suspect she had a learning disability they just said that wasn't the case
When she went upto secondary school the teacher spotted it straight away, within three days of starting they were organising one to one tuition for her and she came in leaps and bounds one she was getting the help she needed
She's now 23 and doing her final year in pediactric nursing
I'm very proud of her to be honest, for people with learning disabilities its just a case of finding out what works for you
Also not being able to read and write properly should not make you the butt of people jokes |
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Being foreigner I do my best ! But I am not here to learn English,but to have a nice time!
Has a guy in here I find him mega sexy! But he is the spelling police ,so spelling standing between a great night of fun!
Well certainly isn't laziness or lack of effort!
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"As long as a message is comprehends let it doesn't bother me.
Grammar nazis who get kicks correcting things are more annoying IMO."
Couldn't agree more
I love correcting people who make a mistake when correcting people though |
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"As long as a message is comprehends let it doesn't bother me.
Grammar nazis who get kicks correcting things are more annoying IMO."
You wanna read that sentence again
Mwah xx |
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txt spk is usually harder to decode so I can't imagine how somebody with dyslexia would find it easier to use.
I like a bit of grammatical nerdery but I don't have much time for pedants. I don't have much time for lazy bastards who are full of excuses either. |
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Oh now here is a thread intended to cause mayhem!
Personally, I adore the written word, my punctuation may sometime need a little attention. The trouble I have is that the messages I DO send are tailored specifically to that person, the thought of a copy and paste message makes me feel dirty (and not in a good way) so I read a person's profile and message them something specific, which can take time and to have that message not read after a couple of days (yes yes I get that women get barraged by hundreds of messages) or simply deleted can be frustrating. That said, you can see by this rambling reply, I do rather like the tippy-tap of my own fingertips haha! |
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"Being foreigner I do my best ! But I am not here to learn English,but to have a nice time!
Has a guy in here I find him mega sexy! But he is the spelling police ,so spelling standing between a great night of fun!
Well certainly isn't laziness or lack of effort!
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"txt spk is usually harder to decode so I can't imagine how somebody with dyslexia would find it easier to use.
I like a bit of grammatical nerdery but I don't have much time for pedants. I don't have much time for lazy bastards who are full of excuses either."
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"Oh now here is a thread intended to cause mayhem "
Well I've not seen any mayhem, in fact I'm impressed with how mature most of the responses have been. Who would have thought you could have a discussion here without getting derailed by insults or incessant flirting?!
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"Oh now here is a thread intended to cause mayhem
Well I've not seen any mayhem, in fact I'm impressed with how mature most of the responses have been. Who would have thought you could have a discussion here without getting derailed by insults or incessant flirting?!
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there's time yet |
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By *eesideMan
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"Don't need to take an English exam to sit on my face
Just be careful in case a dyslexic shits on your face."
As sumone with dyslexic that is realey NOT FUNNEY !! Just cos we can't spell don't mean we r stupid.  |
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"I tend to use spelling and gramm as a good indication of intelligence although there are exceptions obviously!
If someone talks in text speak or merely monosyllables on their profile I always skipped to the next one
I need to be with someone who can hold a decent conversation to really get that connection with our clothes off"
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"My spelling is kerekt it's how I spell it u no like did I ask you to read it
Part timer "
Yeah part timer but what that make you no timer as that was a short comment very little effort ?? |
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"Don't need to take an English exam to sit on my face
Just be careful in case a dyslexic shits on your face.
As sumone with dyslexic that is realey NOT FUNNEY !! Just cos we can't spell don't mean we r stupid. "
I think you missed the joke. |
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The way I see it is if you're expecting people to put in the effort, you should too.
It isn't 1999 so text speak in itself is pretty much redundant, especially on a site where your posts aren't subject to a character limit.
If I encounter a profile written in text speak I find it incredibly difficult to read (even considering that I was in fact a lazy teenager when text speak was a thing) and to a degree it puts me off. I find intelligence a very attractive trait in people and I've not seen a single example of the two going hand in hand. I understand entirely that some people are dyslexic and have issues with correct spelling, punctuation and grammar and that's ok; I see a drastic distinction between the two.
We all make mistakes but some of us are far too lazy. |
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